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Plonkysaurus · 02/05/2014 22:24

Ta da!

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Alexandra6 · 15/05/2014 21:21

Why's that betty, did you have a rough time?

yummy I don't suppose you remember how long it lasted for roughly? We're going when my baby is 44-46 weeks (just before 10 months)

BettyOff · 15/05/2014 21:34

Alexandra we have neither great progress nor regression, instead I have the magical non-sleeping baby.

dolicapax · 15/05/2014 21:40

Alexandra 6 month sleep regression is the worst. I'm not sure I even noticed a 9-10 month one as we were still going through the 6 month one. Personally I wouldn't worry about that on your holiday, as the fact you will be out and about all day hence totally off routine will have a far bigger impact day to day. It'll go one of two ways. Either dc will be so exhausted from all the fun they'll sleep like a log, or they'll be so wired they'll stay up all night. With dd it's usually the former, which is kind of cool. Fingers crossed for you.

Loooonnng old day today, as someone (DH) got up before 5am, and turned all the lights on Hmm, and someone else (Dolitoddle) wasn't in the mood to go to bed before 9pm tonight. Did someone say the magic words wonder week earlier, because that would explain a lot. Madam has had a right moo on for a while now. If she knew how to stamp her foot she'd be stamping it. Instead she has settled for doing the archy back thing when picked up, and kicking me in the ribs. Plus the holding arms out to daddy thing and pleading to be taken away from bad horrid mummy when ever he enters the room. Honestly. Kids! What is it about the parent who is rarely there?! Hmm

Thanks for the words of wisdom on the job front. I've talked it through with DH, and the decision is I'll wait until the autumn. Two reasons: 1. the economy is picking up, so although this is a good job it's not the only job, and 2. DH is thinking of taking a 3 month sabbatical over the summer and it would be a once ever chance to take some time as a family and do a bit of travelling.

The nanny thing, is my issue really. I grew up in a family where although I was undoubtably loved I was always made to feel like a massive inconvenience to my mother. I guess it was the era of children should be seen but not heard (and preferably not seen), but she really did take it to another level. So, I have a certain level of insecurity about handing the toddle over to a substitute mum, in case she should ever feel the same way. It's the worst thing for a child, feeling unwanted. Plus in RL the only person I know who has a nanny really is an emotionally cold dead fish of a woman who 'lives for her child free weekends' and has no real warmth towards her kids. Which is where you guys are so helpful, as none of you are even remotely like that and yet would be happy with a nanny. So, the conclusion is... I need to get over myself!

Oh good. DH is finally on a plane so will be home about 1am. Super. He gets me up at 5am, and wakes me up again at 1am. It's like having a newborn in the house. We'll gloss over the fact he is living these hours too. He is being paid to do so!!!

Plonkysaurus · 15/05/2014 22:31

Alexandra we had the 9 month regression but seem to have bypassed the others. Going on holiday is neither here nor there for us because I'd do the same wherever we were - milk, cuddles, co sleeping for sanity. Good luck!

Betty the shred you say? Just follow Anita. Don't even let your eyes hover to the left of the screen for even a second or YOU'LL CERTAINLY DIE. I think. I'm considering signing up to a class at the gym called Thump! and I'm quite frightened. Based on my body weight I could apparently lose 800 kcal in 1 hour, so I think I'd be getting an ambulance home.

Doli the sabbatical sound amazing! DSis is hoping BIL will get one for autumn term (they're both lecturers) as their baby is due in September. I'm so jealous/pleased for them!
What a fantastic opportunity.
And dunna worry about the wonder week. Would you like a gin? Now they're toddlers I think we're about to discover the magical calming properties of gin and its stick in the mud pal, tonic. Ds has had a moo on for a week now, but I've discovered the magical calming properties of bananas and soreen - like crack to toddlers, they are.

And pfft I was essentially nannied. And I'm essentially fine.

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Gerrythetootallgiraffeswife · 15/05/2014 22:52

Alex, don't tell Betty but I have a magical sleeping baby. We had a 4 month regression, but nothing since apart from the odd snot/chickenpox/teeth related night. In fact here, at 9/10 months, dd was going through her stage of sleeping 7pm-8.30am then 3 hours in the day. But she is a bit weird. Sigh. I miss those days. Wonder if we'll make it to 5am tomorrow...

Anypants · 15/05/2014 23:16

Alexandra I think you need to get yourself familiarised with the Wonder Weeks - they've been spot on for ys and every time I started doubting my sanity when DD suddenly behaved completely differently/stopped sleeping, it was down to one of those bad boys. If you know what it's about and when it's coming you can prepare mentally. Accept it and roll with the punches and ride it out - it'll only be a temporary change and then they come out the other side all sunny and like 'what? I'm just lovely, me' Grin Oh, and get plenty of Wine and Brew in Wink

StormyBrid · 15/05/2014 23:21

Our night sleep was indeed buggered. Well and truly, for two solid months. Entirely snot related. It gets hard to tell what's attributable to what at times. We had a resisty sort of bedtime, in which I went upstairs repeatedly to investigate the loud banging noises, and each time found Fartypants lying sideways at the foot of the cot, legs up the bars, idly kicking her heels with unseemly force. Must get Wonder Weeks book back from SIL tomorrow.

Highlight of my day was DD gently stroking my dad's beard while meowing. Lowlight was a nappy change I will probably laugh about in years to come, but for now am still traumatised by. I unfastened the sticky tabs and reached over for a wet wipe. She grabbed the front of the nappy and pulled hard. There was actual flying poo. And on that cheerful note, I'm off to bed!

WottaMess · 16/05/2014 06:40

Doli I am so glad for the good news! Genuinely cheered me up.

Alex generally DS is like Gerrybaby, a sleeper. Wonder weeks not such a perfect barometer for us, like Stormy I think we got interrupted by the snot which arrived at Christmas and has never really gone away.

Get lo used to a travel cot, or at least mix up where they sleep a bit. DS sleeps brilliantly but is getting harder and harder to get him to do so anywhere not his own cot. However, aside from being ill and the whole family living at the doctors, January was fine... I'd rather have been in holiday Grin.

Gerrythetootallgiraffeswife · 16/05/2014 06:56

Actually thinking about it, we went away when dd was 8 months old. Even though she had a cold so wasn't sleeping brilliantly at night, I still felt really rested because during her morning nap I sat on the balcony and read a book instead of doing housework, and in her afternoon one I had a little siesta instead of trying to get loads of marking done! In the evenings, we'd go through our normal bedtime routine but then out her in her buggy instead of to bed. Stick a snooze shade over her and go out for dinner. She slept the whole time, including when lovely old Greek women in every restaurant we went to insisted on having a peek!

Plonkysaurus · 16/05/2014 07:11

Right, that's it. I'm buying a blackout blind. Today started with a 5.

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StormyBrid · 16/05/2014 09:41

My sympathies, Plonk. On the plus side, it's only a few weeks till midsummer. Then the darkness comes back, slowly but surely. And this time next year DS will be big enough to bribe with a gro-clock.

Fartypants keeps yanking my top down, presumably to check my boobs haven't fallen off. This morning she went one step further, and spent quite a while investigating my nipple. Should I be discouraging this on the grounds that it's inappropriate?

Plonkysaurus · 16/05/2014 10:53

Small kids are obsessed with boobs. FACT!

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Gerrythetootallgiraffeswife · 16/05/2014 11:00

Nah stormy it's just a thing, tell a tiny they can't play with a thing and they'll want to play all the more. She'll get bored soon and find something even less appropriate

Plonky, we've got a blind, but it's so light now we're going to have to add curtains to the mix. Our last 3 days have also started with 5s.

45 mins til I drop dd off with my friend and head off on a hen do. The 12.39 train is an ok time and place to drink one of those little cans of gin and tonic, right?

somethingbeginningwith · 16/05/2014 11:40

plonk we have a blackout blind but thinking about getting the travel blackout blind back from my mum because sun still comes in through the sides and the top. And the blanket I've put over it doesn't seem to do much good and is unsightly The travel ones are so good because they suction to the window. Although, the past two days I've had to wake DS to take him to CM at 7:15. I think a day beginning at 5 would kill me. I woke up at 5:59am today (one minute before my alarm) and that nearly did it.

He had a FOUR HOUR NAP for DP on Wednesday and DP went to wake him because he was worried. Why can he not do this when I have him?? They know, don't they? They just know.

gerry I got asked, around 10am today, if it was too early for chocolate. I, of course, answered "it's never too early." My answer is the same with regards to your gin. Gerrit dahn yer neck!

stormy DS is fascinated with DP's nipples. He'll stop whatever he's doing if he catches a glimpse of them. Doesn't seem bothered about mine. DP finds it weird, I find it hilarious.

doli so so pleased for Dolitoddle's results. So glad all is ok Smile

Perfect weather for a BBQ this evening, I reckon. DP is on meat defrost-duty when he gets in from work and I will take my place on meat eating-duty!

StormyBrid · 16/05/2014 11:52

It's never too early for gin, is it?

I've not been making a big deal out of DD's boob obsession. Hoping she'll just grow out of it soon. I did have to tell her not to bite though because only Daddy's allowed to bite there

Have reacquired WW book. Apparently the hell starts at 59 weeks. We're 62 weeks now and I hadn't noticed!

BettyOff · 16/05/2014 13:04

Stormy I know it's over-familiar Friday but my word WinkShock tries to remember lost days of raunchiness

And no, it's never too early for gin. Although I seem to have gone 80's and am having a Cinzano and lemonade with our picnic in the garden!

Gerry I've just spied a pic of you and FB and you look great! How much weight have you lost now? When's the big jump? Please remind me to sponsor you!!!

Anypants · 16/05/2014 19:22

What a flipping day. Up at 4.30 for an hour with screamy child then no nap at all today, unless you count the 30 mins in the car. I'm knackered. DH has been off wirk but 'busy' with other things. He disappears at 5.30 to do some stuff and I ask 'will you be back for bathtime?' He rubbed my shoulders, lovingly and said 'i'll do it tomorrow night'. If i'd had sharper cutlery to hand (DD's wouldn't have peirced the skin) I would have jabbed something in his hand. He also threw in a 'i've been busy too'. And i've just got DD to bed (rocking to sleep is now the only way) and he's not home. Stupid teeth. Stupid DH. Stupid fridge with no Wine

ecofreckle · 16/05/2014 19:59

Doli you've made my day with your news! excellent that the toddle is fighting fit and ready for nursery. The book 'how not to fuck them up' suggests nanny is best child care option if you can afford it, for a variety of reasons. I'd be ok with a nanny personally. And look at plonk....she's lovely. Also, I wonder if some of the women you know who had nannies were actually raised by nannies. Your dd will be raised by you and dh. Nanny would help. But sounds like, for now, it's on hold. I bet a sexy hotel comes up before you find a job Smile

Plonky, I ache in my upper body. I could blame you! I did circuits one and two of the muderella training yesterday. yikes! Why don't I know what the shred is? Me being gimmersy again?

Stormy you mentioned the unmentionable. Let's not chat about the days getting shorter just yet! That's enough to put me off my éclairs. Thanks for ww heads up. I just got the book out. Ecotod is being a moody mare.

Gerry, tally ho! Have a fabulous weekend.

Any, Wine Wine Wine When dh gets back send him out for some. Sounds like a trying day. Thanks

Alex hello. We had great sleep until four months. Then it went to pot. Until we worked with a sleep consultant at eleven months. Three months on and we've enjoyed three months of great sleeps and naps. I think all babies are different and that second guessing won't work. We took our six month old for a month long road trip across USA when she was six months old and sleeping terribly. We still had a great time.

Just back to Norfolk from bloody Bedfordshire. There's no bath where we stay down there. How rude! I took moody mare to the toddler group in what we hope will be our new village. It was not my favourite thing to do, but I'm glad I went. I stomped there thinking 'but I have lots of lovely mummy friends, I don't want new ones' in spoilt brat manner, but it was ok. Couple or three mums chatted to me. Ecotod is familiar with babies her own age but hasn't socialised with older ones and she found being with big rough boys and girls quite hard I think. It'll do her good to have exposure to older ones I think. We also tried the local pub out. It's a proper local drinking pub and everyone knows everyone. Our hosts are going to take dh with them next week to introduce him to people. So I guess this is positive. Still no mortgage though. Sigh.

Rainbow thanks for that article. I loved it! Ecotod is in training to be a wrestler! It'll be hard to change the culture we have here in the UK though. If people like me are slightly reticent about feeding their plus one year old that doesn't bode well. I should really quit giving a flying feck what strangers think of me.

Can't remember anymore. Brain is full. We're having fish fingers for dinner. I think this may be a revelation on par with Sunday times reading....I bloody love fish fingers. It's the one pre prepared meal we eat. I think that might make me odd. But you lot will let me know!

Happy Friday! What are we plonk? Sexy Bastards?Or did I make that up?

BettyOff · 16/05/2014 20:19

Eco you are spot on. We are sexy bastards and I've just sent knobhead DH out for sexy bastarding fish and chips!!!

You know it's been a shitty wanky day when you're looking forward to a weekend on call.

Wonder weeks, grrrr.

Luffs you motley lot though. Mwah. overfamiliar and well on the way to wine buzz which will be much regretted with 3am screaming and 5am alarm

ecofreckle · 16/05/2014 20:26

Grin Betty! I like a swear count of at least five Smile Your afternoon sounds fun in the sun. Got to have fish on a Friday eh? Even if it's rectangular and covered in orange bread.

Alexandra6 · 16/05/2014 20:33

eco - a sleep therapist?! What are your secrets? Please share! wow I sound desperate for decent nights Grin

ecofreckle · 16/05/2014 20:44

Ann from nurturing sleep is a goddess in my eyes Alex. She works for herself and is very wise. I've said before on here that I don't feel it's fair to regale the world with her tactics because she's developing her business and writing a book. Sorry to be square about it. It's not what a call 'mystical badger' though. Common sense stuff based around the idea of developing a child's sense of emotional well being. Developing a good relationship with where they sleep and being consistent in how you deal with wakings. I feel like working with her has given us a massive insight into Ecotod and we've a great foundation for our life together with her. I realise that sounds mystical badger Grin

Plonkysaurus · 16/05/2014 22:31

I don't have the mental fortitude to say anything clever, funny or heartwarming as I'm too full of melty chocolate pud.

So I'll just say na-night you sexy bastards. I hope you all enjoyed your bastard chips and bollocking wine/gin/fish fingers and I'll see you tomorrow.

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Shatteredmamma1 · 17/05/2014 06:24

Hello ladies. just marking place so I don't lose you again, got to go and get DS as he is up but agree with the WW-ing going on! Hope you're all ok Wine for later Smile

WottaMess · 17/05/2014 07:02

Mamas taking us to the zoo, zoo, zoo... Guess what I'm doing in the nice weather today when the reason I'd arranged for my dm to help was so I could work but you only live once and this sounds more fun