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December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

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SpottyTeacakes · 01/07/2014 15:00

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

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WLmum · 22/07/2014 20:19

spotty you'll get to know childminders once dd is at school and you'll be able to speak to other parents about their experiences/recommendations.
hales I agree withspotty that this heat is making it tricky for everyone to settle. Can you use this next week to come up with a realistic goal and realistic plan to get there and then steel yourself for putting it into practice. Eg goal is for her to be asleep by 9 so do cc (or whatever you are comfortable with) at her current bedtime and then once that's cracked you bring her bedtime forward by 10 mins a day? I find that T really doesn't need much sleep and if I let her sleep for more than an hour and a quarter she's tricky at bedtime. It's really good to agree between you how you intend to manage the cc/whatever.
Just had a lovely email from my as if today old boss. First day tomorrow - am on and off quite nervous. Think I'll have a large glass of wine and a herbal sleeping pill tonight.

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SpottyTeacakes · 22/07/2014 20:26

WL dd has to get a bus so I don't have get to do the school gate stuff.

Mil's just told us she's moving to New Zealand. Has a job starting on 1st September Shock

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WLmum · 22/07/2014 21:37

Oh! Better hope for some school social stuff then!
Omg your mil! Was it totally out of the blue? Is she quite young then? What a bombshell

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SpottyTeacakes · 22/07/2014 22:03

Well when dp and I first got together they moved to NZ for a while, then came back, went off and came back. Mil wrote to a drs surgery on the off chance of a job whilst she's travelling for a few months around the world and the offered her practice managers job with a six figure salary! So she's starting in September and fil will join her in a few months if she's happy there etc. I think she's 53?

Dp and I just had a horrible argument and I walked out but then remembered my cars at the garage so wandered for a bit and came home. Now I'm on the sofa Sad

Basically dd's being horrendous at bedtime and screamed for two hours. She was still screaming and he was going on and on about it (no idea what he was saying) and I just said to him about four times 'I can't hear you stop shouting!' When he just turned and really nastily shouted 'don't fucking speak to me like that' practically hissed at me. How dare he talk to me like that?!

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Barbeasty · 22/07/2014 22:04

It is your mum who looks after the DC and not your MIL isn't it?!

Good luck tomorrow WL.

PurplePidjin · 22/07/2014 22:52

*Spotty( Shock at MIL and Angry at your "d"p; when they're screaming you just can't hear anything else, I used to watch dp's mouth moving and I could hear the sound but it just didn't turn into words in my brain because of R yelling for food when he was tiny. He's not much of a howler these days, but I do remember the way the entire world became meeting his needs in the early days

WLmum · 22/07/2014 23:15

Wow to your mil, woah to dp. That's not on. He better apologise or we'll be round!

halestone · 23/07/2014 00:50

WL that sounds like a good idea just got to get DP to agree with it or its pointless as i have been working in the chippy till 9pm 6 nights a week recently.

Beasty, H would hate that i think she'd manage 10 minutes before screamin. Although tbh i have considered taking one of her cot sides off and putting the lower ones on so she can get in and out of her bed. She is probably too young for that though.

Spotty, i hope your okThanks

utopian99 · 23/07/2014 07:16

Hugs spotty , and hales, and good luck on your first day wl!!

Found out yesterday my oldest school friend and maid of honour and her husband are starting trying! She was a bit sad we didn't have the first ones at the same time but they'd just come back from almost a year travelling and didn't feel like it was a safe time financially. So pleased -and hoping they get pg immediately so the next small isn't too far in age--

What do you all do about sleeping bags these days? We tried O with a blanket last night - it wasn't an unmitigated disaster but he did seem a bit unsettled.

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SpottyTeacakes · 23/07/2014 07:30

Ds still has a sleeping bag.

Good luck WL!! How exciting!

Mil doesn't look after the dc, no.

Dp has ignored me all morning. I'm tempted not to make him any dinner

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WLmum · 23/07/2014 08:03

T has a vest and 0.5 tog bag - she won't settle without being in a bag! Fx for your friends utopian
spotty do it - if he can't even speak to you why should you cook for him.
I was so tired after late nights and several night wakings from dd2 and T i overslept! DH too T down and I went straight back to sleep. Showered dressed hair make up etc in 20 minutes - impressive! I'm on the train now.

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SpottyTeacakes · 23/07/2014 08:08

Oh no WL I hate over sleeping. Hope you can get a nice coffee and seat on the train. Are you working in London?

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Barbeasty · 23/07/2014 08:13

Utopian we haven't used sleeping bags for ages- A never liked them. But he won't have a cover on him either. He lies on his front on his pillow with nothing over him. Strange child!

Spotty what a pain. Is he upset about MIL? I'd be tempted too. Or pop out and let him do bedtime tonight if DD is being a complete pain.

DH threw a strop this morning. My car was behind his in the drive. Fine, because we should both leave at the same time. Except he was running late, and when he was almost ready it turned out DD didn't have any shoes on. And her sandals weren't in the bag of stuff that came back from MIL yesterday. So strop at being asked to put her canvas shoes on. I point out I'm now really late and go to my car. DH gets really pissy and finally moved his out of the way.

He just can't understand that if he leaves late he either drives faster or gets into work a few minutes late. If i leave late it's an hour until the next train!!

After he tried to guilt trip me about not getting him orange juice for breakfast, I'm tempted to cancel his stupid sliced cheese from the shopping order!

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SpottyTeacakes · 23/07/2014 08:24

I would beasty!!

I don't think so. It was purely dd she was screaming for two hours. Unfortunately I can't go anywhere as my cars in the garage. Again.

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Barbeasty · 23/07/2014 08:28

Stupid signal on the train, I keep X posting!

Your day has to get better now WL. Good luck!

ddas · 23/07/2014 08:59

Good luck wl have fun!!

utopian we're now just putting her in short sleeved pj's and a cellular blanket. Also sleeps on her belly

Maryland2013 · 23/07/2014 11:15

DS has a sleeping bag still. I just got new ones for 18-36 mths from tk maxx. I will never pay full price for them!!

Good luck WL

Spotty I say ' I gave your dinner to the dog'. We don't have a dog ;)

Hales is there anyone that could give you some advice/ help with getting H to sleep, definitely important that we get some time to ourselves in the evening- we need to switch off before bed! Is there a health professional you could ask?

I do feel for them in this heat though. DS is just in his sleeping bag in his nappy. I'm going to put him in the spare room tonight as it's much cooler and see if that helps.

halestone · 23/07/2014 14:17

Good luck WLThanks I hope its going well.

Spotty i would have left him to make his own dinner.

We have never used sleeping bags either as H is like A and hates them and blankets and often lies on her side in just her nighty. I wait till shes well away and place the blanket over her. I often hear her kick it off about 10 minutes later.

Maryland i think i'm going to phone the HV and ask her for a visit.

halestone · 23/07/2014 15:52

I know pride comes before a fall but H has just asked for the toilet and had a huge poo. Grin Shes only poo'd once before and panicked as she did it today she was chuft Grin Grin Grin Grin

Barbeasty · 23/07/2014 16:44

Well done H!

I got a sort of apology, well a message asking if I made my train anyway. I took the chance to raise the prospect of management training...

I'd let A go into a bed etc, but he shares a room with DD and we'd have to shut the stairgate, so she wouldn't be able to get to the bathroom in the night.

Hope you're on your way home from a good first day WL.

Not all my team has started yet, and one of them has just announced that he's leaving the company!

PurplePidjin · 23/07/2014 21:00

very tired. having sorted the nappies he now wakes in the night for more drink - although the spitting has stopped

r: buh!

me: what colour is the bus?

r: yehyeh (he can also do rehearing and boo)

me: Shock

the van was Why. pink, orange, purple etc still elude him but he can point to green and brown things in books so getting there Grin

PurplePidjin · 23/07/2014 21:01

grr stupid phone - reh buses!

Barbeasty · 23/07/2014 21:52

That's really good Pidj

When we got back tonight DD asked me to put the TV on. When I said no, A pointed at the TV and handed me the sky remote!

PurplePidjin · 23/07/2014 22:18

i just leave ours programmed to cbeebies and r turns it on if he fancies it Blush so I'm impressed beasty

WLmum · 23/07/2014 22:28

Wow some great leaps for babies on here! You can almost see their little brains developing and connecting.
First day went ok, everyone seems really nice but because it's a standalone position that's been vacant for months, there's no actual work for me yet. My boss doesn't seem to know quite what to do with me! I've got some meetings in for next week so hopefully it won't be long before I've got a to do list. Got home just after 6 to fed, bathed, happy dds - top marks DH!
Haha - after getting ready so fast this morning I've just realised I've had my knickers on inside out all day!