July 2013 - Part 1. Remember your pelvic floor exercises!

[TotallyEggFlipped]

Time to start the post-natal thread.

And start those PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES!

Hi,
Sorry to hear some of you are still having difficult nights, I really sympathise, my DD was terrible at sleeping day and night so I know how hard it can be, she still has stages of insomnia and she's just turned 4! Thank The Lord Luca is the complete opposite, I got five hours then three hours last night and feel almost human today.

Re bf, Nexsus you mentioned that your milk supply maybe dwindling because you weren't leaking any more - your body can work out how much milk you use and modifies its supply accordingly, so it may not be a dwindling supply, just a more efficient production.

Abzs, it's well documented how 'useful' my husband is, I find it so frustrating how the most obvious things are clearly too difficult for him, but then maybe I'm being too hard, maybe it just is more difficult for men??? Hope you enjoy your holiday in Edinburg.

Dinky, hope you enjoy your holiday too.

I've just got back from house sitting for a friend, it was a lovely break (she has a lovely house) we did lots of touristy things and saw lots of family too which was great.

Looks like the hot weather has returned, yay! Went for a very long walk in the woods yesterday and going to beach tomorrow , just trying to make the most of the summer holidays before DD starts school full time (yikes how did that happen, she's growing up so fast!)

Hope everyone else is doing ok

Oh and I forgot to share my latest poonami event; L had such an enormous eruption it went all the way up his back into his hair!!! Thank goodness I was at home and could plop the little turd monster straight in the bath

Into his hair - wow. We've had a few where it was easier to bath her in the sink afterwards

Abzs, I completely agree.. Maybe females have an extra sense? (common sense?)

Seems like it's a nationwide poonami thing, we have had it here too!

Hello all - J slept, wait for it, a 6 hour stint last night - still in shock - and my 3 boys and I had a lovely day on the south bank today which was so much fun, so life feels good right now. Decided to sling J all day so he fed, slept or peered around rather happily all day - will probably pay for it tonight.

Impressed at the epic poonamis!

Abzs - what a pain re the leak - hope the rain now disappears. Enjoy your break - bet it will be fun when you get there .

Glad you had a lovely break Sunday. Ds2 starts at school full time this term too and I am totally in denial about it.

Quin - hope the infacol does the trick

6 hours!? Did you wake up half way because you weren't used to it? I did that when Elka went for five hours!

I woke up every two hours as that's normally how often he wakes up

Wow 6 hour sounds really good. Glad you had a nice day Dinky.

I'm very tired today as I had visitors. Will try and sleep as J is already in his cot sleeping.

Wow, dinky! 6 hours is fantastic. I hope he's sleeping as well tonight.

Abzs I hope you have a great holiday.

N has just slept for 5 hours. I think she's trying to make amends for last night, which was a disaster with almost constant feeding until about 1am, then a maximum 2 hour stretch of sleep for the rest of the night.

Sadly normal service was resumed by J last night - awake most the night. Ho hum.

Sorry to hear about more wakeful babies.

We're on holiday in lovely west Wales, but I think B thinks we've travelled down under, because she's gone nocturnal

DS's imagination is running away with him as usual overnight, too. This morning at 4.30 he was calling for us because apparently there was a White Tit on his head. Is that even a real bird?!

We do have both grandmas here though to take turns cuddling so I can get a break. And having a really nice chilled time, mostly just on the beach.

Theo slept in his own bed all night! Only taken 12 weeks, lets hope it's not a one off

Been lurking, but not much posting as Caspian is a super cuddly and fairly hungry baby. Feeding is okish, but he has a tongue tie which they do not treat over here (I'm in the channel islands), so contemplating arranging a private consultation in the UK to deal with it as it is pretty painful for me!

Have also just had to call the health visitors as for the 4th day in a row he has rolled himself onto his tummy.... First couple of times was on his play mat, (he is also 360 turning around during tummy time), and now he has been doing it in his moses basket and in the carry cot when downstairs in the pram. I thought it was a fluke the first few times (3 times the first day, then at least twice a day since), but maybe not? I've been told not to swaddle him as it is too warm and his arms should be free, and just to tuck him in even tighter, and put him on his back every time I catch him having rolled over in his sleep . Just a bit concerned about risk of cot death. Does anyone have any advice or experience or general good ideas in respect of this?

Hope you have a better night tonight Totally and that B realises she's still in the UK Vinegar!

Waves - C sounds very strong! Can he roll himself back to his back from his tummy? If he can, I'd be more relaxed. If he can't, then I don't think swaddling would help as he'd most probably break out of it - you could get one of those breathing monitor pads maybe to put your mind at rest as it sounds like the flipping over is here to stay.

Hello all.

I'm up as J always wakes up at around this time to feed.

Just wanted to share with those whose babies are nocturnal. I normally wake up J at 7pm and keep him awake until 9-11pm. At 9 I give him a bath. I use mum&me sleep tight bath form which is made of lavender and chamomile. J seems to like it as it smells good and finds it calming. I try to keep him in the bath for as long as possible, changing positions and allowing him to play in the water. This is followed by a massage in sunflower oil and then a feed. By the time the routine is done J is calm, relaxed and ready for bed. Sometimes I even just place him in his cotbed when still awake and he just nods off. He normally sleeps for 5-6 hours before he wakes up for a feed and nappy change. I did this with my first 2 and started the routine with J on day 3 and I've found it very helpful so I thought I should share it in case someone wanted to try it.

Hooray, B is back on UK time and slept 10.30-4.50! Much more "normal" oft her. Still can't quite believe I've produced a child who seems to like her sleep (well aware there's plenty of time for it to go to pot!). Also even more convinced that it's down to temperament - we have nothing resembling a routine at all, and we don't try and keep her asleep in the day (couldn't if we wanted tbh!). Yesterday she napped for most of the day (5 hours asleep on the beach, with 2 feeds) but obviously was still tired tonight! She also is nearly always rocked/fed to sleep, sleeps on us or in the sling etc etc. Basically all the things you are "supposed" not to do!.

Anyway, just my 2p worth and a slightly different view to some others, as someone who has had a confirmed non sleeper, and one who seems on the verge of spontaneously sttn at 7 weeks

Appreciate "this too will pass" isn't that useful when you are utterly wrecked with sleep deprivation, but looking back I was always convinced on some level that DS's lack of sleep was due to something we had done/were doing (which I think is totally natural, whether things are going well or badly), and it made a stressful time even worse.

*awake in the day, not asleep!

have managed to keep up lurking and reading but not managing to post anything...often i am just in the same boat with bad night etc etc . have mil and fil staying Thursday to sun and they've taken dd and ds out for morning. J didn't sleep much last night. Am desperate to get him asleep now so I can get a bit of a nap...haven't had a daytime nap for a couple of weeks...come on baby...zzz
On positive note he's put on 2 lb since birth and is Mr Average on the 50th centile :-) and he is smiling but not at cameras yet!!!
ok hoping this time he's dropped off into a nice deep sleep and mil and fil dont come back early with kids!
Sorry for no personals am too tired to be coherent and remember.

oh and no routine here yet. mil said her dd slept thru at 6 weeks come(J is six weeks on Sunday). And her two boys slept thru by 10-12 weeks. Mine have always taken longer can't remember exact times now in sleepy haze. Despite trying to create different night/day patterns with light and dark and bathtime etc mine have taken longer to get into regular routine. All were/is ebf and I think that means they don't tend to sleep for such long stretches am I right!!??
I do think there are so many factors inc comic, wind amount of stimulation each day, milk supply etc etc its d difficult and I try and just go with flow sometimes thru gritted teeth! hope you all have s good days

lol colic not comic!!!!!

silver can I swap places with your little one? I want thatt routine myself. vinegar maybe your ds2 was having a breastfeeding dream

there seems to be no rhyme or reason to our sleep patterns. he's been up since 5 but.asleep now we're on the bus to town. he had a grouchy night and then as soon as he saw his daddy gave the biggest smile. the tally is about 10 to dad, 20 to the staircase 10 to other inanimate shapes, 1 me. I feel quite jealous

has anyone here done milk donation? I'm contemplating it. might be worth enduring a chest like the taj mahal if it could help babies in sc.

cheek I've considered milk donation, but never got as far as properly looking into it. I'd be interested to hear if anyone has done it before.

We have absolutely no routine at all here. It hasn't been helped by illness and DH being away and then altering the only minuscule step I'd taken towards starting a routine. Every day seems to be unique at the moment. Naps are a bit of a disaster, unless we happen to be out in the car. Really need to get N napping in something other than the car sea or sling. DD1 didn't sleep through until 13 months, hoping to get N sleeping better than her big sister.

Hi all, not posted for ages, been so busy! Ds1 was back to school this week and ds2 back to nursery in mornings so been trying to get some sort of routine going. Have managed to get there in plenty of time each day so far, and I think it will help me to get into routine generally.
M very variable in sleep pattern. She's done a 5 hour stretch a few times but if needing to poo she's normally up all night. She spent most of last night in her Moses basket instead of cosleeping as she just can't feed lying down.
Still waiting for hospital appt re Tongue and lip tie but she's being a bit less sick and easier to burp so not a massive problem.
She did a poonami at the toddlers group I go to yesterday but luckily ds3 didn't cause too much trouble while I was changing her!

Sorry for lack of personals on phone, but have a good holiday dinky
Oh and abzs I know exactly what you mean re men not seeing the mess!!

a question...
do you think you can betray a newborns trust? many of us have velcro babies, only sleep on mum etc...I've just been doing battle with jo who woke from sleep and screamed when I transferred him to the moses basket or bed.

finally managed to slide him off me but heres the reason for the question... if I go out of the room now (he's sleeping in a safe place) to tidy up etc and he wakes ...will he remember? or do you think they are not that advanced yet?

I don't know if I'm being cruel by putting him down somewhere else when he's too tired to notice, or too soft when I allow him to sleep on me for as long as he likes?

ps I realise this is a big question but you all seem so level headed I'm.interested to.know what you are doing/thinking rather than asking mn_wide