November 2012 - Don't forget the tummy time

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chunky it was a joke. I think. But some of our regulars are upset as they cannot keep up. None of us want to upset anyone so I suggested having a mark on drivel type comments so those catching up do not waste time on waddle waddle and detectives posts.

evil do not worry. It is a duplicate of what they have at the surgery. Give it a while then look again, and if still no luck, just ask your HV. Make sure you allow time before next jabs. Chances are you last had it when he had his jabs -can you retrace your steps? Check the bag you had etc? Did you leave it at the surgery? But do not worry. If you could not remember where you left the baby that would be another matter. Do not get upset x

Phone the HV on Monday Evil. Could you have left it at a clinic/hospital/GP?

:(

detective the "missing child" comments etc were lovely & a beautiful sentiment. I wish I felt like that :( I love my children more than anything or anyone, but I feel a bit ground down by it all at the mo. Both children are relatively easy. It's fucking DH that's the problem. He has become/been so self-centered lately. But compared to garden I'm lucky I guess It makes me sad that I can't enjoy my kids as much because I'm so pissed off with DH often. Perhaps I should give up on the housework etc & just spend time with them??!!! :(

Evil, it doesn't matter - don't worry. The GP surgery have records of all immunisations and checks. They can issue a new one. Fret not .

Chunky I think it is the age gap. It helps. A lot. 10 year olds while not easy, are easier than a toddler plus baby! I take my hat off to anyone who does that! I am absolutely dreading it, although if when I have another there will be around 3 1/2 year age gap, and I'm still dreading it. It is a means to an ends. The rewards will come! When they start playing together and plotting mischief. When they have each other for company.

Tell DH to read this thread. Seems to have done mine the world of good . Though it kind of defeats the object of him using his initiative...!

Garden, I'd like to lamp your 'D'H. In the balls. I think you should do it for me. Bad Detective.

I just don't get some peoples attitudes towards doing their fair share at home. I know women like it too, so it isn't just men, and certainly not all men. Self centered is all I can describe it as. Hopefully, it can be drummed out of them though. I am sure he will improve as they get bigger. I know that is no consolation right now though.

Thanks detective. He wasn't this bad with DD. He was even better before DD but still, can't have everything I suppose. He does do some HW but seems to have reduced his input in that area & doesn't want to use his initiative when it comes to DC. He keeps forgetting to consider me when making plans & just carries on with his hobby & life regardless. My DM has suggested speaking to my DMIL - she is generally v nice & supportive & would not be impressed. Feel a bit like I'm telling tales but needs must...

Still, my DC are beautiful. And lovely. And funny. So I guess that helps - he contributed good genes

I thought meant no comment, I had always assumed it was a reference to Gordon Brown famously refusing to tell MN users what his favourite biscuit was in a webchat.

I've never understood why it has a black square on it though since they changed the emoticons.

Thanks for the kind words ladies. He is hard work.

Hasn't done one night feed all week. Didn't offer for me to have the night off last night or tonight. Thank God the girls are relatively easy or I would be out of my mind by now. I am seriously thinking of my options here.

Number of feeds so far this week times two babies = 58. Number he has helped me with = 7. Number of feeds he has done on his own = 0.

Number of showers I have managed this week = 2

I had words with DP's mum and sister. Shame the bastard. It works...?!

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I'll look forward to the 12 week spurt then VQ . N is pretty easy really, but she does have Velcro tendencies and I am starting to get a bit worn down by not being able to do anything I do seem to remember things getting suddenly easier with DD1 though, so hopefully we're nearly out the other side.

Thanks everyone! I can't believe I've lost the bugger! I have to phone the GP on Monday as it had the date and time of his next jabs.
FFS!

Evil

Shame the bastard might work for some but my MIL once told me that she would ALWAYS take DH's side, even if he killed someone. Which he wouldn't. But she is mad considers herself an alpha mum.

Awwww garden I feel for you - I have a dh exactly the same - doesn't offer to take turns when we have bad nights, doesn't bath baby, and on the occasional bottle he gives is such a friggin palaver with Dottie ending up stressed that I end up taking over - times that by two and I'd be out the door xxx

Garden he needs shaking! Seriously.

Makes my DP seem good and that's saying something as he's a lazy toerag.

Why do I feel so exhausted even though we only have two wake ups now? I feel like I don't know what sleep is anymore. I didn't sleep for the last month of pregnancy and clearly have not had a full night since. Roll on sleeping through...when he's 2 or something right?

Evil- did you leave the red book at clinic perhaps?

Garden- sending warm thoughts your way. I empathise. After week from hell mine just got back from all day tournament and asked what was for dinner.

I need a lesson in MN etiquette I think. Why no kisses?

You know we all love you detective You are our resident expert remember x

Well the vom fest has commenced. DD2 does vom well. You find her down the opposite end of the bed just looking at it as if to say 'who did that?' DH is on vom duty as I am feeding.

There is something funny going on with the emoticons at the moment. If on an ipad turn it all totally off then on again can often fix it. Probably the same with other gadgets.

Detective you haven't made me spit tea today yet...

I could have, or someone else might have picked up by mistake. I thought something was odd last Monday. The thing is I'm not 100% sure I took it last time.
All I can do is ask.
Evil

Oh and STILL NO POO...

I've just caught up...again. It's getting too hard to read and post to relevant people.

Hope your daughter is ok vq

J was up a few times last night :( I wish he would sleep through. He is so big, people can't believe the size if him and comment on it a lot. I'm a wee bit concerned but as he is EBF there's not much I can do. I can't exactly reduce a feed!

BPLP how many days now? We're on day 6. I'm dreading it when it comes...

I'm gona start MNing the fly way. Set a 15min timer. Read as much as I can. Then stop.

Still don't get how that is a biscuit. I think it's the black sq that confuses me too.

What's with no kisses. Well xxxxx to u all my lovely thread girls. Mr det. U been told. Go away. But still make a roast tomorrow

pikz you are still not getting undisturbed sleep. Even though two wake ups is better, it is not solid 8 hour quality sleep. You will always sleep with one ear open now you are a mummy but you will adjust. Plus this is on top of months of disturbed sleep and anxiety too.

Those struggling to keep two kids happy, it is impossible so stop trying. They will cope. It is our job to enable them to be independent individuals anyway. A PFB is called this for a reason. The following children are just as precious, but you cannot be as precious about them.