January 2013 - New year arrivals welcomed into the world.

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As a few of us have popped early I thought I'd start us a post-natal thread.

We woke up to snow! Dcs not happy tho as school open, me not happy as ds1 had merit assembly so had to take ivy and hope she didn't make a fuss! Got there late as dd1 still hard to settle in reception no space for pram so had to get her out so all the other parents went awww! Then had to leave early as ivy desperate for food! In the hour we were there loads of snow had fallen so it was a struggle back up the hill

prickly I'm also still in mat clothes they're comfy and roomy for my poor broken fanjo

pascha I know it is hard to begin with but you will feel better and it does get easier to take both out places. You have only just had your baby and you need to give yourself time to heal and get used to 2. I found going from 1 to 2 hard as you have to learn to share your attention and juggle. Have you got any help other than mil?

Question: baby keeps rolling himself on his side while sleeping. Should I keep putting him on his back, or is this ok while he's being supervised?

Still wearing same clothes I wore when pregnant. Last time it took several months to get my figure back, it coincided with stopping breastfeeding actually.

Bad news on the mortgage front - the bank 'declined' our application. We'd been waiting since before Xmas to hear this news. However, the reason for the rejection turns out to be erroneous so we are going to appeal it. (It's a tiny thing like once being £200 overdrawn in the last 10 years. But when we examined it more close it wasn't even us, it was fraudulent.)

My maternity pjs are too big so in normal pjs now but still wearing maternity everything else! Although if my scales are to be believed, I'm at my pre-pregnancy weight after 7 days I don't think my belly would get in normal jeans etc though.

Mama, that's SO frustrating. Def appeal that.

We're getting our pram today or tomorrow - depends when hubby can can be bothered to pick it up... Dying to take Bailey out for a walk although he'll need to be mega well wrapped up! We've had some snow flurries this morning but we have sunshine just now. It's all going to hit us later today and over the weekend.

Charlie likes to lie slightly on side too. I think it's ok Preggo as if they puke it goes out to side too ( am paranoid about choking )

Hi all
I'm new here and my little one arrived on the 6th after suction and an episiotomy. Have an infection at the mo so am trying to do everything lying down which can be awkward! My husband is looking after us both and I'm dreading him going back to work. We moved last month and I have no family or friends nearby. I need to heal up and hit some baby groups! My mood seems to be fluctuating and I sometimes feel overwhelmed so it's good to type it all out!

Hi Mann, you take your time to heal. I had an EMCS 2 weeks ago and still feeling sore. I know what you mean about typing your experience out, its a good release. I did that with my birth story and became (even more) emotional but it really helped...

Hi Mannup

Is this your first? I remember being scared when ExDH went back to work and I was alone for the first time with DD but third time round I got no choice as no partner but I'm much more calm this time

Thanks hormonal. I also worry about choking :)

Hello Mannup! I also had suction and episiotomy on the 4th. Not the best start is it?!

Was in floods of tears earlier. My boiler broke down and flooded everywhere, and British gas came out but couldn't fix it as it needs new parts. The parts come from leicester so they can't guarantee they will be here tomorrow because of the snow, so we have no heating or hot water. The BG man gave me a little fan heater to keep us going. Then some kids threw a snowball at the front door and that wad the last straw! Feel better now tho. Times like this when being a single parent sucks, when you have to deal with everything yourself while all emotional x

Preggo the snow here in leicester is pretty shocking so dont get your hopes up. But god knows why its just here thatl have the bits for u. Ive git one of those portable gas heaters its lovely and lasts for ages u should look at getting one x

Thanks for the heads up Lora! The little fan heater is working quite well, so may well invest in one, as I presume BG will take this one back.

Have arranged to stay at my sisters if it doesn't get fixed tomorrow so at least I can have a shower! :)

Hello everyone, just popping in to say hello. Ds1 was born on the 16th and totally surprised me - I was convinced he was dd4! I can empathise with pretty much everything that has been said over the last couple of pages - my nipples are a mess and I think I probably need shields to give them a rest. I feel ok that our latch is now good but I am so sore. Hope everyone else is sleeping...

Hello lovely online friends and congrats Mannup and Sprihgflowers. LO here has diarrhoea so we took him to out of hours doc last night who said he is not dehydrated and just to keep a watching brief on him. Setting alarm for night feeds to ensure he takes enough liquid. No idea what has caused it as breastfed babies are not supposed to get it. Stressful! My emotions are all over the place at the moment, feel like I love LO so much I would do literally anything for him. Every small worry turns into thinking the very worst and worrying I am a bad mother as cannot keep him safe from all the germs, potential harm etc there is in the world. He is so tiny and fragile :-(

meringue I feel the same. LO has been up for the past four hours and I feel useless because I can't settle him. Also panic about keeping him safe and healthy. It feels overwhelming x

Thanks for the welcome! Good to know there are others out there at this time still trying to get their babies off to sleep like I am lol

I'm not sure that my little man has 'found himself' yet as we've not really had any bouts of crying and he is sleeping well between feeds. Those who are up with unsettled babies have my sympathy, it's really tough. Dd3 liked being held in the 'Tiger in the tree' position whilst being bounced on the birthing ball. It might be worth a try?

My biggest worry is currently blood in the baby's wee. The midwife didn't seem that bothered but I am. He is also pooing loads but not weeing that much which seems odd to me. Hopefully that will change now my milk is in. There is always something to worry about...

Oooooh Meringue I am exactly the same. I want to protect him against the world too. I almost burst into tears this morning because his little nose was freezing cold and I felt like I'd neglected him cos if had a couple of hours sleep

Supposed to be going out tonight but I really can't bear to be away from him that long....god I'm bad

Awww preggo I know exactly how you feel about having to do everything yourself worry as I'm single too. On the plus side I am the one making all decisions for my children and my baby seems pretty contented at the mo.....

Spring it wasnt blood so dont worry. Whenvrhey are just a few days old they have these urine crystals which look like blood. Did you not get this breastfeeding magazine off them? It explains in there and my MWvreassured me when i thought it was blood too.

I feel bad already he slept from 1 til 7 and didnt cry for food.. Should i have woke up and made him have some? My poorly engorged boob says yes but my rested head says no

Hi all,

Dd is now 8 days, she will only sleep on one of us at night time. Have tried swaddling, hot water bottle etc but none of it worked any tips? Shes happy in her basket during the day!

Welcome Tinkle

I wish I could give you some advice but since 2 week old DS2 also doesn't sleep lying down on his back at night either, all I can offer is sympathy. In fact I had a rather large meltdown at 3am resulting in me putting him in his crib and swanning off downstairs in my fluffy dressing gown fully prepared to spend the night on the sofa just to get away from the crying . I think 2 hours max sleep a night is taking its toll on me.

DH has taken DS1 off to tumble time this morning so I am rather decadently still in bed with tea and cereal and a happily lying down contented baby

Or the sleeping thing have you tried wrapping him in a blanket on you waiting a while then putting him down? My mum told me to put things that smell of me in with him too i guess to fool him into thinking hes with me.

I had the day from hell yesterday. On my own all day with both DDs. Baby cries if I put her in her cot in the day. Every single time baby cries, DD1 cries and has a tantrum. I tried getting DD1 asleep for her nap but baby was crying downstairs and I felt terrible. Went downstairs, DD1 then in floods of tears (normally she never cries so I feel terribly guilty). To cut a long story short, baby then pooed and sicked everywhere, DD1 woke early and was still very upset. I couldn't play with DD1 so she watched TV all day (felt terrible for that too) and we were all in tears at one point.

Someone please tell me it gets better

Birdies - it's bound to get better. Sorry it was so hard yesterday. Can you put dd2 in a sling while you do things with dd1? I used the sling for the first time yesterday and DS loved it. I have a Kari-Me and tied it so he was upright against my chest. He was very content and snoozed for ages. Dd1 will get used to life with a sister it will just take a little time. I am dreading dh going back to work, I hope by then I'm more sorted.

Thanks spring, I just feel so bad for DD1 as she's gone from having all my attention to hardly any, and I just love her to bits. And she's too little to understand so I can't even explain to her. Funny you mention that sling though as I was thinking the same and that one seems to get the best reviews. I think I will give it a go.