Jan 2013 Part 4: More noises, movements and more sleep?! Hmmmm

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I leave B during the night until he's making persistent noise - I don't usually wake up til then anyway! He's always wide awake; he's never done the dream feed thing. I tickle under his neck or blow gently on his face to keep him awake...

He's still in with us but will be going in his own room once his blackout blind arrives and we've given it a good Hoover. Probably in the next week or so.

B is still mostly in 0-3 clothes . I've started putting him in 3-6 vests but his other things mostly look far too big on him still (he's 19weeks). Sainsburys stuff is bigger though, as is Asda.

Hubby has taken B out for a long walk so that I can get some of this marking done. Bailey seemed to think that 3 15min naps today was acceptable so he's been doing my head in and I've gotten absolutely nothing done. He's just point blank refused to sleep today.

We've tried some baby rice this morning. Seemed to go down quite well and all over the face, up the nose, in the hair...

Sitting here at kiddicare in a nursing chair feeding dan. It's so comfy I could stay here all day.

Happy Saturday all

I'm kid free in the hairdressers still very jealous of Pascha in kiddicare I know I'm a freak

I have a hen do tonight but I'm so tired I'm not really feeling it but sure once there it will be good.

I just find getting ready and leaving the house SO stressful. DH really is hopeless, all morning i have been out with DD's and he decides to get in the shower 10 mins before i have to leave . Think I will be divorced going out tonight!

Sorry to those having awful nights we had ok one. I put her out of routine by going out to dinner so she didn't go to bed until 9ish then went until 1, 1.15-5.30 and took her in with me and she snoozed/fed until 8ish when DD1 woke us up.

Happy - good news on baby rice.

Thanks guys

Had v little sleep, just had a little cry cause friends cancelled an upcoming event and started feeling sorry for myself

Those of you who've had bad sleepers since day 1 I don't know how you've coped! We had ten bad weeks but then ten pretty ok weeks, I got used to it and now feeling just awful since its gone again!

Doesn't help that DP has been working late all week and is studying so I've had the baby almost all weekend too the last couple weekends and this one too. Weather is lovely I feel like everyone else is out on family days and I'm stuck on my own! I can't even have a go at him as he is upset and miserable about it already, and seems to have developed some sort of mystery stress related rash :(

Oh meringue I hope you feel better soon. I feel the same in that it looks like everyone else is out having fun and I'm stuck at home. I don't really have many friends here, and those that I do have don't have babies so spend the weekends getting drunk with their boyfriends. Hugs for you x

Also a girl from DHs second job is texting him a bit more often than I'd like. And he's texting her back. I trust him 100% it he doesn't see why I have a problem with it. I personally don't think it's appropriate to text a married man.

I'm preparing myself to be joining the wide awake club tonight, we're trying the cot for the first time.

Thanks Creepy! Oh no not appropriate at all .

I had a bit of a go anyway, not in a horrible way tho. Felt better afterwards for having got it off my chest.

Always helps doesnt it? Glad you're feeling better.

The cot hasn't been too bad (yet). For a baby who's refused to sleep almost anywhere but her crib, she's fast asleep after being in there 10 minutes. She looks so tiny!

Hope everyone's had a lovely day :)

Lost hope your enjoying the hen do!!

Meringue hope your feeling better? It's horrible to feel like that, I'm sorry, hoping for a better night for you

Creepy, it is inappropriate, have you spoke to him about it?

Just had a little emotional moment when checking in on DD, she looks so gorgeous and so precious making her little squeaking noises, I really feel like my days are taken up with running round after ds1 and housework ect that I'm not getting to appreciate DD and how much she is growing and changing

Aw Lolli, bless they are so beautiful!

Up again. It's as if he just isn't switching off the eat-activity-sleep cycle now at night so wants to be doing activities all the time. He isn't in a bad mood unless we try to put him down and turn lights off. Happy to walk around the house being entertained

Yep I've told him, he says I'm being silly, she's just a friend and that I wouldn't mind if it was a man. Like I say, I trust him 100%, I just don't think it's on.

Lolli You can be looking at them plenty in the day, and then little moments like that you just get overwhelmed don't you? It's lovely :)

Meringue I hope you managed some sleep.

We had a lovely day at the wedding, though it was unbelievably hard work at times with two, needing to fit naps, feeds, nappy changes in. We didn't stay for the evening bit as both girls were almost as tired as us by then lol!

Am very short of sleep again, averaging about 4 a night (in bits) the last two nights. DD1 was up twice last night and 4 feeds for DD1. I think the wedding and things has disrupted them a bit. Oh well, the sun is still shining

creepy I agree that's not on. As you trust him of course nothing would happen but it's more the principle, maybe he could reply to her a bit less often?

merignue hope you're feeling better.

lolli I love the squeaking noises too!

D has decided squealing himself to sleep is the way to go. It makes for a noisy bedtime thats for sure. He's sleeping nicely in the cot now and we finally went and got a dangly mobile and musical thingy for him which he is entranced by.

Meringue I feel your pain, D was exactly like that from about 12 weeks to about 19 weeks. It was hell but we seem to be coming out the other end now at 20 weeks (21 weeks? I can't remember anymore ) he's starting to go some nights with just a dreamfeed at 11ish and one wake up between then and about 6.30am.

Glad the wedding went well Birdies

We had a very productive day shopping yesterday. Have decided to preorder the Micralite Twofold having played with the Superlite at the store. Oh dear! I guess the BJC Select is going on ebay to pay for it now...

Off swimming now. have a great day everyone

Thanks guys

After so many failed PUPDs, I gently lay down on bed with baby still cradled in my arms... Then let him sleep beside me with head nestled in the crook of my arm... After some time gently eased out my arm so I could go to sleep too. He woke once after that and had to cuddle really close into my chest in what is probably not a safe co sleeping position. Velcro baby!!!

Birdies sounds like you had a fab time at the wedding! Lovely weather for it. Ours is this time next year so really hoping it is similar then! Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday :)

pascha Ivy makes whingy noises when she settles to sleep have ti keep listening as sometimes it turns into real crying.

creepy that is inappropriate. I would be annoyed too.

Well dh went away and not bacj til tomorrow. My house looks like a bomb went off and i am truly shattered. Have no idea how single mums do it! Dh just doesn't realise how relentless this is. I start early and finish late!

Ivy us either having a growth spurt or getting another tooth (or both) shes up 3x a night now and no longer sleeps for her usual 5-8 hours between feeds (actually she hasn't gone longer than 4 hours in days) :( Think.she i needs a jumperoo so i can put her down and get things done!

Tried her on one of tge swings at the park today she seemed a bit underwhelmed though! :)

Hope everyone having a good day and has sleepung babies tonight!

Oh creepy if there's one thing you don't need when dealing with a baby and all the accompanying joys and challenges, it's some niggling annoyance with DH... hope he agrees to fewer text replies. That would really bug me too.

meringue I have also given up on many occasions and allowed Molly to be velcro baby in my bed. She is 20 weeks at the end of the week so for the love of God this phase might be nearly over. Right? Right? pascha am taking comfort from D's progression.

birdies glasd you had fun at the wedding, despite the work involved!

We had a great weekend with my parents. Went out twice, once alone and once with both girls - they were stars. It all feels so worth it when you get to have the lovely family moments - the sleepless nights and crying all fades into the background

Hope everyone has a great start to the week

Morning all

Hope you all enjoyed the weekend

Busy one here, hen night turned out to be good fun actually, nice to be child free and enjoyed a few cocktails and the girls as always were very entertaining.

Very tired yesterday though not that I know what not being tired actually feels like and had to drag myself to DD1 drama and then to BBQ but lovely day for it.

Birdies - glad you managed to enjoy the wedding, albeit with its challenging moments hope no one saw your Knicks

Angie - good to hear you had fab time with the folks and kiddies behaved

Apples, hope the nights return for you quickly and well done you for surviving half term with 4. (Now its the dreaded summer to await)

Creepy - not good news on texting front, I agree with the others, having a new baby is emotional enough, without having this getting you down. It's a difficult as obviously you don't want him to think you don't trust him but I would just tell him again it's making you unhappy and ask him to put shoe on other foot and how he would feel if you were receiving numerous texts from a man! (That is not a joint friend or who he was well acquainted with). Do you know anything about the girl? i.e is she married/ boyfriend/ kids etc? Anyway big hug, I went through something very similar with my DH when DD1 was a baby so I understand a little how you must be feeling x

Pleased I'm not the only one that thinks its out of order. She's the same age as me, and had a boyfriend until recently. I've actually worked with her a few times too, DH works 2 days a week for the company I work full time for. A few weeks ago I looked at his phone, and he'd accidently deleted the entire conversation with her. I asked him to stop texting her, then I saw he was 'snapchatting' with her (some new app game thingy). He's working with her this morning and she's changed his facebook status to something oh so funny. That all sounds terrible doesn't it? Oh, and she gave him a lift home from work last week. He cycles to town on his days off from there and has a cup of tea there. And he's wondering why it makes me feel shit?! Sorry for the long rant :(

Nice to hear of your lovely weekends. Glad the weddings and hen nights were fun.

Creepy - was that correct 'she's changed his status'? If so why does she have access to his account ? I would tell him straight that you don't like it, it's making you feel uneasy and ultimately it could get so much worse. So your being honest, not bottling up your emotions and he should have a little think about what is most important to him.

Poor Creepy I had a similar thing with my ex husband a few years ago. It is totally inappropriate and you need to tell him in no uncertain terms that it has to stop. It's nothing to do with whether or not you think he might cheat, it's to do with boundaries and a sense of decorum. Married men shouldn't be texting female colleagues/friends on any kind of regular basis, end of.

On another note, my sister is getting married at the weekend and has morphed from control freak to out and out bridezilla. Not only is she insisting on matching stud earrings for the (10) bridesmaids, but a schedule has been emailed out covering 48 hrs and detailed down to the minute. It is 6 pages long....
I have to have my hair done at 7.45 am on Sat. Never mind what time I have to feed LO!!!

He left his phone on the side, his facebook is always logged in. I told him I don't think anyone has a right to just pick up his phone and go through it. Even I don't! He's just sent me some reassuring messages but I've told him I'm still not happy. It feels like someone else is trying to get in his pants, and he's not discouraging it.

Sorry for the thread hijack!

Hope everyone's having a good day so far, I've just had two sneaky ginger biscuits!

That's what I've told him octane, I trust him but its just not right. He's just not getting it though.

Good luck with the wedding! I imagine my sister will be the same when she gets married. She was bad enough for my wedding! I hope you all have a lovely day

Creepy, I had an issue with my hubby before we were married and he just hadn't realised. I'd seen that he was texting her but he told me he'd been texting someone else (which he had been at the same time). I knew she wanted in his pants because she'd told me when she was drunk! It was all innocent though.

Currently waiting on furniture arriving - should've been here between 7am-12pm. Not even had a phone call or anything to say they would be late. Also got to wait on an electrician coming who's a bit of a tube and will probs do something wrong...

I want to go out in the beautiful sunshine...

Changing his fb status creepy that is way over familiar behaviour... I'm not surprised so many of us can identify with this kind of situation. After a life-changing event like having a baby, grown men end up acting like boys feeling a bit left out and aren't quite quick enough to discourage others sniffing around and piling on the attention as they might have been before. You've got to be clear that he is showing disrespect for you by going along with it, however innocent he thinks it is.

wondering what the fb status was changed to

It's a bloody shit thing to do isn't it. She changed it to the very funny and very original 'I'm gay'. Oh how I laughed.

I hope you're not waiting in too long happy