Dec 2011 - Do that again, and you're getting sold on Ebay.....

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oi I am right with you on the dh front the miserable attitude is maddening he's moaned all day about his crap weekend of chores and "only" taking DS to park but when I suggest anything we can't do it as it costs money we were away last weekend and he's away all next weekend but it's never enough. He moans about how isolating his job is but never makes any effort to see his friends and begrudges me when I see mine I.e current and old work colleagues. He moans about never having time in evenings to do anything yet spends all night playing on the fucking iPad I told him last week was banning devices while DS was up and he's ignored me. Since having DS my tolerances for his brooding bullshit has gone grrr .....never mind AF is due am sure that's got something to do with it

On top of that DS has a runny nose and watery eyes uh oh!!

Can I join the OH rant! (D)H busy with his hobby all weekend. I have no problems with that as it is not often all weekend and has been in the diary for months. Brother and SIL came to visit so although I had to do most of the childcare and domestic stuff, they were really good at helping out. DH comes home at 530pm - does some playing with DS and Freya but then decides to skype his parents with DS at 715 whilst I put Freya to bed (again) and DS goes to bed at 730 so not the best choice. I wait till 740 then go down and signal bedtime for DS. I put DS to bed. DH grumps that I am too strict with DS s bedtime - well he has school tomorrow and has a busy day and I need to get on with some school work. So away all weekend and still criticises my parenting choices so now in a grump with each other again.

Oi - I know what you mean - I don't think I do "fancy" DH anymore although he is a good looking guy but his selfish attitude makes it hard to like/respect him as much as I would like. A second child definitely puts more of a strain on a relationship I think - as the "downtime" you had with a 2-1 ratio is lost. I sometimes think it would be easier on my own but then I know it wouldnt really - but at least I could bypass all the criticism and moodiness on a day to day basis.

GOd - another long DH rant - sorry sorry - how dull and self absorbed. I will go and do my work instead.

Not dull or self absorbed jiggle. We all come here to rant! So rant away! FWIW I think you're dead right about strict bedtimes. If you don't they just get tired and cranky. It is far better for our little ones to have us enforce routine and ensure they get their rest.

Oh dear...haddocks all round for the men!

I will be nice and exclude my DH from the haddock though as he's been doing most of the cooking in the last week and cut the grass yesterday!

We've had a nice quiet weekend, Saturday we went to the park with DS and enjoyed the sunshine. On Sunday DH cut the grass and DS got very excited watching! Then we did the weeding and DS had a baby spade and 'helped' which included eating mud!

We saw two sets of neighbours whilst doing the gardening and DS is now waving hello and goodbye at the right times :o

Sorry to hear about DH issues. I'm very proud of mine, he did the marathon in 5 and a half hours. An hour slower than he hoped but he had issues at 18 miles with a toenail (its gross, won't go into details as its lunchtime!). He's raised over £4500 though so I guess the time really isn't what matters.

Eva isn't weeing much, should I be worried? She's drinking ok and seems herself (no more grumpy than usual anyway!). She didnt eat her lunch but I'm putting that down to tiredness, just put her upstairs for her nap. I put an extra booster in her nappy at night and she's normally very wet when she gets up. Mum put her to bed as we weren't back and forgot the extra booster, her nappy would still have done another couple of hours this morning though.

Sorry to hear the DH issues :(

Well done to yours seven! Does her wee smell strong? Sometimes monkeys are bursting in the morning and sometimes they seem like its only a couple of wees, it's odd! I've only just had to stop changing him when I go to bed so he doesn't leak (he wears 5+ for bed and 4-4+ in the day).

Monkey is doing great, he's going into his pram for naps and off in 5 minutes if put in on time! Trying gradual retreat at bedtime but not going to well, he can be literally about to drop and as soon as we go to bed he's hyper. I'm ignoring except telling him to lay down but it's taking a good 45 mins still.

We had a lovely weekend, picnic/football and a walk around holland park on Saturday then a trip to (free) city farm yesterday, today we're off to Surrey and then I'm borrowing neighbours carpet cleaner.

Cm just called DS has eye gunk so an early finish at work and trip to the pharmacist required he has a cold and is very tired at moment which is prob due to fact he's crying in his sleep 3-4 times a night over the weekend and then not waking up til 8.30 in the morning.

Yesterday Dh and I had massive row in end cleared the air he's deleted all his iPad games and I've told him I need to get away even if for a weekend I NEED something to plan and look forward to hopefully he listened and things can improve.......until the next thing. After 10yrs need to work on us a bit more

Haddocks to all unruly DH!

Seven a massive congrats to DH for a fab fundraising total and completing the marathon.

Darcie has stressed me to the max. I'm shattered physically as well as mentally! I've lost my appetite and I've lost all reason to smile, am on edge all the time and I just can't unwind as it were :( I've lost so much weight only realised at weekend.. I look ill too - so thin it's not good at all. Got docs appt Monday but not sure they can do anything tbh..someone needs to fix Darcie as I'm at breaking point and just want to cry all the time.

Sorry for meme post.

Oh heavens QoC, I hope the Doc's can help out, but you're right, it's not a case of just giving you some pills and things will get better. Does she just have off days, or is it building back to almost constant? But hopefully the Doc may be able to get you/the family a referral, CBT or such like, if they see how down you are.

Glad you've cleared the air with your DH figgy; bloody computer games do NOT help if they spend all their time on them voice of irritated experience. Sorry the issues seem to be a bit more 'fundamental' for you Oi and jiggle, I hope they can be resolved eventually...

I'm hobbling round as I've done my back- the pain of the past few days has lessened, I just can't stand up straight, so am doing a good impression of an ol' witch with continence issues

DS has been really off it today- he is utterly out of routine, and slept for three hours this afternoon and was hideous at dinnertime.

We're having sharing issues at the moment- my friend was round with her 10 month old and DS did not want to share his toys. She played with something he never does- he wanted it. She then went on his toy computer, and he wailed, squeaked and pointed until he pounced and got it back, and then started snogging it- in affection? in triumph? in total bloody embarrassment to me?

Apparently he wouldn't let the babies on the new toy at nursery either, so we may have to work on this one....

Northern hope your back gets better soon.

Darcie is horrid most days - I hate saying that as her mother I don't think pills will help me as it's a mental thinking I've had enough and I'm sad and stressed because I don't know how to fix whatever is making her behave this way

Gah DS is miserable his eyes are leaking green gunge the pharmacist won't give him anything as he's under 2 and never needed anything before went to drs with him they then sent us away and called us 5 minutes later to say they wouldn't give him a prescription until tomorrow if he's not better. Doesn't look like I'm going to work tomorrow morning

Don't feel bad about it- I know you must feel guilty but it's only by being honest about the situation that you can tackle it.

Have you had any therapy to help with the way you're thinking? A referral from the Doc's can take ages, but if you can afford it (and my Mum's is only £20 per week, which is one session and a group session) you could get your own.

Is she going back to CAHMS at any point- it seemed there was a real improvement when she went recently, and not sure if that assistance can be kept up?

But ((hugs)), hope you can keep going til Monday- we'll all be here anyway.

Queen I'm sorry things are so hard :(

Your GP can send you an urgent referral, mine took a week to get a telephone ap as she gave me the number to call for one. You may be surprised at pills, I was on and know a couple of others who are on citralopram - one of whom has been on so many different anti-ds and they are the only ones she's liked.

I really think that they pick up on our feelings so hopefully once you're feeling better shell pick up to. Monkey was younger but it was both of us who got a lot happier!

Monkey just went to sleep in 5-10 minutes, no shouting at him to lie down or anything! We got in late but he just climbed up on bed, rolled about and went to sleep

Thanks ladies.

We have a CAHMS appt tomorrow and will be her last one as she's being discharged from their service due to it being an emotional problem which is sparking off the behaviour and not a mental health issue. Have been in contact with Relate today so will see what that brings. Just so fed up of it all. I love her so much I just wish she would see how much. :(

Never been on Anti-D's before but not sure how they change my mindset iykwim!

I just found that over a couple of weeks I became less angry, less emotional and less drained as well, not that I had really changed but that I was more in control of how I felt iykwim?

Ok thanks. I hate feeling this way. :(

Hope you start to feel better soon x

Hug to queenie. Good luck with relate and appointment today

Hope the gunky eye clears up fast and haddocks to all unsupportive husbands.
Sorry for your lose Athele

Im all over the place lately so sorry for the ramble. I havent been sleeping well and the nice weather sets me on hyperdrive.

I have tidied garage, found and cleaned garden toys, found the trike and im about to rebuild it, i have mowed the lawn, found some old clothes i can reuse for hope and use as art portect for Air, as a family we have agreed to have a sunflower growing comp and will try to grow peas and carrots. I want to spring clean the house, teach Air to write his name, take him to school (he got his place at the ofsted outstanding primary school so starts full time in September, he is afternoons right now).

maybe the tablets arnt working and this is a high/hyper phase I hate second guessing myself all the time but at lest im getting things done

Sorry to those having husband ishoes, the baby years are probably the hardest physically, and tiredness and frustration at toddlers doesn't bring out the best in some people.

Queen I hope you can get some help from the Dr. Did CAHMS signpost you on to anywhere else?

Figgy, did you get anything from the Dr for his eyes? We were given cream to put in C's when he had conjunctivitis, is utter hell trying to get it in.

I'm having a weird day. I'm off work because I need to do some shopping. I've lost weight and all my clothes are frumpy and grotty. But I just can't get my head or heart into it and I keep walking past rackdid clothes thinking oh, you can't wear that, you're too old, too fat, too uncool. I know it's rubbish, but it's like im hardwired.to think I'll look shit, so why bother? Blurgh. Need to snap out of it. C is also teething still and I've had no sleep. And DH is away with work. I'm half feeling like I just want to curl up and hide, and half like I miss C and want to get him from nursery early. Ramble ramble ramble. Ignore me. Think I'm delirious through exhaustion.

Danny got a virus and ear infection been to dr with him today as he spiked a temperature at cm and she worried. Dh had to get him as I had meetings but he said he walked from the drs to the chemist brandishing his amoxicillin prescription very proudly and charmed everyone there whilst destroying their shampoo shelves.

I went in late this morning as wasnt sure whether to send him to cm or not but he seemed fine. Doesn't look like I'm going work tomorrow at all so I'm going to be popular BUT he's never been Ill before so been lucky so far.

Thanks for the sympathy all. Have got my head around things a little now, and will help further once we've been to the funeral on Friday.

Sorry to hear you're so down queenie, really hope it improves soon so you can ease up on yourself a little. I second chatting with your GP about your options again. Hope as the days get longer that will help too.

Ouch for ropy eardrums figgy! hope he's ok again soon.

hi everyone

hope Figgyboy feels better soon.

Air hope your feeling okay.

Aethel hope everything goes OK Friday and your DC are OK?

Oi how's things with DH?

well we had our last Cahms appt and was very productive. He agreed with me finally that she may have a spectrum/sensory disorder but before we are put through for assessment....not sure how I go about that tho....he said I need to go along to the parent support group for children with spectrum disorders and go from there.

anyone happen to know how we would get Darcie assessed?

Hope he's still feeling better figgy and I can't believe he's never been sick, swaps?

Aethel, hope things go ok Friday and that DH and DCs are doing ok.

Queenie that's positive news :) hope you're finally on your way to get the answers you need for her. How are you feeling today, hope you managed a chat with the GP about you x