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It's April 2013, the time is now & HERE ARE OUR BABIES!

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toobreathless · 15/04/2013 22:10

Our first post natal thread!

Cooking & Cleaning can wait till tomorrow
for children grow up we've learnt to our sorrow
So wipe away cobwebs and dust go to sleep
I'm cuddling my baby cause babies don't keep!

A thread to celebrate the highs of life with a gorgeous newborn and the lows of sleepless nights, stitches, feeding traumas & Baby blues.

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HadALittleFaithBaby · 27/04/2013 08:47

Well done Mama! You're an inspiration to us all!

Still Praying Empress....

We had a good night - two in a row! Settled by 10.45 then fed at 12.45, 4 and 7.30! Had to proper wake her at 4 but not happy to leave her much more than 3 hours between feeds at the moment. Can cope with two wake ups a night though! :)

num3onway · 27/04/2013 08:50

Urgh rough night here
Dd would not sleep at all until 2am, also would not be put down. She nodded off and I got her in the basket, but she woke at 4 to be fed, fell asleep n bk in basket for five. But then at 6 ds1 got up, wanted a drink,got in my bed, shortly followed by ds2!
Managed to get them to go play in there room for a bit thank god!
Are there many other single parents on this thread? How do you cope being both mum and dad?

Trishstar · 27/04/2013 16:56

Hi ladies just gave Hunter his last feed at midday as formula (cow n gate first milk) and he's bought up quite a lot of it even up until now?

Does anyone know if aptamil is better? xx

jojo2509 · 27/04/2013 19:33

Hi Trishstar. Thought i would reply as the paediatricians at my hospital recommended Aptamil for some reason. The only negative is if you are strict vegetarian as it has fish oil in it!! You could try a carton of the ready made stuff to see how he reacts. I think it takes a while for babies to adjust to formula if they are breastfed. Good luck.

EssexWelsh · 27/04/2013 19:53

I wonder if Blake is going through a growth spurt, unbelievably as he hasn't stopped growing since day 1, going from 7lb10 at birth to 8lb12 at 10 days and he did this by feeding every 3 hours, exclusively breastfeeding, but for the last 2 days if he has been awake he is feeding! He hasn't been weighed for over a week, so we tried weighing ourselves on scales without then with him and after double checking with both of us he came out as 10lbs!! He won't settle, really fussy, worried I was over feeding him but every website says you can't and they described Blake to a tea for going through a growth spurt, any experience anyone?

www.mumsnet.com/babies/baby-growth-spurts-and-breastfeeding

ratbagcatbag · 27/04/2013 22:19

Hi all

Wanting a smudge of hand holding, nothing mega but Lucy is now in her own cot on her tummy for the first time ever, she's been down for twenty mins so far and is sleeping better than she ever did on her back, I've checked her five times already and have angel care monitor set to lights and tic, so it makes a blip every second, and I'm still paranoid even though she definitely sleeps better. It also feels mad like I have room in my bed, first night since she arrived she's not been in it.

Essex - Lucy was like that, every second she seemed to want food, she's settled a lot more now though.

ratbagcatbag · 27/04/2013 22:20

Num3 - not a single parent, but hats off to anyone that can do this on their own, have you got good support round you?

Trishstar · 27/04/2013 23:03

Hope you and Lucy have a good night xx will keep checking back x

ratbagcatbag · 28/04/2013 01:58

Ok so far so good, she had a feed around ten mins after my post, I then had to keep her upright as normal,so she went down around 11:30, asleep within seconds, murmured a little bit but turned the light projector thing on by remote for a couple of mins and she was gone. Had second feed just now and she's sat upright fast asleep on me until around 2:30 when she will go back on her tummy again. I'm knackered as I think my sleep was so deep as first time she's not on me to sleep :)

Hope everyone else is fab. X

KelleStar · 28/04/2013 02:03

Just set up for left boob o'clock, change of bum so he was awake and will feed rather than sleep. It's a bit weird having to remember what tips from DD.

KelleStar · 28/04/2013 02:09

And forgot that they are also good at lunging off boob! Posted too soon.

Ratbag hope L goes down soon and you can get some more sleep in.

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toobreathless · 28/04/2013 02:19

Apologies for not being round much, life with a baby & a toddler is non stop. Big sister H still adores her baby sister & likes to remind me 'Beebee snack time' when C cries. I can't leave them alone together as H tends to do things like lovingly drop toys on C's head (for her to play with!) but so far so good on the sibling front.

C is turning into a pretty easy going baby though I am fairly certain she has a bit of reflux. Weight gain is an issue, at 3 weeks she is not yet back to birth weight and is being VERY sicky. I probably should wake her at night for a feed as she can go 6 hrs without one which isn't helping her weight but I'm too knackered with a toddler. HV is coming out to weigh her weds so will re assess things then.

We have visited a local National trust place today which was nice. I have bought myself a Moby wrap to try and make these kind of outings a bit easier, I can't wait for it to arrive.

num3 not a single parent & my hats off to your dealing with 3 on your own.

ratbag hope you have a good night

kelle congratulations again, how are you getting on?

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usernamegoeshere · 28/04/2013 02:26

So tired, had first day of almost non zombie today, but so far no sleep tonight so sounds bad for tomorrow!

Had some feeding problems, but specialist visited today and helped find a better position, also got me to express and it made a massive difference, had 3 good feeds today and expressed 2 extra feeds worth, feels much less pressure knowing there is milk in fridge and baby not starving.

num3 I'm completely in awe of single parents, right now I need oh to help me even breast feed as I can't keep both her hands occupied otherwise.

ratbagcatbag · 28/04/2013 02:34

Too - if you suspect reflux go to the drs, Lucy can't sleep on her back because of it and had got to the point of fighting very bottle because feed time was hurting :( we're a lot better now though as on meds for it.

Ok attempt no two of putting down , if it fals ill be back in ten, if not ill see you between four and six ish.

usernamegoeshere · 28/04/2013 02:55

Grrr I can't believe finally sorted feeding and now just sitting awake for no reason that I can tell, giving 10 more minutes then going to check nappy again, but I suspect this is just a normal wakeful period that just has happened to be at night today (its usually in the mornings she stays awake for a few hours!)

Just been catching up on thread, loads of reflux :(

num3onway · 28/04/2013 04:07

Feed number two here!
Dd has slept 9.30 - 11.30, woke for 4oz feed nappy change and then fought sleeping in basket until 1.30, slept til 3.30.
Hopefully she is gonna go back off easily!
The x and I swperated last weekend, not for the first-time bit this time does feel final. We have had problems on off for years mainly because he will notgrow up. Dcs are 5,3 and 3.5 weeks.
He was never a massive help but last night when dd was having a bad night with little sleep I did wish there was another pair of hands! She has been clingy and wingey past two days and would of appreciated someone else taking her for a bit so I coyld have a bath/eat/pee! Anyway I managed!

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toobreathless · 28/04/2013 04:45

Tears here from us both. C has been intermittently screaming since 10pm, on dozing on my chest. It's strange as its not every night! Sometimes she sleeps brilliantly. I just feel overwhelmed by all of it toddler &. newborn/new house/new county/no real friends here yet etc.

Apologies for the pity party. Everything seems so much worse in the middle of the night doesn't it? Will be back to my usual optimistic self in the morning.

num3 that sounds very hard, do you have lots of support from family & friends? Do you have a sling if its just you & she wants to be held all the time?

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ratbagcatbag · 28/04/2013 05:09

Big hugs too, totally agree with middle of the night thing, I can deal with anything in the day, yet at night can sob. Any ideas what's causing the crying or is it just over tiredness and because she can?
Babies are bloody hard work, I would genuinely never do this again zz:)

num3onway · 28/04/2013 06:53

Oh dear breathless, the nights are defently the hardest. Dd has only had a couple of bad nights thank god. You have an awful lot going on by the sounds of it!
I have help there if I need it, but I don't like to give people reason to critise my decision to have a third child. No one else in my family has more than two and I'm also only 25.I've never tried a sling. Tbh whenever I see some one wearing one ihave a vision of them falling and squashing the baby!

HadALittleFaithBaby · 28/04/2013 07:31

I feel like I'm in good company here. Not the best night...I think Faithlet is having a growth spurt. She fed on and off from 6pm and finally settled in her Moses basket at 1.30! Fed again at 2.30 and 4 ish but then we didn't wake til 7 (bliss).

Hats off to you Num. With me breastfeeding, obviously there's a limit to what DH can do but I rely on him to do stuff around the house and knowing I have around if I need him in the middle of the nice to be significant. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you guys.

How was the night in the end ratbag?
Hope you got some sleep too...

This time two weeks ago I'd just become a Mum! :)

ratbagcatbag · 28/04/2013 07:43

The night on the end was good, she's not sleeping quite as long as when she was on me, but she slept in the cot between feeds and even though I have to sit up with her for thirty mins after every feed which normally means she goes down asleep, the one time she was awake she self settled. Not bad for first time sleeping alone.

Hope everyone else made it through ok, :)

Dysgu · 28/04/2013 08:31

Hi all - have not been around for the past week or so... DP went back to work on Monday so has been me and the 3DC all week. The mornings have not been too bad as we had already put a pretty strict routine in place back in January so DD1 can be pretty independent in getting ready for school and DD2 can do lots for herself too. They also know how much they are helping me so they feel important - hope it continues.

Evan, OTOH, has been more of a challenge! He is still a very sleepy baby but is starting to wake up a bit more. He has been eating us out of house and home (helping us imagine the teenage years Grin) - the trouble has been that half of what goes dribbles straight back out.

I self-diagnosed his tongue tie - this was the first week he had cried enough to see in his mouth. I saw the HV on Weds who agreed, told me to call NICU who fit him in their clinic on Friday morning. I was all set to argue my case as so many people had said they don't usually cut them - but consultant had a chat, took one look and agreed to cut it straight away.

Gosh the difference - it is only now that he is feeding easily that we can see what a challenge it was before. Evan's face was a picture when I gave him a bottle straight after the cut - I'm not sure he knew what do with his tongue - but days and nights have been so much better Smile

off to catch up now ...

Trishstar · 28/04/2013 08:48

Nicky glad that Evan is doing even better now! xxxx

HadALittleFaithBaby · 28/04/2013 08:52

Mmmm Brie and bacon sarnie for breakfast!

num3onway · 28/04/2013 09:38

Mmmmmm I have bacon, can I be arsed tho?