November 2012 - Summertime, and the babies are sleeping (mostly with a few notable exceptions)

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1800961-November-2012-Is-is-too-early-for-birthday-plans

Toni and Guy Edinburgh are opening their student academy in September and need models for a free hair cut. Cheapskate here is tempted... you very much suit it!

Chasing I think you need to make something so you feel engrossed, satisfied and proud of yourself. Are you arty or crafty? Would you like to be? Drawing, knitting, wood carving, pottery, tapestry, sewing, card making... anything you fancy trying? You could make stuff to sell or just to decorate your new home xx

Not caught up fully you chatty lot!

Jims, J is technically over the weight for his seat and I cannot justify buying another seat as we already have the next size up. I would love to have him rear facing longer, but would need to do the same for DD2 as well and that is just too expensive with the need to get a new car too. Both girls were forward facing from 9 months so I am glad he has reached that milestone.

PP I would personally buy a decent second hand seat rather than that one. Have you researched the seat? I bought a cheap one for DD1 and threw it away within weeks. The advert does not say when you need to face him forward but I think it would be 13 kg like most seats. My seat is 10kg hence our dilemma.

chasing there is so much you can do, but for me nothing beats a good book.

yw you mentioned Caitlin Moran yesterday. I am trying and failing to read How to be a woman. Keep getting a few pages in and giving up...

Thanks YW but sadly I'm not crafty at all. I lack imagination and skill.

PR I do love to read but don't have the attention span at the moment.

I'll think of something, I'm sure.

Also PP keep an eye out on Argos for sales. I got our MC Tobi half price in their sale

A diary chasing? For in the evenings. You could do it either for your eyes only or for O.

What kind of books chasing? I find I read certain books at certain times. For example, if I am feeling a bit brain drained I read thrillers. Holidays when I had more time was when I read more high brow stuff. Maybe finding an easy page turner would help?

Enid blyton? Set yourself a goal to have reread Mallory towers by the time O is 1

oh not at all pr, i just think your dd1 sounds funny, and definitely challenging at times, but just, brilliant :)

Diary isn't a bad idea pass but I think I need to get out of my own head more, iyswim.

All of my books are easy page turners No high brow books here. Enid Blyton is a good idea. Will have to scour Amazon.

You don't need to be imaginative to do crafts. You could buy a book, of basic knitting for example, and teach yourself following their patterns. Creativity comes afterwards with skills.

I just had a proper blub about feeling proper lonely. I feel so guilty as I know dp works 7 days a week to make a brilliant future for us but I feel lonely.

Chasing you are in need of a good slapping with the ol' quiche fish. You are not being self indulgent. You have an awful lot on your plate yet you are wonderfully supportive and considerate of the other quichettes plus your lovely posts and photos of O cheer up my day. I would love to meet you both one day, I feel like I know you so well. And I would love to introduce you to my three boys. They are handfuls and then some but I love them more than anything. I wish you could have the sweet anticipation of the next stages in O's life and the joys and experiences yet to come. It's an adventure all the way and yours is only just starting. You just wait, there's more to come and it's wonderful. We all love to see your posts and are with you through thick and thin. ((((Hugs))))

Sheesh stunt that just set me right off, I'm a blubbering mess now. A good note to go to bed on though.

Love you all xx

aww stunt that was lovely!

and Pikz hugs for you too

I've been AWOL for 2 days so plenty to catch up up - apologies if this post is not as detailed as it could be...

detective That is outrageous - how can they think 24 hours notice is sufficient when they presumably know you are on mat leave and therefore have a baby to care for!? Idiots :(

PR I can't say that I hate every minute of being at home, but I do find it very stressful, I do get more irritated than I should at my wilfully destructive toddler, and I do think that going back to work after 6 months turned out to be a VERY GOOD THING.

N also does 3 or 4 poos a day. She appears to save them for the car seat, resulting in many awkward changes in the front seat or in the boot! At least its warm at the moment.

pass My favourite children's book for now is What the Ladybird Heard.
Eliza My mum bought DD1 the whole Mr Men series when she was born, andI've just got a couple of them out - they are far more wordy than I remember! She seems to like them though. I loved them as a kid - Mr Slow was my favourite
I the Lion The Witch and The Wardrobe, but wasn't so keen on the others. Roald Dahl was ok; Enid Blyton I read over and over and over again, especially the Famous Five.

Glad everything went well Sophia Take care of yourself.

Congratulations on passing your exams stunt That's brilliant news :)

Chasing The place you are moving too sounds great. Hopefully once your are there you will feel more settled, a little less in limbo? As for the evenings, I agree a craft of some description is a good idea. Something enjoyable but requiring a bit of concentration which may help clear your mind of other worries for a while. I did an OU short course when DD1 was little - just in a random subject that interested me - an it was great for keeping me busy, but not stressed as the outcome really didn't matter.

I had a horrible day yesterday - which seems to be in keeping with many of the quiche. I seemed to spend most of it one hospital or another.
I took DD1 to the docs and they wanted her to have a blood test, so I had to take her to the hospital as they don't do them on such young kids there. I was dreading it as I thought she might find it really traumatic, but actually they apply a local anaesthetic first and then block her view of it with a good book. She didn't even know they had done it!! But they are testing liver function and for coeliacs which is a bit scary. I know, and the GP agreed, that both are unlikely and she's probably absolutely fine, but I can't shake the nagging what ifs from my mind. results next thursday.

Then, and this is where it got really shit, DD1 and I were running, and she stumbled so I stopped her from falling by pulling her up my the arm (I was holding her hand) and popped her elbow out :( :( :( One trip to A&E later, and she is fine, but I feel like a complete shit. Not helped by the fact that she kept sobbing "make it better Mama" :( :( :(

Has anyone read the thread from the talk round up email? The one about the brother who said only 2 of his sisters 6 kids could go to his wedding. I have just been in stitches reading it.

stunt congratulations on passing your exams. Celebrate with some

Erm... Did read the thread but have completely forgotten most of everything that was posted. I'll go back and re read.

Jeez, that was longest post in the world - sorry!

and ((hugs)) Pikz I spend 6 evenings out of 7 on my own and it does wear a bit thin sometimes.

Oh Kirrin you must be so upset about her elbow. It sounds like a very distressing day. Can you chillax tomorrow to make up for it?

Kirrin I can't imagine the guilt you must be feeling. Hope you're okay - and DD1! FC the tests show nothing serious too.

DP and I had the most ferocious row late this evening, culminating in me screaming at him to leave about 3 hours ago. He did. In a fit of rage I have packed most of his belongings. I have no idea where he is and his phone is off, all I know is he can't be far as he hasn't taken my car. This is really the end, isn't it? We were getting on so well too. Fucksticks.

det you are doing the best to keep O safe, pls don't beat yourself up. No point thinking about what could have happened, nothing happened and he was safe and sound. Squishy hugs to you.

kirrin ouch. Poor you and dd1.

chasing I have only read 3 books since Leo died and that was 15 months ago. This is the girl who read at least 1 book a week. I have no motivation and possibly afraid that the book will make me feel how I felt when I was with him. Evenings are shite here, it gets to you by the end of the day that you are alone even more. I usually just use the net, have the telly on in the background. At the beginning series helped, watched endless ncis, grey's anatomy, castle, etc. you will be happy and in a loving relationship one day, I believe in that. Anyway, fancy meeting in oct? Happy to come to mk with O.

Also anyone in Leeds and fancy a coffee? We are coming up to see a friend who is due with a nov baby on 14 th and staying till 15th.

O is happily asleep, I thought it was going to be a bad night with her 3 hour nap but no, not even a sound.

Kirrin, that and slide injuries are the most common orthopaedic injuries in kids. Happens to loads if people. Horrible though. Glad the bloods weren't too bad and hope the results are good. Dh is a coeliac. It's not so bad. There is so much glten free stuff available now.

Stunt - what an awesome achievement. Huge, huge, huge congratulations. Also, very good luck with the house buying.

Det - can't believe your work... Outrageous. Surely they can't get away with that? Really living reading o's antics. G is a liveries too but less climby thank goodness.

Pr, hope your situation is resolved too.

Kyz - sorry about your bird. Nice try though.

Izzy - mucho hugs if you are reading.

Chasing - I reckon wellies was on the money as usual with that idea. I am crap at craft too but still feel quite proud when I make something. And you might find it fires your imagination in a more positive way. You could maybe start by getting a 'make a teddy kit's simillar and making something for o when he is older? Or maybe make some cakes for your dad and stepmom to say thanks for the support? Or make a picture for your flat (you don't have to put it up if you end up not liking it - but you might surprise yourself). Or a stock of birthday / Christmas cards (you can save money that way too)? My dh works evenings in the summer, it is dull. But my 2 are being horrors in the evening so keep me busy at the moment. Just saying so you know there are more of us alone in the evenings and you are not alone in that sense at least. X

G hasn't been well. We've had a few crazy crazy night's, high temps and napless days. Seems on the up now though thank goodness. R has taken to stealing his toys and playing with them inside her toy oven so he can't reach. Not on young lady - but still makes me smile inside to see her being so resourceful.

Oh - and been thinking of the garcias. Hope the sun is shining on the isle of Wight (metaphorically as well as literally) and j is enjoying his voice .