November 2012 - In denial about the six-month sleep regression

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Oh chasing sorry I posted without refreshing, hope you are ok, I agree with det they are fucking cunts! You should stop being so nice and agreeing to do things with them if they make you feel like this all the time. Hugs

Did you take O with you chasing ?

They are cunts.

Chasing (((hugs))) feel free to share when ready and we will slag her off too x

Carobel can be used as a thickener for liquids and puree even water!

Carobel helps reduce vomiting.

Need to catch up on fred...but just had to say that I got a call back to a 2nd interview! Yay :)

Keep selling it to me VQ!

We definitely need it for water....!

Wanna See... told you so!!!

Hi Quiche,

Thank you so much for your support here and on Facebook. Yesterday was hard but not as hard as I thought it would be. His grave is well looked after, we lit candles and left flowers, only stayed for a couple of min as it was raining heavily. I feel a bit guilty as I wanted to talk to him there but there was no way we could stay there longer.

Visited his family, it was a huge surprise as I didn't tell them we were going. They are not nice people, particularly his sisters, we have had a rocky relationship since the death as they couldn't accept that O inherited everything. Anyway, O was a superstar in great mood and won his grandparents over within minutes. They showed me pics of OH as a baby, O is exactly the same. We stayed for 2 hours than drove back to Hungary overnight, 11 fucking hours. It was so tiring. I feel sad, angry, calm and content at the same time. Mixed of emotions.

So today is the first day of my new life here, it is still scary but I need to be open minded.

chasing hugs. As for flat head things, O has been having physio for 12 weeks now. She has torticollis, tilts her head in a strange way. Though not anymore. She had flat head but disappeared after a first couple of physio session . We also did cranial osteopathy to help her with screaming, had 4 sessions.

Great to hear you got through it okay Lily, I hope you can relax a bit now. You're a superstar!

I bet you are glad that is over Lily x remember even though you are in a different country, you still have the quiche support. And you do not have to be at your DHs grave to talk to him either. How about planting a little tree where you are so you have a special place to remember him? Are you planning well for the anniversary of his death? I would encourage you to think now about where you will be, who you will be with and what you will be doing. A day of remembering perhaps? Would you rather be alone with O or with others? Thinking of you x

Lily you are so strong, O will be so proud of you when she knows exactly what you have been through. I'm glad it wasn't as hard as you thought. He will always be with you no matter where you are. Hope you and O settle ok in Hungary. We are here for you xx

DH fucked up the first bottle and nap today and it has gone from bad to worse. The poor little sod has not slept all fucking day and is now asleep on the fucking sofa. But DH has made two loaves. The girls have not been out all day and I have been trying everything with J. I would happily divorce today. I really think it would be easier sometimes.

Forgive me for posting before I have caught up on the thread.

Lily I am glad you got through yesterday. You can speak to him any time, wherever you are. Please never feel like you are alone, this quiche are always here, day and night. I for one think of you often.

We had our first puree success today. O took a couple of spoonfuls of an Organix apple and blueberry pot. He pulled a yucky face but didn't clamp his mouth shut like he did before, so we kept going with it. I think his yucky face actually means 'Oh, this is new. Not quite sure what I think of this. Doesnt taste like milk...'

I feel rather ashamed posting another IL rant in the light of what Lily is going through, but I could do with some people in my corner.

So, we got to the restaurant and we left O sat up in his pram nomming on toys and he was happy as Larry. Then they wanted to play pass the baby. Fine. SIL #1 took him. He cried. Back to us. SIL #2 took him. He cried. Eventually passed back to us.

SIL then told me in a snarky tone that I need to take him out more. I take him out loads. You need to take him to see more people. He sees plenty of people. I was then told not to be aggressive and not to talk to her like that. I said this was ridiculous and I was leaving. (Yep, with O PR) She started shouting across the table at me that I was supposed to be family and she wasn't surprised that I was leaving. I then flounced out. Which is very difficult to do in a dignified way with a pram in a small restaurant

Doesn't sound like much written down but it was horrible

Well fucking done for standing up to the shower of cunts chasing!

Got O in arms, will type more later!!

chasing hope all ok. Have a cathartic vent here if up you need to. We're all behind you. And yes, they are cunts.

lily well done. Can't have been easy, but your strength is magnificent and O is so lucky to have you.

pass I have done that too but stuck them in the fridge anyway to use, persuading myself that because I only leave them for 12 hours max it is ok

wanna great news, fingers crossed!

detective hopefully your DP has learned from the other night. Is good for him to take O out on own. And my DH is beyond silly when with his silly friends. Honestly, I think 15 year olds are more mature sometimes.

pidj We have lno intolerances here and I have not been observing the three day rule with fruit / veg / porridge, but I have waited until DS is 26 weeks + to think about wheat / dairy. Now he is 26 weeks, I'll
start to introduce wheat, dairy and protein but will do those one at a time.

Nice day today after crap night. Had my mum entertaining DD all day so DS and I have chilled and napped most of the day. Am settling them both to sleep while my lovely parents make me Thai green curry for supper and I think I'll treat myself to some of their excellent wine. Although did have to go and buy emergency antihistamines due to dog allergy cos I am a twat and forgot mine.

Yay - go chasing! Very proud of you!!

X-post chasing am so pleased you stood up for yourself to those wankers. and

oh hugs chasing but well done you! the words 'need' and 'must' and 'should' are words not be spoken to a mum I've decided!

oh Lily huge hugs and quiche hand holding. thinking of you lots.

rubbish day of sickness and mh wobbling. it's not worth talking about though. I'm counting blessings right now.

I'm a weapon. Ordered normal blinds not blackout. They're like tracing paper. DH is ordering the right ones now and returning the others to Hungary via TNT (£40 ouch this is what happens when you buy fiddly things in the midst of a sleep regression). I feel like a total wombat.

Soooooo ....The bear evades his room for another day - we're getting some dark cardboard tomorrow to use as a temporary measure to cover the two skylights.

On a positive I've just bagsied an amazing 8 seater antique farmhouse table on eBay. It was in Norfolk - managed to get a courier on shiply for £75 - all the way to Fife. Result

Lily, Chasing ladies you rock xxxx

Clarella you rock too. Sorry you're missing Eddie Izzard xxx

I don't rock. At all. I'm weak for staying with an abusive twunt and turning myself into a Stepford Wive to keep him from getting stressed.

Lily is amazing. I have the utmost respect for her.

Lily my heart goes out to you. You do not need to be near DH's grave to feel close to him or to speak to him. He will forever be in your heart, he's a huge part of O and his memories will live on in your mind. I'm glad the worst is over. You are coping so well. You are an inspiration x

chasing E sounds very similar to your O. She hates being held by anyone but me. She's a lot better with DH now and I make sure my in laws, sis and mum etc do have turns of holding her so she can get used to being with other people. The difference with your situation and mine though is I am very lucky to have a loving supportive family who will willing hand E over once she starts to get upset. Glad you stood up to them and removed both you and O from the situation.

vq I find ithelpful at these times to try and make a mental list of reasons we love them, despite the fact that we often cope much more easily when they aren't hre. And yes, we can seethe over that fact.

lily glad you are safely home in Hungary. We are just a click away [hugs]

chasing more hugs.

Detective you're always putting a brave face on things but you need a hug too.

Where's contra ?

Slightly nervous of YW being a weapon

Remember chasing, you are mummy, and mummy has the power. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

Better bedtime for J. Used carobel instead of gaviscon and he downed the lot with no wind. Yet. Fingers crossed. Gave him the granules prior to the bottle too. Such a shitty day I do hope he sleeps well.

DD1 has so far tonight fallen out of bed and off the toilet. She fell off the loo into the laundry basket and we were met by little legs sticking out. She is never having a high sleeper, and we are never removing the stair gate.

chasing it took me years at a time to leave two abusive relationships, and jumped straight from the first into the second. It was fucking hard. And I didn't have the complication of a child (however loved and wanted). Remember what I said about being able to breathe again? When you really need to experience how it feels to take a deep breath without any fear or worry, you WILL walk away. And once you've done it you'll beat yourself up over not doing it sooner.

But I have been there. It isn't easy. At all. And no-one can make you do it. But you'll get there on your own in your own good time. Maybe one day you'll wake up and be ready. Maybe it'll take another beating, or some other vile act. But you can be sure that you havd been brave enough to talk to us, and to talk to the police, and that is how I am SURE that this, this shit that you are going through now, is not the rest of your life.

Right as always PR.

Detective deffo get carobel. How is O doing on the new formula?