July 2013 - Part 1. Remember your pelvic floor exercises!

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Time to start the post-natal thread.

And start those PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES!

Mightbe* jealous of your time at the salon, I really need to dye my hair, I look like a mad old witch at the moment!

Mrs* 7 hour stretches wow! That is impressive. Glad you're having a good holiday.

Abs* glad you caught mouse, I couldn't have slept with one in the house

SNFED I agree it's largely down to temperament B is super chilled compared to her big brother but still can count on one hand the number of times she's fallen asleep by herself. She usually needs cuddling/patting/walking/sling/buggy, although unlike DS this usually takes no more than 5 minutes so it's generally possible to shove him in front of the TV distract him for long enough to get her off.

We do get out & about a lot though so tbf she has a lot of her naps in the sling/buggy. I say just do whatever you need to.

Worst night since B was born here, she's got a streaming cold and took hours to settle, then spent all night in with us as she woke every time I tried to put her down. I'm really hoping it's just her cold!

We"re still on holiday with the GPs (mostly having a really great time) so hopefully can palm DS off on them and get a nap at some point.

Last day of my 20s today!

Forgot to say B is 8 weeks (+ 3 days)

Ah happy birthday for tomorrow Vinegar are you doing anything special?

Talking of wine, what's the general advise/opinion on drinking and bf at the mo? I've been abstaining but I've got a lovely bottle red that's been opened and I really want to polish it off -not necessarily in one go-

Happy birthday vinegar!

Sunday - yep, my roots were looking awful so salon was a (very lovely) necessity!

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Vinegar

Sunday I was told that a glass of wine was completely ok whilst bf. Enjoy your lovely red!

Forgot to say 5+2

Sunday there will be naysayers but I've read you can drink just not get drunk. a glass will be fine but no more than you would have before driving. we toasted js arrival the day after he was born and I've enjoyed wine with some meals. medically I've read it can affect letdown but nowhere outside of mumsnet have I read to totally abstain

Ah Fab! Do you think granola or Coco Pops go best with Rioja

Morning all... Keep trying to post but getting distracted. Can't scroll back to remember who it was who can't work their baby but rest assured I can't work mine either and he's my second.

Worst day yesterday, couldn't settle him at all... Kept trying to take him out in the pram but that just made him scream more and just to compound my shame after just 4 hours sleep (broken into 3 chunks) I cracked myself and burst into tears. I may or may not have also shouted
"Fuck off with your drilling!" At some particularly loud builders...

Dh had to come home from work early to rescue me (ds2 went straight to sleep for him of course. But then he had been pretty much awake for 12 hours straight by then).

Gah. Massive fail.

Should add that I did of course have a glass of wine last night and I am ebf. One small drink occasionally does no harm I'm sure.

Enjoy your birthday!

(5+4)

Definitely ok to have the odd glass (or two) of wine whilst BF. If you have a 'big night' you need to express & dump. It tempting to give a boozy feed to get them to sleep, but a hungover baby would be a nightmare!!

Happy birthday for tomorrow, vinegar! It's my best friend's birthday tomorrow too.

I had a bad day yesterday too! Must have been something in the air making them all cranky!

Decided to go to soft play for lunch with some friends, had all except ds1 with me, so I knew it could be tricky . Anyway as I made my way to a table some women agressively and in her loudest voice said to me that I had bumped a wee child (about 1 year old) on the head with the carseat. Said child was standing looking completely unfazed, not upset or crying. I didn't feel any bump but apologised profusely at which point she said ' you need to be more careful' in a really sneering way. Totally uncalled for, especially as I'm pretty certain I didn't even touch the child or she would have at least said 'ow'/ 'sore' etc!!
I was fuming she was just so damn rude!! Kicking myself for not then using the classic munsnet line 'did you mean to be so rude?'

Anyway whole place was heaving with mums and kids including some bigger girls who for some reason kept pulling ds3 about which he wasn't happy about (he's 2, they would have been 4 or 5)
Too noisy, too stressful, too much!! M did sleep the whole time and the boys played well but I think I'll stick to quieter times from now on

Happy birthday for tomorrow vinegar

abzs glad the mouse was caught -yuk!

Sunday def ok to have a glass of wine- enjoy!

Definitely not tee total here. Usually only have half glass or one at the most which means I can have it more often without the guilt I know some people totally abstain but I haven't heard any evidence as to why you'd have to. Had slightly better night last night and an evening with almost no inconsolable crying. Yay! Hope everyone else is ok and getting more sleep. Sorry am so crap at personals nowadays! Am never at proper computer any more.

Yy to wine!

And thanks for the advance birthday wishes, hopefully the weather will be good to me and we can chill on the beach all day and have a BBQ down there.

Happy birthday for tomorrow Vinegar - hope you have a lovely day and B gives you a lie in as a special birthday treat.

Shocking - J was a sleep refusenik yesterday during the day (and the evening before) - awake for hours on end grizzling away before succumbing to a power nap of 20 minutes or so and repeat cycle. However last night he slept for 7 hours - 8 till 3! - as he was so knackered. He's been sleeping loads today (after making his displeasure known and in between poonamis) as have driven back from holiday, done loads of driving errands around London on the way back, and slinged him this afternoon to take his brothers to the pool in our local park, so doubt the record will be repeated.

Abzs - glad that mouse was caught somehow in the end. Your cat sounds comical!

Thinking - what a rude woman! It would have upset me too.

Re wine - am a big advocate of a little of what you fancy so have a small glass of wine or cider or a weak g+t a couple of times a week with food in other evening when j has been wrestled down to the land of nod. As ds2 pointed out, its a bloody good thing wine is dairy free!!

Can I join?

I'm a first time mummy to my beautiful girly born 8th July!

Hi emsiepops, pull up a chair and join us for a natter

Thinking, in the words of Miranda: Rude! Soft play places are a nightmare aren't they; as you say too loud, too busy, too hot, too much. But kids love them (generally, when not being manhandled by bigger kids, or weed on from above - seriously seen it happen!)

Dinky, glad you had lovely holiday. Relieved to see J is sleeping a bit better now, are you feeling a bit more human? Lol at you DS2, he sounds such a character

Well I've got DDs birthday party tomorrow (her actual birthday was mid August but I was too unorganised to book a place in time) I'm dreading it! It's the first one I've done so fingers crossed it goes ok.

L is lovely as ever, he's really smiley and starting to laugh it's so cute .
Oh quick question, did you have to book a 6 wk GP checkup or where you given one automatically ? Sounds a silly question but I'm a bit confused. I tried to make one at 6 wks, was told they do it at 8 wks here, then tried to book in for jabs next week but still wouldn't give me appointment saying they'd contact me. Well it's 8 wks tomorrow and nothing! Will phone them on Monday I guess.

Hope everyone else is doing ok

7+ 6

Apologies for rubbish one handed sleepy typing!

Where are you sundaysunshine? in my part (presumably all of) Scotland you make your own triple appt with the GP but they send you out a letter for 8 week jags which I got at 7 weeks. But maybe is does vary by practice?

7+2

Hello emsiepoops - is there a clue in your name?

We had to register Sophia with the gp first and then we could book in the 6wk checks and the 8wk jabs.

We're still struggling with wind trapped in her guts which is causing her to wake in the night as she is uncomfortable trying to fart them out.

massage during the day is helping but she's waking after sleeping 2-3 hrs and then I'm giving her the boob to get her back to sleep. Don't want to get her into a bad routine of short sleeps & feeding though...

Had a nice day meeting my friends with babies, it's great to see how they're all growing. Sophia is really making lots of noises now and has conversations with you.

Hope everyone is asleep instead of reading this...

7+3

Is anyone awake?

Hello emsie

Oops, should have refreshed before posting. Morning quin. Trapped wind sounds a real pain for you both we're on short night sleeps and feeds too, and tonight it's driving me mad. Poor babies need a manual!

Yep, wide awake here. Hope you are ok MrsRoss. The boy is just settling to sleep after a 90 minute bodily fluids extravaganza. No blood involved, thankfully but pretty much everything else...

Re: alcohol, I am not abstaining and am enjoying a well earned G&T / glass of wine / beer every few days. Dinky, I love your DS2's comment! And Sunday which cereal did work best with Rioja!?

Happy birthday to Vinegar! Wishing you but above all, [sleep]!

Right-o. The boy is asleep so I am off for a bit more kip. DH back from New Zealand today - excited to have him home (jetlag and all)!

Hi all, hope everyone well-been catching upon most recent posts while Fis wriggling about in my arms-think she's constipated :(

Sounds lik some of you are making some great progress!

All is good here though we've just given up breastfeeding. F stopped feeding & was screaming when I tried her on the boob so I got a lactation consultant out who said she had posterior Tongue tie & seemed To be struggling to stay on, (latch was always bad). Only place to get it clipped is privately, 4.5 hours drive away & overnight stay, which is too much stress & expense to justify. Anyway,it's been very emotional a I really didnt want to I've up but after 2 weeks of pumping realised that wasn't really working for us either-poor DS didn't get a look in. the last 2 weeks I've been grieving a lot about it but starting to feel less bad now my milk is drying up.

There's not much silver lining to bottle feeding though-she's waking more at night than she was & she's gone from 50th percentile to 90th in 2 weeks?! Think the hv will have a fit but really don't know what I'm supposed to do -there's no info really to be found on formula feeding other yen on the side of the box which is like 5 feeds of 5 oz a day.

Has anyone any advice? I can't let her go hungry or cry for ages-have been trying to distract her when possible but think it must be awful to go from feeding on demand to being put on a schedule of 5-6 feeds a day.

No routine going here although I have an evening jobs list that I work through which helps me feel a bit more in control. It's this-

Evening feed to add probiotic to
Sterilise bottles, dummies, milk dispensers & fill
Ensure feeds prepped & Muslins, change of clothes, nappies & cream supplies ok in bedroom
Maintenance to changing station in living room
Empty changing bag & get it ready for tomorrow with refills
Sort breakfast for DS (he's 3 so I have decanter cereal mixes into 2 tupperware boxes so he can reach it in morn along with his bowl & spoon)
Fill DS large drink carton with cordial & leave in fridge door
Decide & prep lunch & tea for next day
Leave out DS clothes & mine

It helps me a lot just to have the necessities written down & know that DS can sort himself when we do have a bad morning!

Really looking forward to a routine of sorts starting-been getting out to my parents most days & enjoying it so can't wait for mums & tots groups to start as DS starting nursery school.

Christmas shopping started here also while doing night feeds-it's ver dangerous!