April 2012 - little people who actually DO stuff now!!

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

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[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Anoth thing that buggd me, but this was probably just me being irritable by this point. Ds2 was lying on his stomach on the floor and she said "not long til he'll be rolling over". Surely average baby development is part of her training??
I could understand her asking if he can, cause of course its possible he cant yet, but assuming he cant just made me think she was well, stupid

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Sorry for crap typing, one handed on ipad

[newmummyvicky]

That's awful Beyond Doesn't sound like she has a clue?
I weaned dd at 5 months, and i always stick by 'mother know there child best' You are the right one to know! Also why do they have on a lot of baby food from 4 months?????
I know they say 6 months for weaning, but surely its up to the mother?????

I was also told bf babies only need milk, till wean. I struggled to get dd to drink water but i do offer it to her, but don't tend to worry if she taking milk from me.

Digi Was it a hard white spot on your nipple? if so that does sounds like a blocked duct. My sister use to get them and explained to me, when i had one. If you have popped it, that's good. Hopefully its not blocked!
Has your boob been sore and swolen?

I've had a sick baby here today, she was sick twice after her solids at lunch. Really strange as she has only been a couple of times since newborn. I think its down to her cold, lots of snot coming out. Also lots of hands in mouth and dribbles today! I defantly think teeth are coming soon! poor thing.
last night feeds at 11, 12 and 4am so not a good night for us, just i thought things were improving !

Oh well see how we get on going away for the weekend? I'm quite excited, our first little family trip away. :)

[marshmallowpies]

Beyond I don't think I've heard anyone with a good word to say about HVs! The best I can say is they are well-meaning but fairly ineffectual. In your case sounds like they were neither. Definitely worth sticking to your guns, you know your baby best.

The only person whose advice I'd take and would trust is the midwife at the breastfeeding cafe I go to - she's been seeing DD regularly since she was 6 days old and knows her, which the HVs don't.

She has been giving us information sheets about weaning & seems surprised the HVs are not giving us this info - am sure if you asked HVs they would give advice, but they don't seem to volunteer information.

[Flisspaps]

I don't think they should have to be parents but they should ensure they are up to date with current guidelines and advice, and recognise there's a world of difference between weaning at perhaps 5 weeks and 5 months, and that every baby is different. You hear of shocking advice given on these boards so often by HVs - if they're not giving the right advice, or being sensible within the guidelines (weaning is 4-6 months anyway really) then they should say fuck all.

[Bearcrumble]

My HV told me to breastfeed less and give DS more chocolate puddings at his 8 month check. (This is true).

[HenriettaChicken]

Wow, Bear. That's just ridiculous.

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Oh I forgot to say, its completely unrelated to the thread, but I feel I should share. He is quite sure that my joint pain is psoriatic arthritis, and he had a look at my scalp which is much much worse than it has been for ages (it cleared up completely in pregnancy), and said he woulnt be surprised if I lost my hair.
Have to have blood tests to confirm how to treat my joints, which may confirm that its that, but may not (half of cases have a particular gene, I do believe), and see a dermatologist (which will of course take months)
But what am I supposed to do in the meantime? First thing in the morning I really struggle with the kids :( luckily cause of DHs shift pattern at the moment, he's only not there two mornings at a time. But from Novemeber, hes back on 5 day weeks (still shifts)
And apart from that, I could be disabled and bald :( my poor kids, my poor DH, and poor me :(

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

"He" being my GP!

[Flisspaps]

Oh Beyond

Is there any assistance you'd be able to get - either financial, Homestart or something, when DH isn't around? DS1 could do nursery/CM as well (they're extending free provision for two year olds, you might become eligible) which means you'd only have DS2 to deal with during the day.

The hair - it's not a given that you'll lose it, and I hope you don't - I know it's still really really shitty if you do Would you consider a wig (in a funky colour perhaps?) or would that irritate your scalp? I know nothing of psoriatic arthritis

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Feeling a bit more calm and less negative now they're both asleep, lol :)

I'm going to speak to my HV next week and see if they can do anything, I know they offered me counselling when they found out I had depression, so wonder what else they have in place...
DS1s nursery place starts in January, as he wasnt 2 in time for the september intake.
One thing I do need to do is get one of those things for opening jars, very nearly took one over to my neighbours the other day cause I couldnt do it!!

Wish i'd done the red with a wig, its a bugger to get out

[hugandroll]

Oh beyond that sucks. I'm not far from you so if you want a hand or a bit of company in the week let me know. Certified jar opener me I may have made that last bit up

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Thanks hug, i'm sure I'll live, but I will let you know if I need you :) x

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

(Btw, if its citalopram, I have some (10mg tablets) left over here from where I changed tablets)

[hugandroll]

They don't agree with me but thanks anyway. I'm on sertraline. The half doses haven't been bad tbh so will be able to hold out until wed I think x

[HenriettaChicken]

On a lighter note, we bought a book today for DS called 'Whose House?'

It calls itself 'a little book with giant flaps'!

Just me?

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Ive been on half doses too the last two days, thought i had a whole pack left but nope! Doctors in the morning tho :)

henrietta that made me giggle

[Flisspaps]

Haha Henrietta we have 'Whose bottom?', also with giant flaps

[HenriettaChicken]

Ooh ooh ooh - I need 'Whose Bottom'!

(So glad it's not just me )

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Ahh, now I remember seeing a whose baby one! With giant flaps of course!
Is it for now or have you started xmas shopping?

[hugandroll]

It's clear what I am doing tomorrow, shopping for giant flap books

[HollyPockett]

I need a giant flaps book in my life!

[HenriettaChicken]

We all do, Holly, we all do.

[HenriettaChicken]

Oh, and Beyond, it's for now, but I'll be scouring Amazon to get the bottom one for Christmas!

It was in a Garden Centre for a couple of quid, and we had a voucher for a pound off. Seemed silly not to...

[JambalayaCodfishPie]

Awwww, I wrote a big long post and then it got lost!

Gist of it was that we've now moved. DD2 is in her own room, and sleeping, well, like a baby.

DP leaves for a stag do on Weds night, and doesn't return until Sunday. Yet he can't quite understand why I want as much sorted and unpacked as possible before he goes. .