November 2012 - The lurker amnesty fred for our quiche

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Izzy F feeds at least 2 hourly in the day, with the exception of the afternoon when she has a long sleep on me. Some days she sleeps loads, some days she is extraordinarily good at avoiding sleep completely. The only difference it seems to make is how easily she falls asleep at bedtime (no naps = overtired and tricky to settle). Overnight, she'll feed (usually) twice between 8pm and 9am. I would think stunts suggestion of cracking daytime feeds would be a better place to start. Some babies just don't nap that much in the day. Tackle one thing at a time. Glad the sofa is comfy!

I can't keep up with this thread.

O does 2 poos usually, they used to be very runny, watery but since taking gaviscon they are much better. No green poo here, ever.

She loves her door bouncer, i must put a picture up on facebook, she looks like a little devil.

I had an emotional day today, went to the court to submit the papers. They never had a case like mine so they will forward it to a judge and get back to me. I am so hoping I am one step closer to sort out the birth certificate.

Izzy what pig said. I find that the amount of daytime sleep O has only affects how easy he is to wind down at bedtime, rather than how much sleep he has.

From your description of feeding I think that is probably the most likely cause of your sleeping troubles. Obviously I am in no way an expert, but everything that has been said on here, especially by stunt just seems to make sense. I would focus on feeding first and naps second.

Lily I really hope the process is as straightforward as it can be for you. I would hope that the powers that be have some common sense and compassion.

pig I must admit that when I am pinned to the sofa for O's three hour nap I think of you and am glad I'm not the only one! I really do need to try and sort that out though. Going to attempt putting him down again for his first nap of the day, in the hope that he wont be as overtired at this point.

Hello to all the recently delurked (not deluded as my ipad wanted to atucorrect to) posters!

Lily when will you find out? Sending all positive thoughts to you that they let you get it done x

Hmm but it wouldn't autocorrect the word autocorrect

Oh, and I can't remember who said they couldn't get a baby hairbrush in Boots, but I bought a brush and comb set from there a couple of weeks ago actually bought two in the same week as I lost the brush 2 days after getting it and it still hasn't turned up

F has the baby hairbrush I had as a baby sentimental pillock

chasing glad to see I have my uses!

First solo bedtime - lily and anyone else doing this mothering lark solo or with useless DPs just wow. Total respect. DH is normally only home for the last hour of J's day but it makes a real difference - he's the bath expert too. Can't wait to see DH tomorrow when he returns from Shetland - its also our 4th (getting together) anniversary. Lucky man I might even take a razor chain saw to my leg hairs

It was me and the baby hairbrush! Will look online.

YW that is what I found difficult at first, but now it is one of my favourite times of day. Helps that O loves his bath and settles easily.

YW I too am in awe of those parenting alone. Every time DP works late, I end up in a tizz!
Went to sling meet, but the lady was late and I wasn't able to hire one! Plus the timing meant that LO missed his long nap DP we had lots of over tired crying when we got back. I felt like a terrible mummy dragging him all the way over there for nowt! I see a couple of nice slings though, so will hire one at the next meet. He's getting too big for the moby.

chasing I am glad that you have reclaimed bathtime.
Fingers crossed the process is straightforward for you lily
P usually does one poo a day. Since she went to carobel it is almost paint like. Always green. Haven't seen a yellow poo for months.

chasing I got a brush and comb in the 99p store. Haven't used it yet though, she needs to grow some hair and not just on the top.

Thanks for the positive thoughts. They will call me this week to make a payment (£170 ), she said they just needed to find the right judge or look into the legislations. No idea on the overall timeframe, she couldn't say.

As for doing it alone, I never knew it differently. I find between 5 and 6 exhausting, bath time is so much fun and than massage,feed and bed by 7. I am looking forward to the book reading stage, she likes only chewing them at the moment.

Huge fire today down the road, the local library and museum was on fire. I thought it would affect us but so far so good.

It seems odd that your having to go to so much trouble lily you would think these things would be easy. Was there a reason he isn't named on original birth cert? Sorry if you don't want to answer that.

J has def fed more today but only cos of the two bottles he had while my mum had him. He fed at 7pm there but for a total of 5 mins!!

izzy i couldn't name him. We were not married.if not married, the father has to be present to register the birth. If married than you can name the husband.

izzy GF the little rascal. It would impact greatly on your life initially, but could be adapted within reason. Perhaps a mix of GF and Baby Whisperer. A short boot camp type period may just crack him. I am in the process of doing that to J. He has done really well today. I personally think if you sort the naps, the feeding regulates and night time will be better. It worked with my girls, and I am hoping now J seems ok on his milk, it will work for him too.

I had to feed J boob at 5pm. I was engorged like day 3 it was horrendous! The look on his face was priceless. His little eyes were getting bigger and bigger, and his eyebrows were rising. He had a very full belly after that I can tell you!

He self settled all day. Not even a flash of nip.

VQ I would love your advice about getting O to nap anywhere but on me. He is good at night and will sleep in his cot. He can self settle to an extent - he woke himself up by scratching his face and settled himself back to sleep with no input from me. Hand holding can work sometimes too. Invariably at night though he falls asleep mid feed and I pop him back in his cot. He then stirs but falls back to sleep.

In the day he now cries whenever I put him down asleep. If I put him down awake, he stays awake. I can easily get him to sleep by rocking etc, this now takes less than five minutes. He used to stay asleep when put down but I fear he has now got too used to sleeping on me.

Have read whole days thread and my mind had gone blank!! Sorry

So I shall summarise what I can remember...

PR very glad to hear about no sick children

YW I hope tonight treats you well on your own.

Lily I hope it is sorted quickly at court and you get the certificate

Chasing well done at docs and hope ss are helpful and not judgy pants for you.

Izzy I find good nights follow decent naps and lots of food

VQ well done j on self settling

On the subject of poo we are on amoxicillin poos so bless him his sneezes made him poo! But usually we get one large one a day!

My solider is being an awesomely brave monkey even though he clearly still feels under the weather. One lot of steroids stopped now and amoxicillin stops on Thursday. Then just the nebuliser for another 10 days. Think he's teething too but he still smiles and laughs. I hope swimming tomorrow proper cheers him up as he loves it.

As for me I have had a day of two halves, terrible morning where I lost plot at DP as he had overheated milk and LO was screaming for food and shouted a lot. Ended up power walking with pushchair at 7.15am. This afternoon my NCT girls saved my sorry ass and an evening at the gym where I ran my first 1km since being 3 months preggers put a smile on my face. Now tucked up in bed!

Wow what a load of ramble!

^^what chasing said. I'm reaching the end of Greys Anatomy, F needs to learn to nap somewhere other than me.

My mum just phoned to tell me to watch a programme on C4 about junior doctors. There was discussion about a court case from a few years back I had to give evidence at. Not very nice to see it all again, got a bit stressed tbh. That was hands down the most stressful period of my life - I had ulcerated soft & hard palate, and thrush like I've never had before or since TMI sorry

B has gone from having one poo a day to having a poo at every feed and sometimes one in between as well! They've been very watery but have now gone back to yellow. She seems happy though so I'm not worrying, she is ebf.

izzy, B never feeds for longer than three mins. She feeds three hourly through the day and sleeps 7pm-6am with a dream feed at 10.30pm. Your LO is probably a very efficient feeder.

Sounds awful BP

P can be a mixed bag for day naps. She is pretty much a basket only girl
So the opposite of many babies on here. Sometimes P just needs to cry because of that. I pop her in the basket when she gets tired (this can be hard to identify as she doesn't always yawn) but if she is very tired she cries really hard. I have learned that picking her up only stops the crying temporarily because she won't sleep on me and, in fact, just makes things worse because she is still not sleeping. I do lots of shooshing, hand holding, hand on chest, Ewan and dummy. If she is having a very hard time I might need to just sit on the floor for a while until she calms down. If the crying goes on longer than a few minutes then I pick her up cuddle and calm before trying again. It can be pretty laborious and, weirdly, I so find myself a bit jealous sometimes of people whose babies dose on them - it would make life a by easier sometimes.

Anyway, I think what I am saying is that I essentially have to do a bit of CC and pick up, put down because there just isn't any option. If you can stomach it this might be worth trying for day naps.

Daisy I started giving DD a soft toy to hold and playing some lullabies really quietly, that along with her dummy means she now goes to sleep in her hammock on her own for her naps. The only thing is that she rarely sleeps longer than 45 minutes, but I just make sure she goes down at least every 2 hours.

Oh! We also have a Ewey sheep thing book.

Weirdly, sometimes I almost literally chuck P in the basket, dummy in and Ewey in hand and that is it. She cuddles in to Ewey and falls asleep. Web if she doesn't immediately fall asleep she just seems so relaxed so I can go off and do things as if she was. First nap of the day tends to be like this - she is happy and relaxed. As the day goes on it can get more fraught. P also sleeps for about 30-45 minutes. I try to keep her in the basket until she can greet me with a smile and no ear pulling. No smile and Ewan goes back on, dummy in again and fingers crossed. She rarely manages more than 45 minutes during the day without intervention.

chasing no tips really. J co-slept for the first 12 weeks, and it got to the point that he would not sleep without a nipple in his mouth. I was dead on my feet so had to do something. We put him in his cot in his room, and all naps and nights have been in there since, except if out in pram or car seat. We have Ewan which helps with sleep association, and also a night light. I also talk to J in a positive manner when he goes for a nap "ooh, lucky Jacob is going to have a wonderful nap in his lovely cosy bed" type shit. He will not have a dummy, and has recently learned how to suck a finger or thumb which helps. He knows the cot is for sleep. We do not do anything else in there. I am putting him down 1.5 hours after waking when possible, although after tea time nap he goes longer but bed time is 8pm. He sleeps between 30 mins and 2 hours. This has only been possible when he is not in discomfort with wind. Hopefully his new milk will continue to help this.