Dec 08 Mums - Onwards and bloody well upwards!

[Beans36]

How's this? Thought I'd just press on with it!

I would have done MofC today sounds great and they have a lovely cafe,plus free entry to somewhere is always appealing. But I already have the boys booked into a halloween crafting thing.

Oh I love the Museum of Childhood, not only did DS1 & I spend many happy hours there, but when I first moved to the UK I lived just down the road at the old Q.E.2 hospital for kids. It does have a lovely cafe.

Indith sorry about your little one, I was going to say try getting dioralyte in with a little syringe but a visit to the A&E is never a bad idea when there is the risk of dehydration in kids.

Ds1 has had a loose tooth for ages, so long that the new tooth was starting to pop up behind it. It was his first loose tooth and he was very nervous of it falling out as he thought it would hurt. He has gone to sleep every night laying on his side with his mouth open. Anyway it finally fell out last night when he was brushing his teeth. Bless him he is chuffed to bits. He has insisted on taking it to school in a jar to parade about and then will put it under his pillow tonight.

Spot, if you really think it will make a difference to DH, then go for it. I think London can be a most fantastic place to live. Certainly, I loved Streatham. Admittedly, having moved out, I do love being out, but when I was there, everything was so convenient and there was so much to do for kids and easy to make friends etc. although commute from here only 30mins on train, which works well too.

Chilli all better now and on great form. Actually surprised to find I'm glad she's back!

Have to walk her now, but back later.

Half term not a joy so far. Mostly because we're up so sodding early!

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I just bought these! My trusty old gorgeous boots have bust finally. Sob.

Where've you all gone?
Been up since 3am. Nothing to do with the children this time. Had a terrible nightmare about Dad and when I woke up it was true. Shit. Didn't go back to sleep! Wish it wasn't half term!

And my sister I'm closest to isn't talking to me for some reason. Yawn.

I'm feeling my age at the moment. Body falling apart!

Have I broken the thread???

You haven't broken the thread Beans. Sorry to hear of your dream and your sister. Have you asked her what's wrong? The dreams are horrible, but eventually you start dreaming about spending time with the man you knew and loved and then they are a gift.

I had a very odd and hard day yesterday. I'm having this very new form of prenatal testing at the Fetal Medicine Centre and yesterday I went for a blood test. Do you remember I told you my oldest, closest, luckiest friend was due the same day as me? Well on Sun night she called to celebrate us both hitting the 11 week Mark and I told her of the test and my secret hope they might scan me to. She was v excited that I might see the baby. So yesterday I get to the Centre and sure enough they wanted to scan me. I was nervous as hadn't seen baby since 7 weeks and DH not with me but thankfully the scan was lovely: baby doing gymnastics etc. Icon out of the room feeling excited and jubilant for the first time this pregnancy and immediatly texted my friend all about what I'd seen. Two mins later she replied to say she'd had been rushed to hospital that morning and her baby was dead and she needed surgery. I'm devastated for her and obviously felt awful about my text. I'm v conscious I will now be a constant reminder to her of what could have been and I want to do everything to minimise that hurt without causing awkwardsness etc. Normally we talk about everything and I have no idea how to handle this going forward. I just want to help her. I also have a strong feeling of "there but by the grace of God go I".

Prey, that should have said "loveliest" friend, not luckiest. Luckiest is sadly not true at the moment.

Argh, that shld be sorry not prey, I better sign off now!

I'm here Beans sorry would have been on earlier but was tidying this tip of a house and trying to find out what has happened overnight in the US. Seriously, what happened to news being just about reporting the news. CNN is so crap in 15 minutes they had 3 mins of vague reporting on the storm mostly talking about whether a board walk got too much dune sand on it & saying Super storm Sandy a lot, & dramatically. The rest was ads.

So I've given up now, poor you Beans that is so sad. You know lucky we have the anniversary of our lovely little bundles births to look forward to, because otherwise this time of year is a bit crap for this thread. Poor Lady has a sad week or two ahead of her.

Oh god RT that is just horrid, so so so unfair. There is a little person that will never get to be. Your poor friend. I think those who have experienced this would no better but maybe just let her know you want to be there for her when she needs you. She needs some time. Does she other kids? Could you offer to take them to give her a break, or drop a casserole/lasagne/some meal over to give her & hubby some sustenance.

Oh RT, that's so sad. Please please don't worry about you being a reminder. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks before DD1 and my friend told me she was pregnant just a few days later. We would have been due the same time. And I bore no resentment at all, I was very happy for her, although still sad for me. But I felt she was very lucky and I was a bit jealous, but not in a cross way.

I'm glad your scan was lovely - how many weeks are you now? And you're not to spend your pregnancy feeling guilty. Please. Dont' worry about the text, it's a normal one to send. Just call her and tell her you love her and ask if there's anything you can do to help.

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RT how sad. But please don't fret. I had a miscarriage in between my two and my DSIS was also preg we were due within a wk of each other. And although I was sad I was very happy for my sister.

Beans hugs to you lovey.

This hurricane is a nightmare my best friend and her DHs bar has been badly flooded in NJ. Also no idea what's happening with our flights on Thurs. according to the marathon website it's all still going ahead.

Oh RT that's so sad for your friend. Please don't worry about the text. Give her a ring and see if there is anything you can do.

RT My friend had a miscarriage when I was pregnant with dd1. I cried buckets for her and also selfishly because we couldn't share being pregnant together anymore. She was brilliant and never made it difficult even though I know it was painful for her.

Take your friend a meal or cake (maybe both) and just be guided by her.

Hello beans, glad your pup is better. I used to have awful dreams about my brother after he died but like RT said, dreams I have about him now are really nice.

Beans: take it easy on yourself. You are getting through the days and enjoying your girls, and frankly that sounds like a massive achievement to me.

RT: so sorry to hear about your friend . I can't see that you have been insensitive - quite the opposite. I'm sure she trusts you to be careful and considerate with her, otherwise you wouldn't have been friends for so long.

Sorry for your friend RT but as others have said, don't feel guilty for sending that text. How on earth were you to know. It's a normal text to send. If she's a good friend she will be happy for you & just need time for herself. I'd play it by ear.
Congrats to you on your scan though, even if its off the back of some very sad news.
Have been to Costco to stock up. But was rushed as we were sorting out a big plumbing disaster then ran out of time so dh had to leave to collect kids. We were both rushing around Very tired and inadvertently bought 32 kitchen rolls instead of 12 kitchen rolls and 24 toilet rolls we are fully covered for spillages in this house.
It seems I'm falling apart. I have an injured knee cap and something wrong with my Achilles which apparently means I need to build up one of the muscles above my knee which is very week and do stretches and exercise but not running ( no worries there lol) as this will make ir worse. And possibly not drive in heels.
Am getting old.
Beans sorry bout your nightmare. Heard this is normal after your recent times.
I've been talked into soft play today. Am dreading it to be fair. Will be a shambles in half term.

Oh Rubes, I feel your pain. I, too, am falling apart! Can sometimes feel my wattle bit under my chin wobbling a bit. How rank!

So, dog has grown on me, which is great! She's basically very sweet, and can't help her bladder, but she's getting better. I caught her in squat position for a poo this morning and whisked her ourside! She did her business outside, thankfully!

Just baking a lemon drizzle cake. Yum. Seriously, it's not even 9.30. Cursing those clocks going back. I took a load of night nurse last night and had best night's sleep in weeks. I have actually got a horrible cold, so don't feel that I'm doing it gratuitously!! Although I would have taken it anyway!

DH off to see his sister's new baby on Friday. She had a little girl called Molly on 12th. V sweet. She's coming down to see her parents next weekend, so I'll meet her then. Brilliant!

Taking girls to see Madagascar 3 tomorrow with MIL. Looking forward to it. Just need to find someone to feed the dog as its over lunchtime!

Look at me! No mention of Dad in nearly whole post!!
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Rubes, I am also falling apart. My right knee is killing me, it's a family problem as my granddad had bad knees and myMum and both my uncles have dodgy knees. I have a dr appt tomorrow to see if they can do something.

Also getting my hair cut and coloured for the first time in almost 7 months. Just before I got married was the last time.

We're trying to get DD to nap in her cot. I'm ignoring little grumbles but going up for proper cries.

And there she goes again

Hello!

Yes, so long time no see. I don't think I've posted since last time I met up with LadyT which was probably April or something - purely coincidence Lady - it was fab to see you as always! Anyway, shocking behaviour I know. I just don't seem to get on the PC as much as I used to. I've got a smartphone and tablet now which sort of do me for internet use but are absolute cack for MN, even for just lurking. Nice to see I've been missed though (thanks Rubes - missed you too!)

Anyway am off work this week (hurrah!) so have put aside some time to catch up with you all. I missed you!

Kayz congrats on the birth of DD! (yes it's that long since I posted)

Beans so sorry to hear about your Dad - it sounds as if he will be much missed. He was lucky to have such a caring family, and you are lucky to have lots of fond memories to look back on. It's funny you mention dreaming about your dad - you might remember mine died last year and I sort of expected to start dreaming about him a lot but in fact I rarely do. When I do though it's funny and quite comforting how the image of how he was before he died is wiped out to be replaced by how he really was (unfortunately not very nice sometimes in my dad's case).

RT congrats on your brilliant news too. How exciting. I can't remember if you found out if the sex last time. Are you going to this time around? And I hope that your friend's terribly sad news doesn't take the shine off your enjoyment.

There was loads more to say (not least did you try an ice cream sandwich in Trieste lady?). spot also wanted to send sympathy for your predicament - would love to chat to you about it though but running out of time now.

Did I see talk of a meet-up? Can someone post a link or the date? Would be fab to see some of you again - really enjoyed the last one I went to. Vag are you coming over any time soon?

Oh bumholes DP's family have just arrived - we are trick or treating with his cousin & some of DS's friends. Anyone else trick or treating this evening? I'm really looking forward to it but still have a broomstick to make.

Everyone else I missed - HELLO!

Will try & get back on soon ...x

My phone battery is about to die so just saying Hoi! To PD, lovely to see you, we've just had young Effie pop back in so it's nice to see you young PD. We have just gotten back from trick or treating too and I loved it too. I think it's a brilliant American cultural import. They love it over here.

Hello all! Just popping in, must catch up properly. How are you doing Beans? Have been thinking of you lots.

Life slightly hectic at mo with full time working, DH with a broken ankle therefore can't do any of the boring mundane stuff like washing, laundry*, running upstairs to get DD2's nappy changed etc. So I am knackered.

• Not that he knows how to do this anyway, mind.

Can you get a nappy changing zone downstairs, Kiwi? We did with DD2 and it made a WORLD of difference... Especially as DD1 was still in nappies when DD2 arrived.

Someone immensely kind has nominated me for MN Christmas list thing. If it was any of you, I want to say a big old thank you! Very kind indeed.

Are we secret santa-ing this year? I hope so! I'd offer to be the one whose DH matched everyone up, but given I rarely see him, I suspect it won't be him! He is working so much!

Although, having said that, he came home early last night to come with me to the village playfields to take the girls to Halloween do. It was absolutely lovely and DD1 WON the fancy dress competition! All thanks to my wonderful facepainting, I'm sure. She's convinced she won because she was holding her hat on properly. Very sweet.

I think I probably won the prize for the worst parenting skills... I let both DDs have a sparkler and DD2 picked it up by the hot end after it had gone out!!!!! Cue much screaming, cured by a packet of mini-Haribo. There is a small blister, but it could have been so much worse. So, be warned, however advanced your 2 year old may seem be, sparklers are still dangerous!!!

And today we've been to see Madagascar 3 with MIL, then out to Pizza Express for lunch. Brilliant. Lovely babysitter came and looked after Chilli for us so we could go out from 9.30-2.30. Heaven. And now I can relax a bit while the girls play on my iPad. Izz took it upon herself to paint Pru's face, as I left the facepaints out. Rather sweet really. A massive stack of logs arrived this morning and I started moving them round to DH's home constructed rubbish log shelter, but rather lost the will to live and figure he can do most of it as it's man work.

Am I a rubbish wife? I did two loads, but DD1 started bawling because she didn't know where I was, so I leapt on the excuse had to give up!

PS Kiwi, meant to ask how you're finding full time work?

Wasn't me, what is the Christmas list? Whatever it is you deserve it Beans. And log movement is definitely a man's job.

Surely log movement is Beans' forte?