November 2012 - sleeping through yet?

[StuntNun]

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[glendathegoodwitch]

detective how did it go? I would hope your dad would help in any way for you to spend more time at home while Oscar is sooo tiny x

lane with mould/mildew you need to scrub it clean an then paint over the area with special stuff from b&q that's similar to pva glue, that then stops it coming back - we've used it in our long and it works a treat

pixies how adorable - having a twin would be so special!!

Dottie sleeps through from 12-7am ?? all three of mine have have mothers lazy gene
Have googled vasospasm and think that answers why our latch is still toe curling at 8 weeks, other than the smurf look and occasional blanching I think it's quite a mild case!!

Dottie is rocking her 13yr old brothers first next baby gro today - its navy and has done all 3 and isn't at all bobbled but is so soft from the washes!

In the morning cos Dottie sleeps for 7 hours I have boobs like canon balls - she feeds so well and quickly for the first feed because of this and usually has a nap after - I assume because she is full and happy but because they're never that full for the rest of the days feeds so then she never seems full again and feeds for most of the day and only has little naps either when we go out in the car/pram or at the boob - I would much prefer to have canon ball boobs 6 x daily which resulted in 20 minute feeds leaving a sated happy baby lol who then sleeps or plays while I manage to do a little housework have a shower or catch up on here lol

[StuntNun]

I'm glad to hear someone is getting some sleep Glenda, it was looking a bit stark there for a while.

[ValiumQueen]

glenda J is similar. Good feed first thing, sleeps to lunch, then seems to be eating all the time. I do not have the benefit of good sleep at night either. He is 11 weeks old. I tend to offer boob before we go out, which is often due to school and nursery runs at different times. He feeds on waking too. He does sleep thankfully when in pram or car.

I have 5 oz expressed for DH to give him this evening. I am hoping it will knock him out. I so need abetter night and would consider introducing formula for one feed, but I am scared it will affect my supply.

[TheDetective]

Fucking twat. Said no. Laughed at me and said it would do me good to go back to work. My mum warned me he'd be like that. He made her go back when I was 8 weeks old because he insisted that they couldn't afford her not to. My mum insisted they could. He won because she didn't want the fall out. He did not want to compromise on lifestyle - hence why he thought they couldn't afford it.

I literally can not afford to take any more than 6 months. My pay is full for 8 weeks, then half plus smp for 18 weeks. For me, this means a £700 drop in pay (averaged) each month for 4 months. (I have saved up to cover most of the drop, but the rate shit is going wrong, it won't bloody last!) After that it is SMP only for 3, which is a massive £1650 drop. And I am the main wage earner. I earn 4 times what DP does. We would be fucked if I was only on SMP.

Well, he did leave behind £100. Told me to have my boiler serviced. So thanks Dad. That is all I am worth clearly! Oh, and to add insult to injury, as soon as he said no and how I should get back to work he then started going on about how fucking well off he is again. Wittering on about how he and his wife have made their fucking fortune. I sat there open mouthed. Insensitive or what?!!!

So glad he has pissed off and I can go back to normal!! Well, as normal as normal is when everyone around you is ill!

Thanks for the good luck anyway!! 28th April is return date I guess :(

[TheDetective]

Dixie I have a lovely little white babygrow with little multicoloured polka dots on it. It is from Next. There are lots of them on eBay at the moment. I know this because I am trying to get him the next size up as I loved it so much! Do you want me to link some?

PR Fab news! About time!

YW Sending sleepy vibes your way... enter sandman!! Good luck with the move!

Lane We have lots of trouble with mold, but its just around the windows. I clean it off as much as I can, and use either white vinegar or bleach. Bloody hate the stuff. It doesn't seem to have affected us. Worst rooms are the bedrooms. I need a dehumidifier, as leaving the windows constantly open isn't enough. I have a condenser dryer, and any clothes which need hanging to dry are in the stairs under the cupboard where the boiler is. No clothes are dried upstairs. And I don't use the radiators for drying. So not sure why it is so bad, but it is! GRRR!

Well, best get off here and go get DS from school...

[MissMummy1]

We are going backwards on the sleeping front... She will only sleep on me.

Had a massive argument with not-so-darling partner this morning. I won't go into details (and I know myself I am totally overreacting and being selfish) but I'm furious with him and his attitude to everything . The fact he's wonderful with M is the only thing saving him just now. I'm beginning to question what I actually like about him... stupid hormones

Baby yoga was fun though . Matilda took exception to relaxation time though and decided to let everyone in scotland the room here her squaks

[MissMummy1]

*hear

[TheDetective]

Oh, and the £100, I am so tempted to blow it on 100 lottery tickets. Or if I knew how to gamble, I'd gamble it. But I don't.

[blonderthanred]

Glenda that's exactly how L is during the day. I am hoping his feeding may improve and be more efficient soon.

VQ I was going to ask how you were getting on with expressing. Did you get 5oz in one go? I can only get 2oz per session but am hoping it will improve with time and perhaps now DS is (hopefully) feeding more efficiently. I hope J starts sleeping a bit longer soon for you.

[ValiumQueen]

Thank you blonder I started by getting 2oz on sunday I think it was. Now up to 4oz. I only got 1oz yesterday as I was so upset and stressed. I saved yesterdays for today. He has only had one bottle so far. I have two in freezer for emergencies. I only use one boob as the other one is crap. It gave up completely at 8 months with DD2 and I fed her with just the one for another 10 months.

detective do not take any money coming from him as a given. My parents are comfortably off but appear to be planning to live for ever, and they could need to spend the money on care or something. I do not bank on it. My parents are totally reliable, but your dad is clearly a twat. Have a pension fund and pay off mortgage as you would anyway, and anything that comes your way is a bonus. I would also not want to be indebted to a twat like him either.

[GTbaby]

Oh detective. That sucks. Very mean sending bad vibes to him now.

Right flame me if u wish. But we did 11 to 7.30. Seems he was waking last few days because of his cold.
I'm trying to work towards a 9-9 routine. Me n DH are sleepy lazy gits. Lo obviously has got this from us.

[PetiteRaleuse]

Detective it's possibly for the best. People who are stingy, when they do lend you money never let you forget it. It's horrible.

[MissMummy1]

Detective do we have the same dad?! Tight bastard.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

detective no fear I go back on 1st April or 3rd will actually be my first day back in the office.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

What pr said as well. detective

[Bluetinkerbell]

I'm going back 18 February due to rubbish maternity pay. Work had offered me an extra 5 weeks at 90% otherwise I would have been back to work already...
I'm lucky though I will be keeping L with me while working, mostly working from home, although not sure yet how it will work.

My breastfed baby has gone from several poos a day to none for 2 days and when she does they leak everywhere!

[pikz]

Detective what a twat. Sorry no other words for him. I am so sorry.

VQ I am considering a formula feed to knock this LO out and just waking up and pumping when needed to keep supply as that only takes 15mins unlike feed and settle and then pump. Not sure if it would work though

[BigPigLittlePig]

Maternity pay is rubbish isn't it, we're in the same position as you detective - only problem is that due to husbands super sperm poor planning good fertility, LO was conceived well before I thought she would be, so haven't been able to save anything (still paying off wedding/honeymoon debt )

Little pig currently looking like butter wouldn't melt, asleep flat on her back, right in time for the HV. Fell asleep watching fantastic mr fox so haven't iced DHs (shop bought) birthday cake

[Clarella]

ooo youre on to page 3 already! will try n catch up ( I do lurk a lot) - in response to thread title, we're getting a definite pattern at night - random stuff till about 10- 11 then feed at 12, 4 then roughly 7 or 8.... not bad for 4 and half wks???? (I've jinxed it now!) ( and 6 wks growth spurt will mess it up!!)

sorry to hear about maternity pay stuff. ours isn't that great either - was surprised actually. ( teacher's). I'm massively keeping my fingers crossed over being allowed part time. considering I used to practically run the place I really hope so.

[Elizadoesdolittle]

yw good luck with the move.

pr glad that everything is going back to normal for you.

chunky. it's a new thing for me as DD1 had no issues with taking a bottle at all. She didn't care if she was fed by boob or bottle or who was giving her the bottle as long as she was being fed. I never even thought it would be an issue. So it's quite annoying really. Aside from making it difficult to leave her, she has poor weight gain and I really need to top her up. I hope you find a bottle that suits him.

[horseylady]

Omg you talk soooo much!!!

Detective - what vq says. I've worked my maths out wrong!! That's my back to work loss!! Similar situation. My fil similar we could inherit a fair whack. He will probably leave it to the cats protection league. Which would be ironic as he hates cats!! Anyway, make your own way as vq says, see extras as a bonus!! And mend the boiler. Or put it away for another emergency.

Dixie - I have a spotty baby grow from cin. I can post it if you want?!

Gt - I think 12 hours comes about 12 months!!! You will need to feed at some point!! Ds still waking for feeding. He's still recovering. Dh called me earlier and said how you feeling?! You looked like death this morning. He still won't be home till 8, which means I'll have been alone for 13 hours. I told him I felt ill too!!! Oh well he won't his three games a week which I've limited him too

[GTbaby]

Iol horsey. I'm referring to GF

[MissMummy1]

HMRC totally fecked up my maternity allowance. £27 a week - utter bollocks. Due to their cock up I'm losing about 6k iver my maternity leave. Financially we are in no hurry for me to go back to work (although there is nowt left at the end of the month to plough into our mortgage saving account ) but I plan to pick up a few freelance tutoring hours from feb onwards...

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

Can you not sort it outwith HMRC mm?

[KissysUnderTheMisteltoe]

Sorry to hear that detective, but like others have said best not to be indebted to someone like that