November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

Sorry for the huuuuuugely TMI!

It is not that bad now detective but was one of the many reasons I was happy to have a section.

DS woke and self settled at 1am, then DH kept me awake for ages with coughing fits. Just given J (at 3am) a 15 min dream feed really. He did not open his eyes at all. May hear from him again shortly. There he goes!

He is now seeming to be in lots of pain, arched back etc. I don't know....

Try again..... He is just so squishy and snuggly. The fact I think that shows I am having a better night eh?

taking me longer and longer to read these threads as dd keeps tapping screen with her paw while she eats and it goes back to home!!
blonde glad I made you laugh with the whole cat soup thing! I can't really re-read what I'm typing on phone and hard to edit maybe worth it for gems like that though
I feel like putting my cats in soup at the moment ... they were sick in the bathroom.this morning on towel that had fallen from the floor! ... I just threw it away! ... they also keep mewing to be in the living room with us when they didn't use to if I wanted a cuddle I would have to go and collect them.
det sorry sending a hug your problems make mine pail in comparrison hope you get results when you kick ass sure you will.
oh and washing machine has been fixed by dh before bed put it on a cycle and its finished no problems ... yay I have bras for the morning... I only like a few that I have. why do some have bones in the side? ouch? and I don't feel comfortable without a bra on 24 /7 at the mo nipples being v sensitive
dh is a sleep tease has missed 4am feed past 2 nights not tonight

sooo ... what light jovial topics will we talk of in the morn... hope I get back to sleep now...had to put turtle (sounds of the sea) on for dh (yes dh) to sooth back to sleep.
it works for me too I imagine I'm in Rhodes (one of my spiritual homes) it should be mumbles really but brrrrr!
could be a new thread ...what is your spiritual home/homes apart from where you live or lived as a child.
The other place for me apart from Pefkos&lindos Rhodes and mumbles is Larghne near Carmarthen ...(really doesn't look like that's spelt right). I am not sure why ...Mumbles I have been to loads dh parents have a appartment there (mil is a vicar so their home is not theirs so they have that instead). The other two I have been too 2 (rodos) and 4times but there is something about them. Maybe I have been there in a former life...if that sort of thing exists!

Well this is weird. LO woke at 5 so has now been awake for an hour. Happy and giggling and feeding. I don't want to get used to this. I have warned her she'll be grounded if she does this again. She laughed.

My spiritual home is France, and I'm here. I've not found my forever part of France yet, though I would say Paris probably. I lived there for ten tears, but there were bad memories so we moved away. It was home though, where I'd always dreamed of living.

Damn. Just had massive spit up. Going to need to change her. Merry Monday is not starting brilliantly for me.

Oooooh pancake day tomorrow. That's cheered me up. Hoping it's not the baby vom that brought pancake batter to mind.

You're welcome

DS accepted the dummy a couple of hrs ago so did 7+hrs which is good. I'm hoping he'll just suddenly drop the 5am feed like DD did, & go until 7am. He's bigger than she was so surely he could go longer at night already??!!

DH off to a work conference today assuming the snow isn't too bad. So will have my 2 alone for 2 nights. On the plus side, things might stay tidy...

I haven't strayed far from "home" really. A few holidays, not many abroad, & a few yrs in Manchester at uni. Loved Manchester. Also loved Stockholm when we did a day there on our honeymoon cruise. Think it was the only place I'd move to on the basis of a holiday visit. Otherwise, I generally feel home is where your hat/heart is...

VQ sorry you're having a rough night & its not due to DS atm, although glad he's cute :)

Uh oh. DS is finished feeding so I'd better go to sleep before I suddenly spend an extra hr awake, on here...

Well, N took ages to settle tonight as she's very snuffly, but once she did she's been pretty good - this is the first feed of the night, which is pretty good going for her!

My feeding is not going so well! I won't list the crap sugary stuff I ate yesterday because I'm too embarrassed to, but suffice to say, there was far too much of it and I just couldn't say no

cat in awe of braveness and soup making skills!!

det & vq that's isn't good - why should women put up with such poor health service!!! Kick ass and privates so they have an inkling as to how a broken fanjo feels

I woke up at 4 and couldn't sleep - leaky boobs soaked the bed - that's not happened for weeks!! Dots woke at 5 so leaky boob shoved in gob!!

Hopefully another 90 mins sleep is had!!

LO went back down to sleep and I stayed up to do the ironing. This is completely out of character for me.

Talk of 2 under 1 year old makes me feel faint! Good night here he's just nodding off on me amidst rippling farts (his!) hope he doesn't get woken by DH's alarm in 45 mins...

Lots of snow here

I have been meaning to sort life assurance and a will since being pregnant. I am definity going to do it this week. DH does have sonething through work that i would get should the worst happen. Just need to decide who DS would go to. Dont really want him to go to either of our parents for various reasons. My sister would take him i know, but DH wouldnt be happy with that as she makes completely different lifestyle choices to me. However, i am named as guardian for her daughter should i ever need to be.

I cant read sad stories about babies/ mums dying, it makes me anxious and sad.

Last year on pancake day we found out i was pregnant! Wont be repeating that this year! Anyone else get a pancake day BFP?

I wont discuss my epis scar and pelvic floor due to it now being merry monday! I suggest the first discussion to be 'what do you have on your pancakes?' Sugar and lemon for me. Fresh lemon, not jif! DH likes nutella, yuck!

kirrin are you the poster who's eaten 48 creme eggs this weekend?!

No pidjin - but possibly only because of a lack of creme eggs in the house! Actually, that's not true - I hate creme eggs, and 48 is insane My intake involved coke and cakes rather than sweets.

tiger Lemon and sugar are the only things to go on a pancake as far as I am concerned - anything else is just silly :)

N appears to have farted herself to sleep. Honestly, she's really not very lady-like. She smelt so bad I had to check her nappy twice as I couldn't believe it wasn't dirty.

:o

No sleep for me - madam wanted to play and chat!!!

We had pancakes yesterday as tomorrow will be too manic with school discos and other things - it's got to be sugar and lemon or maple syrup nom nom

There are advantages to getting up at 5 (never thought I'd say that).

It's not even 8 and the kitchen is clean, the ironing and laundry are done.

Maple syrup is nice but lemon and sugar is divine!

I had a terrible night with J up for an hour and a half from midnight. I was getting to the point of being too tired to look after him I think I could have slept through crying. DH had the insane bright idea if starting controlled crying at 1 a.m. Idiot. Talk about the worst time to start sleep training. I rocked and nursed J to sleep instead since that's what he's used to.

DH isn't speaking to me in a being superficially pleasant but avoiding me as much as possible way. I got upset with DS2 yesterday when he started berating me for not playing his Skylanders game correctly with him. I was shocked to hear his father's manner from a six year old. Particularly as I had just been berated by DH for not running J's bath correctly (he had only run in cold water so I was letting some out before putting hot in otherwise it would have been too deep). DH really needs to sort himself out now the children are copying his behaviour. Although I wonder if the damage is done now and they can't be fixed.

His parents think everything would be okay if I did all the housework and looked after the kids all the time. Tbh I wouldn't mind doing that so much if I didn't have to clear up after him as well. He had left a trail of destruction behind him (bib on the bathroom floor, baby clothes etc. strewn around the change mat, kids' swimming bags and floats lying on the hall and kitchen floor) and was ready to slope off to bed. I called him on it and he said he would tidy up and then I could 'inspect the house' to make sure he was finished. I said I wasn't doing that it was up to him to tidy up after himself. Then when he was done (which took about two minutes) he asked me if I had any more chores I wanted done tonight. Honestly he wouldn't do that at work. Imagine leaving papers all over a meeting room or empty coffee cups strewn about the place. So why is it okay to do it at home?

Sorry about the epic me me me post, I needed to get that off my chest. If you post in Relationships all you get is 'Leave the Bastard', there doesn't seem to be any advice on rescuing an emotionally abusive relationship. If only he was a little bit more introspective but I don't think he realises what was done to him as a child. His dad is a narcissist, I don't know about his mum but she was neglected as a child which I'm sure leaves its mark. When I asked DH whether he was abused as a child he got really angry with me and went on about how his parents love him. He doesn't understand that they can love their children but still make mistakes with the way they treat them, and each other. Just the way he's trying to be a good husband and dad but isn't managing to avoid the mistakes his parents made.

48 Creme eggs?! Eww. I can't eat one, I think they are just revolting. I could probably eat the straight chocolate equivalent in one sitting though :)

detective you can get it from the pharmacy theses days but is about twenty quid.

I could probably eat close to 48 creme eggs over a whole weekend . I love 'em.

detective you need to do that quiet but fucking deadly, like a ninja assertive attitude with the GP, and refuse to be fobbed off.

stunt no advice, but ((((hugs)))). I know what you mean about the relationships board.

kirrin totally agree re pancake toppings.

I had a good night's sleep but an appalling nightmare that I am feeling sad and guilty over. Wont go into detail, but a "Sophie's Choice" situation presented itself. Even typing that has set me off again.

So, Merry Monday, eh? Well, I am happy that DS seems to be getting back to the good sleep only because I caved can let him follow his own routine of bed at 9pm, not 7pm, and let him sleep in my bed, that DD left for nursery where she is in a new room really happily, that I have a quiet day with just me and DS today one of the rare occasions my poor second child gets some of my attention and that my friend is coming to see me today.