November 2012 - Babies are getting busy, busy, busy

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1858262-November-2012-In-which-the-babies-start-to-reach-their-first-birthdays

Yes, I am a much better parent now I have to do far less parenting.

Notes have been put up at nursery about an outbreak of nits. Just one case so far but it is apparently in DD1's group. I'm going to go out tomorrow and buy shampoo, a comb, and I believe (because I asked about 500 questions when I saw the note) there is a spray which repels them. I'm a bit squeamish about parasites.

Apparently they are excluded from nursery for 48 hours if they do get nits. Which makes sense but I can't see that happening in the UK.

Hmm. Not sure what the rules are here PR. It would, of course, depend on the parents reporting said nits to the nursery.

I have certainly known of issues at secondary school where there are no processes in place.

My wee sister used to be plagued by the wee buggers.

I have never had them myself and am dreading the very idea of them getting into my house. I know there's no shame in it but I am squeamish.

Pass it's an English HV developmental check between 9 months and a year. Doesn't happen in Scotland. We get our next one at his next jags (2 days after his birthday! that timing sucks ass big style!) but other Scottish primary care trusts do it at 13 months. I'll get told he's short, petite, get him on a bottle and have you tried to fatten him up with cheese / soy cheese . So I'm just going to and ignore. Actually at the last weigh in my 'marrow' HV was v nice and commented that even on dairy he'd be skinny as he's so active (he was attempting to trash the clinic). 'Active' is a polite HCP way of saying 'little shit' isn't it?!

I agree a regular break would make all the difference. Those who have family nearby upon whom babies can be dumped lovingly bestowed - are v lucky. Its the relentlessness that's exhausting and the jobs that I vow to do in a child free moment have piled up. A day to mentally regroup would be ace. Without family that costs £40 at Fife childcare rates! Not long til November and 2 days in nursery. I might make sure at least 2 hours of that time is me time.

We get 6 weeks and 8-12 months round here Pass mine are incompetent twatbadgers due to their total failure to offer any kind of support to R or me over the last 10 months, despite me going to clinic to ask them

Teatree oil, PR :)

Drop him off with me yw! I could take him to sex Ed classes!

I did think we had a Jag coming up.

I loathe my HV. Ignored my pleas for help re weaning then got all judgey about p eating Ella's fucking kitchen. She was hacked off when I listed all the stuff she ate regularly. She actually looked disappointed.

Can't wait to have p walk up to her sodding office.

And yes. Busy, lively, active and the like are all code for 'wee shite'

There should have been a there

That, pp will be because you had the audacity to actually know shit.

Pass take him to sex Ed class, give him their smart phones, watch him sook the life out of said gadgetry and lo watch Kirkcaldy teen pregnancy rates plummet. Happy to help

It's funny having the chance to come back and catch up a bit, I feel like I know you all having lurked on and off for nearly a year. It was about this time last year that I started reading when I went off on maternity leave.

The whole bf thing came up again for me too as my friend has got a 5 week old who struggled to put on weight initially but is now doing really well in terms of her weight. Having long term issues with thrush (6 months!), we made it through and I'm now wondering when it'll come to an end. He does like his morning and evening feeds. GT hang in there, like YW has said many times, it's all about feeding and more feeding in the first few weeks. F's not a massive fan of formula though and it turned out that DH had left the freezer slightly open one day and all the freezer stash of EBM had gone off. F was really not a happy bunny as I'd gone out that evening! He's more keen on cow's milk, so he might just have that when I'm out now he's nearly 1.

Sorry to hear of sadness at weddings and with neighbours. I really struggle to think about stuff like that as it scares me far more now I'm a mum.

I think they don't really do the 8-12 month development check at my surgery any more. The rumour on the grapevine was that they decided not to as they weren't picking up anything that the parents weren't picking up anyway. i guess someone might say something at his 13 month jabs but who knows.

On development, please don't think this is a stealth boast as actually it made me quite anxious yesterday but F built a tower of 6 blocks all by himself at the weekend. When I googled it, some of the links came up under autism stories. So I've been watching him closely but he does pointing and eye contact and showing me things so I think it's fine. I'm a big worrier so I like my kids to do things in the normal age brackets.

Oh and for anyone who didn't get bank hols when on maternity and is in the civil service, check this out:

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Hope that works! It's a word document to download. But it's good reading for anyone up for an argument that has a union.

Am not liking the look of all the French things on bake off this evening. Hate hate hate wibbly food so that brain thing looked revolting.

Gosh stunt. I'm actually speechless. I really didn't see that coming! Eeek.

Yay for new cars for mm and fatima. I have a cmax which I love but would rather have a grand cmax sophia. Perhaps I'll make that my next car.

I've just had a gloriously long hot bubble bath. Well and truely needed. Last 2 nights E has been sick in bed so has required being stripped, showerd down and then understandably been very difficult to settle again. Tonight she was sick just before I put her to bed so hoping that's that done. She has a cold but doesn't seem to effect her much during the day. Night time aside she's only been slightly sick after breakfast. Unfortunatly she had been doing so well I had reduced her ranitidine dosage in the hope of weaning her off it. That's back fired! bplp I remember you saying something similar about reducing F's dosage. Hard isn't it. (hope you're well by the way). I still really don't understand how and when I'm supposed to know she can come off it. The consultant told me months a go I should start weaning her off it but it seems she isn't ready. It won't do her any harm for her to be on it long term will it? yw Any advice? Sorry to turn to you yet again on all matters of reflux.

That aside E is doing well. She has realised that crawling actually takes her places and that there's a big wide world out there so nothing is safe. At the moment she actually seems to listen and take note of the word no. Not expecing that to last but it's refreshing as DD1 never and still doesn't take the blindest bit of notice!

It's probably too early to tell Jims. My DS1 had very uneven development. So he started to talk late, after 18 months, but had an exceptional vocabulary by 2. He does jigsaw puzzle like a robot, just picks the pieces up and puts them in the right place without looking at the picture or comparing colours or turning them round. But he walked late, is poorly coordinated, can't hold a pencil properly, had tantrums way beyond the normal age for them to stop. On the other hand he makes eye contacts, enjoys hugs and doesn't line things up in rows. Unless you have other signs that worry you, all you can do is keep an eye on him.

Hmm not liking French cars or bakery things on the fred today. Should I flounce? :o

The French equivalent of BGT is on tonight. First rounds. Ugh.

Having a tricky evening with DH tonight. We rarely have ishoos but one seems to be bubbling. Hmm.

LO went to bed at 7.
DD1 didn't think bedtime was appropriate tonight so I ignored her after 9 and she gave up at 9.35. Progress.

This ignoring thing sounds vile but if I play with her she gets wound up. As DH arrives at 8.30 ish she won't settle for a story. So he arrives, cuddles, then free play til 9, ignored from then on. If we try and put her to bed before she is ready she screams and wakes up LO. No win.

Hoping chasing is ok tonight and that lily is enjoying her uk trip now the exam is over.

We're getting a new car soon too. An audi but tis a company car (not my company of course) so can be taken away whenever. DH is v excited though. The current company car is a Tiguan, which I, the Car Hater, love. But the lease is running out :(

Am ok thanks PR. Attempting an early night but very nervous about driving lesson at 8.30am tomorrow. In the rain. And it is a 90min lesson which means more actual driving. And it clashes with Oscar's nap. My parents have never put him down for a nap before. I can't see it ending well. But in 12 hours it will be over.

As far as speech is concerned my paed doesn't worry until 3yo as long as they seem to understand. Each child is different and milestones are bollox. Except when they really send up a red flag.

My neighbour has a paed in France. Her son is a couple of months younger than DD1. He's babbling like DD1. Seems normal to me. He is understandable-ish. I wouldn't worry (my DB went to primary in the uk pretty much non verbal - was a straight A student and is at med school now) but her paed, at not even 2.6 is going on about speech therapy. Mine, in Lux, says she would start worrying at 3 and refer at 4 IF it was just speech.

LO is starting to say Maman now, but DD1 was at least 18mo before we got that. More even, she was 21 mo when she first said it. She was asking for me when in hospital with DH over new year. When she needed to ask for mum she just did :(

10 months later a good half of what she says is babble. But she also makes complex sentences when she needs to. I think speech milestones are quite irrelevant as long as there are no hearing issues.

It will be over. Don't take the piss but I have had my license for 15 years. I still bob my head from right to left to avoid the wipers. But I admit to being shite at driving. Apparently you just get used to them.

Learning now is a great time. You'll be ready for your test in spring/summer good weather but will get lots of bad weather practice in the comfort of dual control driving teachers. I did that too, and still prefer driving in the dark :) You can see the bastards coming. So get the dark/snowy/icy/rainy/rush houry driving in now. It's all good experience.

And you are so level headed when push comes to shove that you will cope perfectly.

QUICHE QUESTION. Did you pass on your first test? I passed on my THIRD. And only because he didn't ask me to paralell park - I still don't know how to do it. Come on quichesters, talk to chasing about your driving learning nightmares/failures and passes :)

And sweary fucking Wednesday is on its way so you can be sweary about the nightmare that was learning to drive! Win win.

PR you make me smile.

I passed 4th time. I used to stall lots due to nerves! I now drive 60,000 miles a year minimum.

Chasing do you have a fall back nap routine. For example of all else fails rock L in a pushchair and you will get 40 mins ish. That's how I tell anyone who has him over nap time to get him to sleep including nursery. Just something where you know he will sleep and therefore you can get on with lesson.

I passed it first time. That was in February, 2003. I haven't driven ever since. Opsss

Jims afaik, islands of ability are pretty common at this stage. Just from reading the fred, each baby is advanced in certain areas but not quite there with others. At this age you might see a lack of babbling, too much or too little eye contact (both equally present in people on the spectrum), aversion to certain textures of food/items of clothing/being held - but i mean full on screaming hysteria not simply preferring to be playing on the floor. And you'd have several things present from birth, not one in isolation iyswim.

I really wish i hadn't gone to kickboxing tonight. I'm partnered with this woman - 40 ish? Not a kid, anyway - and she just doesn't pay attention. Every single time for 5 weeks i have to repeatedly tell her the moves we're supposed to do. Demonstrated twice, then practice for 10 minutes, then demonstrated twice again then swap over and by the end I'm still talking her through it at snails pace. The instructor comes to help. I'm just completely fucked off with having to teach her when I'm paying £25 a month to learn myself. I didn't enjoy it tonight at all, i was tired and she felt got at when i over explained myself even though she never shuts up yapping i spoke to the instructor but i don't quite know what he can do. The best thing would be to have someone experienced work with her which fucks up their training but why should it be allowed to fuck up mine? Oh, and she's all "you're going too fast" and "you hit too hard" it's fucking kickboxing I'm there to hit things and get fit, not fanny about being a simpering little girlie, that's what zumba is for

pidj have a word with the instructor. Not complaining but if you aren't progressing with that partner the instructor needs to shake up the pairing system.

I never once stalled. Never. Wheel skids and scary screeching due to my fear of stalling (thanks mum and older siblings) I still do. I reckon my neighbours recognise me screeching out of the drive every morning (reverse up a hill to get out) and take the piss. In fact one has told her kids that if we want to walk the dog on the river (a drive away) DH has to be there too. I'd like to think it's the paedo on every corner the big bloke can protect mentality, but I honestly think she doesn't trust me to drive her kids to the river. And I'm not joking.

Another anounced to me the other day that I am not a confident driver. No-one outside my house and, you guys, knows that. They just judge my screeching tyres.

Thanks PP and stunt. It sounded ridiculous to be worried about him being good at something and it was Dr Google that made me so! He babbles a lot, has started walking a bit and there were no other concerns until then. It was just a bit weird, the way he suddenly did it after never building a tower before. We had built them for him though so maybe he was just watching intently! Either that or it was the big bang on the head he got faceplanting his brother's bed that morning when tired. I was quite relieved to see he'd put one block in the ball table thing today so he's not just doing one thing with them!

good luck with the driving chasing.

PR don 't flounce on my behalf. I just hate wibbly food. It just so happened to be in the context of a French episode

Jims I honestly would work on the no hearing problem, no speech issue until primary. Dr Google is useless and you can almost guarantee that your baby is ahead in something. Or on target.

Cute example of confusion:

DD1 knows that 'papa' is her dad. She also can say daddy. Sometimes she comes out with 'addi' which is Luxembourgish for good bye. But she confuses it with her word for papa (daddy) iyswim. Though she says bye bye and a version of au revoir too.

They are processing so much the first three to four years. Early diagnosis of issues has its merits, but with speech I would be inclined to be patient. Unless there are other flags.

I can cope with huge amounts of frog bashing. Would never flounce for that. Was a joke. in fzct I enjoy a bit of frog bashing. Pass must have some, as well as MM