November 2012 - GTbaby is back! Hooray hooray!

[StuntNun]

And she only missed 10,000 posts!

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1717592-November-2012-Were-ready-for-Spring-any-time-now-please

I'm eating cake for breakfast.

Damn Mike the Knight. DD1 thinks the dog should play horses with her. Poor love. The dog.

Right, it's snowing. Just a little. This weather is taking the piss. Where are my nice warm April days in the sun?

I ate a kitkat.

clarella formula doesn't mean more sleep if that's what he is thinking. dd has odd bottle on certain days and sometimes just before sleep no differences noted.
if you express let him give the 7pm feed and you have the pudding for a change!

contra - you're alive!

clarella I feel your pain. Things are better now thankfully, but I used to really resent hearing DH laughing at the TV, seeing the empty wine glass and crisp packets the next morning, then him complaining he was tired. Remember what an important job you are doing for your child, and remember it will not be long before you are tucking LO up in bed and able to enjoy your evenings again.

contra where have you been?

Morning.

I slept much better last night. I know I got up but I have no idea how often or at what time. This is good. P asked for her dummy once and once I got up to find her wiggled right down the bottom of the basket with her legs poking over the end. She was still asleep but obviously uncomfortable so she was wiggling about thus making the situation even more precarious. I don't think it would be possible for her to actually fall out but it does make me a bit concerned. I suppose this is another argument for moving towards the cot bed sooner.

clarella it does sound as if you and your DH need to find more of a teamwork solution. I know it sounds daft but could he not have brought you some pudding? Maybe he could come to bed with you both and hang out for an hour. You must be ships that pass in the night at the moment. I what sort of sleep training does he want to implement? It might be worth having a proper chat about it at least just so he feels involved.

Hia contra! How's it hangin?

Right, F is back in bed. Today, we are following the 90 minute rule. So far, so good watch it all crumble around me
I wish I had a crystal ball, to know how long I've got before she wakes up again. If it was a decent stretch of time, I'd be back to bed myself like a shot.

Clarella may i call him a twunt? Cos he's acting like a total arse. He should be bringing you pudding and keeping you company! Dp got the bedroom telly hooked up to the aerial so we could have evenings together. Show him the article you posted on the other thread about bf benefits

Oscar just tried to drink out of my glass! Time to buy him a sippy cup? Any particular one better than others?

Hi contra I've been worried about you!

The meal last night was awful. I was ignored. He is still golden child. Oh well. They've shown themselves for what they really are.

bp oh I hear you on that one. If I dare to close my eyes it'll be a half hour snooze. If I potter around waiting then she will pull put a 90 minuter! The 90 minute between sleeps thing doesn't really work here either. She whines to get into bed within 45 minutes of waking up but lies awake for over an hour sometimes

sorry guys been away and lurking too but finding it hard to catch up and feeling guilty for always wallowing in self pity when I posted.
felt guilty that I wasn't doing so good for dd compared to others with classes singing etc and was posting on here when I should be playing with her!

chasing it's all further evidence that you are right to get away. They should be ashamed of themselves.

As for sippee cups a basic one should do the job. All babies in Scotland get a tommee tippee one with a hard sip bit. You want one which allows them to learn to sip not suck. I give P our one to play with to watch wether she has the coordination to use it.

contra please don't feel guilty for posting what matters to you. What goes around comes around and at some point you will be chipping in with support for others. As for the classes and such - I always see that like the photos of babies on Facebook. I could take a million pictures of Penelope crying, frowning, looking miserable and so on but I don't. I self-edit to put the cutest and smiliest ones on. It would be very easy to look at the pics and believe that everyone's baby smiles and coos all the time and yours is the only one who cries. With classes some people are great at that and throw themselves in while others won't go to anything. Neither approach is the 'right' one it's just different.

And P is currently wiggling about in her basket smiling to herself. She is quite happy and doesn't care that I am posting and drinking coffee

contra there is little better way to pass the time whilst bf'ing than MNing and eating crap Don't feel guilty. Nice to have you un-lurked again!

Bry and Pp Have been thinking of putting him on his front, but he can't roll yet, so I didn't think it was allowed. He is in the cot right beside me though.
BP what kind of cake? I just got a parcel from a friend in NZ containing shoes for LO and chocolate for me, so that's gonna be my brekkie
Chasing That really is shit! There's no excuse. Especially when you are so outnumbered.
We are off out fir lunch with NCT mummies later. I need to wash my hair, but am pinned beneath a sleeping baby boy.

contra I haven't done any classes with poor old litte O. I haven't even taken him swimming yet and I go back to work next week. We all have moments where we come here and let it all go, and moments when we come and support others. The quiche is a very freeing place to be where we can talk honestly about how we feel and not have to put the Woman Face of Coping on.

Achievements so far today.

Two boys dressed, breakfasted and at nursery by 07:45

Two girls bathed, hair washed, breakfasted, dressed in pretty dresses

One mummy, showered hair washed, blow dried, make up'd dressed reasonablyish

One wash done and on line

One wash done and waiting to go on line.

Coffee I think. Then grandpa is coming to take us out to lunch.

Wow Sophia! I wont list mine, mainly because 2 things doesn't really constitute a list and because neither of the things are really achievements!
Has anyone left their LO with someone that they (the LO) dont really know? Lots of our friends keeps offering to babysit and OH is keen to go out, but I just dont feel that F has met them enough times and that if he wakes and we're not there,he'll be terrified. But I think DP thinks Im a bit over protective.
Clarella Sometimes I think my DP thinks I just feed F all night for the fun of it! Last night we swapped sides so I could get some sleep and he said: 'You know, it might not be a and thing if he doesn't get fed at every waking!' I felt like throttling him! I dont feed him at every waking! If i did, Id have no bloody nipples left after the last two nights!

Limpit, g isn't rolling either. It isn't advised - and sleeping on their backs is lower risk. I do often try g on his back but mostly he doesn't seem to get as much sleep as we both need that way, so to me sleeping on his front with me next to him feels acceptable.

Contra - it's always lovely to hear from you. And we all have tough days sometimes. And we all have days where we feel we're not doing enough. Posting when feeding works for me mostly but sometimes it doesn't and I go quiet. Do what feels right for you and don't worry about it

Clarella - definitely be clear about what you need and try and include him. I have been where you are and it is bloody hard. We now have a deal that dh watches crap telly to unwind if he wants to, and sometimes I sit and feed watching it with him. But he cleans the kitchen and does the washing up before coming to bed so I'm not up all night and still left with everything. Seems to work quite well for both of us. Dh says he doesn't mind jobs as long as I don't try and manage his time for him though sometimes I have to as he can be a bit rubbish at it.

Clarella I think you definitely need to have a chat with him. Parenting is a joint venture and just because you are bf doesn't mean he can't help you out in the evenings. In fact, even more reason for him to help you out!

contra please dont feel bad, I have posted nothing but moaning for the past two weeks, but we all have times when we need the extra support of the quiche.

In other news, today I feel happy

Also, whenever I leave O playing on the floor and leave the room I return to find him facing the other way. He never does it when I'm in the room. Think he's trying to make me think I'm going mad.

Limpit, R has been on his front since 4 weeks. I had to choose between us both sleeping or him being on his tummy. Would you sleep forced into one position? I wasn't safe to drive, and he would only sleep while on one of us. Within a couple of weeks he was reliably sleeping in his crib, it's just a shame his sleep patterns are the same now as then! Drop a night feed, dammit!!

R will be a fuck of a lot older before he's left with anyone other than dp or i.

chasing we were advised to get a basic tommee tippee sippy cup because learning how to sip helps them with learning how to make new sounds because their mouths have to move differently or something along those lines

I don't think I have space for an ikea high chair :( can anyone recommend a half decent folding type chair instead?

Sorry, haven't said morning yet!! Good cunting morning!

Missed you contra don't feel guilty for posting, nope nope nope

I haven't taken LO to a group either. Or swimming. I am going to (definitely swimming, anyway)

Hope your dp's snippy oppy goes ok pr

Sorry to hear of the bad nights, ours wasn't the best but has been worse. Dp had LO at bedtime for an hour and a half, and he screamed blue murder for an hour until I got back, and then went bed for me in seconds. He went in the bath ok etc but would not go to sleep for him and got all worked up. Oops. Dp was very stressed and i can only blame myself really, other than a couple of times when tiny, I ALWAYS put him to bed. Stupid cow that I am didn't think of what might happen if I'm not about at one time or another.

And I have an abcess in my mouth again. Sweary fucking Wednesday indeed.

contra if you did a search of my posts on here, most would be lack of sleep induced moaning. I feel better writing it down. I don't expect anyone to pay any attention to it! This bit is hard - rant away :)