The posifrikentivity graduates thread - we did it!!

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Finally enough graduates (with more very imminently expected) to have our very own little thread. Yay. :)

Lucky I've not had nip thrush it was just a thought as you said about her bum too. Sorry. Have you tried google searching but selecting image to see if any look like your blister? Also could you be allergic to Lansinoh (if using it?), only other thing I could suggest is it's to do with how little one is latching on? Is it worth trying to see a bf consultant type person? Am sure they will also know what it is.

On a slight tangent; been having probs with colic here, using infacol for last couple of wks. Tried doubling up with gripe water yesterday but that seemed to make him spew so avoided today. BUT I did read something somewhere on tinternet about fennel and aniseed tea helping so DP popped to supermarket and got the closest he could get which are some detox and cleanse herbal teas. Taste a bit minging but have had a cup of each for the past two days and he seems far more chilled and easier to settle. Could be total coincidence but thought I would share in case it isn't

Hi everyone! I've been a bit AWOL and haven't read all the posts yet but I want to join the secret FB club! Someone invite me please :)

garden I did cranial osteopathy with DD1 I can't say it helped much but I don't think I gave it long enough, we had 3 sessions and after one of them she slept 5 hours (which was unheard of) but I'm not sure if it was a coincidence. It's hard to say as during the third session my house was burgled and the two things are now linked in my brain, which is completely stupid! It's only since having Matilda that I can really appreciate how upset DD1 was and she had a fast exit too so you may be right about your DS.

Matilda has an awful cold now poor little beggar, but on the upside we have had a few smiles! She gave the first ones to my dad and DH, I had to wait another day for mine - doesn't she know I'm the one who grew and birthed her!

I'll go and catch up now xx

Thanks re osteopathy bump! Have pm'd you re fbook xxx

hi ladies, how is everyone? We had an OK New Years Eve - DD1 was entertained but Elsie was constantly on the boob and I didn't get much time to myself; and New Years Day was just boring - the weather was awful and with everything closed, there was nothing to do. DH is back at work today and DD1 is at home her nursery is closed until Monday - she goes full time for now which is a luxury, I know but she has so much energy I don't know what to do with her at home. I'm dreading today and tomorrow...I hope we survive!

ibip how great that Imogen slept through the night! Elsie hasn't done that yet but has recently started waking up only once; which I can deal with! But I agree, it's awful on the boobs! We have an angelcare which monitors the baby's breathing and it's great, I never panic anymore!

garden sorry to hear about the colic - glad you've found something that works!

bump it's great when they start smiling, isn't it ? It makes it all worthwhile!

Ah I spoke too soon, it seems sleeping through the night was a one off. Back to the usual routine last night. Although we made the mistake of trying to settle her rather than feed her- and ended up being up 3 times as long. Pah. Never mind sure she will get it soon enough :)

Hi everyone, found you! Great to read everyone's updates and hear how well the babies are doing.

My little lady is just over 2 weeks today. All going well including feeding her myself, altho she has quite a lot of wind & doesn't sleep more than 2 hours at a time at night but I'm getting there. Just wondered if anyone else was feeling a tad blue tho, it's my first day at home with bubba and I'm feeling a bit meh - I think it's because I've always worked so being at home all day on my own is going to take some getting used to. Also post-Xmas blues I think. Everything feels a bit odd and different - sure I will get used to it soon.

Happy New Year to you all xxx

Hey pink try not to feel guilty, I moved to formula with DS1 at 12w as he started to scream and refuse to feed...was advised to just let him but I couldn't bear to see him so upset! I felt guilty at first but tbh never looked back and would do the same again if something similar happens this time

Hi booty sorry you're feeling a bit down, it will pass so don't worry I think we all have periods like that for one reason or another x

Booty- yep, go through days still of feeling like it's all a but much. But then have a better day to follow and all is good again. Assume you have good days too right? I found week 3 quite hard though if I remember right- she started sleeping a little less and crying more- that was hard work adjusting!

So, she skipped another feed tonight and slept through, but skipped the wrong one! Trying to just be baby led and not control what she does, but seems like we are missing something? Last feed was at 8pm, and she's just woken at 4 am. If this had been 11-7 would have been perfect. Still, never mind, at least she is sleeping. Sure she will get herself sorted soon enough.

How you doing booty?

If there is anyone who has sent me a fbook friend request that I haven't added to the group please let me know...sleep deprivation means I am losing the plot! Although I can't complain at the mo as DD and DS have both been asleep for the last hour and a half. Lush!!!!

Thanks ladies, I am fine most of the time, it's just getting used to the complete change in day to day routine & im really missing time to myself. And sleep! Will keep powering through xx

Hey booty, I can't remember if I said congrats! If not...CONGRATS!!!

I was in such downer during week 3 while sadly coincided with a hospital trip and Christmas, so I feel that Christmas never really happened. I couldn't stop crying, felt like running away, wanted to split up with dh, felt like I should love my little baby more etc etc. I still get a bit down this week (baby will be one month old tmro) but definitely better than last week. It's good to talk about it to people who are at a similar stage as you (ie lots of us!) as you'll find most people go through the same. If I'm honest, I still haven't been overwhelmed with love and I feel guilty that I should love him more (if that makes sense?)

I really hope you feel better soon as I know how grim it is. I'm hoping that once we start trying to get a routine in place, things might be a bit better.

Hey ladies. Can anyone help with some advice? I am sick. Full on vomit and diarrhoea sick. What do I do? Stay away from Imogen? Will she already have it? And what do I do if she does get sick?
Will post on fb too, jn case anyone sees it sooner than here :(

(Already fbkd *pink)

Booty and Janie what you are feeling is perfectly natural, don't forget at this early stage sleep deprivation plays a massive part along with the overwhelming fact that babies are so dependant on us. Once they are a little bigger they become a bit more fun and a bit less physically draining. Don't worry about how much love you feel - we kind of get instilled in us what we should and shouldn't feel for them, sometimes they are 'growers' as we adjust to the huge changes that we are going through. Don't forget the crazy hoones too. I would just say keep an eye on how you are feeling and if it ever feels too much or really doesn't seem to be getting any better then speak to your GP or health visitor. PND is very common and it's much better out in the open, if you think you need help get it ASAP rather than battling on x

I hope that makes some sense. Not much sleep - aaargh!

Crazy hoones????! Yes deff keep an eye out for them as I've never met them before. Hormones!

Hey all, just wanted to add that I think 'baby blues' can last a lot longer than a couple of days. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having PND and if you think you have it you should definitely speak to your GP BUT... It is possible to just be tired and cross and upset that your whole life has changed and you have no control over it! And YY to what garden said no sleep is a complete fucker and tiny problems seem huge. I had loads of arguments with my DH because they simply can't understand what it's like being the mum and how much work and pressure and responsibility it is. Like everything else baby related - this too shall pass :)

Huge congratulations booty

Thanks again all - esp Janie for sharing how you were feeling, I'm just the same. My baby is a very poor night sleeper and I'm pretty sure that's the majority of my problem - am just looking at some of the baby routine tools available I.e. Baby Whisperer / Gina ford - has anyone else used them? My little one is only 3 weeks today tho so I can't expect night miracles. Just wondering if more of a routine during the day would help her to sleep longer than 2 -3 hours during the night?

Also re breast feeding - she feeds every 2 -3 hours for 10 mins at a time and that seems to fill her up? A bit confused as everything I've seen seems to say that babies should be feeding for lots longer!

Complicated stuff isn't it?

booty if she goes 2/3 hours after a 10 min feed then she probably is full. Their stomachs are tiny so get full pretty quickly. It sounds like she is an efficient feeder so that's a good thing. My DD1 would only go 2 hours or so for a very long time and it was bloody hard work. It was just the way she was unfortunately, I think the only way I could have changed things was if I expressed and got DH to do some feeds or if I gave her formula. I was too tired to express and by the time I tried a bottle she wouldn't take it so I was buggered. In the end I went to cosleeping which helped in that I slept whilst she fed but i know it not something everyone wants to do. (I didn't either to begin with!).
Also, the books may work for you but I ended up throwing a baby book at the wall as my baby would not do what the book said and it made me feel crap! I think the routines just don't fit with bf on demand.

I think you are right Bump - she seems pretty satisfied after her feed and is putting the weight on so think she is getting what she needs - it's just little & often I guess. I am going to try expressing so DH can try to do the later evening feed & I can go to bed and get a few more hours in. I have got the routine books & been reading them - I'll probably end up doing the same thing! Was meant to start at 7am today but she & I both slept in until gone 9

I hope you are feeling better Pink x

Booty hate to say it but 2/3 hours is pretty good! As Bump says they only have small tums so won't take a massive amount. Can you tell by feeling your boob to see if it's empty? If so you could always try giving the other boob, DS often has both but he will also make it known when he's not had enough with just the one.
If you are on fbook and want to join he group let me know x

Thanks booty. Just about recovered enough to eat a meal today, so feeling a lot more human!

My friend has been following the baby secrets book, with a bit of success. I read it and worked out that the routine it said to follow was worse than her natural routine so we aren't bothering with that. It's a bit less militant than the others, but does help that she has just switched over to formula feeding.

Glad you are feeling better pink. Lingers crossed you'll be tip top in no time.

Booty how are you doing? Fwiw, I'm feeling much better mentally. I think I have turned a bit of a corner. Possibly as yesterday went pretty well, dh was back at work (he had 2 was paternity the 2 weeks Xmas hols) and although it was great having him here to help, I was able to get on with 'normality' yesterday. Leo and I went to the park for a walk, went to tescos, made dinner act and just felt right. My only meltdown was having an argument with our pram when I couldn't get the carrycot base off the frame (I'd clicked it on the wrong way) and Leo went a bit mental at one point but we managed. He hasn't sleep so well tonight and I'm meeting my mum in town this morning so no doubt I'll be in bloody awful form and want to bang my head off a brick wall?

I haven't read any routine books. I think I beat myself up enough about baby things without feeling I'm failing at a routine in a book. But I have been tempted. I think we are getting our own routine sorted...ish. Not really. Maybe. Ha! We don't have a day routine but now that we are trying to get up at a regular time, we might try to get something sorted. But bf doesn't really allow for strict timings so I think we'll go roughly with the flow. The only routine I have in the day is in the morning...well it worked yesterday...and it involves dh getting up a little earlier than normal so he can have a little bit of baby time while I shower and so he can bring me breakfast in bed while I'm feeding Leo :) score!

Hello! Just place marking but off for a snooze as the 1 day old baby hippo decided to stay awake till 6am... Xxx

Yay Santa!! Thrilled to see you

Hello all properly! Santa's Baby Elf was born on Monday- very very quickly! I had a sweep at 4pm, and started contracting straight away. They were very mild till my waters went, and he was born an hour later. Made it to hospital just in time - good thing too, as after a 100% natural delivery, there was mec in the waters, I started haemorrhaging badly and had a partially retained placenta, so emergency surgery straight away. All good now though and we were home the next day.

I'd forgotten how bloody painful bf is though (I know it shouldn't be, but last time I had an excruciatingly painful let down and really sore nipples even though the latch was checked a gazillion times.

Hello, sorry to have dropped the thread for a bit - we have had DP's family staying since Christmas which has cut into my mn time.

Lovely to see Santa and Booty are also here too! congratulations!

Ds2 is 3 weeks today and starting to get properly windy - I had a panic last night that it could be reflux but in cold light of day, it is wind and my super efficient let down.
Re routines - I did a vague attempt at GF with Ds1 - I could never manage the 7am start or blackout blinds in room for naps (he slept wherever we were at the time), but did follow the bath and bed routine which really helped. We've started this with Ds2 but I'm still just demand feeding him at the moment.
We are now using Infacol and Colief with each feed and I also have colic calm for the bad hiccups and gripes (walking pharmacy!)