Dec 08 Mums - Onwards and bloody well upwards!

[Beans36]

How's this? Thought I'd just press on with it!

Rubes, that is a great conversation. DS1 keeps telling me I have a fat tummy.

DD has slept for the past 3 nights so I think asking you all for advice has solved the problem!

don't you just love children :)

Dd is mad about babies being in my tummy. She says she wasn't lonely when she was in my tummy because she had ds1 and ds2 to keep her company :)

RT I guess it depends on when they wee, if they do it before going to sleep or when they wake up because they know they have a nappy on but can't be arsed getting up then you can go cold turkey but if they wee while asleep then it is different. I expect my dd could be dry but with 2 flights of stairs between her and the bathroom I'm waiting to see if she gets to the point she wants to do it herself! Ds1 used ot be sopping, we had to buy expensive pampers and lift him when we went to bed otherwise he owuld leak. He would wee while asleep and jsut not wake up. He tried going without at one point a few months before he actually cracked it and he just wet the bed but didn't wake up so we'd find him all cold and wet in the morning.

Top tooth 2 nearly all the way through. Goodness but I need sleep. I saw bits and bobs of every bloody hour last night except 4am.

Good morning ladies I have a house full of boys and am sat with my coffee watching them demolish my house. Gotta love boys.

Ds1 wore very absorbent pull ups until he was 4.5 years. Ds2 never used pull ups but he started wetting couple of times a week when he was around 3 so we just get them both to do a wee in a little potty insert pot thing we have by their bed. Ds1 doesn't really need to anymore but dS2 always wees loads. Occasionally when he is really tired dS2 wets at around 6am otherwise he just does a wee as soon as he wakes up. I think with both it was just deep sleep. I had the same until I was about 7-8 I think. I have heard of people having success with star charts. I just know it didn't help me, & I assume it's hereditary. I think it helps that I know it stops eventually. I have a friend who is quite stressed by it and is trying everything. I think it bothers DH a bit too.

Rubes you made me laugh out loud at your comment on FB this morning. That is exactly what I was thinking. Bloody run app. My little running partners where a bit tired and after I managed to push themselves to run out of their skin on Sunday I couldn't scrape much more than a jog this morning. Although I was happy, that same run they used to do as a slow run in 35mins, so I figure if they are now doing their slow run day at 31 then I'll let them off. I'm going to make them do a fast 6km on Friday and tomorrow we are doing a strength session.

I went for a run this morning! Only 4.2k, but it's a start after about 10 weeks off! I've lost half a stone since Dad died, which is miserable. I'd rather do it because I'm trying than because I'm feeling blue.

Dog is finally growing on me! Hurray! Although I did get cross with her when she shat in the kitchen this morning, but then I took her for a lovely walk. That's why we have dogs, isn't it? Really enjoyed the walk, it was so nice and refreshing. So nice to be just her and me. Think the girls will enjoy it too when we all go together. Especially as, because she's a labrador and can have dodgy hips, I'm only allowed to take her for 5 mins per month of her life til she's 8 month, so it's not too far for them at the moment! Although I naughtily did 20mins this morning, because it was so lovely.

DD1 was dry at night fairly early, but I kept her in nappies for ages, just to be on the safe side. And I lifted her before I went to bed. Then after a few months, and realising how distressed she was getting when I lifted her and she was rarely weeing, I stopped that. But DD2 wees massively at night. But I guess she is only 2 and 4 months, so not surprising really! She's also taken to wetting herself again. That'll teach me for being so smug about her potty training in a day! She is now pissing with impunity! Someone said I should write a book called that!

Finding today quite tough re Dad. Keep weeping, which is only to be expected, really, I suppose. I just am missing him.

Went to the shops to get an outfit for his Service of Thanksgiving yesterday. John Lewis is great, isn't it? Dad always thought we dressed a bit cheaply (erm, Tesco my favourite shop), so I spent a bit of cash on this dress and this jazzy scarf to make it a bit brighter, with earrings this colour but a bit danglier... Really pleased with it all. Now keen to get some smart knee high boots, but they were £150 and I balked at the price! (Having spent a ficking fortune already!)

Am I a bit boring????

Oh and I bought this top which is lovely, but am going to cut off the bow thing at the back and wear it back to front sometimes as it's nice both ways round!

Spendathon!

Vaggie, you do know I'm just joking I hope! Tis brilliant. I need to get off my lazy arse and pick up the walking pace a bit. I've just been ambling if going at all, and on hols I gained 3 kg so not happy.

Beans I'm so glad you are coming round to the little pup. True about the pups hips, so true. Careful on stairs and (I don't think you do) but careful on wooden floors until the hips are developed.
I absolutely love that dress! It will be perfect. And really like the top too - I eyed it off the other day.
Understandable to have good and bad days. Time is the only thing they say isn't it, and it's so true x

I meant I don't think you do have wooden floors! Sounds like I said I don't think you are careful!

Thanks for the reassurance re night time nappies. Mum was going on about it the other day, and so I felt like I should be training him at night! Will definatly leave it for a good while.

Beans sorry your having a down day but its very early days and to be expected. The dress & top are lovely btw.

Good shopping beans! Good days and bad days are to be expected.

The thing with dogs is unless you have had one, they seem like far too much work. I had them growing up and it is hard to explain to someone who hasn't had a dog (dh!) how great they are! I can't articulate why I'd love a dog but when I think of our old dog I just yearn for one.

Re bedwetting. It depends on the child and when they are wetting. RT I know lots of girls who were wetting well into primary school.

Dummy fairy update. L is now sucking her thumb! It feels like a huge mistake taking the dummy away as we could limit it. She is sucking her thumb ALL the time.

Haha, some kids are just suckers! I have 3 thumb suckers so I see a life of orthodentics ahead of us. Ds2 oddly sucks his thumb quite a lot in the day but won't suck it to settle at night. Perverse child. Leaving the bedtime teddy in bed and keeping busy has helped us to limit daytime sucking for the big ones together with reminders that they only need to suck when in bed. Seems to work a bit but as wiht everything they are all different. I was at high school with a girl who still sucked her thumb, she'd do it in lessons and everything!

Beans that is some good shopping, lovely clothes. Your dad of course is probably rolling his eyes at you form somewhere going "Oh NOW she treats herself to some nice clothes!". Buy the boots. I bet the boots are fab. There will be many ups and downs ahead, never feel as though you can't come on here and let off some steam or just cry.

Ds1 fine at school today thank goodness. Harvest Festival assembly tomorrow. I get to go an be Catholiced while I watch my pfb be a mousling .

DD is a thumb sucker. I don't really care too much at the minute as it keeps her happy and she can settle herself if she sucks her thumb.

Beans the clothes are lovely. I agree with Indith, buy the boots!! We had to do the 5 minutes per month thing too with Gresley. Or the vet said you could do 1 minute per week of their life.

Agree hons - I grew up with having 3 dogs (large property) and I really was desperate for one after getting married (as I could have someone home with it when I was away with work ) The kids just love her, and she's a good safety companion out walking especially when it gets dark so early!

Beans, have you got a link to the boots? I love tall boots and want another pair this Winter but have 2 still in good nick so finding it hard to justify another, but I did see a lovely pair the other day.

Nice beans. Link to the boots please. I am boots obsessed have far to many pairs.

I have decided I really dont like anyone elses children. [hshock] DS1 has a friend round for tea and I have taken a total dislike to him he is just irritating me for no real reason. Does anyone else ever feel like that or should I go beat myself up for being so horrible?

It looks like our trip to NY next wk for the marathon is turning onto a very social few days. Already meeting up with my BFF who lives there, cant wait. My DSIS her of the posho wedding is also going to be there, plus a couple of other really good friends and just found out another good friend is also there at the same time. Cocktails!!!

Oh and with the bedwetting DS1 at 3ish took off his nappy had one accident and been dry ever since he is like a camel. DS2 refuses to wear anything at night we have even tried sneaking a nappy on him while asleep and he goes bonkers. He can go for a wk or so dry no problem then does a wk of soaking wet nights or sometimes wakes 2 or 3 times.

Oh and yay these are back [hgrin] [hgrin] [hgrin]

Jam, I luuurrrrvvv NY, have many pals there and am tres jalous of your trip. Have a fab time.

DD1's had a vom bug (she seems ok now if a bit shivery) and I am bustling about cos I am off to Trieste in NW Italy on Fri and then going straight to my Mum's on Sunday night when I get back - am taking the girls for a few days as it's half term here from Fri.

Rubes, that convo was quite something for early in the morning

I am going to look at the stuff you bought in a mo, Beans. And let's have a look at the boots as well.

Oh blow, have to do the girls some supper but will be back later as DP is away and there's no one to complain I am being antisocial

DS bit someone at pre school . Apparently he is getting 'a reputation'. How bad is that, my boy is going to be the one who never gets invited to parties/playdates etc

Jam you are right not to like other peoples kids. You wouldn't like mine. Right now I don't like him much either.

DB I am sure I would love him he sounds like he has loads of character.

I do think its very unprofessional of your nursery to tell you he is getting a reputation. There has to be a reason as to why this is happening at nursery. What is their action plan? How do they deal with his behaviour? Is there a trigger point?

In the meantime have a mahoosive

these are the boots I think. V plain.

DB, that sounds rubbish of nursery to say that. Please don't be blue and remember it is just a phase. A horrid one, but a phase nonetheless and one day you WILL look back and laugh. Not yet, but when he's older. I'm sorry for you, must be so horrid, but you know he's a lovely little boy. Did nursery tell you how they deal with it? Perhaps you could come up with an action plan with them?

Have a large and take a deep breath. X

PS I can't quite be arsed to clear up the house... So much to do and zero energy.

Am pretty much a single mother at moment and am TIRED!

Someone had something he wanted, tussle followed, DS couldn't get his own way so bit her on the hand. She let go.

They have a problem with DS needing his own space and they say children have to ask DS if they can play with him. Thing is DS & DD always argue about this at home. So I tell them to respect each others space and ask to join each others game. Mainly because DS steams in like a bull in a China shop and ruins her game. DS thinks this rule should carry over to school, it doesn't and he gets pissed at the other kids.

They want him observed by the 'inclusion officer', to see what she recommends....

I'm right royally fucked off with it all.

But by God I love these DRIBBLE

Sorry for swearing...it'll pass...either that or I'll become an alcoholic.

Oh DB that is tough. Do you think the review would help? But wtf is an inclusion officer??

Beans both are lovely! Buy them, you deserve it.

Who the feck knows!! I think she will tell them how DS can include himself in pre school without feeling the urge to eat someone or pummel their head.

Maybe they're not feeding him enough??? Seriously, though,it must be hard, but it sounds ridiculous, but thank goodness there is a reason for it, IYSWIM?

A friend of mine's little boy goes round thumping, biting and pulling other children's hair for absolutely no reason and has taken to spitting too. He is only 2, but she is at her wit's end and it seems to be every single child he meets that he does it to. Makes her life hellish. Her DH thinks it's hilarious, which doesn't help.

DB, on another note, I meant to ask, how are you and DH doing now he's moved on fro. Grieving for his Mum? I haven't yet been a total bitch to DH, but feel I may be at some point.

Would love to get both those boots, but spondulix sadly lacking... Have spanked it all on other stuff and am at overdraft limit! Bugger!