Dec 08 Mums - Onwards and bloody well upwards!

[Beans36]

How's this? Thought I'd just press on with it!

Fab RT

Where is everyone?

Absolutely not here that's where I am. What sort of mother would stick her kids in front of a dvd and sit on fb and mn when her house is an absolute shit tip? Not me oh no. That's why I am absolutely not here. I am a figment of your imagination.

I'm here ish. DH is in Singapore. Just for a week but of course DD was up 4 times last night.

I'm here! Hello all!

Sorry for radio silence, just been taking stock for a bit.

RT - great news! So pleased.

So, the funeral was amazing. Sounds odd, but it was great. 2 hilarious eulogies, both applauded at the end! I wept throughout pretty much the whole service. There were 480 people there, standing room only and we brought the local town to a standstill. It was beautiful and I am so so proud of my fantastic Dad. Just the singing showed how much he was loved.

Fantastic party afterwards and plenty of wine and chatting. It was just lovely and am so glad it went so well and so many people loved him that much. I miss miss miss him, every day. And apparently post-funeral is a really tough time. I am indeed finding that. But feel like he was well and truly celebrated, and that's what we wanted. Still can't believe he's gone. Ho hum. No crying today!

Have just taken the dog for a walk and feeling good. I'm also due an upgrade, so have ditched the iPhone choice and gone for a Samsung Galaxy 3 - was that sensible??? Damn sight cheaper and just as good, I'm sure.

DH and I had a night off on Saturday as his parents had the girls for the night. We went out for dinner and to a friend's engagement drinks in town. Was lovely. And we woke up at 10am on Sunday morning! Bloody brilliant! Much needed. Both of us pretty exhausted by grief and DD2's new terror of monsters in the middle of the night, which wakes us up 2-5 times a night. YAWN! Feel we may have to go back to ignoring her again as she seems to want to be in bed with us, which I cannot have as it means I don't sleep a wink. Not a co-sleeper, I'm afraid. She's like a wriggling snake. Tried it once. Never again!

Bleat bleat, me me me! Sorry!

How is everyone? x

Beans that sounds like a wonderful funeral and celebration. So glad that you and dh have had some time together and some sleep.

Sorry dd is having trouble at night. Is it nightmares or terrors? I may be trying to teach you to suck eggs but have you tried things like hunting around her room for monsters with her before bed so checking the cupboards, behind the curtains etc so she know there are none there? Or a big new teddy to stand guard at the end of her bed and keep her safe? Or a dream catcher? Sympathies.

The baby must have heard my threats to hand him over to dh and get his sleep sorted after his teeth were through. I think the teeth are pretty much through but he is full of snot and doing big horrible coughs that make him scream But hey I cleaned the bathroom this morning! domestic goddess I aint.

Marking my place to catch up properly later.

Beans Sounds like you had a wonderful celebration of your dad's life.

Oh and don't forget to sign up for the secret Santa:

Email name/mn name
Address
Any gift preferences to...
ItsChristm as dec ember 08@ g mail. com Without the spaces!
By the 1st December!

Mr Hons will be drawing names out of a hat and emailing everyone their recipient on the 2nd Dec.

Beans, I am so happy it went so brilliantly.

I am here, just about! MIL and her DH were her from Thurs until about 5 mins ago. And I was at big wedding on Sat, at which I consumed about 7 buckets of Laurent Perrier. I am still slightly hungover even now

More when I feel a bit more on top of things! And Hons, I MUST email your DH.

Beans glad to hear it was a brilliant day filled with happy memories of your Dad.

Hons I must go email about ss.

There just are not enough hrs in the day at the moment and its about to get worse. DSIS flies in this weekend so let the wedding shenanigans begin.

Oh and WG and Lady were you at the wedding I think you were at? Last Fri lovely funny person?

Wotcha Turnip (and some people have changed their names ) it is very lovely to see you. Come to the London meet up, yer skiver (don't know when it is yet, haven't checked!) Sorry about the anniversary, how they suck. Remembering your Mum, aka Nanny Anne. Be kind to yourself please.

And Jam - yes, it was Sat. Two lovely funny people! It was a total blast and I know most weddings are happy but this one was especially so, the bridge and groom virtually had a Ready Brek glow all day. The speeches were all extremely funny and we were all dancing until 1.45. But as I say, yesterday's hangover was eeeeeeeevil.

The BRIDGE and Groom? Ahh heck, you know what I mean. Even my fingers are still hungover.

Hey Turnip!! Lovely to 'see' you. Sorry about the anniversary.

Beans, that sounds like a lovely send off for your Dad.

I've emailed about SS Hons.

We had an awful night last night. DD was up 4 times and both boys at least once. Feel like I could sleep for a week.

Hi Turnip!

Secret santa email done.

Indith - you are a bloody genius! I just have zero imagination, I never would have thought of that. DD2 clearly fading earlier, despite only having occasional daytime naps. We went on a monster hunt in her bedroom (jebroom as she calls it!) and when we found none, she happily hopped into bed for a lovely snooze. Well done you! Thank you!

Turnip - how lovely to see you! What's the news? Gosh, tough time for you at the moment. Sad anniversaries aren't good. My poor SIL shares her birthday with her older sister who died. V sad.

Have just made delicious biscuits. I can very much recommend these. (Made is a loose term, by the way! deeeeelicious - properly like you've made them yourself. And if you under-do them a bit, they're squishy in the middle. Yes please!

xx

PS Where is Vag? A whole page with no her!

Oh beans that sounds like such a wonderful celebration of your Dad's life. Post funeral is very tough, so please look after yourself still.

turnip Hello!! Fab to 'see' you again. Sorry about the anniversary. DS is 4 on Saturday and it will be a year to the day my Nan died in Lanzarote. Horrible to remember good and bad things on the same day.

Kayz Bummer about the bad night. Hope tonight is better for you.

I have finally met my fist 'MN'er' in person!! Yes an actual person and the honor went to spot and her beautiful boys! Even DS managed to play so well with T! There is hope for him yet it would seem . But it was rather lovely to meet someone after almost 5 years

Turnip!!!! How lovely to hear from you. We are trying (and so far I think we may be failing) to arrange a London meet. Please come! Thinking of you over the next couple of weeks around the anniversary of your mother's passing.

Beans - I'm so pleased that the memorial went so well and you had such an amazing turn out. I met your dad would have been pretty pleased. And look at you being such a domestic goddess with the baking. How is DD2's clingyness?

Lady - that sounds like a great wedding. How was WG? Did you have a good catch-up? And can you amuse us with any stories courtesy of the dreaded MiL?

Kayz - sorry your nights are bad. Why has your DH had to go to Singapore for only a week? At least he'll be home for Christmas.

Deids - how lively to have a meet-up at last. And gold star to Deids boy for rising to the occasion and being on best behaviour.

I'm only 14 weeks and my bump has popped. I look proper pregnant. I didn't look like this before about 20 weeks with the DDs. I've pit on a WHOLE STONE too. Yeuch. Had a good weekend though, went to Suffolk with friends and managed to stay positive throughout.

RT, 14 weeks?? Blimey that's gone really quickly. At least it has for me.
DH is doing a course. It's quite good really as it means he could get promoted quicker.

I'm going to try and feed DD lots today. She feeds for anything up to an hour everytime she wakes up. So I think she's hungry rather than needing comfort. In the middle of the night I thought about switching to formula so DH could feed her but there are 2 problems. 1. She refuses formula and 2. He's not here, so I'd still be feeding her.

She doesn't feed too much during the day as she tends to stop and look around. Especially when the boys are at home.

Sounds like she's reverse cycling Kayz (too distracted ot feed in the day so makes up for it at night). Trying to feed her lots in the days sounds like a good plan. Like anything it will pass, this is a tough age for bf it really is but you are doing a great job.

Hello Turnip! Great to see you.

Beans thanks for the ego boost! Hope it works at night too!

RT I think 3rd ones are sent to destroy any tummy muscles we might have remaining .

Everything else is much more interesting. The boys, DH, the dog, the tv etc. I have given up reading my kindle whilst feeding as she just tries to grab it.

DD2 has the flu. That explains a lot. 39.3 this afternoon, but it's come down. I feel really bad as palmed her off on the childminder this morning as she was a bit hot, but fairly perky. Went and got my hair coloured, then had to collect her as her temp had gone right up! Explains a lot, though. My hair looks great, though. Barely any grey left - hurrah!

Kayz - that sounds good - feed her up in waking hours and hope it keeps her going for the night!

RT - how lovely, though, for people to know you're up the duff so early on! Am a bit jealous!

PS Indith - the monster search worked last night too - you are definitely a genius! I have zero imagination!

kayz I hope the extra feeding works for you.

RT I bet you still look lovely even with your 'popped' out bump. When I had DD I was still in size 12 clothes at 28 weeks. With DS I was in maternity clothes by 12 weeks!

So today DS was 'observed' by the Inclusion Officer. Actually, I do feel a bit better about everything but I am still very about some things. In a nutshell, DS is a lovely little boy, very good at lots of things, and is exactly where they would expect him to be at this stage EXCEPT for his temper and reluctance to share. They said he a small group of friends who he plays well with but if they aren't there or someone different wants to join in then DS is not amused and will physically (ie a shove most of the time) get the other child out of the way or get his own way. They are going to spend more one-to-one time with DS helping him express his emotions, anger, frustration etc. Talking about said feelings and hopefully before he starts school help him to get past those feelings. They were keen to point out the positives and said that DS may well be one of those people who only wants a small group of friends but that he has to learn to tolerate everyone. Which is fair enough. I'm just not convinced how easy it is going to be getting a stubborn '4' (I can say that now as he is on Saturday) year old boy to discuss his thoughts/feelings!

I am also getting a book that DS will bring home each day so that rather than them having to tell me his daily misdemeanors I get it written down. If he has had a good day I will simply get a smiley face in the book, which I can then show DS and praise him. Because DS tells me every time he has been good, and I find myself grilling him for the truth which is very unfair on him.

So we will see how he gets on. I feel like I've had so many negatives thrown at me about my boy I have been finding it really hard to see his positives. So it was rather lovely to hear some for a change.