February 2013?

[KeepTryin]

Is there a born in February 2013 group yet? I didn't manage to keep up with the antenatal threads so thought I'd get a head start on the postnatal threads before I've even had baby!

[PickledInAPearTree]

How are you all doing? Had ds on 15th home on Saturday then he got readmitted on Monday for losing weight and sicking up bile they wanted to check there were no internal issues just got back out today!

Recoginse a few names from the other thread!

[bangersmashandbeans]

Hi pickled - congrats! We were on the other thread together. Sorry to hear your little one has been poorly but glad you're back home now - is all ok? How is it all going?

[Marcheline]

Katolla don't worry, she will still be working hard for your milk, but massaging your breasts will mean that she does less damage to our nipples trying to soften them to get a good latch, and you should be less likely to get mastitis too. it's helping with drainage rather thN doing the work for her.

Congratulations pickled! DD has had some bile, the MW said it was to be expected because she was a sudden delivery - is that what happened with you? Glad you're both home now though, it must have been really worrying.

[PickledInAPearTree]

Yes! Very quick. He'd done green sick and apparently it's a sign that there could be a bowel problem , so I popped into the breastfeeding clinic in the hospital as they wanted to check he could eat ok and within the hour he was in an incubator on the neonatal ward. Scary stuff but do was fine.

Yes don't worry about massaging your boobs, I've got issues with supply at the moment as I've had to express mostly whilst ds was in hospital so we are all out of kilter.

And they KILL!

[Marcheline]

Oh pickledthat sounds really scary. Babymarch just did a little bit of browny/yellowy sick and I'm wondering if I should call the midwife...

My breasts are agony, so u can imagine yours are much worse! I really struggled with breastfeeding last time so am determined to get it right now, but it's just so painful.

[PickledInAPearTree]

It could have been just speedy birth but he did seem ill Monday the breastfeeding lady said there was no way he could have fed.

I had murder with feeding last time DS1 was a nightmare would not latch on at all. So I'm also really keen to get it working.

What sort if pain are you getting march? When the baby is feeding or engorge type pain? (That's my problem)

[Marcheline]

It's nipple pain when she's latching on and feeding - I can't seem to get it so that it's not painful.

My nipples are hardening though, do hopefully soon it'll be like they're made of steel and can take the pain :o

[PickledInAPearTree]

Ow! Yes it's bit supposed to last long is it. I've not had that yet I'm hoping all that expressing this week has toughened them up but they are hit and painful!

Everyone recommends lanisoh cream don't they did you try it?

[bangersmashandbeans]

My nipples were like that to start with so I knew he wasn't latching right. I had a chat with a midwife and breast feeding councillor and got it sorted and it made a difference really quickly. I was told that if the pain lasts more than about 20 seconds after the initial latch then something is wrong. Hope you manage to get it sorted March as its miserable
I've been up all night with DS, no sleep at all! Not his fault, he so congested he can't sleep in his basket so has been sleeping on me and I'm too scared to fall asleep with him. Today is going to be a struggle!!

[Marcheline]

I take her off the breast and re-latch all the time, I just can't get it to work :( have a MW visit tomorrow so will ask again for help (I did ask the last midwife who visited on Wednesday, but she just said 'it looks right, just keep going' basically). I have got lansinoh but honestly, I cannot tell you how cracked and horrible my nipples are, it's just not helpig enough. It was like this last time, and it just never got much better.

Bangers, I hope your day is going ok. I am surviving because babymarch slept for a solid 3 hours last night. Otherwise I think I would be like a zombie.

[Marcheline]

I take her off the breast and re-latch all the time, I just can't get it to work :( have a MW visit tomorrow so will ask again for help (I did ask the last midwife who visited on Wednesday, but she just said 'it looks right, just keep going' basically). I have got lansinoh but honestly, I cannot tell you how cracked and horrible my nipples are, it's just not helpig enough. It was like this last time, and it just never got much better.

Bangers, I hope your day is going ok. I am surviving because babymarch slept for a solid 3 hours last night. Otherwise I think I would be like a zombie.

[PickledInAPearTree]

Oh that's horrible I had that with DS1.

I had to stop in the end because if the medication i was taking anyway though.

Have you tried calling la leche league? They are supposed to be very good.

It's so frustrating isn't it.

DS2 has a good latch but he dissect seem to be gaining weight. The plan is I bf till Monday and if he's not gained weight top up.

[ImGoingToCountToThree]

Thanks bangers, Hi pickled! And everyone else!
Did update a few days ago but in my sleep deprived stupor I wrote a long message then pressed cancel instead of post

DD is now 9 days old, I feel panicky too at the thought of getting back into the school run on Monday with DS & DD1 how on earth am I going to get us all out on time!
DH has arranged to start after 9am for the next week for a bit of support.

[Marcheline]

How did I manage to double post two hours apart?!

I haven't called LLL yet, there's a bf clinic near me on thurs and I've got a MW home visit tomorrow so I'll see how that goes. The LLL helpline goes through to women at home which I feel kind of awkward about!

Poor baby pickled, dd1 didn't put weight on for ages, it was so worrying. Babymarch is being weighed tomorrow for the first time since birth so fingers crossed for that. How has your feeding been today?

[Marcheline]

Sorry Three, terrible x post. It takes me forever to type and post ATM.

I feel panicky about DH going back to work, I have mo idea how I'll manage to keep DD1 occupied whilst pinned to the side feeding / exhausted by night feeds. I know this stage won't last long but its so daunting.

[PickledInAPearTree]

He's fed ok today (I think) a massive cluster feed in the morning and and for the whole Wales v Italy game he is knackered now and just had a small feed. A MW came today and we agreed I would try breast only till Monday and if he's lost weight start bottle top ups. I've lost my confidence after the weight loss of last week.

I've got a 2 year old and on my own from Monday. I'm actually really scared about it!

[bangersmashandbeans]

Looks like we're all on our own from Monday! I'm really worried, can't see how I'm going to look after both children let alone do cooking and cleaning?! Had a day on my own today as DH was out and I waved the white flag at 6pm and cried down the phone to my mum and she came and did bath and bedtime with DD. Feel like a bit of a failure to be honest!

[ImGoingToCountToThree]

Ah Bangers don't feel like a failure that's not the case at all! With my DD1 my mum virtually was here most days as I had DS who was 2 1/2 at the time. You have to do what you can and accept all the help you need. No one will thank you for struggling on your own and let's face it, it is a struggle when you already have little ones to look after and then a new baby arrives.
It is hard, my DS is 11 now and DD1 is 9 and i am still finding it hard with a newborn even though they can mostly sort themselves out, it's the tiredness.
If it wasn't for DH doing all housework, meals etc I would be completely overwhelmed and wouldn't think twice about asking my mum or sister to come and lend a hand.

Feeding wise we seem to be wanting to be fed every 1 - 2 hours again today.

If I'm not on again by tomorrow, all the best to everyone who is braving it on their own for the first week.
I'm trying to do packed lunches and bags today so there is less to do in the morning

[PickledInAPearTree]

Yes bloody hell take all the help you can!

Ive had a better afternoon, I gave DS his dummy from the hospital and he had a long sleep, he was up all morning practically from 9-2.30 without sleeping at all and finding it very hard to settle poor thing. Hes slept for a couple of hours.

How is everyone doing? Lets swap notes after the hell is unleashed tomorrow! I think its going to depend how we all sleep and how the toddlers behave! DS1 is being either adorable or demonic. Nothing in between!

[Panzee]

Hello! Had my son on Thursday so have transferred to the postnatal club! Had our first night at home last night, it's much easier co-sleeping in a hospital bed... :o

[PickledInAPearTree]

Hi panzee!

I decided to wake the baby up at 10.30 hoping to get a feed in to get a few hours sleep at the start if the night. He's still bawling now! Never mind.

Hope you all have a good night!

[Marcheline]

Hi pickled, I've been feeding solidly since 9pm. I have cried twice so far. Is there such a thing as a 5 day growth spurt??

[Panzee]

I'm watching the Oscars with baby asleep on my shoulder. He won't go in the crib! Not sure what to do really, I don't want him in the bed (too many duvets, memory foam mattress topper etc). Might just see how long I can stay awake for!

[NandH]

ds is 3 weeks old now, angel in the day time but at night (right now) its nothing but time to gurgle and blow bubbles...which is fine, until I put him down and the sweet gurgles and bubble blowing turn into high pitch parrot noises!!!

SO TIRED!!!!!

[PickledInAPearTree]

That was me last night marcheline.

Have you got a dummy? I think they are comfort sucking. My new plan is give him a good amount of time at the breast and then do a switch and if he's not still hungry he will settle with a dummy. We were going to have a morning out yesterday but I couldn't get him off even to get dressed

First morning bloody hectic. Ds1 is jumping all over and ds2 permanently baying for milk!

Good luck everyone x