November 2012 - We're ready for Spring... any time now please!

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Need to vocalise this, just to see how stupid it is.

Today I felt that I didn't want to get better as then I wouldn't feel like I wanted to end things anymore and I would have no way out. How have I got to the point where I an thinking like this?

P is still here, but I realise every day how much I dislike him. He has no redeeming qualities and he is far from my 'ideal man'.

I only fell ill with depression when I was with him and had moved in with him and his family and I don't think that is a coincidence.

chasing O had bath time meltdowns 2 weeks ago. She was histerical, she kept grabbing me and would not stay in bath. After 3 evenings I got in the bath with her and she loved that. Did it for 3 nights. She is fine again. Not sure what the fuss was about but bathing together solved it.

As for P, I don't think it's a coincidence either. Sending you strength to deal with the situation.

O went down at 6.30. I will be in trouble, won't I? Ah well...i am loving the light evenings though, managed to get things listed on ebay finally.

Daisy I was wondering if the timing was connected. Depression is a healthy and rational response to being made to feel like shit / being put down all the time.

I was really scared for you when you said he'd moved back in - but sometimes its a great way to remind yourself why its over and how much better you deserve.

Just stay safe OK? This is a v dangerous point in a relationship with a violent man - he may well try to stop you leaving. Please run and leave all your stuff at the first hint of trouble.

I think you need to start thinking of another escape / back up plan that's more positive than suicide - have you spoken to women's aid?

I'm still alive. At MILs so no interweb and limited battery. It's very odd being back in the bed i spent so much time sobbing in earlier this year.

((hug)) Daisies

Keep talking chasing. We are listening. Xx

Hello! im back. can the next thread be called woop woop GT is back hehe

havent caught up, so apologies.

anyway, got back last night EXHAUSTED. passed out, until LO woke me at 4AM like WTF.

slept the day at my mums, so nice being looked after with being so tiered :)

he is asleep now tho, so going to eat now and then head to bed early incase i have to wake at 4am again. will try catch up tomorrow x

Right from the start of the relationship I had to start censoring myself. He was ALWAYS right and I quickly learned to keep a lot of my views to myself to avoid arguments.

He thinks things are 'back to normal', he doesn't know I am still planning to leave. I feel this is a bit 'safer'.

I have been looking into my rights, benefits and such like. I think financially I would be able to get by. I just need housing advice now.

I have O's 4 month check on Tues and the HV has been contacted by SS, so will naturally want to talk about it. I will speak to her for advice then.

Women's Aid can really help and also the Freedom Project I linked to chasing. You are a wonderful mother who is doing the right thing for herself and her son. I admire your strength and your openness. Xx

Thanks meals. I don't feel strong. I always thought to myself that I knew he would never hurt O. Now I'm not so sure. I know I can't be in a relationship with this man.

I think I have had a skewed view about what a relationship should be like. I love hearing you ladies say nice things about your partners - it's a nice reminder of what things should be like.

WOOP WOOP, GT IS BACK!

Hey lovely lady, you have been missed :) How many weeks pregnant are you now, and has the sickness passed? When do we get to see pictures of your trip?

Welcome back GT

Howdy GT! What do you mean you haven't caught up? You have only been gone a month which is only, ooo, 10 threads. I hope you had a fabulous time. It must be lovely to be back home though. I am looking forward to seeing your pics and seeing how big H has got!

chasing I think you make a really good point about not knowing what relationships can be like. I think many people find themselves settling for unhappy relationships because they have no idea what life could be. I always remember a child I taught who was being beaten by her boyfriend - both sets of parents knew but both sets thought that this was just normal so didn't intervene. Another child who drew on her life map that she would have a baby, get married then get divorced because "that's life". This motherfucker will do everything in his power to make you believe that he is as good as you can expect. That is not the case and O deserves to grow up knowing what proper relationships are like.

And PP that was such a sad post. I hope you get the chance to reflect on how much amazing stuff you have achieved in that time. I bet you are stronger than you ever imagined possible

YW get thee to a fanjo doctor and get your fanjo fixed.

Ladies with broken fanjos join the conga line and sing "lets all fix our fanjos, lets all fix our fanjos, la la la la, la la la la"

I'll let you know what my pelvic floor exercises are - just need to find the leaflet. They seem to have worked on the leaky bits and the sore weeing!

VQ Must be a day for awesome roasting skills! I made one for us and the MIL. Fucking fabulous I must say! I hate it when the roasties go tits up! They were perfick today .

My fanjo smells normal again now, I'm glad to report. But it's gonna smell of strawberries again if DS1 would fuck the fuck off to bed!

No problems to report with the clocks changing here! Thank fuck. He was up at 7, bed at 8, which would have been up at 6, and bed at 7. He doesn't usually go to bed at 7. So he must have read that part of the instruction manual! I only put him down because he was whinging and tired!

He's been off colour today, even since the vom last night. I'm still blaming DP for getting him up too early, then not ensuring he got a proper nap this morning . He's been clingy and grumpy :(

I will follow after the Congo with a mop and bucket.

vq

Haha to the damp conga and VQs valiant efforts at quiche housekeeping!

This mofo will require no tena! Get in!!

Evening all, hope lovely sunny Easter days were had by all.

Chasing I was sorry to hear how low you've been feeling over the weekend, try to focus on the person you used to be pre-dp, and remember that you will get back there, but even better as you now have O in your life too.

Detective glad to see you're enjoying ovulating - haven't done this egg releasing thing for a year or more, and even then only 3 times in 3 years thanks cerezette

GT welcome back! Can't wait to get back to reading the nocturnal ramblings...

Well done to mini Izzy and someone else but can't remember for sleeping through.

We've spent the weekend at my parents, which was lovely. F was a complete sleep dodger for the duration, so we had one or two meltdowns along the way, but also lots of beaming smiles, especially for her super-proud uncle. I had more I wanted to say, but my mind is scrambled, and am off to bed instead first time for everything

More advice needed. I thought with a temp you did everything to cool them down. But when I read the nhs website for flu it says keep them warm. He has had his last dose of nurofen, he is drinking but is still warm. I have his window on the vent to let cool air in but have covered him with a duvet. Or should I lose the window and take the duve off?

Bit worried, never really To deal with a bad bout of flu before in one of my babies.

I need to ovulate. I discovered this when I had the implant then cerazette. I became emotionally detached, not wanting to be touched, kissed, hugged. Nothing.

Fucking piece of crap.

I hate hormonal contraception.

Let's all do the conga, let's all do the co... wait, what?