July 2013 - Part 1. Remember your pelvic floor exercises!

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Time to start the post-natal thread.

And start those PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES!

Granny that's impressive timing! Maybe a future comedian / actor?

Stillno I'm sure C is doing comfort feeding in the night (hence awake again now) but don't know how to avoid them. How are you getting away from giving milk/breast?

Good question! How?

Ds2, henceforth to be known as R too tired to type the extra letters. A child with absolutely no predictable routine during the daytime (when that would be handy) wakes for his night time feeds at EXACTLY 1am, 3am and then 5. You could set your clock by him! Trouble is, if he doesn't settle (like he didnt after the last one),i can have literally minutes to sleep before he's up again, wanting a feed.

It's quite literally a nightmare. No idea how to deal with it either, his brother slept through after a week or two and I'm bloody glad I wasn't smug about that at the time, else there'd be no sympathy for me this time round and rightly so.

I swore I'd never do pumping again but I've just ordered a new manual one online. Not sure when I'll have time to do the pumping mind, will have to cross that bridge later, but even one night where I miss one feed would change my life...

Amazed at all the deed doing on here. Good for you (sobs) when do you find time? My dh is more in the vein of stinky's. Admin not a forte. I had to fish a parking ticket out of his bag to pay it this morning cause he claimed not to know where it was (urm, in your bag? And don't even get me started on how you came to get the bloody thing in the first place). This sort of thing isn't really much of a turn on!

I'm shuddering at the thought of the return of AF. I'm still bleeding off an on since R's arrival. Grim!

MrsRoss - DH has been settling N with cuddles to try and break the snack-BF-to-sleep cycle. It took 90 minutes on Friday night and an hour last night. She doesn't look like she'll fall asleep, then suddenly does. Hopefully if we persist with no boob-age unless it's been at least 3 hours, she'll learn not to bother waking. Then we can stretch it to 4 hours. That's the theory anyway.

granny at cricket typo! Sometimes feeding settles a bit round about 6 weeks or so, fx will do for you

dinky grr at dh! Will you at least be able to leave ds3 with nanny? Have some time with just you and big ones? Even if you take J you may find he sleeps for duration of school run, M normally does

Here we get baby appt for GP check and imms organised for us but have to make post natal appt ourselves. I forgot to do it last time but have made appt this time

We are back dtd again here too, from about 4 weeks once bleeding stopped.

I'm very glad to say I am not broody at all, we are done, no more babies but very much enjoying this one

Re appointments, it seems to vary by practice. Mine is in the same health board as thinking's but I was sent appointments for a phone call in the first week home, 6 weeks for me and him and 8 week jabs. IIRC before he was registered; the CMW dropped the papers in as her clinic is there.

We seem to have dropped the 1am feed thankfully (jinxes self). He feeds about 10.30-11, then sleeps through to 4.30-5. He still wakes at 7.30-8 as well, then on to daytime hours of roughly 2.5 hours between finishing one feed and starting again. Unless it's today, when food is going in then coming back out both ends...

So impressed with all of you DTD esp ten days after! I have to admit it's just not been something I've really been thinking about much at the mo!

BB01 - I was surprisingly gagging for it from day 1, but the bleeding put me off. I'd been completely disinterested and far too uncomfortable whilst pregnant and I think several months worth of libido just hit me all at once as soon as the baby was out!
I have to say though, I was VERY swollen & uncomfortable whilst pregnant & got away with a ridiculously easy birth - one tiny graze externally was all.

From day 1?

SNFED you sound similar to me, I was wayyy off sex whilst pregnant but soon as baby was born felt all loving etc.

we had a 'welcome to the world' party for E today, she was amazing, loves new people, was a real flirt! smiling away..

Ive come to the conclusion that she feeds all the time when shes 'bored'. shes always been super alert wanting to get involved in things and Ive noticed when its just me and dh at home all day she wants to be fed non stop. when we go out she has big feeds but in chunks non of this annoying snacking business!

I'm not a bloody sweet shop!

I'm impressed with all the dtd. I have thought about it quite a lot recently but too scared to even talk about it with DH as Im scared the stitches are not healed yet. Got no pain though but will try and wait till 6-8 weeks. Poor DH, I was disinterested during pg.

4 weeks

So unfair AF has arrived MrsRoss.

Shocking - J was like your ds2 but the ranitidine seems to have helped him - we have had 3 nights in a row of 7 hour sleeps followed by feed, 2 hours sleep, feed, another hours sleep then up. How old is R? Could it be a growth spurt?

Thanks for the sympathetic comments re dh and his cock up. He's been making up for it all today so is out of my bad books for now. Thinking - will try to leave J with our nanny for the morning runs - afternoon pick up seems to be around the start of his afternoon cluster feed so not sure what we will do there! Its a bloody good thing I am on maternity leave or we'd be buggered!!

Granny - ugh re the nocturnal poo explosion!

Am with Thinking - not broody at all, sure J is my last but delighting in having him in my life.

Also no DTD action here - too bloody knackered

Can i just check something with u all? Had my 6week check last week and all the doctor did was ask how i was feeling and nag me about contraception. Spoke to another mummy today and she was in for over half, had an internal & baby was checked over too. I was in and out within 5 minutes and baby didn't get mentioned really. Is that normal?! Seems strange that we both go to the same surgery but had completely different experiences does it not?

This is so unfair- last few nights I can't get to sleep dd always sleeps between 8.30-12 or 1 so this is the best time for sleeping. I can't use anything to make me drowsy as it'll be horrible for when I need to feed her in the night! Grrr

Amazing news dinky glad LO is getting sleep must be a relief. Also can't remember who was saying about comfort feeding in the night.. Maybe try dummy, I've found Elka comfort feeds a lot so it has helped her, I was worried she would use it and it would stop her feeding enough but she seems to know when she needs enough food ect. Well worth a go, they can cry with it for up to 5 secs before they realise they can suck on it to go to sleep. i find its better dh... Can be ok for me but maybe I'm smelling of milk for her to use it all the time? Not sure.

Mross you are bloody unlucky! You would have thought your body would give you a bit more of a break before all that starts!

Kayls I had the same as you baby was checked over again though. Did you have stitches? I thing that may make a difference. They should have checked eyes and ears I thought...

Nope didn't have stitches. Will check with HV this week. Thanks :)

Morning all! L up to eat much earlier than normal today, serves me right for mentioning the seven hour stints! I forgot how they can change the rules with no notice! She's settling herself in her basket now though. Shame she does it so noisily.

Granny your poo explosion made me laugh. I must have looked a right fuss pot last week at an outdoor swimming pool when I was trying to nonchalantly cover up the fact that L had filled her nappy, pooed all over the changing mat and that I had my hands covered in it! Another episode saw our cream carpet covered in poo which now looks like someone dropped their curry!

Nexus sounds like a lovely day. We are starting to think about christenings as we would like L done whilst she is still little. We did the same with DS. Started to ask godparents as we see them. Not sure if its controversial that we are asking the same "team". We loved who we chose for DS and feel L might get second best if we try to gather together a whole new set! The two we have asked so far have been delighted though so that's nice.

I know Dinky has her DS starting school this week. Anyone else? My DS starts on Thursday and whilst I know he is ready and will love it, I feel ever so sentimental. Where did my baby go?! I'm pleased to be off work for a few months to do school runs etc and am excited for a new chapter for him but I do have a suspicion that I may embarrass myself with an emotional explosion! Damn hormones, I even had a quiet sob at X factor on Saturday!

Right, I believe she is virtually asleep! Fingers crossed we all have quiet, efficient nights!

5+4

good morning

Considers self jinxed.

Me too, also jinxed. We were up at one, again now and in between I was up because the cat was vomiting up a hairball I don't mind being up with her to much though, I was having a dream I was on a bus with her which was robbed, so I'm quite enjoying the baby snuggle to convince myself we're both ok!

Kayls they should be doing a baby check as well as asking you about healing/depression/contraception. If you told them you were happy with the healing and had no tears they wouldn't need to examine you, mine didn't either but she did examine the baby and ask about problems.

Also cursed the sleep here. Fed at 2 and woke again at 4 with bad wind in her guts. Just drifting off again on lap.

Can I ask what your routines are?

Sophia is 7wk old, only child and bf. and I have no idea how regularly she should be napping and feeding in the day/ night. She often gets overtired so I know she's not getting enough but don't know how often I should encourage her to sleep.

We dtd at 4wks as I felt ready and also didn't want it to become this big thing, have now done it 3 times as hard to find the right time - afternoon nap would be best as I'm awake but husband at wk, also have had mil to stay.

kayls - my 6 week check was 5 minutes of are you ok?/great/bye. GP said she'd pribably be the one doing the baby check 2 weeks later. No interest in N at all except to tell me I'd dressed her like a boy . It would be so much better if they'd do a combined appointment.

I keep falling asleep holding N in my arms after I've fed her at night. I told my mum and she told me off and said I shouldn't let it happen. Very unhelpful. I'm not doing it intentionally! Anyway, it happened tonight and if I hadn't needed to escape to pee she probably would've stated asleep much longer, but as it was she slept over 4 hours, which was great.

Quin - 9 weeks here and no routine yet. N is mostly just having to fit around whatever is happening with DD1. Daytime sleep is generally in the car or sling.

Quiet, efficient nights MrsD? Ha! Up here at 12.30, 3 and 5. Better than the past couple of nights, but still not great! I CAN'T WAIT for the fabled 'sleeping through'!

We have no routine to speak of yet, though I'm introducing a 6pm bathtime, boob, settle act. The only other thing we do is go out every day for a walk, mostly to stop me going absolutely bonkers. Is anyone else struggling with this still? With my dh going back to work today I'm definitely anxious about how we'll cope.

School starts sounds sad although from here I'm beginning to wonder if C can start sooner, rather than later

a book I'm reading (your baby week by week) says by week 7 your baby should only nap during the day for no more than 4 hrs (ie totalling 4hrs rather than 4 hr stretches). fat chance! jo is probably only.awake for that much In total..we took him to an.airshow yesterday and not even a low flying lancaster bomber could stir him.

at night its the grunting which unsettles everyone. he wakes every time he passes wind (and he's windier than chicago)