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November 2012 - sleeping through yet?

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StuntNun · 09/01/2013 23:03

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TheDetective · 14/01/2013 16:40

Stupid post - does anyone think Next clothes are coming up smaller sized?? Confused

Just got a load of up to 3 months stuff, some new out the new catalogue, and some from eBay. His up to 1 month stuff fits juuuuuuuuuuuust about, but the up to 3 month stuff is not particularly big on him, and does not seem like he will get much wear out of it (not up to 3 months anyway!!). The babygrows are pulling on his feet, and the outfits are half way up his legs almost! He is 10lb, and they are supposed to be up to 14lb.

Asda baby clothes in 0-3 are up to 12lb yet are absolutely huge on him.

Stupid sizing.

Yes I know he is long and skinny, but still....!

PetiteRaleuse · 14/01/2013 16:45

My DH wakes up when LO cries and normally gets up and tries to settle her with a chat and a dummy. He does a good chunk of night feeds when they are necessary.

TheDetective · 14/01/2013 16:50

Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy Envy

ValiumQueen · 14/01/2013 16:56

My DH does not stir, but makes out he was aware of everything. Still does fuck all, unless I scream at him, and then he gets a piggy on.

My boy is long of body and short of leg. Add in a cloth nappy, and sizing becomes tricky. I think next is smaller than it was, as girl gros fit him where boy ones don't.

TheDetective · 14/01/2013 17:00

They did change their sizing at some point VQ not sure when though. The newborn stuff was up to 10lb 'back in the day'!

Yes to screaming to wake him sometimes. He says he is getting up. Then goes straight back to sleep. On average it takes 3 kicks or punches to get him up. Defeats the object really....

DonnaDoon · 14/01/2013 17:03

Hi Brockle Lovely to hear from you x

ChunkyChicken · 14/01/2013 17:09

I've got a DH that wouldn't stir if baby was screaming in his ear whilst simultaneously puking and shiting on his head. I have to nudge him and talk to him to wake up. What's more annoying is he sometimes seems to turn over and sigh if either DC makes noise and disturbs his sleep although that might just be my perception or annoyance clouding my judgement. I just wish I could sleep through the grunts, groans and snuffles.

I've always thought Next was quite small sizing wise, as they used to fit my DD quite well and Asda and the like were larger on her, as a small/9th centile baby. However, this s obviously not recently.

A has been asleep since just before 2pm. He last fed at 1pm ish. Confused I'm going to have a shit night aren't I??!!! Hmm

nillynoon · 14/01/2013 17:19

Survived our first mum's and babies group today. Not so sure I'm going to survive his jabs tomorrow though!

applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 17:48

Fucked off with DP. It's one thing after another at the moment and I'm so sick of it Sad If things don't improve then I can't see a future for us.

Latest argument is because he is about to be given a warning at work. This is because twice in the last few months he has called in sick the day prior to his day off. Both times he has been genuinely ill and I have told him to go to the doctors to avoid exactly this type of situation. Both times he ignored me and didn't bother going to the doctors. So we just had a massive row and he said 'this is why I keep secrets from you, because you blow it up into something it's not'. I stopped the car and told him to get out and walk back to work in the snow. He shouted back at me. The baby was in the car and it was awful Sad

Then as if he's not already in enough shit, he is risking adding to it by coming home for his breaks and being late back Angry It has happened several times now and because he hasn't been pulled up on it (yet) he can't see what the problem is. If he loses his job over crap like this he can go fuck himself. That will be the final straw. Especially when I try to help him and he continues to ignore my advice and gets all shitty with me.

Am I a crazy hormonal woman or am I justified in being pissed off?

applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 17:51

The way it was left was me shouting at him not to come home at 8 because I don't want to see him. I'm still fuming.

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 14/01/2013 17:52

I find next small as well but I have a massive baby!! He's not yet 11weeks and is in 3-6 month things!

nillynoon · 14/01/2013 17:58

I'm not surprised Apple - he sounds v immature if that's how he behaves when confronted with a valid point!

MissMummy1 · 14/01/2013 18:01

Next stuff is tiny. M is 6 weeks and fast outgrowing 0-3 (she is a chunk though!)

Hugs apple - I have also told dp if he loses his job over his own stupidity and shitty attitude then I will be seriously reconsidering our future..

Thanks for poo advice. The fact she is eating and peeing lots and generally middle of the night aside happy I'm not too bothered. Will keep an eye on it.

TheDetective · 14/01/2013 18:04

Apple - his work sound like they are being unreasonable with the sickness. I have to remind my DP's work this. He rang in sick this week, he clearly had flu - there was no need to see a GP, in fact quite the opposite - you should stay away if you are otherwise healthy. You do not need abx or anything else. Just rest. His work seemed to think that he needed to see a GP to confirm he had flu. Erm, why? He had every symptom of it. Was clearly not just a cold or cough, in fact the cough was the least troublesome bit. The fact he couldn't move his muscles was the bloody problem!

I think he should take this up with his work. He does not need to see a GP just to say 'yes, he definitely isn't well'. It would be a waste of NHS resources and time! But no, you aren't being unreasonable in expecting him to deal with his illnesses properly so they don't give him a problem at work. But he needs to deal with his work and they should not be giving him any warnings for 2 episodes of sickness surely?

He is being completely unreasonable by coming home and being late. He could be sacked for that if he continues. He needs to be careful. Ie. stop doing it!!

TheDetective · 14/01/2013 18:07

My ex lost his job through his own stupidity. It was the beginning if the end for us. I just lost all respect for him, because it was completely his own fault and he put our home at risk by doing so.

applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 18:14

He knows they are a crap company to work for so regardless of it being a waste of NHS resources I suggested it as a way of protecting himself because I knew this situation was a possibility.

He has a meeting with them on Friday and he will have a union rep with him but it sounds highly likely he will be given a warning. I have told him not to accept it and to request their reasons for it in writing. He say he'll just accept it and that if he's not sick in the next 26 weeks or something that it will be wiped off his record. But that means that if he is genuinely ill again he will have to go into work. It also leaves him on very thin ice if they notice the lateness. I'm so angry I don't know how we will avoid another argument when he comes home.

Passmethecrisps · 14/01/2013 18:14

It certainly doesn't sound great *apple. Could you sit down with him and talk calmly about your fears? Understandble as it is, shouting at someone only ever gives them a sense of moral high-ground.

My goodness I have a grumpy baby at the moment. She is a right whine! In fairness I tried to treat her constipation by reducing her infant gaviscon. This seems to have given her painful acid burps. Can't win. I will try again tomorrow but maybe only reduce by one.

The cat's peace and quiet is soon to be over as p noticed her properly for the first time today.

applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 18:15
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ChunkyChicken · 14/01/2013 18:20

Although I do agree with detective about the sickness issue apple, I also agree with you - lots of organisations are using the difficult economic climate and lack of jobs to make unreasonable expectations on their workforce, and sack those that don't comply. As unfair borderline illegal as that may be, we/H/Ps should be aware that failure to comply is irresponsible when we/H/Ps have a family to support.

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applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 18:22

I probably acted immaturely too but I think it's so irresponsible to risk your job when you have a family. If he loses his job we would probably lose our home too. We only rent but pay a premium for living in a nice area and housing benefit wouldn't cover the rent. We have no savings either so we would be fucked.

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NotSoNervous · 14/01/2013 18:23

I have Internet GrinGrinGrin ridiculous how much I missed this thread

Haven't had a chance to catch up because I've missed everything but I read something about this thread being a gang?? And some crazy poster?

rowwing my relationship with my MiL has changed and I'm quite sad about it, we use to get on really really well but not since LO, you would all be so shocked if I to,d you some of the stuff tat has been said to us but if I start ill need a separate thread to finish it Hmm

Hope everyone and there Los are okay

NotSoNervous · 14/01/2013 18:24

Oh and my DP doesn't even flinch in the night for feeds or anything but only if Lo is screaming which is never because she gets boob before she gets that far

applepieinthesky · 14/01/2013 18:25

Yes it is outrageous but they are well known for this kind of thing so I feel he shouldn't have allowed himself to be put in this situation.