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JumpJockey · 17/04/2013 21:02

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Nolda · 10/05/2013 17:34

Arti, hope you're now sorted for ABs. What a singularly unhelpful (and revolting re towels) midwife. Here are the votes of the Nolda family on the subject of names: DH and DD vote for Freddie; DS votes for Reuben or Toby (yes, I know it's not on your list but he says it's a very good name); I vote for Alex or Max (I think Max in particular would go very nicely with the names of your other DC). We don't like Felix as there is one at DD's school who is a real troublemaker. As others have said, I'm sure you won't have a problem naming him once you see his little face.

McKayz · 10/05/2013 17:57

Arti, what a crappy day!! I have no idea why that woman thought that was any of her business. The MW was out of order with the towels, I would complain if you feel up to it. I have had another look at your name and I do love Rufus. Arthur would be great NN Arti Grin

Rubes, are you ok? A virtual hug and Wine for you.

beans37 · 10/05/2013 18:02

I like Max and Felix too (in fact, they were lined up for me if I'd been a boy), but I know about 4/5 of each of them. But that's because theyr'e lovely names. Heavens, we named DD1 Isabella, the most popular name of 2008!! I know exactly what you mean, Lady, re names that make you bristle. My best friend at primary school was called Tor and that makes the name lovely for me. I was horribly bullied for a brief stint at a rank secondary school (quite famous, but shall refrain from naming it!) and the name Harriet now has terrible connotations for me. And yet it's quite a pretty name. Just not my cup of tea. But I've got the last laugh as she married a dreadful crook (also quite famous!!!).

I'm heading down to Kent tonight ready for the furniture selecting from Mum tomorrow. Suspect it'll be fairly gruelling. Mum got this date in the diary back in Feb/March so we could all make it and wants us to start at 9am, which she also made clear. My middle sister is also going down to tonight with her son, who has a swimming gala in Crawley tomorrow! She is racing him across at 7am and will be back for kick off at 9. My oldest sister is coming from London, the closest of all, and told me today she is getting the 8.37am train and could I pick her up at 9.30. I am horrified. And furious. And disgusted. She actually TOLD me that she couldn't be bothered to get out of bed earlier to get to Mum's before 9 because the rest of her family will be asleep. Mum rarely, if ever, asks anything of us, particularly the oldest as she is so useless. I am astonished that she can't even do this for Mum. I am not blowing my own, or my middle sisters' trumpets here, but since Dad died, we've been ringing Mum at least every other day. Mum admitted to me the other day that my oldest sister only tends to ring every 2 weeks, and sometimes it's Mum that has to call her. I know they're not close, but you'd think with all that Mum's gone through, my oldest sister would get off her arse and make an effort. I am seething. And, actually, like a little tell tale, I've told Mum. She is also furious and if she speaks to my oldest sister, I think is going to tell her not to bother coming!!! It's just so sad that since October last year, Mum, my middle sister and I have all got closer, but my oldest sister just seems to be pulling further and further away. She's so deeply engrossed in her own misery (which is of her own making, frankly), that she can't be anything but entirely selfish. Grrrr. Families eh?

Sorry, rant over. I didn't mean to bleat on. Feel free to ignore!!!

Arti, I am horrified by the towels. Bleugh. Oh and also, do what your gut tells you when the baby arrives on the name front. DD1 just didn't look like a Victoria, even though we'd had it lined up for ages as our girl's name!

x

beans37 · 10/05/2013 18:03

Oh and Rubes, meant to check you're alright? What's been up?

beans37 · 10/05/2013 18:14

AND I feel cross because I couldn't actually say any of those things to my oldest sister because I was so incensed and I can never think what I want to say til I've hung up and then it's too late. Suspect a few home truths may come out this weekend, which I didn't really want, but we're all so pissed off. Am worrying if it's all getting bitchy because we're all women and Dad isn't there to temper us any more. But I honestly don't think that's how it is. I think she is just entirely self-absorbed. Sorry again!

Rubena · 10/05/2013 19:00

Oh thanks all. Didn't mean to alarm! Was just a crap day, the worms thing (whole fam wormed now) a situation with money (of which I thought was in business account but wasn't) so temporarily screwed majorly, pre school has 12 cases of chx pox in last 2 days so waiting to see if kids get it. If so I can't go to work, then crashed the car into a fence post which is sounding quite a lot more money to fix than first appeared :(
Just an awful day. But hey ho no one hurt.
Beans has your sister noticed that the rest of you seem closer? I'm wondering if its s chicken / egg thing? She is Sounding very unreasonable though.
Arti hang in there!
Lovely to hear about ds Deids.

Vag. Virgin does fly to Australia! Just Sydney via Hong Kong. Thing is I don't much go to Sydney so usually go on to cairns through Hong Kong or Brisbane thru Dubai.

Vagolajahooli · 10/05/2013 19:16

Fuckety i wrote a hugormous post but mn had one of their offline moments and I lost the whole thing.

Arti if you have no other symptoms of an infection I would wander if the blood & protein might be contamination from what came out of your fufu. Other than that your midwife needs a headbutt, so many of them are becoming De skilled & losing ability to assess patients. Our indith will sort that out.

Hi Lady how is Italian going? Are you still thinking of no.3.

Rubes that all sucks big time. I ran into a fence once when I had a really bad cold. It's astounding how much damage it does. Thinking of you. I loved your LO's asking you to close your eyes so they can show you their tidying.

Beans that's all very hard. Maybe you should tell her to forget it and just enjoy the day with your mum & sis.

I can't remember anything else I was going to say.

Vagolajahooli · 10/05/2013 19:18

Oh and yeah rubes these days I just fly into brisbane. I couldn't be faffed trying to get around seeing everyone in Sydney so I just don't see any of them. Brisbane is more doable with the kids these days. The furthest I have to go to see friends Is the sunshine coast & thats far from a chore.

McKayz · 10/05/2013 19:20

Beans, will having it out with your sister make any difference to the way she behaves do you think?

beans37 · 10/05/2013 19:28

I suspect not. Rink it would just sever ties entirely. V hard.

Rubes, horrid for you. No good time to have the pox, though, and in some ways good to get it done. I don't think sister did notice as initially she and I became closer than we have for a while, but then she started withdrawing again. I do feel for her in miserable marriage, but it's been going on for so long now, and we've listened to it for years and years and she won't do anything about it or listen to our advice (asked for, I hasten to add!), so gets increasingly frustrating. And makes my heart hurt a bit.

DeidreBarlow · 10/05/2013 19:29

Oh rubes hun that all sounds pretty crappy! I hope your ok, have an extra large Wine and some Thanks x

Beans your sister sounds pretty self absorbed. I really feel for your mum having had it planned for do long. Do you think you will have it out with her? Maybe she could do to hear a few home truths. All that being said I hope you enjoy your time with your mum and sister(s)

Arti that MW sounds appalling! How are you feeling now ?

Rubena · 11/05/2013 10:36

Thanks ladies. I'm still beating myself up about it but dh isn't even mad. Never Is. He sees real probs at work every day. Anyway another putting it into perspective moment. Cyclist who trains with my bro (he wasn't there but rather at ballet recital Hmm) was killed on this mornings training ride. She was 37 Sad

No sign of pox.
Have nice weekends.

Indith · 11/05/2013 19:40

Arthur is of course a fabulous name for a boy Grin

Alexander is fab too. If I had one I'd have to call him sacha.

Sorry for stresses. Not really properly read them so not going to offer anything other than kind thoughts to anyone stressed out.

This stufy lark is really killing my MN time!

Vag, if you have a min could do with some ideas here

sybilfaulty · 12/05/2013 16:50

Where is everyone today? Have swum, done the shopping, played the piano, made cakes, done homework and taken L to a party. Now watching tommy zoom on cbeebies. Lovely.

Hope everyone is well abd having a restful weekend. How was yesterday beans?

McKayz · 12/05/2013 16:56

Wow Sybs. You've done loads.

The boys are getting taken on holiday by XH and his sister. I think XSILs DP is going and the boys cousins. XMIL is going too and she didn't want the boys to go. They are too noisy, get up too early and are too naughty. How the hell can a grandparent be so horrible about their own grandkids. She openly says it around them too so DS2 asks why Grandma doesn't like him Sad

sybilfaulty · 12/05/2013 19:26

Darling Kayz, she doesn't sound great. Sadly for her, in a few years the boys will vote with their feet and refuse to spend time with her. Her loss. Your boys are stars. I love seeing pics and reading about them. You have a lovely family. Don't let one person's negativity give you stress. Love to you X

sybilfaulty · 12/05/2013 19:28

Sorry Indith not to be a help on your thread. All the kids' problems are solved by lots of water and dried apricots, which is clearly not going to help you. Hope someone with experience has helped you now X

McKayz · 12/05/2013 20:36

Thanks Sybs.

Someone I know is moaning they only get 7 hours of sleep a night. Do you know how much I would pay for 7 hours unbroken sleep?

DeidreBarlow · 12/05/2013 20:40

Katz your ex MIL is being very mean. I think Sybs said it all. But that is so sad that your DS is picking up on her meanness. It truly is her loss she thinks like that.

Indith no advice on the poo problem. DS used to get terribly constipated but it was always a huge solid poo blocking the way. Once that shifted a couple of small softer pops and he was clear. So not the same for you at all.

DeidreBarlow · 12/05/2013 20:41

Katz??Shock Obv I meant Kayz Grin

McKayz · 12/05/2013 21:05

My phone changes Kayz to Katz too. Really annoying when I try to log into things.

Vagolajahooli · 12/05/2013 22:58

Kayz that breaks my heart to hear that. Sadly I think she is taking out whatever issues she has with her son, on his children. That is really truly spiteful. As Sybs says she will miss out on their love & respect when they are older. Dh's family, as I have said before, are a bit funny with ds2. My mum showers him with attention by way of compensation. Its quite sweet, he loves it.

Sybs you are on a warning, if you continue being a supermum you will have your vino rights revoked.

Indith, I don't think I was much help on the thread. Work with your GP but as others have said look at getting a referral to a gastro team at some stage. There was a super nutritionist in Derby who was brilliant with dhs gastro problems. But very expensive and a long way from you.

I'm on high study time for the next five days I have my final assessment for this unit to complete so will be popping on for study pal support.

Artichook · 13/05/2013 07:16

Good luck with the studies Veg, any further chats with your DH re DC3?

Kayz, that is sad about your MiL. Do your boys want to go away with her? I hope your XP is sensitive to the situation and protects them.

Congrats Aber!

Induction booked for today. I'm still not sure I will agree to it but DH has a hugely important meeting on Fri where he must pitch to THE Gvnr at his new work and i think he is sesperate for me to agree to tiday so he can guarantee i wont be in labour on Fri. Also my BP is really high (well 160/90) on our home monitor so i doubt they will let me out once i go in. My lovely friends all came over last night with champagne and pizzas and pampering presents. It was a great evening but I had two Glasses of champers and I can feel it this morning which isn't a great start. My girls are jumping in our bed singing "the baby is coming today", I'm desperately trying to manage expectations.

JamInMyWellies · 13/05/2013 08:32

Good Luck Arti! Grin

ZuleikaJambiere · 13/05/2013 08:46

Good luck Arti xx