November 2012 - GTbaby is back! Hooray hooray!

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And she only missed 10,000 posts!

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Now she won't even sleep in the day She's clearly exhausted but nothing is working. I am at a total loss.

bp she won't sleep on you? In fresh air in pram? In car? Possibly not safe for you to drive though. Is she wanting to feed all the time? Perhaps it is time for you to call on someone to have her for a few hours - will she take a bottle? Perhaps a bottle of formula just to give you a break? I am getting a bit concerned about you as you are shattered and quite flat as far as I can tell. Knowing this will pass does not help at times like this.

chunky good idea on the booster cushion from cot mattress. I however prefer to keep the cot mattress for the nights I need to sleep in with the girls. In time I will get the the trundle beds as they will do for sleepovers.

4 weeks into sleep regression - I went and stayed at a B and B last night - left baby with daddy - feel on top of the world today

VQ I don't have the car today, and in no way safe to drive anyway. The pram is in the car. She won't sleep on me, or in the sling or a bouncer. Have tried putting her in her cot and she just screams after a few minutes. She won't take a bottle.

She's not right in herself but I don't know why. Calpol doesn't help, teething gel doesn't. I haven't eaten chocolate, or had caffeine, for 5 days now. No temperature.

bp so she is not ill then, and likely not teething either. Is she wanting to feed all the time, or is it 'just' not wanting to sleep? Any sign of wind? Has she been pooing and peeing ok?

Have you got something to rock her in?
Evil

Could you borrow a pram from a neighbour? If you know she is clean, warm and fed, I encourage you to leave her to cry in cot. She may well cry it out and settle. It seems cruel but is actually a kindness x

I just posted but it has disappeared. I also wonder if you could pop her down for 5 minutes.

If you have the car seat pop her in it, strap her in and swing her from side to side. This is usually enough to startle P out of a crying fit.

VQ literally it is just that she won't sleep. She's happy for now in her doorway bouncer, I'm just dreading the inevitable meltdown which will come sooner or later. I have tried many, many times to leave her in her cot and she becomes hysterical to the point of choking.

At least dh knows how bad things are, after last nights disaster and my tears, and he has said he will try to do more to help.

Pig hugs. And no further suggestions.

Dr thinks it is just a bad cough but that her ear is also playing up. She is nurofened up now and sleeping, but been given amoxycillin to use from Sunday if no improvement by then.. DH took her this morning and I went to the zoo with DD1. Didn't realise that all the inside warm bits opened only at 11 so spent an hour running around outside in 3 degrees. DD1 is knackered and asleep now. Phew. Time for us to have a nap.

Am fucking relieved her lungs are clear and that it isn't bastarding bronchiolitis.

chasing have you phoned women's aid? You should. They will keep you calm and provide you with options. Please don't think you don't have choices because you really do.

bplp hugs, sounds tough :( I can't leave ds to cry as he chokes too and ends up scaring himself and then crying even more. I hope she sleeps soon, sounds like you really need it. Looking towards a meltdown is no fun at all :( Will she take a bottle so Someone can have her for a couple of hours for you?

bp Aah right. When J was that age he had several days when he did not sleep at all. Give up trying to get her to nap as she won't, just try to change her and your environment every now and again, make sure you eat and drink, and when the inevitable meltdown happens, try to put her down with lifting as and when. As soon as DP comes home, hand her over and have some time to yourself, be it to sleep, bath, shower, whatever. Hopefully he is off at the weekend so you can tag team. It is because her little brain is growing at such a rate there is just too much happening to sleep. It will happen in time x

J has a new name - Rip Van Winkle. He is clearly making up for lost time

BPLP I can't leave Jonas to cry either he chokes and I have to blow in his face to get him to breathe - fecking reflux! He is also avoiding bottles. Have you tried expressed milk in a sippy cup?

If reflux is worse it could be down to low level virus or recent jags?
During J's horrific two nights with this virus - DH and I joked about setting up a company to run overnight respite creches for sleep dodging babies to give their parents a break. We came up with the following names: keepthemalive.com, gothefucktosleep.co.uk and betterthanebayingthem.com Big hugs it sucks ass

pig hugs. I know our two are a similar age and for the past 24 hours O has seemed very 'wired', like there is too much going on for him to process. I think this is why he slept badly last night. According to Wonder Weeks, 19 weeks is a time for big change. Hopefully she will tire herself out and crash out soon.

23 weeks today and day four of going 8 hrs between feeds overnight. Still waking a few times for hand holding or dummy but hopefully this is not just a temporary thing. L had never managed more than 4 hrs even during his 'good' sleeping phase at 6-12 wks and the 19-22 wks period was bloody awful but there is light at the end of the tunnel for those struggling.

I am panicking a bit about DH going back to work next week, for 2 weeks he's been on hand and of course we had doting in-laws for a week so I feel like I've forgotten how to be on my own with L. He gets in such a tizz when he is tired and daytime naps are a wrestling/shrieking match until he goes off (if he does at all). His newly found vocal register is something to behold and I am worried I can't cope.

Sorry seems very trivial next to Chasing and other people's issues but I am starting to feel a bit sick with anxiety about it.

gothefucktosleep.co.uk - now that's something I could endorse!

Have finally managed to put her down in her cot after feeding to sleep. She's only been up for 5 hours

I think the worst part of it is, that because I'm so tired, I feel like I'm not able to enjoy the good bits - and there are good bits. She's starting to giggle, and her feet touch the floor now when she's in her bouncer so she boings all over the place.

Will stop hogging the quiche hugs now because sleep dodger has awoken already and is crying

Help. Is all I can say. Disaster lunch time.

sophia tell us about the disaster. It will cheer me up no end to hear of someone elses misfortune.

sophia how so? (((Hugs)))

jj you will cope just fine. You are mummy. You are the bestest person in his whole world!

Fucking bollocks bastard fuck!
DH has just rung, he's just be laid off!! Fucking cunts. Said they haven't got enough work on so they've got rid of 3 men, no consultation period, no advance notice, nothing.
Said they'll give him 1 weeks notice but he doesn't have to work it.

Arghhh looks like we'll be spending all weekend looking for another job

Oh fatima so very sorry x

Well. I have managed to hold it together this morning with a still poorly toddler, and half poorly or teething Velcro baby and the two big girls. And me with a middle of the night waking.

I am desperate for the lunch time snooze time, when the girls also have quiet time and I press my reset button.

So the three big ones are having their lunch I take Olly up to bed.

DS1 kicks off while I am upstairs.

I take him up for his snooze. He tantrums for an hour. Then LO kicks off.

I Hoover.

Quiet.