Dec 08 - The One where they take on the world (school)

[DeidreBarlow]

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See Jam that's what a kids activities instructor should be like, encouraging, nurturing and telling the mummies how awesome their kids are. Not a bullying, telling mummies off jerk.

We always had a surprise too. love the excitement of meeting them for the first time.

am feeling a bit low and terrified about DH going back to work next Tuesday. how on earth will I manage the school run? luckily we have a nanny starting 2 afternoons a week on Tuesday. It's just the mornings that scare me!

timing is bad as mum away for 2 weeks as of Saturday. eek!

I've found out with all of them. If we have another I'd like another girl. As a kid I always wanted 2 of each. But we'd be just as happy with a boy. Providing they sleep in a cot I don't think we'd actually care.

DH goes back to work next Monday. It's pants

I had surprises for the first 2. wanted one with the 3rd but the sonographer blabbed. I hated knowing, felt really wrong. on my break of night 2 of 4. proper posts afterwards when I'm neither working nor asleep.

Soooo Lady???? Any news?

Happy Birthday Rubes! Maybe this time next year you will be celebrating in Sydney. x

Happy Birthday Rubes!

Just briefly - the test was negative and it's a Clearblue Digital, which worked fine! Only proviso is - this is day 33 of my cycle and it can be anything up to 36 or even 41 days so if nothing's happened in a few days I will test again. But am assuming I'm not pregnant. I spent the last week being a bit tense/regretful about the thought of being pregnant - now I feel a bit disappointed! So maybe I'll press on.

More later my friends.

We found out each time and I liked it that way. It's a surprise whenever you find out so it helped break the 9 long months up. Watching DS1's face light up when the sonographer said ds2 was a boy was also quite lovely. I'll never forget him saying "I'll be his big brother and I'll have a little brother" made me teary. Plus producing a fully formed human being from your nethers is surprise enough for me.

Happy Birthday Rubes! What you up to for the day lovely?

I'm coming to London for a quick overnighter. My best mate over there is turning 40 &; I'm surprising her for her party. I wish I could catch up with some of you lot but I fly in on Saturday morning and then out again on Sunday arvo. Has anyone ever flown out of Southend on sea. I got the cheapy easy jet tickets and wandering if it's a faff to get to. Also just realised I should've gone through Stansted then I could've pop in and met babybean!

I'm off to see Kate Nash tonight, all on my lonesome. Dh was supposed to come but he had to go to Boston at the last minute on Sunday and won't be back until tomorrow morning. There is a friend who may be able to come if she can sort out some babysitting but it's not looking good. Oh well a friend is very kindly taking the boys for the night then I'm going to go back to hers then get the boys to school in the morning from there. It's in Amsterdam and my friend lives closer to the centraal train station here in the Hague so it will be closer for me to ride home til tonight.

Cross posted, did you get a double pack of clear blue. If not upduffed at least this has given you an idea of whether you want to be.

Thanks for the bday wishes! And fb ones - will respond soon! At cafe Rouge for brekky and having a cheeky Buck's Fizz Dh still on leave but just has to meet with someone about a job later. Parent teacher meeting tonight (joy) then dinner.
Yea lady it's a bit of a grudge bring held but I have had birthday messages off both so hopefully line being drawn.
Sorry bout neg test but hopefully it's just 1st time unlucky. I would have thought the length of cycle would have no bearing on how long it takes for preg hormone to show up? Ie isn't it just 2 weeks from ovulation in other words implantation wouldn't be longer Because you have long cycles? Maybe if you didn't know the exact ovulation time it might still be that you're pg? The pain could be implantation too.
Right dh off phone. Best go!

Sarfend is easy to get into town. Jump on the train to Stratford.

Lady has it made you feel a bit clearer. I understand the panic thing I too went through that.

Happy Birthday Rubes have a lovely day.

The SPD thing is very weird it appears to have disappeared over the last few days. I am wondering whether I had actually given myself a bad groin strain on holiday and its taken this long to get better because of the weight of the baby.

We had a surprise with DS1 & 2 but we wanted to find out this time because DS2 was so desperate for a sister and we wanted to stock up on stuff when in the US.

Halfway through the wk of decorating. Thank god for our lovely decorator he is making it tolerable. There is stuff everywhere. WE have to move mattresses for the boys into the finished bedroom today and then more piles of toys into our bedroom so that he can start in the 2 small bedrooms.

Crossed ! Dh back on phone doing family phone diagnosis. Vag! when are you coming!? Can you stay a little longer!? I heart Boston.

Lady I got a negative with first test for DS. Like you I had been regretting trying and wanted negative until I peed on the stick and suddenly realised I wanted a positive. I was disappointed with the negative but the next day I got a positive and was happy for five mins then scared to the core of my bones, then happy, then petrified, then thrilled etc etc etc.

Jam, I do hope the SPD was a false alarm and it's as you say.

Glad you snuck in a Bucks Fizz before 10am, Rubes

Well, I am such a pickle about my dates that I just don't know. If my cycle was like it is mostly, I ovulated around the weekend of the 6/7. Except, I think I actually ovulated the following weekend because I can usually tell. And if we did it that weekend (which I can't quite remember but it's possible), two weeks from then is this weekend. But a Clearblue would still have given me a positive three or four days before shouldn't it? I do still feel a bit crampy but nothing's happened (however, I am sure it will soon). I feel like I want a positive now but maybe I'm not thinking and getting caught up in the test.

I like Boston as well, Vag. Enjoy London town, what a lovely surprise for your pal.

Arti, talking about how you haven't seen DD1 for years (it would be lovely for us all to get the smalls together - but we can't even sort ourselves out!) We really must. When's everyone's half term? We break up on Fri 25 Oct.

I found out the sex of DD1 cos it was my treat to myself after the CVS I had to have. And for DD2 cos the suspense was killing me and it was stressing me out. I'd find out again. I admire people who are strong enough to hold out as it must be quite magical to find out when they're born. But the curiosity would drive me nuts throughout the pregnancy.

Well it is required on ones birthday surely. Actually don't they say Mimosa is French for "I want to hammered before noon" I won't be though. Have to Lay low for parent teacher meeting before dinner tonight! You are too kind. Lovely package from one of my favorite shops from you in my doorstep! You realize you've raised the bar for my table setting this Christmas x

Had the nails done for work now am off to the gym to work off my salmon eggs florentine -yum. I slept funny and can hardly move my neck so this should be fun.
I reckon there's still a good chance of being clackered lady. Try again a couple of days from now.

I found out the sex both times. Couldn't stand not to. Tried to keep it a secret to others but that didn't last long when mil saw me selling off baby boy stuff on eBay right after my scan
Right must press on.....

Hello ladies!

Both my pg’s were surprises. The way I figured it was after all the pain of labour I needed a surprise to keep me going (even though I never actually had a ‘normal’ labour).

Rubes happy birthday my lovely! Loving the early doors bucks fizz, good for you.

Have already had a run in with DS’s teacher . DH thinks I may have been OTT but on this occasion I fear his ‘reputation’ from Pre School has gone before him. So yesterday DS was put on ‘red’ (traffic light system for behaviour) for hitting x3 children. Got home asked DS to explain what had happened. Turns out x3 boys were punching DS repeatedly, her asked then to stop. They didn’t. he shouted for help. No one came. He walloped them. They went crying to lunchtime assistants. DS got bollocked. They got to play out.

Teacher admitted they just asked DS if he had hit out, he won’t lie so said yes. I was fuming!! I asked teacher why no one has asked him what had happened, she replies “but he said he had hit them”. Well he will, because he did it but he is only 4 yrs old and hasn’t got the good sense to say “I did it because…” . Anyway I demanded to know WTF the lunchtime assistants were doing, and could she give me some ‘strategies’ for how to explain to my son why he was punished for defending himself when a grown up wouldn’t come to help him, but yet the other boys got to continue with their play time?

Apologised, said would speak to lunchtime assistants etc. I’m just really mad. I know it’s a storm in a teacup but I don’t want school always assuming he is at fault like pre school did (told her that as well).

And breath…sorry for the rant, as you were

Oh dear, what a worry for you. These lunchtime assts can be such a bunch of divvies. I don't blame you for sounding off, DB, I think I'd have blown a gasket! A friend's son was involved in a similar incident last year (defending himself) but got copped for hitting back. It didn't end well, he wasn't really believed and his mother got told that he'd "got an aggressive streak", which is balderdash, he's the mildest mannered kid ever. I think these unfairnesses do happen at school sometimes, and I do see it's hard to take. Poor DS.

Oh Deids that's ridiculous. So rubbish that anyone in charge of supervising 4/5 year olds would not see the big picture. They should know that kids that age are just going to answer stuff at face value. Is be livid too. I'm really glad you were able to explain the pre-school situation. Did you feel they understood? Have had a busy day.

Gotta run as babysitter will be here in an hour and gotta get sorted. Parent teacher evening then dinner.

I'm calmer . Yes I think teacher understood where I was coming from. Although DS has come home today saying he's been good but one of the boys from yesterday was punching him at lunch time. He said he asked him to stop and DS told the other bit he wouldn't hit him back. But he wouldn't tell the lunchtime assistant. When I asked why not he said the other boy would get put on red and that it's not nice being a red!! I'm hoping it's just a settling in thing and it will calm down. But I am duper proud of DS for not hitting back. Goodness knows that probably took every ounce of self control he has!!

Good on him Deids, to rise above it. Sounds like he really cares, and all the nice kids will see that in him. I'd tell him just to keep away from the boy that is being mean.

I have just got changed as I decided what I had on wasn't age appropriate! I am officially old aren't I [sigh] However in my defense, I have realised my dress has shrunk a little when it accidentally got tumble dried. Not much, but I still felt like a hooker at my advanced age (stole that off you lady as I -ed so much when you said that!)

Jam, fingers crossed on SPD.
Deids, yay forDS's resisting temptation to smack back! Good boy!
Vag, I WISH you were flying into Stansted too, we're only 15mins away by train! Bum.
Am in bed. DD3 has slept all day. Does not bode well for the night ahead. So am going to sleep now.

Goodnight fair maidens. Sort of. Except clearly not as we all have kids. But you know what I mean. Lady, I'd test again on d
Saturday.
At least it has clarified your thoughts on what you'd like....

Oh and Happy Birthday Rubes! Hope parent/teacher meeting went ok. It's my other friend with the same name as you's birthday today. How old are you? (She asks rudely). Oh and one of DD2's best friends mums used to work for the same company as you. Know its massive, so you probably don't know her.

And DD1 was screaming tonight, because she heard someone in the room breathe out in her ear. Has freaked me out somewhat.n

How on earth do I get this baby to sleep for longer than just 1.5-2hr stretches at night? She's brilliant in the day, but grazes all night. So annoying, so tiring!!

you don't she is a baby

alternative answer, try to feed more in the day. lots of night feeding pretty typical for small siblings as day so busy with the older ones, out lots, get put down more so less chance to be snuggled up to mum feeding. so they just make up for it at night.

night shift 3 of 4 done. eating pastries I got on way home as it was a shitty shift. must go to bed.

Oh Indith, well done getting through. Honestly, am so in awe. Midwives are just always so nice and kind and patient and yet must be so exhausted and bored of whinging mums! I rang yesterday to ask for a tip on latching on. She was away from her desk so I left a message for her to call back. 1.5hrs later and she was at my door to help! Amazing!

Very long night again. Think you're right, we will just have to get used to each other. How is your DS2 coping without your boobs at night, Indith??

Tomorrow am doing the school run with all 3 in preparation for when DH goes back to work! Think I may have got it a bit out of proportion. I just have to get on with it! One of my friends who has 3 was saying that the third is like carrying around a noisy handbag! I love that!