December 2012: Now they're all 1

[Barbeasty]

We needed a new thread!

Oh and hope poor ds gets better soon spotty!

Get well soon wishes to for the poorly babies. Seems to be an awful time for them.

You weren't to know it would have such a ridiculous waiting list Utopian. Hope you find one soon.

Ouch WL, J's done that all week to his bottle teat (2 upper molars and 2 fangs on their way through). I'm so glad it wasn't my nips!

Been to chester zoo today. Pulled my back putting on J's pram sunshade. It just went into spasm for no reason. I actually fell on the floor in agony It's still painful but better than it was.

Oh no utopian are there any others that might be a goer?

Oh no willyou! Lots of ibuprofen and heat bags for you - oh yeah, and rest! Good luck with that one! I really want to go to a zoo soon. Maybe marwell.

Utopian I asked at the Children's centre because R will probably qualify for 2+ funding (worth looking into, actually, they're changing the rules in September and loads more people will qualify) - apparently the waiting lists plummet at intake time (Jan, May and Sept) because parents put the kids down in multiple places so they definitely get somewhere. So try again in the few days following the next intake after Easter.

We have all teeth bar one molar Thank FUCK it's nearly all over until he hits 2

Ds still only has six teeth with three more poking through!

We like marwell WL. Much quicker if you go Winchester way rather than down the motorway.

Ouch WillYou and WL!

Utopian that's annoying about the nursery. Where dd goes (and I want ds to go) they only take from two and you're not allowed to put their name down until they're two as the list gets too big otherwise. Fingers crossed.

Utopian it is pants that child care varies so much. Hopefully pidj's tip will work for you. Or perhaps you can find another way in? Befriend the boss and make them realise how much they need you to be a part of their little family... You never know It's been lovely having a child minder for DS. It hasn't always been easy but I know how much he likes to be with other kids. He is one of those strange ones who is happy when there are more people,more noise and much much more to do.

willyou sorry. I didn't mean I would deny him access to DS; but I'd probably rather hand over DS so that they could spend time together without me. Then I could focus more on me and try to get some stuff sorted in my brain.
I had an ex that mucked me around. All seemed well (thank goodness no children) and suddenly the bottom fell out of our relationship. He couldn't cope with "the pressure" (vague wedding, family and future planning). He kept coming back and forth for about 6 months. Then he had an affair and we eventually split. We did have a house together and that took time to sell. Even after he left with another woman (not the same as affair woman) he would still ring me and tell me how much he loved me, how much he missed me, how there was no-one else like me and that he would always regret what he had done to our relationship. So in short, I slowly got the feeling that he would always mess with me and he was a total dick splash.
But that's my story and my ex. I hate to see anyone being messed around. You have all my sympathies and I'm sorry if I overstep the mark.

We have almost 12 teeth. 8 at the front then four molars although one molar is only partially erupted. But DS seems to have stopped moaning about them for the minute. Thank goodness. I suppose I have canines to look forward to in a few months... Yay(?)

Utopian could the nursery you like give any hints about where people send their DC while they wait on the list? We have a local nursery that has a year waiting list (people put their names down before birth) and the nursery we use has lots of people who use them while they wait for a place. About half decide to stay even when a space comes up.

Spotty hope DS is better by his op. And I think we might have some interesting conversations coming up with DD because my Dad got engaged yesterday. She's pretty relaxed about various parent/ grandparent relationships, because they're all she's known, but she was really indignant yesterday to discover that her granny was her cousin's granny. And when I added that she was also her "Oxford cousins'" (all 6 of them) granny..... ouch!

I need to have words with DH. He was looking after A and I was getting dressed. DH was upstairs helping DD clean her teeth so I assumed he'd shut A in the sitting room behind the stair gate. Until A appeared in my bedroom.

Thanks pidj - think we may be able to get the increased funding so that'll be good, and we're not desperate for the time yet, it's more that we thought O would enjoy a different environment a few times a weekso can hang on and have put him on the list. It would be good if the list gets shorter after easter though!

I've put on 5lbs since I found out I was pg - am heartily disgusted with myself and have just cried all over dh. Time to hit the salad, no chance to get to the gym what with O and work at the moment.

And for tips from others - keep forgetting to refresh my screen before posting! Also happy late birthday wl!

Willyou I'm so sorry to hear what an awful time you're having right now.

Belated happy birthday WL.

It's scary when that happens isn't it Beasty? I thought the stair door was closed last week, but then suddenly realised I couldn't hear DS. I found him upstairs, in his bedroom, happily exploring. I felt sick....and that was my fault!

I think we may have molars on their way through. DS woke at 12.30 last night, and apart from a 45 minute "nap" at 4am, he was up for the day! He's then only had an hour sleep all day. Nursery sent him home early because he was so miserable, poor poppet

DS is a bugger for just popping up somewhere unexpected! Or I get up for a wee in the morning and when I come back he's stood on top of my dressing table

He's being super awesome this week. Just so cuddly and pursing his lips for kisses. This morning I hid behind a towel and he pulled it away and shouted "there she is!" --"er ee eeees" I also found him asleep with one hand stretched above his head straight up in the air. He managed to get hold of his blinds cord, he's obsessed with it. I could honestly be perfectly happy just him and me so I'm just going with the flow wrt DP. If it works out great, if not, I've got the best part of him.

You're not overstepping Nutella but I'm detached atm and in no danger of getting hurt any further. I don't think it's possible to be any more hurt than when your best friend of 10 years and father of your baby suddenly decides that they can't even be arsed to work on your relationship. (Cheating aside ofc) the worst thing is that he said he'd said he was going to try last time but he knew he hadn't actually bothered. So all that effort I put in with someone who I thought was just as dedicated to making it work as me, that was all bullshit.

He's still at his mums.

You're being really well balanced about all this *willyou, and so glad ds is being fantastic.

On the er ee eees note - we still don't have what I'd call any identified words beyond the standard da and dat, although he clearly understands a lot of words we say. I'm just wondering whether this is a bit slow or totally normal? And if I can help him at all..

Utopian ds is the same. Mum dada and daa which seems to mean a variety of things . I'm not worried as there's plenty of babbling and understanding. Plus dp didn't talk until he was four...!

I don't think it's anything to worry about Utopian. J says tonnes of things, but mostly just once then we have days of just mum and dada. Both my cousins were referred for speech therapy and by the time they got an appt they were perfectly fine. All kids do it in their own time.

There are a couple of development threads about on chat/aibu at the moment, the consensus there seems to be that they should have 50 words and be starting to put 3-4 words together at age 2. So a while to go yet!

And they'll make leaps at different things at different times. So you might have a baby who has amazing movement or fine motor skills, and someone else has the amazing talker who just won't shut up.

I think if you're getting towards 18 months and there's still nothing I'd go a see the HV, or if there's a problem like constant earache or signs they can't hear properly I might even go earlier.

But for now Mama, Dada and uh oh (whilst throwing something ) will do. Everything else is a one time only, did he or didn't he say that event.

Was horrible shouty mum this morning. I think the whole street heard me - I'm sure my horrible neighbour was smirking when I saw him a bit ago. Dd2 has basically cried about anything and everything all week and the f

Final straw came this morning when I asked her to put her socks on - cue melt down 'as she just wanted to do what dd1 was doing' - dd1 was putting her socks on! Since then she's been impeccably behaved!
utopian nothing to worry about - T says about 4 proper words and tries a few others from time to t

Stupid phone!
Time to time but is very good at making herself understood and understands everything. I'm sure you'll find that once the speech properly starts coming it'll be like a tidal wave - it was with dd1&2 who weren't the earliest talkers but who's speech was generally much better than their peers by age 2. Communicating with him is the best thing you can do to support him.

Equi I hope the teeth aren't giving you too much bother - or sleeplessness.

Willyou your DS sounds super cute! and it's lovely to hear how happy you are together with him. Does he look really pleased with himself every time he climbs onto something? DS does. He usually stands up and then turns to give me a big grin and a bit of a chuckle - he is a total monkey.

utopian how pregnant are you now? I'm 21 weeks and I'm trying hard not to gain as much as last time. I think I've gained 4/4.5 kilos so far. But I try and tell myself that it's ok, I am going to gain weight. I am pregnant (oh and I wasn't totally rid of DS's kilos... And was probably 10 kilos off of a "healthy" weight...). But I'm still going to put some cookies in the oven when I finish this post .

I don't think my diet is particularly good or bad and it is frequently interrupted by comfort eating because I have been having so many horrible colds and D&V bugs :( yes I have a horrible cold and sore throat at the moment. I have really really really had enough of being ill. If anyone has any immune system building tips let me know!

equi hope you stop being I'll soon! It's so hard when being pg suppresses the immune system and the baby steals all your goodness! Rest, good food and fresh air/exercise is about all you can do - other than OCD type handwashing that I do!

I'm sure T has some teeth on the move - she's got 4 fronts top and bottom (8 in total) so due some, and has a red chin - exactly like dd1 used to get. Cute!

equi if it's any consolation my diet got worse each time I was pg as I was progressively more tired and had less time so comfort ate a lot!

Where I live I often park on the other side of the (extremely quiet) road. Ds always walks holding my hand and dd has started holding his hand too. It's so sweet he doesn't really like letting go of my hand outside so when I unlock the front door (and he's standing there) she takes his hand and helps him into the house. I suppose it makes up for all of the times she pushes him over

spotty the hand holding sounds really cute. DS just goes "nuh nuh nuh" which sounds more like a cross between no and nein (German no) if I try and hold onto his hand/ him while out.

wl thanks, good to know comfort eating is approved in pregnancy! I think you need some rest too
And the cookies were delicious! Since I thought ice cream wouldn't help my snottyness I had to eat them on their own. The sacrifices we make aye.

A just sits down if you try and lead him where he doesn't want to go.

But DD will take his hand at church and walk him around.

WLmum I'm with you on the shout mum thing, although I just managed to stay cool as DD pushed it to the limits. She's just being so silly at the moment- drawing on the sofa, pictures drawn in lip balm, running around being a dog.....

I think that an occasional shout is good- she listened to you! I resorted to saying that I just don't understand what was going through her head. DD wanted to still be friends.