November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

Oh God that's awful pass.

Yesterday ILs took L out for a walk so DH and I had the house to ourselves for the first time in over three months.

Did we get down and dirty? Did we read each other romantic poetry? Or did we in fact have a very long conversation about our own mortality and what should happen in the event of either or both of our deaths?

Not nice to think about but I suppose we should really get something written down.

blonde DH and I did that the other day. It is a depressing topic, but I felt much happier after we had talked about it. I am so terrified of dying before the children are big enough to fend for themselves :(

Pass :( Thats awful.

blonder we did that just before N was born, and got our wills drawn up too. Well, DP already had one, just needed updating. I hadn't bothered as all I own is a credit card bill and a lame horse! But it is important to formalise what will happen to the children if the worst happens. Very depressing to do though.

Right, off to unpack and tidy. I've been away for 4 days and DP hasn't hoovered once - and we have long haired dogs. You can imagine what the floors look like

It's a terrible thing to have to think about but needs must. This woman died of a heart attack it's thought. Fit, healthy and no sign of anything untoward. I am going to spend the day having cuddles

LO and DH had an accident with the nail clippers this morning. Incredible how much blood can spurt from a tiny cut on a baby's thumb.

LO cried a lot yesterday evening and this morning. Very out of character, not sure what is wrong with her. Other than a sore thumb. Everyone in my house issleeping right̀ now. It's lovely and peaceful.

Blonder it's worth getting a will drawn up. If anything did happen to you then the court would decide who would be responsible for your children but if you have a will then it's much easier for your estate to be wrapped up. You want someone to have access to your money, insurance, etc. at the very least to be able to pay for the funeral arrangements. Otherwise it will take a long time to get things sorted out. They recommend that you have different people responsible for the money and the children but we have put everything to my SIL and left it to their good judgement. We have set up savings accounts in the children's own names so if there wasn't anything left of our estate when they reach 21 then they would still have some of their own money. It's a scary thought but the chances of it happening are very small although possibly not the way DH drives you do it just in case the worst should happen. There's yourself to think about as well. DH earns more than me so we have an extra life insurance policy for him so that if something happened to him, the kids and I would be okay. I think it's something to set up and then pretty much forget about until the kids are older and you need to update it. The way our will is worded if we have another child then we don't need to make changes to it.

On another note when we got home from the solicitors I told DS1 we had set up our will and if anything happened to us our estate would be split between the three of them. He said that wasn't enough and he wanted half!

pass how :(

We keep meaning to do a will but don't actually get around to it

We're on a "lots of sleep & 2hrly feeds" schedule since 7.30am. He's 13wo today. Why is he doing this now??!! Why??!!!

I want a Canadian breakfast. but instead I had porridge(not gruel) at about 6:00 so have just had my lunch. Beans. But will be roast beef and yorkshirepuddings for dinner. < yum emoticon>

detective just what stunt says about the iron. I just read it somewhere and so got myself into a nice little routine with weaning and I suppose when it has worked well for three you (I mean me IYSWIM) might as well do the same for number four.

Am not doing too bad for sleep. Though usually at the weekend DH does the 10:00 feed and I skulk off to bed for an early night about 8pm but was kept up last night finishing DD1 s homework with her till 9pm. I was hopping around going " come on come on I want to go to bed!" One of those stupid home works where they bring the teddy home for the weekend and we have to take it About with us and then write about it's experiences.

I note as the book goes on people put more and more extravagant expeditions in and photos galore. It becomes like a competition. Meh

once I made it all up, a trip to Glastonbury in a camper van

Oh pass how awful. I can't think of anything worse than leaving DS when he's so small

How sad pass it is heartbreaking when things like that happen.

When I was checking out the teddy book and the things other people had written one girl wrote about how she goes to a club for children who have to care for their parents as they are ill. I suppose the club gives them a chance to be a child.

Pass- that's awful !! I must get my will done. A phone call for the morning.

I've had some porridge and a sprinkling of Special K, I've also had some toast with honey on. I gave LO a small taste, and he wasn't impressed. He was more interested in my tea

Evil

I have had two pieces of shortbread so far today. We are all a bit out of sorts and DH's hunter gatherer instincts are a bit dulled

You're doing it all wrong Sophia, just take a photo of the teddy in the cupboard under the stairs and write that teddy was naughty and had to be punished so couldn't go on all the fun adventures that your children had .

That is terrible pass, how sad. We don't have a will either, need to dart that ASAP.

I love milk! No milk aversions in this house. I'm feeling very jealous of those who have had a Canadian breakfast

B still possets regularly too, she gets through a minimum of three outfits a day. She can posset anytime between one feed and the next. It doesn't appear to bother her too much though so I didn't bother seeing a doctor. She was full on vomming but that has stopped since my milk supply has sorted itself out.

pass so sad. The same thing happened to David Coulthards sister yesterday. She was 35.

evil honey should not be given to babies under a year old as can make them very ill.

Oh fuck. It was a very small blob it was just a small drip. Think the size of a rain drop.

Evil

And sophia, we're going to Glastonbury festival in our yellow vw campervan this year, can't wait. Just got to get my head around the guilt of leaving the girls with my parents for the weekend, it'll be the first time I've left Bronwen. I'm currently expressing 4oz a day to build up a stock of milk for while I'm away.

I will start introducing solids when he has 22 weeks. The girls both hung on to 24 weeks, but it was a struggle. Not sure I will be up to the struggle with fat boy. Just puréed food with baby rice. All home made. DD1 had a jar the day we moved to Scotland. She ate it fine, and vommed it all back.

evil do not worry, just make sure to not give it again.

I would swap my mother for a VW campervan (not really, but I would love to have one)

VQ he has been very interested in food. He keeps watching anyone that eats, and then licks his lips. If he could walk up and grap food off my plate I think he would have!

Evil

evil read up about infant botulism just in case so you can spot any signs early. Do not worry though. It is very rare, but the advice is not to give honey.

No worries VQ!
Evil