Mous I read your zebra passage and found tha I connected with it a lot. They tried to have me admitted to a psychiatric hospital aged 4 - enough said!! (And should I be worried that you did not mention me in the possible zebra category above?!! 
) It applies quite a lot to DS1, who appears brighter and more of a thinker than DS2. "But Mummy, how does a lady feed the baby in her tummy?" and "How does a flower get inside a seed?" in the last week!
Scones I feel I ask DH the same thing over and over again. I agree with SR - think they just don't see the mess in the same way (or if they do, it doesn't reach critical levels until much later for them, and by then the football is on the tv!) I find DH doesn't suggest that I have time off but when I tell him I have arranged something, he is quite happy to have the boys and steps up and takes responsibility for them (and even gives them medicines). Most defintely not a bad person re staying at home - do it more often and set up things for the future now while you can! As for the money side of things, me thinks you need a chat about this asap, as, if I remember rightly, you are still in the relatively early days of your relationship, where things can still be altered and changed before they become set in stone. Alternatively, he'll have to pay you the going rate for childcare from his wages before he spends the money on himself !
I do keep score of the nights DH has away but will never catch up, especially as I'm pretty much too scared to go away at the moment, as mentioned on facebook. Hoping this will improve as time moves on.
DS1 has bought me a mother's day gift from the PTA stall at school this week. He kept it a secret today and then blurted it out in passing at the breakfast table by mistake. Cue, dissolving into floods of tears amid reassurances from me that I would have forgotten again by Sunday what he had said!! It was so cute and my heart ached for him as he'd been trying so hard to keep it a secret. DS2 has come home with a clay heart, painted red and covered in glitter.
BC I was interested to hear about the swimming. DS2 had his first swimming lesson without me int the pool last week and it terrified me almost as much as putting DS1 through a general anaesthetic! Thsi was due to a) them not using arm bands (which I approve of but...) b) DS2 haveing such a tendancy to fall over due to his hypermobile joints and c) he doesn't know which way is up when he goes under the water. I had talked at length to the swimming co-ordinator about DS2 but she clearly had not passed enough info on to the actual teacher. There is one other child in the class who has SEN and she found it very hard work to keep both of them safe. I rang again yesterday before taking him and explained my concerns. I am allowed to sit on the edge in my costume for the next few weeks in a 'management of making DS2 sit on the step whilst waiting his turn' capacity. The teacher did much better at foreseeing the likely difficulties. He did go under the water while she was talking to him so it showed her what could happen, and she stayed very close to him afterwards!
SB I've just started reading 'Raising Boys' and it's got some really interesting info that will help me, particularly with multiple boyage!! There is one bit about putting boys under three in childcare that made me very sad, so I should skip that bit if you ever read it!! BC it helped me to understand why boys behave as they do (and I've only reached chapter 4!)
Well done IC on dealing with DD's anxieties. Sounds like you are doing brillaintly - no wonder you are exhausted. It will all pay off and sounds like she is really getting the hang of nursery. DS2 had a poo incident on the middle floor of a soft play place yesterday during a party. (Envisage me carrying him at arms' length over multiple assault course-style items!!) Luckily, he tends towards the constipated end of the range!!
And finally, for tonight (apart from hellp to NK, CP, Stoof and all others..), DS2 brought me an art canvas today that he had done a self-portrait on the other day. He wanted another go and to 'rub it off'. I explained that this was not possible and carried on talking to my friend. I heard a noise. He was in the next room with a wet wipe furiously trying to rub off said acryllic painted picture!!
Have a happy mother's day everyone. 