March 2013 - still too sleep deprived to think of a funky title

[StormyBrid]

Old thread here.

We seemed to be running out of space (again) so I made us a new thread.

Sounds most peculiar, eco. Maybe post somewhere here with high traffic and ask if anyone has any ideas? And with a bit of luck it'll turn out to just be an inexplicable phase, and over soon.

We had a strange night last night. I was out at the local beer festival with my dad and various disreputable characters I haven't seen since pre-baby days. 9.15pm the man rang saying something was up and I'd better come home. So I downed my pint and legged it back, thinking "shit, if she's ill, I can't even co-sleep with her and then have trouble getting her back in her cot like everyone else does because I've been drinking". Of all the stupid things to worry about! Anyway, she'd woken up screaming in pain, wouldn't settle, calmed down a bit when he picked her up and gave her a quiet cuddle, then started grimacing and screaming again. He could feel her stomach spasming. So when I got back she was full of calpol and they were sitting downstairs in the dark. She was making these involuntary and gutwrenching hiccuping cries, it was horrid. Went back to bed with no fuss at 10pm though, and then didn't wake until 4.15 for a feed. I think the main reason he got me to come home was he was a bit freaked out by the depth of his emotional reaction to his own baby in pain. I think he may actually feel like her dad now.

Any, SoYo, we're past 24 weeks now. Is it all about to go to hell? I really hope not, she's just learnt to squeal so could make things unpleasantly noisy if she's being a grump.

Eco, I would push, lots of drs now give a lot of credence to mothers instincts, you just need to find one!

Wors I am so jealous that you have lovely in laws. Mine are dreadful. We're with them at the moment. Thank god they live 180 miles away, because I don't think I can hold my tongue anymore. They are bigoted, stuffy, patronising wannabes who treat their 35yo son like he's still 9 (probably because that's how old he was when they sent him away to school). Thank god they did send him away though, it meant he had other influences in his life and has therefore turned out nothing like them. I'm currently hiding upstairs with dd napping in my arms so that I don't have to be there whilst they fret over today's garden party (it's just MIL's sister and her rabble coming round, you'd think it was the bloody queen!)

Yesterday's pearl of wisdom, whilst driving through a less than salubrious part of town "look at those Russians, drinking on the doorstep. Well at least I assume they're Russian, as that's the kind of things Russians do. They're all alcoholics don't you know..."

VJ Sounds like hell. Huge amounts of sympathy currently winging their way across the cyber sphere.

We're watching car racing here shoots self. The worselet is inconveniently napping so I can't even escape. I may stomp about a bit to wake her up so that we can do the bottle thing and go out.

Meant to add Stormy your DH has succumbed to the pull of parenthood. Proud moment

Eco I can only second what others have said. I would press on with seeing a paediatrician whilst hoping its a mere blip.

Worse I can't say I'm looking forward to the mid life crisis stage. Ill never forget coming home from school to find father bedecked in leathers, Honda bike on the drive. Dp keeps threatening to sell my car so he can get something small and sporty, but thankfully on our budget the silliest he could get is a mini moto.

The worselets grandma sounds lovely, very similar to my knitting obsessed mother (who also sports a large, comfy bosom). DS loooooves her.

Stormy aww he stepped up. Very proud. Though he sounds like a good supportive type, do you think he experienced the enormous rush of love? Also wonder what was going on with your Dd.

we've been having incredibly screamy sleep. Once he's off he's fine but getting him there can be a right kerfuffle. Fairly certain it's teeth.

Agree with all the below Eco. Isn't it crazy that we have to make a fuss just to get the right diagnosis?!

I think I need to see a doctor soon too actually, I had a strange cold burning feeling in my face for the last month or so, and then a patch in the middle of my back that was weird and tingly (very noticeably so) and now it has spread the full length of my spine. I have pains and weakness/spasm in my fingers and legs and toes too. Hoping it's just a trapped nerve...

OH says he can't remember if he just turned off the monitor in the night when DS was crying in the night but he slept from midnight until 9am with one wake up at 5am, so OH is now set on CIO as a trial. I'm not so sure, but maybe it's just harder for me because I always wake for his cries?

Hello all! I've been lurking for the past week, been far too tired to do anything other than collapse in bed after each day but I'm now back from Edinburgh. Apart from the odd cry every now and then and lots of wine it was pretty ok. Don't get me wrong, I missed DS like crazy but I was so busy that I didn't have too much time to get sad about it. And hearing OH on the FIRST day say "I already have much more sympathy and understanding for you" sort of helped. He did a wonderful job though, lots of regular photos and updates of daddy and son time, it melted my heart. And I've now come back to 4 more teeth and a very cuddly baby

I've tried to keep up with you all but there's been lots going on with you so I can't remember it all! Must try harder.

Well done something I told you DS would be ever so happy to see you. I might go away from DD foe a bit as she's proper fed up with me at the mo and only smiles for everyone else

leni get thee to the doctor forthwith. At the rate they seem to get round to fixing people round here, you'll be lucky to get a proper diagnosis before Christmas

Lots to catch up on!

eco, I agree with the others that pushing for a referral seems like a good idea. And I'd probably get another thermometer too just in case, but that's just me!

leni yes do get yourself to the GP and get checked out. Tingly sounds odd!

something, so glad your trip was successful and OH coped admirably :)

plonky is your DS a screechy baby? DD has just started making the screechiest noises. I thought at first she was in pain/unhappy but we think now it's just her learning that she can make those noises IYKWIM.

any, is the wonder weeks thing from a book? I have got What To Expect... the First Year but haven't looked at it for a few months and I'm just going with the flow. Is each week a Wonder Week or just weeks when there can be a problem eg a growth spurt or something?

vj, your PILs sound like they could have their own AIBU thread! Hope your trip is nearly over...?

Stormy, such a shame you had to leave the beer festival early :(

worse how did your DH take the discussion about the car?

Hi to everyone else!

Wing he learnt how to screech about eight weeks ago. I think you're right, he's just learnt he can make that noise so he will make it. Often. Can't wait to fly with him next week!

Wing Wonder Weeks is indeed a book. Basic premise, all babies go through leaps in mental development at about the same age, and each leap is preceded by a fussier period. 26 weeks is a wonder week (at which point they figure out distance, realise we can walk away and they can't follow, and freak out about it.

Didn't miss too much beer, as I got started at 3pm.

Squeals aplenty here too. We figure she's just entertaining herself with new sounds.

Thanks for the explanation - mentioning WTE... 1st years de me pick it up and have a look again and DD seems spot on with things. Will need to look up how to get her sleepin through again although the last two nights have been 10:30-11 ish till 4:30 ish and then a quick feed before waking up again an hour or two later. So she's getting there back to when she was sleeping through... Slowly!

plonky where are you going away to?

*did make me

Mini Farmer was 6 months old yesterday ! ..... It Has flown by !!
He has been weaning for approx 6 weeks now , safe to to say he loves his food :-) no waste with this little boy
He puts the spoon in himself and clears it .

Mini Farmer is still great at sleeping thank god says i .
his sleep pattern is. goes to sleep 6.45-7.00pm and wakes next morning 10.00 am -11.00 am usually nearer 11.00am. Wakes once or twice for milk during this time and straight back to sleep .
he definitely takes after me as i love my sleep !

this last 6 months have been an utter joy i feel so blessed ,
i have found it all very easy ..... so far .... but I'm told the 1st year is the easiest as at leadt they stay were you put them give or take a few feet !!
I'm sure once mini farmer is on his feet so to speak it will all be much harder !!!
At market just now while mini farmers daddy loads up the new cows :-)
We are very busy on the farms just now finishing off harvest etc , so we can go to Scotland .
I hope everyone is well and babie all thriving .
..we are all doing a fantastic job ... keep that in mind

Heading up to Scotland on thursday to see my parents , my brother andmy friends .. can't wait :-) :-)

much love Christi x

Mini Farmer was 6 months old yesterday ! ..... It Has flown by !!
He has been weaning for approx 6 weeks now , safe to to say he loves his food :-) no waste with this little boy
He puts the spoon in himself and clears it .

Mini Farmer is still great at sleeping thank god says i .
his sleep pattern is. goes to sleep 6.45-7.00pm and wakes next morning 10.00 am -11.00 am usually nearer 11.00am. Wakes once or twice for milk during this time and straight back to sleep .
he definitely takes after me as i love my sleep !

this last 6 months have been an utter joy i feel so blessed ,
i have found it all very easy ..... so far .... but I'm told the 1st year is the easiest as at leadt they stay were you put them give or take a few feet !!
I'm sure once mini farmer is on his feet so to speak it will all be much harder !!!
At market just now while mini farmers daddy loads up the new cows :-)
We are very busy on the farms just now finishing off harvest etc , so we can go to Scotland .
I hope everyone is well and babie all thriving .
..we are all doing a fantastic job ... keep that in mind

Heading up to Scotland on thursday to see my parents , my brother andmy friends .. can't wait :-) :-)

much love Christi x

Hello everyone. I had been waiting until I had something unbeat to post but that may be some time coming so just ducking in to say hi.
Quiet today on here so expect you all been milking the sunny bank holiday.
Something I was so pleased your trip was a success all round. You were brave and it all worked out. Good result.
WOrse you MIL sounds delicious. You do sound like you've got a lovely, slightly potty on occasion, set up! Sorry vj that yours are less than ideal. You back home now? Deed done for another while hopefully. I was in your neck of woods today enjoying cranbrook, goudhurst and scotney. Flying visit, but next time a coffee and pork pie might be nice.
Leni your numbness sounds like it's worth checking out. Have you registered with new practice now?
Wing sounds like you making good sleep progress again. Was chatting to a mum of a blw fledgling today and it sounds so chilled and reaps great rewards. Must actually start it soon this end.
Hello Plonky. Thanks to you and everyone else for encouragement. WIll get my MN face on with next doctors.
Mini farmer sounds like a bloody dream. He sure likes his sleep. I suspect the rest of us read your post goggle eyed!
Night all. With any luck I'll have some mojo back tomorrow.
X
I like to think our thread is beyond normal MN rules, hence my over familiar kiss!

Wing sane here, which makes sense, waking up loads between 4am and 7am...

Went to a BBQ today, DS had had a weird day anyway, a 3 hr nap (unheard of) and then just completely melted down so we had to leave!

We are indeed now home. Wors, you're right, they could probably have their own AIBU forum. Amongst others, we could have:

AIBU to think my PILs are being racist when they say things like 'anyway, Asians, funny bunch aren't they'

AIBU to not think it counts as 'taking over the whole house' when I boil the kettle to make my baby daughter a bottle?

AIBU to think a one minute episode of crying in a whole weekend does NOT mean my daughter 'has a temper on her'

AIBU to be quite cross at the implication that my daughter is an easy baby because she's thick? (Well difficult babies are the bright ones...aren't you lucky that she's easy?)

AIBU to think that my midlands born PILs sound utterly ridiculous when they try to be all posh by pronouncing off 'orf' and plastic 'plarrrrstic'

AIBU that I found it hilarious to keep topping up MILs wine glass with strong pudding wine in the hope that she would pass out at 8pm? (Success btw)

vj I think you deserve a medal for putting up with that behaviour. Are they from northants? Dp's grandparents are, and despite being lifelong midlanders they say 'gorn' and 'orf', and 'bunfar' instead of bonfire. I'm all out of medals but have some .

eco ayup duck, any more low temp scares from dd? I think you might need wine too. I really do think its worth taking this further, if only from peace of mind. I can't help but recall a close from who kept getting fobbed off with ins and coeliacs yet was actually suffering life threatening crohns. And our dear worse too. I know the nhs is stretched, so you just have to be forceful. Reading that back it sounds very alarmist, but I think you know what I mean. I think kisses are allowed on here too, MWAH.

Wing the generous PILs are putting us up for a week in their villa in Madeira for a week. Lovely of them but I've never been in their company for more than 48 hours. I'm sure it'll be great, I could do with a holiday!

We had a crap night. DS woke every hour and ended up in our bed from about 3. Administering calpol at that time isn't easy, ice no idea how much made it down his throat but he had a very sticky face this morning. He's knackered now bless him and getting ready to go back to bed. Bloody teeth!

Something very pleased it was good. And four more teeth? Eek! Hope your house move goes without a hitch.

YANBU
YANBU
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YANBU
YANBU
YADNBU

Oh eco, do keep lurking and let us know when you get somewhere with the Dr. Dd slept till 5am this morning so I think she's hopefully back on the right track probably jinxing things How was your night leni?

I really can't remember what we did with feeding solids and reducing milk input with DS so I feel very even though I've done it all before. I used purées and also the fantastic Ella's pouches too and I'm not sure I can cope with the potential mess of fully BLW although DD will definitely be given bits of our food once she's got past first tastes. I need to do some reading...

plonky having rellies with a holiday villa is a great thing

Wing just remember, the important thing is that they end up weaned. How you get there's not hugely important in the scheme of things.

I really should post from the computer. Can't remember enough to namecheck properly.

eco don't go disappearing on us entirely, will you?

vj awesome work not losing your cool with the in laws. I hope I can always do as well with FIL, whose racism I'm told is Arab-oriented - he's been on his best behaviour on the two occasions we've met, but two of my cousin's are half Lebanese so I'm unlikely to keep my mouth shut if he does say anything untoward.

We're having a bit of a grumpy squealy day so far. Wonder week? Teeth? Who knows. At least the man's here, which makes things a lot easier.

Oh Eco, how about seeing a different GP to ask about it & push for a referral if you're not happy with what they say?

VJ well done for surviving that horror! Hopefully you won't have to see them for a while!

Christi it sounds like things are great on the farm, glad you're doing so well.

Afternoon all. Boy it's hot here. I'm sick of hot. Am I allowed to say that? After the torrential downpours of the weekend I was vaguely hopeful we'd be due a cooler phase, but no. So I'm inside, sulking, and waiting for a cloud to appear.

Eco Scotney you say! We were there yesterday too.... along with every other baby and baby bump in the south east (or so it seemed). Just think, we might have been within spitting distance. Not that I spit. Obviously. It was fun though, in a wandering about a national trust place, yet again, type way, and we found ourselves some extra amusement courtesy of a few fleas. The worselet was a bit bored so I thought she might benefit from a kick about on a mat, so I put one down in a seemingly idyllic spot under a tree. Within a second said mat was absolutely hopping with fleas. We went home immediately shortly afterwards.

plonky a dad in leathers you say. Now that's embarrassing. Mine drove a maxi, which was fairly bad, but leathers..... you win!!! madeira sounds great. How'd they feel about internet randoms turning up?

Something how many teeth

Ps VJ YANBU!!!!!!!