November 2012 - Are the LOs old enough for Mother's Day yet?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2023090-November-2012-Spring-is-here-time-to-get-our-babies-out-and-about?

Chasing my FIL is a smoker and although he doesn't smoke around J, he still comes back from their house smelling strongly of smoke and aftershave boak. So your XH may not actually be smoking around O. It's still horrid though when you get your baby back and he doesn't smell right.

Thanks stunt. Yeah, even when he didn't smell of smoke, he just didn't smell right. I'm trying to fight the feeling that I'm losing my grip on my baby at the moment as I spend so little time with him. Every Monday since we've moved here we have gone to toddler group, which O loves and is really good for him as it is the one chance in the week he gets to socialise with other kids. My dad has just text to say that he isn't taking him to group tomorrow as he is going to go shopping instead. I'm irrationally angry about this. I've worked so hard to do my best for O and I feel like everyone around me is fucking that up. I feel like I'm failing O by leaving him to go to work. And guilty because I'm enjoying work.

Bless you chasing. If you are working full time now, then is it time to rearrange xps contact arrangements? There's no way that it is fair for you or O, to have only snippets of time together. Could xp collect O on Fridays, and return him Sat evening? Or have him Sat evening til Sun evening?

I'm only working part time, but every day. We get a few hours together every day. I've told XP I need to reconsider weekend arrangements, I will have a think about what would work best.

AF has arrived. Could in part explain my bad mood. I feel so stupid as could have had a lovely day. I'm not pissed off at DH playing golf per se. It was just so fucking ridiculously early and I didn't go back to sleep after he left. Both girls gave me a lie in but instead of enjoying it I laid there getting all worked about the fact I wasn't asleep. Afternoon out was quite pleasant but then DH hit DD1 on the head with a tennis ball, not on purpose but it was very careless and then of course I had to deal with the complete melt down she had. I did get some body shop goodies but no card. A card and a cup of tea would have been preferable, something with a bit of thought behind it anyway. DD1 handed me the smellies but had no idea what they were so no input from her. Still last mothers day I was in hospital with E so should be thankful for small mercies, although I actually had a nicer day last year!

Right I've popped some pills to deal with this headache and hopefully after a good night sleep I will get out of this fowl mood. I realise this is all trivial stuff and I sound pathetic when written down.

vq sorry to hear j is still vomming. E has hardly eaten anything today either and was in a very grouchy mood when she woke from her nap takes after her mother.

I'm glad to read there were lovely days throughout the quiche, particularly from chasing and lily.

Despite only a 30 min sleep with his head in his roast beef baby is upstairs fighting sleep. Teeth? Clocks?

We tag teamed baby care today which meant I spent the afternoon in bed :) but still feeling very jet lagged over losing one stupid hour.

eliza I find sharing thoughts and feelings, however important, life changing, silly or trivial, on this thread helps immensely. I hope you feel more yourself in the morning.

chasing we did used to fiddle around with the weekends a bit dependant on what was going on, sometimes I would drop back first thing
Sunday and then they would stay at home maybe one weekend a month. The arrangements just developed term by term which is actually a good review frequency even if they don't go to school. So each Jan, Easter and September we would see where things were and arrange the weekends for the next term. We also agreed that regardless of how it fell they would always spend mothers and Father's Day with the relevant person.

Babies aren't sleeping. DS1 is looking at books and O is rustling something. Sounds like he has snuck a packet of crisps into bed

Talking of babies and sleep, I don't wish for this to come across as bragging, and am sure I will shoot myself in my foot, but...I seem to have a v sleepy baby all of a sudden. 13 hours at night. 2 hours in the day in her cot. Ready for sleep at 6.30 tonight (5.30 in old money). Mind you, she probably wore herself out having tantrums every 5 minutes

Love the idea of toddlers midnight feast Sophia!

Happy Mothering Sunday

Lovely MIL got up with R at 7, I got to stay in bed till 9 then went down to feast on croissants courtesy of SIL, who with BIL later bought me a humungous box of Thorntons :o Day slightly marred by a minor car accident (I was turning right on an amber light and someone went into the back of me, thank fuck R wasn't in the car!) but some string, some parcel tape (to keep the wonky bumper in place, only damage visible) and some very careful and terrified driving on the M3 got us home. Will ring insurance tomorrow and see if they're going to write the car off, organise a replacement car seat etc.

sophia Thank you, it does. I'm already feeling much better for it.

bplp I'm very glad and long may it continue.

Yay! Well worth a brag bp. I will shout my head off with joy when we start sleeping through.

I had a nice Mother's Day - flowers, chocs and piano lessons from a very imaginative bear and he and DH had handmade a card for me with a big glittery heart finger painted on it by Jonas Then a steak supper cooked by DH. So I've been very spoiled however I spent the day in a bit of a hormonal funk - I think the post BF downer has hit. However a trip to the garden centre for some peonies (my favourite flower), Asda (for dairy filled goodies) and an evening painting the lounge has made me a bit brighter. By the end of the week our shelving unit will be built and half the walls painted! I also gave Jonas a bath (my new part of the bedtime routine) and it was lovely - and he got upset when Daddy came up to do bedtime so I no longer feel quite so usurped .

Sounds like done nice days had.
We had a family get together for sis bday and OMgoodness. H nap avoided all day. 7.30 bed time was hysterical. In end bro took him out for a walk and he finally fell asleep. He woke again after half hour. I went to check on him n offered him milk. But he just laid there crying. Didn't react to me at all. Was so tiered didnt know what to do. He is comfy cosy in his own bed now and looked happy to be in his grow bag.

Side note. He is growing out his current bag. Two minds about getting bigger size or moving to a duvet.

Jonas is still 5 lb too light for 18-36 month grow bags we got some more 6-18 month ones on Saturday from TKMaxx on Flouncey's recommendation £14.99 bargain!

Fuckety fuckety fuck. I neeeeeeed sleeeeeeeeep!!!!!!!!!!!!

DH smells like a muck spreaders load with added eggs. DD2 will not stop fucking coughing, and will eventually vom I just know it, and J is stirring.

How was your night VQ?

Slept from 1ish until 7, so pretty damn good eventually, thank you Zamboni. I do not remember waking at all between those hours, and my phone died around 1.

And if DD2 did vom, I didn't notice

Phew VQ that's a relief. We had another sleep through here, this is my face this morning so cutting out dairy seems to have really made a difference. I'm going to give it a few more days, as he's only been dairy-free since Wednesday, then try an egg challenge since J hasn't been exposed to eggs since before Christmas so it's entirely possible he's grown out of that intolerance. If that goes well then I'll probably try him on butter next and go from there.

Stunt try him on cooked dairy first (malted milk biscuits) before butter. Any reason you think he's outgrown it so quickly? Seems awful quick for dairy challenging?

VQ glad you got a good stretch x

Morning all. Glad you got sleeps vq and stunt

Sorry to hear of all the illness everywhere!

yw glad the weaning is going OK. It's such an emotional time.

stunt if you only cur dairy on Wed why would you want to reintroduce so soon?! Especially if it's helped!?

The kiss were overnight at my DSis on sat night. J was a star and slept through for her! But E was a pest. She kept her up a night constantly asking for a shot on her tablet and was just generally quiet naughty and defiant. She's been like that recently and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I feel like she's acting 14 and not 4!

She starts school this August! I was browsing in M&S in their sale and picked up 3 school skirts at £3 each!

Oh and last night J did not sleep through for us.... 4 wake ups! Two requiring me to go in and the other 3 just loud crying for a minute or two but long enough to wake mummy.

I've let hubby have the car today and my phones just told me I have an appt at 3pm which isn't on a bus route from my house ! Great! It's a counseling/cbt appt after vq urged me to go to Gp a while ago

Flouncy could DH pop home at lunch and you run him back so you have the car? Great news on the appt

Stunt your wee J's gut needs a good few weeks to recover. I personally think it would be daft and unfair on J to introduce egg, or dairy for some time. You have found something that is helping, so please just leave as is, and let his wee tum have a rest.

I wish DD2 was starting school this year. She is so very ready, and spent most of the weekend wearing her sisters uniform.