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November 2012 - BFPs? Already? You girls are going to have some fun!

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StuntNun · 04/03/2013 07:22

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1693077-November-2012-They-WERE-sleeping-what-happened

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PurplePidjin · 07/03/2013 09:31

I am thankful that dp is here to see R grow up (for the newbies, he had a stroke 10 weeks ago, bp 220/170) and that we have got this time to spend as a family. I am grateful that, despite no income or apparently government support we have a bit of savings to keep the ends meeting.

PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 09:32

Back from the jabs. Yay. I am thankful that there are no more for 8 months. LO has gone up to 90th centil for weight and down to 25th for height. Little piglet :)

Some back pain is normal in the months following pregnancy, especially if you had a tough labour. Your centre of balance changes during pregnancy with the weight distribution being all funny, and your posture will have changed for a good few months too. It takes a while for your body to get used to not being pregnant any more. Add to that we are always carrying around with us an ever heavier baby....

I am thankful for the paed telling me she has never dealt with such a giggly ticklish baby before, I feel ridiculously proud, no idea why.

I am thankful that spring has finally arrived after the darkest winter I can remember.

Pikz · 07/03/2013 09:33

Sweetpea I don't know if it would help but a close friend from NCT had post natal depression and her DH was struggling to understand. She took him on our advice to the doctor with her. It made him see how seriously the doctor took it and they made a plan the 3 of them. He says he still doesn't fully get it but he appreciates its serious more.

ValiumQueen · 07/03/2013 09:41

Thank you pass it is truly dreadful what can pass as acceptable parenting sometimes.

PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 09:43

I have just read the Matilda Mae blog - it's heartbreaking :( I can't imagine losing one of my babies like that. I am so thankful that my babies are in good health.

MissMummy1 · 07/03/2013 10:14

I am not reading the blog. Feelig emotional enough as it is today Sad

I have just taken all my fruatration out on a garage man over the phone. I feel awful, it's not his fault I am being mucked about Sad

applepieinthesky · 07/03/2013 10:28

No I can't read the blog either Sad

What's the best thing to give DS for a mucousy cold?

Lilliana · 07/03/2013 10:28

BPLP, love your mums comment, going to remember that one.

I am thankful that a year ago today we finally got a BFP Grin

Thanks Brew to all those feeling down today. Be gentle with yourselves.

Sweet sorry your dh is not supportive. I am Angry that he has given you the impression he thinks you are not good with your LO from your posts I am sure you are an amazing mum.

Not sure whether to read the blog or not ...

BigPigLittlePig · 07/03/2013 10:30

I'm not reading the blog. Already paranoid about stuff of the bad variety happening to F, don't need any more ammunition!

Plus got enough emotional stress with Greys anatomy Grin

blonderedhead · 07/03/2013 10:32

Ah bollox I remember what else I was going to say last night, Sweetpea you mentioned depression a few pages ago and I was going to ask if you were ok. That doesn't sound too good with your oh, if he is undermining your confidence it's not going to help you keep afloat. It may be better to speak to a doctor sooner rather than later. Keep talking on here, you know you'll always have support. Thanks

Tits how are you getting on?

PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 10:49

apple saline drops or spray in the nose, calpol if fever or signs of pain. Keeping the nose clean reduces risk of mucous travelling down where it's not welcome and reduces risk of infection. Helps breathing and therefore feeding too. Towards end of cold worth going to gp to get ears checked and chest listened to. Urgently if signs of difficulty breathing (chest lifting up and down more than usual shows extra effort being made).

Bastards colds.

PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 10:50

I love Greys. New episode end of next week.

kirrinIsland · 07/03/2013 10:50

I'm not reading that blog either. I just can't cope with things like that, they just stay with me and fuel my paranoia.

Sophia I've only had my coil a couple of weeks and I'm already fed up with the bleeding, so I can imagine how pissed off you must be. Mine is doing the same - slowing to spotting so you think it's settling down and then back to full on period. I also can't feel the strings so I'm having to get it checked next week anyway. I'll give it a bit longer but it's not quite the fit it and forget it device I was promised!

apple saline might help clear his nose a bit? Or sitting in a steamy bathroom with the shower running?

I am thankful that my girls and DP are healthy and that we are mostly doing ok. And that DD1 is asleep so I'm not longer being nagged to watch Mr bloody Maker!

barefootwalker · 07/03/2013 10:52

Failed morning nap in cot again! Let her go on trying for 25 mins with lullabies playing, shushing over the monitor and last ditch I tried the hair dryer (she loves a bit of white noise).I thought she'd gone off on 3 occasions but then she started crying again. I popped her into the sling and she was asleep within a couple of minutes. Any tips? She just seems to be refusing daytime sleep these days. Even when she does go off half an hour seems to be the limit.

sweetpea1112 · 07/03/2013 11:00

pig your mum sounds awesome Smile

Tits was thinking of you last night. Hope you're doing ok Thanks

blonder thank you, I am ok. Need to get some sleep and assess things then.

daytime naps hmm well these are mostly on me. Am persisting with the cot for his first nap. If he only does 20mins then I get him up anyway. Hopefully he will learn with time & he can catch up on sleep later in the day.

Am thankful for my little livewire of a boy and that he is chatty and interested in everything around him.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 07/03/2013 11:17

mm am also not reading the blog, could be head in the sand but we have enough sadness in life. I wish I could come and rescue you and give you a cup of tea and a cake and a hug. I know since you have had Matilda you and your DP have struggled. Please please don't make any rash decisions. You have a beautiful little girl that you both love. A baby is a massive load and the first year can be so draining emotionally and physically, it tries the strongest of relationships and these days there are so many outside pressures as well. As well as nurturing your baby you need to nurture your relationship, show it patience and time to evolve. If you make it you will come out a great team, which I suspect you are already from some of the things you have said. You just need to find it again and reconnect. Thanks

rowingdowntheriver · 07/03/2013 11:23

Hi, have not been on for ages so just a quick catch up. An ex colleague of mine is friends with Matilda Mae's family so there are quite a few posts on my facebook wall from her to them. It is heartbreaking and I try to avoid reading it too much as it is too sad :(

Pikz · 07/03/2013 11:25

Am starting to clear the house out. Am sick of all the crap everywhere.

Might be time for a giant car boot. I have a stupid amount of clothes too. But until I lose some more weight I just don't know what will fit.

BigPigLittlePig · 07/03/2013 11:35

Since having F it has brought me even closer to my parents, especially mum. Motherhood has brought a new level of understanding to me, and appreciation. It is wonderful to see the joy that F brings to them both, I only wish they lived closer. My PIL alrready have 3 granddaughters so they're a bit meh about a 4th I think.

mm hugs, I hope you can work things out for the best for you all, whatever that might be.
pikz we have an inordinate amount of crap, am amassing a pile of sellable crap to carboot come spring.

How many times can I give F calpol? The bottle says then seek advice, which is bollocks as she doesn't need to see a doctor - is it 4x/day?

Lilliana · 07/03/2013 11:42

Hurray! Thanks to Stunt's bra thread 2 new bras arrived this morning that actually fit!! So much more comfortable now; I just hope I haven't done too much damage to my now much more droopy norks Grin

PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 11:53

We don't have calpol as a brand but both types of paracetamol I have - liquid and suppository - are every six hrs so 4x max / day. The packaging says up to five days - my paed says a up to a week is ok.

BigPigLittlePig · 07/03/2013 11:54

Thankyou pr Smile
You'd think the answers to medical stuff would be easy for me, it's been my work for 9 years, but for some reason I panic and don't trust myself. Stoopid mummy.

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StuntNun · 07/03/2013 12:03

No advice on sleeping from here Barefoot but just wanted to join the no nap club. J will only sleep in the sling / car seat / pushchair for as long as it is moving. And if he doesn't get enough sleep in the day then his sleep is even more disturbed at night. I tried the put down pick up approach from the baby whisperer where you put him in his cot when he show sleepiness then if he starts to cry you pick him up, then as soon as he stops crying you put him down again. Didn't work. He spent ages screaming in my arms while he calmed down then it got to the point that he would start crying as soon as I leaned over to put him in his cot so I couldn't actually put him down at all. He'll only settle upright with his head on my shoulder which is killing my back damned slipped disc.

DS1 and DS2 have a pyjama day at school today. They were outraged that I made them walk to school in their jimjams (with their coats on over their dressing gowns!) I'm annoyed at the school though as this will ruin my threats to take then to school in their pyjamas when they won't get dressed in the morning.

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PetiteRaleuse · 07/03/2013 12:04

I imagine it is very different making decisions for relative strangers than for your own LO. Being a mum takes over and self doubt hits all mums at the most surprising time. You would know what to do in an emergency though so don't worry - auto pilot would switch on :)

I was talking to the paed about paracetamol last week as the reason I went in with the flu is that we were on day 5 of paracetamol.