December 2012: 1st birthdays and 1st/2nd Christmasses

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Bollocks to "should", they do what they do when they're good and ready. My mum always went on about how great a sleeper i was, how easy a baby etc ad nauseum, why isn't R like that and what should i be doing differently? We stayed there new year's day. R woke at 1:30 for the day. Suddenly all babies are wakeful, i remember when you went through a phase of this, wasn't Pidj a nightmare when she was teething... Basically, she'd forgotten. Because i was mostly a great sleeper, but there were nightmare patches. And her overriding memories are from 18 months upwards, so 6-6 was pretty established; the early days become a blur and babies are babies till they're 2 iyswim.

Fwiw, R boobs to sleep every night. He wakes because there's a problem (apart from very very occasionally as in one or two times ever, it's solved by 1/ nappy change 2/ drink of water 3/ calpol) then once the problem is solved, he's asleep before my head hits the pillow. That's who he is and, apart from a nudge in the right direction, I've had very little input. I have a friend whose dc slept through from 4 days old. Another whose dc was well over 2. Fuck all to do with parenting.

R loves cows milk, i give it sometimes at snack time. He also adores honey sandwiches and honey nut cornflakes

and sugar puffs

Yay baby beasty

Sorry you're still having a hard time WL.

My mum reckons I slept through the night at two weeks

It has taken me ages to find this thread!

Is anyone still breastfeeding? I am thinking that I need to wean The Little Mister because my nipples just won't take it now that I am pregnant. The pain is horrid.

Does anyone have any advice on how to go about it?

Oh poor you fod. Have you tried not offering and not refusing?

He tends to claw at my chest when he wants boob! He is a proper boob man!!!

I am thinking about getting a different cup, maybe one like this so it feels different to his water cup.

Hmm I suppose you won't know how he will take it until you try! Ds went on nursing strike so was easy for me to stop (sob)

Still going but not pg, FoD :) i got him to twice a day by offering a drink and biscuit whenever he asked between meals, over the course of a week he took the biscuit more and more and is now only morning nap and bedtime. Night weaning i just didn't get 'em out, he accepted cuddles back to sleep then over a short period stopped waking as much, normally once for a nappy if at all.

Water here is in a no-spill cup, milk in a free flow. The water cup is available all the time, milk he gets 1" every so often. I must give him more, although he gets yoghurt, cheese and something green and leafy every day!

We have managed to wean him overnight by The Mister going in to settle him.

He is mainly getting milk first thing in the morning, occasionally at about 4.30pm to get him through to tea and then before bedtime.

I suspect he is wanting boob for the cuddles and comfort as I am sure nutritionally it doesn't offer too much.

I am in two minds about stopping but my boobs hurt like fuck and I can't take it any more!

Goodbye Lazza. Hope BabyLazza had a nice birthday.

Sorry to hear you've been feeling down Hales but glad that the HV appointment went well.

I'm still bf, but N is another one who's had cows milk when he's not with me in the day for a while. He rarely bothers though and just seems to make up for it during the evening/night. He did start having a cup of cows milk before bed to prevent him grabbing DS1's cup, and we do their teeth after that. Although I found a massively reassuring article on Kellymom about bm not affecting teeth in the same way (and DS1 fed during the night until 2.5 with no apparent ill-effects to his teeth) I think I will feel more comfortable once teeth are brushed after the last feed but that just isn't doable atm due to his level of night feeding - I'd spend half the night cleaning them again!

You have my sympathy FOD as I fed until I was 4 months pg and sensitivity definitely increased again. We were in a different situation, as DS1 was older and I think ready to wean anyway. I went away for two nights (best friend's hen-do, longest I'd ever been away from him) and when I got back I just calmly explained that we didn't do boob anymore. He accepted it fair more readily than I thought he would, and I think this may partly have been because my milk was changing. It's far easier to explain to a 2.5 year old than a 12 month old though. Hope you manage to find something that works for you both.

Howdy fod. I'm still bfing, morning and night and 1-2 times during the day depending on work/activities etc. with dd2 I stopped at 8/9 months - she was very resistant so it had to be cold turkey, milk bar is shut once and for all! She got over it in a couple of days - like so many things I think it was harder on me than her!

That's interesting pidj
I've got lots of new year resolutions and I'm feeling really positive about them all!

8-6!!! Happy dancing all day today!

fod we've been slowly weaning- reduced about a feed per week type thing. Now down to only in the morning but can't bring myself to stop yet even though one boob has always been a bit uncomfortable and more so since less milk. Dd is our last so can't let go!! Plus she has 4 teeth coming through and a few times only the boob has pacified her.

Yay t!

Ds has learnt to get up on the sofa could be dangerous...

I'm just making a bacon baguette then the pre holiday diet will begin

I was the same as ISpy and just told DD it didn't work with the maternity clothes I was wearing. But I don't know what I'd do for a younger one. There's probably some good advice on the feeding board.

Yay to babybeasty and babyWL! And good luck to everyone else trying to sleep train/ wean etc.

To a large extent I completely agree with Pidge on babies needing to be ready for things. Until now, we've largely been guided by DS and a bit of what we want and he's generally 'got there' on things, with a bit of encouragement, in his own time.

We are, however, also kind of sleep training. Having been ill and teething for weeks before Xmas, DS was very wakeful so DH has been getting up and cuddling DS so that he gets used to not having milk. First night, he was up for four hours! Since then, he's been up for two hours one night and thirty minutes another. Between those nights he's slept through three times. Think it might take a while before he consistently sleeps though, but if we can reduce wakings, that'll do for now.

I'm still feeding to sleep. Got ticked of by the HV this week for it and thought about stopping, but at the moment, it works for both of us. Does anyone think it's really likely to cause a lob term problem? I'm only feeding night and morning now and DS has cow's milk with afternoon snack.

Sorry for mega post above.

How exciting Spotty, where are you going?

Equi it's only a problem if you and/or ds aren't happy with it. Once you no longer want to do it you can cross that bridge when you get to it. We're going to Zante super excited!

Thanks Spotty, that was my thinking. With HVs round here, it feels like they push breastfeeding until six months, then think you're mad if you choose to continue. At DSs 9 months check, the HV said, "and you've stopped breastfeeding now, yes", like it was a given .

Even more now I know you're going to Zante! I think we'll be doing a Sun holiday this year!

Ds just had his jabs and the nurses said 'and you're not breastfeeding' I really wanted to be able to say yes I am!

Am also very Spotty - my first holiday with DH was in Zante and when we went back a few years later we got engaged.

My health visitor has a son about 6 months older than The Little Mister and she still breastfeeds him morning and evening. She is an awesome HV though!

hello! Using the hotel wifi. Since I'm not going far because I have food poisoning didn't think that would happen here! But I think my defences are generally super low at the moment. I had a rotten cold and a virus before Christmas so that can't have helped. On top of being pregnant.
I'm lying by the pool, even though it is wind hand overcast I'm going to take full advantage of spending time in t-shirt and shorts!

On BF front Equi it seems the same in Germany. You get awesome support to help you through any problems but then you reach six months and people don't understand why you haven't stopped over night.
With DS I swapped day feeds gradually for bottles and fed at night. Then swapped to bottles at night. Honestly I think he only noticed when he didn't get boobie at night for a couple of nights and during the day he didn't notice at all.

He is on three bottles a day. One after morning nap. One after afternoon nap and one for bed. So he is still (sort of) fed to sleep in the evening.

My hv bf to 2.5 years

She's still a twat though

The HV round here tend to start by assuming I'm not still bf and have done since about 3 weeks but then go down the massive congratulations "well done you" route. I'm always a bit about it as I don't think of it like that, it's just how I happen to feed my baby. Also I think trying to wean N at this stage would be far harder - allowing him to continue to boob at will is surely the lazy option?