October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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who could I PM to add me to Facebook - purleaase!! xx

Send me your name and description of your picture taking, or if you have strong privacy settings your email linked to your Facebook account instead.

Debenhams nursing bras are really supportive. The Miriam Stoppard ones. I've just bought a 34H. They're non wired. I came to town to go to bravissimo but didn't like any if theirs. I've also adapted some of my old bras with nursing bra clips from eBay but since getting the debenhams ones I don't think I need to anymore. They're £22 at the moment for 2.

Orange yes, I did in the early days, but they put too much pressure on my boobs and I ended up leaking loads and engorged :(

It's all to do with my short nipples and his crap latch :(

Can I ask a question about Facebook group? I thought it was completely private then someone said that their DH saw something they posted or replied too on it.

I deleted myself from group when I thought other fb friends could see my posts. Was I in a pickle over nothing? How private is it?

Thinking if all it most of chat over there I will rejoin but only if private. Can anyone help?

Rrrrrrr!! I'm very annoyed, I have just found out that my cousin who I have not seen in over 5 years - at least. Has put the pictures I sent her of my baby up on Facebook! I am not on it and neither is dp, she emailed me to say That she would love to see pic of him, so I sent them and I had no reply. Instead I receive a card from my uncle (her dad) saying we have seen pics on - stupid bitches - Facebook. Since when Is it appropriate to upload pictures of children that aren't yours who you have little to do with. I personally find it really odd behaviour, and I don't think you should have to send out a disclaimer when you share things with family members. Weird weird weird.. Or aibu?

To top it off my breast pump has broken after 3 uses. Plug no longer works. I'm also pretty sure it was broken before that because I was able to pump a whole bottle within an hour next time I could only do 1 oz. I think the suction went, wish I listened to the bad reviews!

Jelly.......my dd(15) can't see any of our October group stuff from her Facebook account so it must be a private group.

jelly it is definately private, I didn't see the comment you are referring too but perhaps they meant their dh was on their Facebook nosing? Or saw over their shoulder etc? I'm another private group on Facebook (the same set up) for something else and no one else can see anything ultras they are a part of the group xx

Slippy that's so annoying I would write to/email the manufacturer or the shop where you bought it for a refund as clearly not fit for purpose (when you have the time haha).

Yes Facebook group is definitely private, I saw that comment too but presumed the husband logged in to the account/saw it left open on the computer etc. I checked when I joined because other people didn't know I was pregnant yet!

hi all! I'm back to lower the tone of this thread sorry I've been so quiet recently but I've been in a kind of survival mode here... MIL is still here until tomorrow morning and I'm really fed up after a very long week ... Plus DP can't sleep in the guest room when she is here so, between feeding the baby and him snoring, I've been getting next to no sleep... Don't know how I've managed to function the last few days... I can cope with the baby and very little sleep but not with no sleep at all...

I'm so fed up with MIL now... She hasn't helped m
e with anything other than ironing. Hasn't cooked us one meal in the entire week, hasn't even made me a sandwich or a cup of tea when I was feeding a baby, hasn't changed one stupid nappy... She's just been waited on and drinking her wine and brandy... And earlier today requested that we buy a full length mirror for "her bedroom" ie. our spare bedroom. WTF? Is it just me or is it extremely cheekey? She is acting like a princess... I'm usually very hospitable but I really didn't think you go to someone who has a 10 days old baby acting like this... Ok - moan over!

orange do you BF exclusively? BF poo is usually bright yellow, mustard like. It's usually quite runny but I've never had muddy water / dark brown. Was it just a one off?

Re: leaking boobs, I have lots of milk and am leakig a lot so sleeping in BF bra and pads here. with DS1 I was leaking all the time I was feeding, it didn't stop after the first few weeks. I always feed from one boob only so my other boob is always leaking when I feed. I think I will start feeding and pumping soon.

apperley my placid and easy baby is also becoming more unsettled and difficult. I sort of expected it as DS1 was exactly the same. Easy start and got tougher after a few weeks!

Watching Strictly now - can't wait to wear a beautiful dress again one day...

Hoep everyone is having a lovely evening!

ps. for those with nappy rash problems, with DS1 I found that the best thing was lots nappy free time. Put your little one with no nappy on on a blanket for 30 min or so. Lots of fresh air works miracles.

Hi Clapham yes exclusively breast feeding. He is a bit grizzly and clingy today, perhaps not feeling too well. Hopefully a one off and not diahroea. Grr at MiL.

orangeblossom I am exclusively bfing too, and A had a watery brown poo a couple of weeks ago. I remember it vividly because I was changing her on a mat on the dining table (being lazy) and we had a poosplosion all over the table/floor/me. It was just that day (think there were 2 of them) and then back to normal since.

slippy thats definitely out of order posting the photos you sent - i would not be at all happy if someone did that to me. and clapham i feel for you with your demanding MIL. same problem here in her expecting to be waited on hand and foot and not helping in the slightest despite us clearly juggling a newborn and 2 DCs... at least mine hasn't asked to furnish 'her' room or stayed for 10 days though (yet!)!

I leak when BF from the other boob and also last time until i stopped altogether. Strangely the first time with DD I didnt leak after about 5 months, when my boobs stopped getting engorged and the milk just seemed to be available whenever needed, without having a letdown. i'm not sure why the difference.

it must be wine o'clock now

Apperley it's wine o clock here

Clapham welcome back, mil goes home tomorrow, yey! Tis very cheeky to ask you to buy a mirror for her room and I find it odd she won't do a nappy change for her only grandson! She obviously thinks she's there for a holiday not to help out.

Went shopping and squeezed into a pair of size 10 tapered trousers, in 2 weeks they'll fit, feels awful still being so much bigger than I used to be. My top half is the bit which has expanded the most.

it is wine o'clock... I have a question about it actually. I've been quite disciplined about drinking when pregnant sticking to my one glass per week. I'm less disciplined now... drinking about a glass and a half every 3 days or so. I try to drink rufhf after the feed to give my body a couple of hours to process it... but he is still so unpredictable and sometimes wants to feed unexpectedly 15 min after my glass of wine... and then the guilt is eating me all night... I'm so tired though and need my glass of wine from time to time... how much are you drinking?

flyer I read your post on FB - 4 weeks is nothing for your body to recover from pregnancy and birth. Give yourself a few more weeks. don't worry - you will go back to normal soon!

Clapham I'm having a lg glass of red every night! It's lovely to relax with a vino

Flyer - I could squeeze into my jeans with a v unsightly bulge at the top after 2/3 weeks. Now, at 9.5 weeks, they're starting to look less unsightly. However, with DD I couldn't get anywhere near my old jeans until 3 months exactly.... And it wasn't pretty. After 8 months, I was waaay skinnier than I had been pre pregnancy, and that was with zero dieting or exercise and LOTS of cake. Panic not!

Clapham - Hello!!! Poor you re MIL!!!! I am drinking a glass or wine or half pint of beer pretty much every night. There are some good threads on why drinking a small amount when bf is fine on the bf/ff pages on here.

Re Facebook, I'm not on it at all and had good reasons for decided to come off it (just after DD) - I'm tempted but I really, really dislike it, much as I'd love the private group!

My glasses of wine are also large Flyer! It helps enourmously!!

Flyer I tried on some size 14 jeans my mil sent me today and two of the three pairs were too tight for me and I just squeezed into the other pair. Can't believe you are a 10 already. I have at least lost some weight now, 1st 3lb, but a long way to go as I put on over 3st.

Thanks roxvox, hopefully the same with us.

Clapham I'm not drinking, partly because he still comes to bed with us, but I think I read the guidelines changed so you can now drink the amount all women can - is it 14 units a week? I wouldn't want to do that but will eventually have a few. Don't beat yourself up about it. Also the BF lady at our nct course said the best time to drink is during a feed, as takes time to get into your system and will be gone before the next feed.

Also doing nothing about it and lots of snacking. Though walking a mile or two most days with the pushchair might help.

thanks flyer and legally - this makes me feel better!

and yes flyer I was also skinnier a year after having DS1, also with no diet and no exercise. BF is amazing - all I can say!!

thanks orange makes sense re: drinking during feeds. (OMG - I'm dying for a glass now...)

ps. legally why don't you join under a false name? you can just ignore FB and do the private group only?