Dec 2011 - Do that again, and you're getting sold on Ebay.....

[Aethelfleda]

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Thanks for the encouragement and sympathy. You're all absolutely right that over the week it balances out. He's also got significant chub reserves so he's not going to starve! I really need to not show my frustration as well, I'm very bad at blowing up with annoyance when he whips his head away for the 50th time or knocks the bowl away or screams in my face.

I think after some reflection that the issue is really more about the fact that the nanny can get him to eat anything on her 3 days and he won't eat anything on my days. So maybe he wants her here instead of me I know this is all in my head but is it?? so I need to deal with it. She's wonderful, I'm so happy he loves her, and I don't in any way feel threatened or really think he prefers her over me. But it does feel like I'm unable to nourish him as well as she can and though I'm still breastfeeding him it's just not enough these days is it.

Sympathies xiao. Good advice from raa and lmf. You are not a bad mother!
Ali won't be fed anymore. If I try to feed him, he'll swipe at it to throw it to the floor and will cry. But if I leave it for him with cutlery he'll get busy and eat it all. - maybe just leave him with it and show no interest...?
Persevere.
I've heard of tactics to put a little bit of all sorts on his plate and leave them to it. At first they may just pick up the bits you wouldn't choose, but after a while, they will start to take the other stuff too. Good luck. ((Hugs))

And faff too.
BOi is going through a phase of being anti-DH.
And when we pick him up from the gps, he runs back to grandma crying. He prefers the GPS to us.
He never cries at the GP's. And he only cries at the cm's when I drop him off - never during the day.
He cries a lot for us. Changing nappies, wanting to do something...
What does it all mean?
Nothing. He's just learning how to communicate. He's learning boundaries. It's a phase...
It makes us feel like crap.
This too shall pass!

((((hug)))) xiao. dD1 did this to me at about 15 months.
Try the "just been phoned" technique. Get DS ready for lunch as usial, strap him in chair, put finger food (not a bowl as too easy to fling) on his tray, then make your phone ring (set an alarm timer on it), say "hello?" hold it to your ear and then turn your back and WALK AWAY a little pretending to have a conversation, say uh, huh and really? A few times. Give it about a minute then say "ok, bye" and go back to DS, say "how are you doing?" and then praise him big time if ANY food has been eaten.
I found that a minute of ignoring usually lead to more food being eaten than twenty minutes of full on attention, and then the phase passed. See if it helps?

Happy Mothers Day everyone

Happy mother's day

Happy mothers' day all!

thanks so much for talking me off the ledge yesterday loads of great strategies for DH to try with DS today!

Happy Mother's Day!
I woke up in BOi's cot this morning. I was determined that he would not spend the night in our bed. So at midnight, when he started screaming and would not be calmed, pointing towards our room, I got in his bed. He continued to scream and would jut be calmed for what seemed like hours. Eventually I just ignored him and pretended to be asleep, and eventually he joined me.
Bleurgh!
But now I have had a long bath, and my muscles are beginning to relax back into place, so I'll be ok.
Anyway, I have a big pile of Mother's Day ironing to get on with, so I'd better crack on.
Prague tomorrow - or rather Pilsen. We're starting Tuesday's meeting with a tour of the Pilsen brewery tomorrow. :) Praha!

Xiao, sorry DS isn't feeding with you atm.
We don't use a chair (my hands are too bloated with pg to unclip the clips!), so I sit him on the floor & let him get on with it, unless we're eating together.
What does he do if you sit down and eat a plate of your home cooked food infront of him?
Good luck for feeding today!

Happy Birthday to your gorgeous DD LMF! Her birthday cake sounds delish.

Good news on the shower/boiler front Aethel!

By the way, I've just bought Ali a metal cutlery set. If you haven't yet, maybe new tools will take his mind off the food? Now it's fun to stab food and the eating bit is just what has to happen so that more food can be stabbed.

It's been a productive weekend even if I suspect that all the convenience food we've been tending to has scuppered my diet plans for the month.
Really starting to feel like ours now I have unpacked the stereo :)

Hello lAdies from a cold Scotland it's currently snowing again

I left DS with my parents yesterday morning until 4pm today so i coulf go see girls aloud in glasgow they were fab!!! she said he was an angel he hardly says a word or throw a strop so of course he has cried like a child possessed all evening since I've been back throwing himself around like he's been shot its been ridiculous.

hi everyone, hope you're all well wrapped up wherever you are. Tis frrrreeeezzzing ugh! More bloody snow. Remember last year and the lovely warm sunny weather we had in March?

Minimopsy is continuing her waking multiple times/crying during the night. Still teething. It's been going on for months! When will she sleep through again? I feel sorry for her 'cos she's clearly in discomfort when she wakes and her cot is usually soaked with dribble - I have to put a towel down in the middle of the night nearly always - but it's soooo hard to get out of my nice warm bed in the middle of the night. Grrrr.

Viva Friday and I am getting increasingly nervous and basically just feeling sick with nerves all the time just want it to be over and to have done OK. Will be gutted if I get loads of corrections and have to turn around and do a load more work but I'm not v good at defending my work sometimes, I get intimidated

Anyhow hope you're all doing OK and the various babas are sleeping, eating well and being little angels To be fair, Minimopsy is being great company during the day and great fun and really affectionate and cute. It is just at night that it's hard!

Good luck mopsy, you'll be fine. (((((hug)))) Vivas are the pita but just think positive and you'll get through it and then the relief will be huge.

We have very variable nights this end: a few sleepthroughs, but mostly there is wailing throughout the nights: I think if's teething even though we are stubbornly stopped at 6 teeth. It's so hard ti know as the move has made big changes all around. More Caffeine!!

Hi everyone,

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is fed up of this cold weather...where is spring?

DH has given DS and I the worst cold in the whole entire world I'm not a hypochondriac so I've taken today off work. I don't think they would appreciate me coughing and spluttering all over them. I'm hoping a quiet day at home with lots of hot drinks and paracetamol will do the trick.

Mopsy hope all goes well on Friday - good luck! Sympathy on the teething...teething is just rubbish! DS now has 14 teeth and two more should be cutting through very soon, I can see the teeth waiting to emerge!

Figgy and Oi glad it's not just me! I get grumpy DS, whilst he smiles and laughs for everyone else :(

Xiao could you put a selection of food out for him and then ignore him and do the washing up or something? He knows how to eat and he won't starve himself, I think the best thing to do is relax and remind yourself it's a phase. Now, if I can apply that advise to myself when DS is refusing to get in the buggy instead of muttering and getting seriously annoyed then all will be well :o

I must admit, being a mum has made me realise I don't have half as much patience as I thought I had...or perhaps it's the relentlessness and not having a break that does it?! The good outweighs the bad overall, but it is hard!

mopsy good luck for Friday, I'm sure all will be fine though with all of that hard work you put in. Hope minimopsy's sleeping improves soon, we still rarely sleep past 5.30 here.

cheung hope you're feeling better soon.

I had my 28 week scan today and GTT. All generally well, she's measuring a bit on the small side, though DS and DD were both little ones so not a huge surprise really. I've been given a 30% chance of pre-term labour given that I've already had two, though tbh I would have expected the odds to be higher, I'm certainly not expecting to go full-term. The other thing is that she's gone from head down a fortnight ago to transverse. Given my pre-term fast labours should I be concerned yet and trying to get her to turn or not worry? Both the DCs were head down by now.

The kitchen has arrived today in a million boxes. DH is back at work Friday and wanted to get as much built as possible, only he can't get in there as the electrician is here. What bothers me is that he knew it was coming today but hasn't been here since last Monday, all the other building work is now finished.

Subsequent babies tend to move about for much longer, so I'd not be too concerned at this point about a baby that's not pointing down:)

We are fecking freezing here; just about made it back in the blizzards last night, then braved them on foot to get to work. And I'm so pissed off, as I'd got all of my pots out last weekend, so now lots of them will be buggered by the snow- if we'd been here I could've put them away again, but obviously didn't think we'd be risking bloody snow this time of year.

By the way Xiao, I once read that babies/toddlers who act up for parents and no one else are doing it because they know that as the love from their parents is unconditional, they're the one person that they can test boundaries with safely. I like the idea personally and DS eats various things at nursery that get hurled at me here....

mopsy, I know the viva must be all consuming at the moment, but you will do fine- you know that work better than anyone, and you will be able to go through it, no problem. Will your DH take minimopsy the night before so you can get a full night's kip?

Must've been lovely to see her again seven, can't believe she'll be here in a couple of months or so. How's the house stuff going btw?

Get well soon cheung, everything crossed that we'll all suffer less over the summer (please those with 2+ kids tell me this is the case!)

One good thing here is that DP is on board for moving house. We'll be moving town to be closer to my work, which means more travelling for him, but we'll both be doing them same amount (approx 45/50 mins each way) rather than him doing 30 mins and me doing 1.5 hrs e/w. Plus the plan is we get a slightly bigger house, with a garden, and the town we'd be moving to is far nicer than where we are now!

northern glad to hear DP is on board, are you hoping to move soon or is this just generally speaking? DH is planning on staying up to build kitchen units then he can start attaching them tomorrow. Kitchen will be ages as yet, we haven't even ordered worktops or tiles until we get the final bill from builders, but he wants to get the units in before he goes back to work. I'm basing the length of my pregnancy on 36 weeks, currently 28+4 so just over 7 to go :)

Anyone ever Eurocamped? Pondering it for '14 as I think Octoboy'll be old enough to enjoy it then:o

Morning everyone,

I'm feeling a tiny bit less bunged up, but still feeling yucky! DS and DH both sound pretty awful too! Hopefully one more day off should do the trick?! I've bought up half of Boots in desperation!

Seven I hope you get the kitchen done soon before LO decides to make an appearance! Amazing how quickly your pregnancy is going!

Northern that sounds good that DP is on board. How you're managing such a long commute I don't know! I take just under an hour door to door, but that includes waiting for the bus, dropping DS off at nursery, and walking to work. Hurry up Saturday and my first driving lesson!

Speaking of homes, we are planning to decorate our hallway in April, it won't be much fun as there are 6 doors to sand and paint, but DH is optimistic it won't take long!

Once the hallway is done, we are going to start work on the kitchen. We can't afford new units, but we are planning to paint the woodwork and ceiling, strip the wallpaper and paint the walls with special kitchen paint, replace the manly tiles and put in a new sink. We are hoping to get in a handy man to do the tiles and sink as we have zero experience and don't want to mess it up! Any tips on choosing someone for the job?

LMF, I take it you've had a bit of Nick Jr on too!
I've not been, but we're looking into it for next year. Dec2011 roadtrip

for MrSeven, our kitchen took a week to put together, but we had problems with the not very level floor.
Scary to think how far along you are Seven!

Northen, sounds like a great plan.
We've got decent schools here, but the area is rubbish so we can't decide what to do (nothing atm, thanks to negative equity!).

mopsy, good luck for your Viva, hope mini Mopsy sleeps soon.

DS has a molar now, but missing the teeth between his front four and the molar....I thought teeth came through in a nice, OCD friendly, orderly fashion!

Xiao, how's the feeding going?

Cheung, hope you're both better soon, glad you're improving.
Raterpeople or mybuilder for tradesman, used them both & happy with the quality of men on tap.
We've done our hallway every year for the last 4, it's not massive but we can't seem to find decent non-yellowing white gloss....or maybe I'm just really picky.

PIL are taking my baby over Easter so we can repaint our room, possibly recarpet kids room & hallway, but we've got so much crap we might need to buy (dishwasher, new washing machine, sofas) that we can't decide what order to get things. Washing Machine is clunking, but not dead yet.

at everyone else.

Grrr snow feckity feck still in Prague, missed next flight... Feckity feck... Bet there are no seats on the next Manc flight... Never get home.... Fecking stupid snow pants rubbish. Grr!

Got rebooked onto a flight at 4pm. Phew. Now relaxing with a Chardonnay, and a "wok with chicken" has been ordered.
Bloody Praha!