Is there a born in February 2013 group yet? I didn't manage to keep up with the antenatal threads so thought I'd get a head start on the postnatal threads before I've even had baby! 
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KeepTryin · 13/02/2013 00:09
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PickledInAPearTree ·
25/02/2013 09:52
Same here Ds1 didn't. They gave Ds2 one in hospital as they said he needed some comfort when he was tube fed but I didn't think to give him one at home but last night was so much better. When he had been feeding for an hour and seemed to be comfort sucking I quickly switched them over and he did sleep! It's never caused a problem with latching ( he was given bottles overnight too in hospital which haven't either)
Happy days ! 
bangersmashandbeans ·
25/02/2013 10:54
Pickled your morning sounds just like mine!! DD doesn't get that DS does not want her jumping all over him and putting her face right in his when he's trying to feed! Been trying not to get cross with her but its hard. She just said to me 'mummy are you cross with me?....but sometimes I am good' Breaks my heart and does not help with the constant guilt!!
Didn't have too much of a bad night, actually got him sleeping in his Moses basket which is a result! So it's nearly 11am and I'm only just dressed - how on earth am I going to get out the house on time on nursery days?!
Lovely relaxing bath this morning by the way...DS in the bathroom in the home the steam helps his cold and DD decided not to be left out so obviously that was a good time for her to sit on the loo and do a poo!!
DH won't even entertain the idea of a dummy - pisses me off slightly as its not him that permanently has a person attached to their over-used and sore nipples!!!
Panzee ·
25/02/2013 11:27
I think I would nod and smile at that advice, then just try to feed more. :o my first son used to put weight on every two weeks, so I would get a lecture one week but not the next. 
ImGoingToCountToThree ·
25/02/2013 17:19
Marcheline it sounds toe curling! Some babies just don't want to open their mouths, if DD comes at me with a pursed mouth I usually stroke my nipple near her mouth until she opens wider then I squeeze my breast so it's flatter and try to put as much in as possible of areola making sure her lips are sort of curled back. That's easier said than done if you have a baby that just doesn't want to open their mouth wide enough though. Hope you get the support you need to make it more enjoyable.
Today has been ok on my own, DD been feeding every 1- 1 /2 hours during the day and sleeping in between. We got up at 7am, which wasn't easy after 1am,3am,6am feeds. We managed to get out of the house on time for school but then DH did wind her and change her whilst I was sorting out breakfast....I won't have that luxury next week.
Midwife has discharged us today into the care of the Health visitor.
Managed to put one load of washing in and put a few clothes away but that's all as had a little sleep for 40 mins before collecting DD1 from school.
Felt a bit teary this morning, anyone else?
bangersmashandbeans ·
25/02/2013 20:22
Hi everyone, sounds like emotions are running high tonight 
It is normal it is normal it is normal it is normal - I needed telling about a million times. I'm on day 16 and for the first time have felt in control all day. First day on my own and we didn't get dressed until 11am so not a great start but it got better! I wrote myself a very small list of realistic things to achieve and I've managed to tick them all off. Baby steps but steps none the less.
Totally know how you feel about the guilt towards DC1 - I really can't get past it. It's so silly because part of the reason we have a second child is for the benefit of the first! It's just so hard when she's watching me feed for hours in the day and when she asks me to play with her I have to say no or maybe later, it breaks my heart.
Marcheline ·
26/02/2013 01:02
So glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling guilt for DC1. DH and I tried to make ourselves feel better by saying 'yes well DD1 did get a lot of attention over the last three years'!! As if it made it better that she now is getting zero attentiOn 
Ouch re: piles bangers. As if there isn't enough pain going around already. Glad they don't hurt anymore though.
Pickled, I like what you're saying about if only being a few more weeks and then feeling much more in control. Every day is a step in theright direction. I might write that on post it notes and stick them randomly around the house.
Hope everyoneis having good nights x
ImGoingToCountToThree ·
26/02/2013 11:07
Ahh i think we are all feeling the same....Guilt...yep got a whole load of that too with a touch of the tears this morning.
Feel like I'm not spending enough time with my DD1, obviously because she has been the youngest for so long I feel that I'm neglecting her a bit due to having to sit down to feed every 1-2 hours. We normally bake together or have a bit if dance etc but I'm just so tired I don't feel like doing anything.
Normally I get in to bed with her at bedtime and we chat and have snuggles but it's all having to be rushed as DD2 usually needs feeding again by the time we have done supper, wash & teeth.
She seemed quiet this morning on the way to school. She adores her new baby sister though and there is absolutely no signs of jealously so maybe I'm feeling it more than she is, I could cry at the thought of her feeling pushed out a bit.
DS is taking it all in his stride but then he is used to being the oldest.
I fell asleep sat up feeding her at 10.30pm last night, so after that feed DH packed me off to bed and kept DD downstairs with him until 12.30am then brought her up put her in her crib and she slept until 3am! Another feed at 6am. I felt good getting a few hours sleep but was it was still a struggle when the alarm went off at 7am.
On a lighter note, baby's eye colour. My other two have blue eyes.
DS very light with lots of white almost silvery
DD1 deep blue with dark blue ring around and both quite striking and they get comments about them.
I have average green/dark brown eyes
DH has very light blue eyes almost see through (the old lady in the bank likes them).
I was wondering if maybe this time I will get a brown eyed child.
How about your children's eye colour are they the same as yours or your partners?
Hope everyone has a good Tuesday and we all stop beating ourselves up soon, I feel the only remedy for the tears is the box of dairy milk I received as a gift
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bangersmashandbeans ·
26/02/2013 20:00
I'mgoing you've just said exactly how I feel! 15 days in and the guilt is still really hard and makes me pretty emotional at times. DD is really good at entertaining herself but I hate sitting on my butt feeding whilst I watch her. DS has a horrible cold so not sleeping brilliantly (never more than two hours at night) and I'm exhausted and know I'm being unnecessarily snappy too
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