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FEB 2010 Two and a half to three...the "contrary age" (no it isn't! yes it is!)

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 26/09/2012 14:47

Come in, sit down, fresh coffee is brewing, Prosecco's in the fridge for later and there's a bumper box of Lindt chocolates for all....

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SurvivalOfTheUnfittest · 14/12/2012 22:36

Thank you both. I also look forward to the short evenings on my own when DH goes ou till 11ish. TV remote control to myself - bliss! I'm trying to work out why the rest of it bothers me so much.

I like the idea of the mindfulness stuff BC. I think I'd have torn a strip off DH if he'd done that. Is it a book you can recommend? God knows, I need to do something. I realised this week that a lot of my reactions can be based on how my mum used to react and I want to interrupt that. I think I need to go to bed now...

Climbingpenguin · 15/12/2012 08:52

poor little thing bg

hope she starts to perk up soon. NHS site says ibuprofen is fine. Paracetamol does nothing for temperatures in this house either.

yep meant to say advice is until crusted over, but the 5 days is starting to be spouted in a few sources. I think they are % of infectious they are at that point compared to the first 5 day... However I wouldn't take them to playgroups at that stage but if you needed to put her in the buggy with covers I'd feel a little easier.

We are home, still need to get some writing done today, but tomorrow should be re-reading drafts and checking through stuff.

SconesForTea · 15/12/2012 08:59

BG how was the night, how is DD2 today? And survival, did the dreaded sickness strike?

I shout Sad I know I shout far too much and it is always due to tiredness and so short fuse. I must admit I haven't made much of an effort to stop. It just seems to happen when I'm knackered and DD1 just knows, and acts up.

As for DH going out, I usually relish the evening to myself, so long as he has done bedtime. It is very rare that either of us leaves the other to do bedtime alone and I have felt very guilty on the few occasions I have (I have a 3 night solo trip away next summer which I am already dreading as I will feel so guilty the whole time). I don't give a monkey's what time he gets back, sdo long as he DOESN'T WAKE ME UP. Ad he is very good at not acting hungover the next day, whereas I am dreadful

Enjoy your night out bc, it's been a long time coming, right? Does DD take a bottle? My DD2 is still very mummy-oriented, much more so than her sister was at that age. But she does cope without me when mum or DH puts her to bed, although I'll admit she doesn't like it one bit. Either I sacrifice myself on the altar of motherhood and don't go out at all until I finish BF or I leave her occasionally and she does cry. At least I'm not there to hear it!

I would have been furious with my DH over the visa. I'd have torn strips off him. Very Zen of you and yes, in the end, was it worth a row? Maybe I should read your book. (Buy when do you find time to read?!)

SconesForTea · 15/12/2012 09:02

Good to hear from you SR. How's things?

CP good luck with the writing. Hope DH takes DCs out and away so you have peace.

IC hope you had a better night. Our house feels freezing at night, really freezing, but their thermometer says down to 17. Can it be wrong??? I have pjs, thick robe, bedsocks...

LeMousquetaireAnonyme · 15/12/2012 09:16

BG just checking in. How is DD2 this morning?
I would advise to leave her pant less during the day (long T-shirts, loose dress) and nappyless at night with disposable changing mat under her like they do in hospital?
IME when you have confluent spots it is not itchy at all, just really painful, keep her dose up until it eases.
Hope she gets better soon.

The crusting over makes a lot more sense though! DB was dried over in 3 days, after 10 days I hadn't even started to stop having spots, I was crusted past 3 weeks (then it took me one more week to have to courage to go outside but I was 25 Blush).

scones 17 is cold when not moving.

Climbingpenguin · 15/12/2012 09:44

DH doesn't do nights out. I have had a few but like to get in by 12 as DS had been having a feed around 11. This is starting to phase out, but generally I get the bus so would have to leave around this time anyway.

at 18 i have thick jumper and socks on while up, but not in bed (I run hot though and DH feels cold)

thanks scones I should get 4 hours today and 6 tomorrow.

Climbingpenguin · 15/12/2012 09:50

he does go to the cinema but leaves after at least one of the children are in bed. I often go out earlish for tutoring or climbing, but make sure at least dinner is done.

BabyGiraffes · 15/12/2012 12:02

Dd2 had a predictable night . Put her in an oat bath where she stopped screaming, and I went to Boots to check out the stuff you all mentioned. Bought PoxClin which is good for large area. Dd2 wasn't keen but realised quickly it worked and came back to me to have more on her bottom Smile. She's completely covered in spots except her legs. Just to keep things interesting I now also have a temperature and have put myself to bed for a few minutes after feeling faint. Dh is fab and is distracting the girls with anything he can find in YouTube.. Last Christmas anyone Xmas Grin

BabyGiraffes · 15/12/2012 12:11

They've moved on to Abba!!?? Confused Think I might have to go an apologise to our neighbours but not sure what for- crying children or the music Xmas Wink

BabyGiraffes · 15/12/2012 12:27

Mous It does sound like you had chickenpox really really badly as a adult Sad. Glad mine have now both had it.

StoneBaby · 15/12/2012 12:50

Oops it just proved I'm not aware of the chickenpox rules as DS has not had it yet. I'm wondering about the cp vaccine Hmm IC did your DD had the jab while in Spain?

Climbingpenguin · 15/12/2012 13:53

my DD had it

Climbingpenguin · 15/12/2012 13:54

the vaccine that is,

my two seem to both be unwell. DD has a rash which she tends to get at the end of illness's rather than before.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/12/2012 13:58

Oh, poor you BG - being ill yourself is the last thing you need. Brew

Yes she did, SB - but DS will no doubt have to tough it out when it comes along.......

Another restless night, although we've had worse.

I'm off for a nap....

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StoneBaby · 15/12/2012 18:17

This afternoon after picking up DH from work we went food shopping, while queuing at checkout he took DS out to get him in the car. Once I reached the car, DS was have a tantrum (I suspect it was linked from been taken away from me). Once driving DS asked for water and I told him he'll have some when we'll be hone. Hence more tears. On this DH commented that I was not disciplining DS enough and that was the reason why he was acting like this and having meltdowns Shock so My answer was that I told hum he could have water once home. DH did not make any more comments.

I'm so upset that DH thinks I'm lacking discipline with the boy

Sorry very me post but If I get stricter DS will not have any life Sad

BabyGiraffes · 15/12/2012 18:32

Stone ignore him, you are doing the right thing! dh can also get overwhelmed with dd2. A few minutes ago he told her off for always being such a negative person and saying no to everything! I then told him off, saying she's 2 and unwell, that doesn't make her a negative person! (Bit of a running argument with us - by all means criticise the behaviour as unacceptable but don't label the child! He's done it with dd1 too recently, telling her she was a dreadful child! Shock I had a chat with him after the children were in bed and I thought he'd agreed to try and not do that again Sad). It's quite normal for not yet three year olds to have tantrums over nothing!

Having said that, I would have thought a nearly three year old had a bit more sense. She's made a fuss over having the chickenpox stuff on her body but then as soon as it's on she does a funny naked dance on the bed Grin. Surely after a few times she should be realising we do it to help her...

BabyGiraffes · 15/12/2012 22:52

Reading this back sounds horrible... It's a recent thing as both girls got more demanding in the last few months, and I am determined to nip it in the bud! Better get myself some of those parenting books... Sad

BabyGiraffes · 16/12/2012 08:34

I think dd2 is over the worst. She went to bed at 7.30 last night, was up at 1 for more medicine, and is now still asleep Smile. Thank you so so much for all your suggestions to make her feel more comfortable! Thanks

Climbingpenguin · 16/12/2012 10:57

Got DD weighed when at my parents, she is now 12kg. Didn't get to weigh DS but I need to see if he is 20lbs yet. bad mummy

how is she now bg

i'm a bit shocked at these comment from DHs. I did have to tell DH that we have been quite lucky with DD so far and I think DS will be a handful as a toddler. He looked quite shocked at the idea that DD is mild so far. I guess this is what happens when they work most of the time, plus the times they are home are mostly the fraught, tired evening phase.

BabyGiraffes · 16/12/2012 11:45

CP Agree, and dhs often don't see many other children of the same age, so can't judge how well or not their own children behave. Our two are positively angelic compared to a lot of children I know... (Disclaimer, nothing wrong with being more boisterous and physical, esp boys but not necessarily so).

dd2 says thank you but she'd rather not have porridge in her bath today Grin. She woke at 9.15 and was quite jittery (low blood sugar and high temperature again). Has now had food, drink, medicine and seems quite laid back (expect when dh took dd1 off to see his brother who's not had chickenpox). We'll have a quiet day today. My temperature was 39 last night, so I am not up to much myself. Starting to look as though we won't have childcare problems on Tuesday because it would be unethical for me to interview people in their 90s with a heavy cold and potentially pass it on to them.

BabyGiraffes · 16/12/2012 13:57

dd2 is doing some interesting shimmying right now using a blanket box to scratch her bottom. Looks hilarious Xmas Grin

BabyGiraffes · 16/12/2012 14:01

Just asked her what she is doing and she said 'I've got to shiver!' Xmas Grin Time for more itch treatment I think.

StoneBaby · 16/12/2012 14:21

BG Grin at your DD2. Fx she'll get better soonand I hope you'll improve too

SconesForTea · 16/12/2012 20:15

BG glad to hear that DD2 is improving, the poor thing. Hope you improve too. Hugs to both of you.

CP Sad you seem to have had such a run of illness lately. Hope this one is mild.

SB I would agree with BG that DHs often have nothing to compare their own DC's behaviour with, so don't realise that a certain amount of tantrumming really is normal toddler behaviour. I'm sure you are doing a grand job with your DS.

BG my DH has taken to calling DD1 a naughty girl, I pick him up on it, I don't want her to start acting up to her label. It is tough, DD2 has such a sunny nature and is also less naughty by virtue of being 13 months not nearly 3. It is hard not to say things like 'can't you be good like DD2' but I know it's not good.

Mous how are you feeling?

stoofadoof · 16/12/2012 21:00

lots to read through, not been on-line for a few days? should be back later