December 2012: Sunshine, saliva & sleeping more...we hope!

[WeeJo08]

New thread ladies

Ooh DH is home!

Thats a good idea WL thank you. She sleeps great when i'm in the room just not for long when i'm out the room and then she takes ages to resettle. I know it sounds stupid but i feel like she won't resettle as she doesn't trust me not to leave again.

Oh and FoD sorry about your crash, i hope your ok. Its an awful feeling

Another two bloody hours ffs it's ridiculous.

Hales I always go downstairs and leave ds. I tend to come back up pretty soon though otherwise I wouldn't end up getting any sleep.... I think they advise six months for any dairy and meat anyway? Just fruit and veg until then?

Sorry about your car FoD ours is always scratched because we live down narrow lanes and if you meet someone it's a choice of hitting them or scraping the hedge/wall

about you're car FoD.

Hales, we live in v small 1bedroom place so I leave him in the bedroom but the living room is just next door.

So the doctor said its probably not an infection as 7 days of antibiotics is plenty and I don't have a fever. I suppose it's good news but its annoying now not knowing how long I'll be in pain for.

Oh no ski maybe you need to rest some more? (Easier said than done!).

Ds up again, third time, I've just settled him on my chest so he obviously isn't waking because he's hungry....how do you get round that one??

Well that didn't work. He woke up as soon as I put him down. I'm so angry I just want to throw him out the window

Well i didn't know that Spotty, i've only been avoiding it because the HV said don't give it till i have the lactose results. So i thought you could include it in their diet as soon as you started weaning. Thanks for letting me know

Ski hope your belly feels better soon

I'm not 100% sure it's true hales that's just what I thought

Oh Spotty, it sounds so hard. I hope it all clicks for hom doon.

It is true Spotty and Hales my HV said just veg/fruit/bsby rice til 6 months.

Does she fall asleep before you put her down Hales? Could you start to put her down awake so that she's not looking for you when she wakes? I did read an article about it will try to find link.

Poor you FoD is there any way you can just leave it until you're back at work and have a little more money?

Ouch Ski like spotty says you pupbsbly need to take it a bit easier, but it's never that simple.

Another good night here - 9-6:30 (sorry). I've woken up today extraordinarily broody! It's DP's fault, he's of the opinion that we should just do it and it'll be fine Two in 13 months would actually kill me off I think. But.....

Another bad night, but every 2 hours instead of 1 so slightly better. HV predictably didn't have much useful to say, but interestingly didn't just tell me to dump him in his own bed. She's suggested taking his pram upstairs, as he sleeps ok in it during the day, and using it over night in our room. Then once he's used to that (and not being in our bed) make the next step. She also said putting them down asleep is very unsettling for them - like if you or I went to sleep in our bedroom and woke up in the kitchen. They don't understand what happened and how mummy suddenly disappeared.

Sigh, he's shouting at me. Will check in again during his morning nap.

Naughty baby spotty! Poor you, that's so tough. If you're really finding it too much (totally understandable) you might want to give yourself a deadline for improve or change. Have you read the no cry sleep solution? I read it for dd2 but didn't have the patience! With dd1 I did full on controlled crying at 6 months - it worked but I wouldn't do it again - it was harsh but I was absolutely desperate (she was waking up about 20 times a night - I kid you not). With dd2 who was not that bad but still wanting 30 mins of boob to resettle 3x a night a 8 months I did a more gentle approach of picking her up and cuddling but refusing to feed - after the initial fury, she slept through after a day or 2. If necessary that's where I'll start with dd3 - just as I was at the end of my tether a couple of weeks ago she got better. She's up a lot at night at the moment because she's got a cold, so we'll see what happens when she's better. Challenging the nights was dreadful at the time but immense afterwards!

What if he is actually hungry though? I can't deny him food

I know! With dd1 she was waking for her dummy so no food worries, and dd2 was 8 months and weaning well - I offered her milk in a cup and bottle initially at night but she was not interested at all and as she had a cup of water in the day, I knew she could so again, felt comfortable that it wasn't about food. It's really really tough and I only did it when I was really at the end of my tether and it became a bit if a me or her situation.

Only you will know what is right for you and ds - I feel for you as I know what a tough situation it is.

Ok that makes sense. I have kind of got a plan: once he's fully weaned if he's no better at sleeping introduce ff either at 7pm or 10pm and see how that works. If still no luck then do like you did and offer a bottle/cup/get dp to try and settle him. Hmm it's a difficult one!

Yep, maternal guilt versus maternal survival!

Just to clarify, I'm not suggesting that should do anything just that you might find it helpful to have a plan - which you have already!

Spotty, i'm sorry i missed that post where your DS woke up when you put him down. I'm glad you've got a plan also i've found that when i was having a bad time with H and was just at the end of my tether she always had a better night. So FX that happens for you today/tonight.

Willyou i've started taking her to bed when she gets tired we lie in my bed till she falls asleep and then i transfer her into her cot. So it might be what shes doing getting upset because i'm not next to her. I think i'm going to wait until she brings her bedtime till 9pm and then start getting her to sleep in her cot. Thank you.

Stacks, i'm glad you got some advice off your HV. Some of it made sense to my situation where H was falling asleep in one place but waking in another. Hopefully it helps you i've got my FX for you. I know how happy i was when H finally started sleeping more than 2 hours.

Can't really leave the car repairs. Everything goes rusty over here fast due to the sea air.

Another bank holiday for us today

stacks I settle DS to sleep with boob, pull him up so his heads on my shoulder for winding, then after a few minutes I kiss his cheek and dump him in the cot (not very gently tbh) he normally stirs a little so isn't going down completely asleep. I then normally make me way rather noisily out if the room.

I always find a plan makes me feel a million times better about any situation that isn't what I want it to be, even if I don't ever execute that plan. I guess it's about the ability to take control!

R is 24 1/2 weeks and eats: parsnip, sweet potato, butternut squash, cauliflower, apple, banana, avocado, baby rice and rusk. I've got pear and toast still to try, then lentils then he'll get what we have modified. I want to do gluten (rusks and bread) completely separately from dairy just in case, although there's no history of allergy or intolerance in the family

Oh, and porridge. But he doesn't like it!

Sounds like a yummy list Pidj I'm looking fwd to starting in a few weeks

Aren't babies disgusting? Jamie's just sneezed and vomited out of his nose, followed by a massive squelch as he pooed. Lovely

Came across this today breastfeeding timeline. Bit late for us for the first few months, but interesting even for 4 months plus. Tells you things like the benefits of breastfeeding to each age, introducing solids etc.

I intended on getting out to a baby group this morning, but T slept through it for his nap. Just going to try and afternoon session now.

Sorry, just popping on for a question:
My period started today... Is this normal? DS isn't feeding any differently. I've felt a bit ropey for the last couple of days but didn't feel like period pains

I'm probably worrying irrationally; can it affect supply?
Also - sorry TMI, but DP an I dtd yesterday, first time in ages... Could that have affected things??