April 2012 - little people who actually DO stuff now!!

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

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Thanks nordic. Ds1 was fine going to nursery so its new to me having settling issues. He's a mummy's boy though bless him, ill enjoy our Mondays together.

nancy - argh! Scary link but makes complete sense. We had a rough time with the four month one, hopefully we'll get let off a bit lighter this time!! I've noticed its getting a lot more difficult to put N down for a nap recently. He just wont self settle any more and will only nap if he's fallen asleep on the bottle, in the pram or car. Grr.

His skin has had a sudden flare up despite having steroids applied twice a day. I cant think what could have caused it. bangs head against wall

I'm just off to pick him up from nursery. Its the first session where I've left him there and I feel a bit fragile.

Hug - enjoy today and I hope he settles better at nursery this week for you.

I hope you all had a nice weekend! Xx

Gnomette; hope N was ok...it gets easier for us mums, but think it takes longer for us to settle than our LO!! Feel for you that you can't identify N's eczema triggers...has he had any allergy testing done yet?

Hug; hope A is ok at Nursery this week. It's sooooo hard when they're unsettled. Being a mum is tough; Dads don't think twice about babies/home/dinners/chores while they're at work I reckon, yet our heads are full of all that AND work. :-/

Jam; hope work's going ok. I'm really scared I'll cry too. Work is fast & I'm so afraid I'll not be able to keep up & get it all done safely in the time required. Plus with my home life being upside down ATM it's v stressful too & I can feel a meltdown building up. It's all v claustrophobic & it would be ok if this major event for DD3 & I wasn't happening at the same time. My husband's family are all sitting with his mum day & night & everyone's stressed emotional & v tired....it's taking its toll. I'm glad I was off & able to do my bit, & wish I wasn't going back in the middle of all this chaos.

Nordic; your DH sounds like the perfect man!!! Can he be cloned? My DH more like the others discussed. He's got NO initiative where the house & girls are concerned & watches TV with ALL of them way more than I like. Certainly thinks that when he's watching any or all of them, that's IT. There's nothing else done. I could come back at lunchtime to find breakfast dishes waiting on me. Doesn't 'do' nights with the girls & I'm always always out of bed first weekday or weekend. ..But he's v good in lots of other ways & I'm well used to it now 12 years & 3 children later!

Hug: so glad A's helmet is helping. Maybe he won't need it for the full allotted time? Fingers crossed.

NewMummy; how's sleep training going? Em has slept through for the last 2 nights!!!! At long last...but I'm not banking in it lasting long so I'll make the most of it now! 9 months is looming.....My blocked ducts cleared & I'm continuing to feed. Too many other things to think about right now. Even if I'm back to work & still feeding I reckon E & I will both adjust. I still haven't had a period yet. Anyone else? Dreading the return if that every month.....

Hi girls,
Hugs hope he settles soon at nursery, they normally love it. Won't be sending dd till she is 3, not coz I don't want to. Just due to lack of funds.
Sooooo short of money at the mo, longer forward to holiday pay kicking in, in Feb!
gnomette might be worth an allergy test, my nephew had one and my sister want really pleased with what they found!

Sleep training.... On night 4 tonight. Its been pretty tough but sicking with it. Last night was the best, she went from 730pm till 430am just just cried for about 20mins.
Night 1 woke three times, and night 2 two times, but had to settle/cuddle at 330am and put back to sleep in cot. I'm not bf till 5/6am now. So pushing her on till then from 730/8pm bedtime feed.
So really seems to be working......... [shocked]

A is better in nursery now thank goodness, thanks for your support :).

Jelly , I am gratefull about everything DH does but always end up nagging anyway . We have different standards although mine have really slipped since I've been sick . He's always shared household chores and cooking with me . I grew up like that with a dad that did everything my mom did at home after he came back from work . That's common in Scandinavia so when I met DH I made it clear what I expected was to share the load :). We're both always tired withntoo much to do so we just muddle along and try to enjoy the ride too... I do feel like nothing ever gets done and the list of things to do just gets longer and longer so not perfect ofcourse. There's lots of stuff that's always up to me to get done but there's stuff I completely leave to him to do so I guess it's quite fair .
Newmummyvicky glad to hear your sleeptraining's going well . R has occasional one feed and sometimes sleeps through , it depends on how much she's eaten in the day mainly and on teething I guess. Still just the two teeth as far as I can see. She's doing ok with sleeping . Daytime naps not as regular in length as with DS but life isn't in a same routine as then with one child . Because of DS I and she have to be flexible . It works ok .
To be honest she is a pain in the way she gets into everything and crawles so fast and gets up to reach things and now cruises too. Very active definitely ! I can see her not being a quiet girl but a crazy one like I was climbing doorframes etc at 3-4y. DS was active but also sat around playing and looking at books etc quietly and was shy and very well behaved until about 2 1/2-3 y when he came out of his shell . I wonder if she'll just be a whirlwind ?! She does play by her self very well in the cot or the travel cot/ playpen when I'm busy. And she's such a happy smiley girl and has gotten over her stranger anxiety pretty much now just in time when we visited my family so everyone got lots of cuddles.

jelly no period for me either. Also dreading it but worried about where it is at the same time.

Sorry to hear that eveything's still so full on, it must e hard to GP throughyour MIL not being well and having a new baby and going back to work. I think you're right, we have the house and booted am babie all zinging through our brains and still getting work done.

DD seems to be settling back to sleeping through.. Although she has had a temp for the last couple of days. Yesterday got o 38.8 but went back down again with Calpol. She's a bit heavy eyes so I'm thinking teeth or a cold. Here's hoping it's nothing more serious.

Jelly I forgot to say I'm so sorry about your motherinlaw! Mine is soon getting towards the end of her 6 m chemo cycle ( had surgery in the summer ) and is then hopefully going to be ok but we'll worry about her ofcourse after this ...

Why am I worse off in work than I was on mat leave? childcare kills me on my salary and I don't buy it's both our salary, if I didn't work we wouldn't pay childcare so it is just my wages that pays it.

Are you thinking of quitting hug? Good luck in whatever you decide.

I'm absolutely dreading our first child care bill, Argh! Unfortunately I'm the "bread winner" in our household and we just can't afford for me not to go back or to even work part time. The working mummy guilt already makes me feel sick. :(

Holly - poor DD! I hope she is better now.

I can't afford to not work. It's a totally ridiculous situation where we get no help towards the cost of childcare even though I take home about £1100 and my childcare bill is about £700. But as its not £1100 still better off in work. I'm working for sodding £400 ish a month when on mat leave it was over £500. Stupid!

I'm just having a moan. My usual motto is short term pain long term gain. In 3 years 9 months we will feel loaded .

Hug, I feel your pain about the cost of child care. I'm seriously considering a return to education as childcare would then be mostly covered by a grant.

I've finished my working week. Was as awful as I expected, and then some.

Sorry to hear you had a rubbish time jam for me work itself hasn't been too bad I'm just having a moan. Lots of people in worse situations and noone made dh and I have children.

Ladies, thx for all your good wishes for my MIL. The Gp thought today that she wouldn't last the w'end...she's v peaceful though. It's tough on my DH & his lovely family now, but not DMIL anymore. Just a matter of time.

Hug: pants about that. It'll be better in 3.9yrs defo, just keep plugging away. If I hadn't been able to reduce my hours & avoid Childcare for older 2 dd we would've been in a similar position. Have realised though, that in school hols we won't have Childcare & we'll be in the sand situation you're in now. Ho hum...

Jam: hope it gets better. Was DD ok without you?

Another night screamer here ATM. Dd has been crying in her sleep in the early evening & then screaming at least twice between 1 & 5. We've had DH relations squeezed in here. So I'm desperately trying to quieten her quickly & I've resorted to feeding her to sleep.

Those of you who've weaned from breast to bottle recently. How long did the process take? Probably going to have to due to being asked to work evenings now as well as mornings....

Nordic; hope your MIL gets on well with her Chemo. It's a tough road...

Jelly sending my love to you and your MIL. X

Hugs that's sucks about the cost of child care! I'm quite lucky I have my mum to watch dd when I return to work. Hoping for 16-20hrs. Couldnt do anymore due to no one watching her, I probally earn less than child care! Lol.
I had a whole day training in London on Thursday, left house at 6am and back at 845pm. Such a long day, but really enjoyed it. Missed dd, but nice to get back into work mode.
Dh watched dd for me, and she was good but didn't eat great or have good nap either! Oh well.

Sleep training still working, she seem to understand that nights are for sleep now. And i get only one wake up or through till 4/5am. When i bf her. Her crying now last for 5-10mins if that. Amazing now she puts her self to sleep! :)

I'm slowing weaning of breast feeding. Don't do any day time ones at all. Only at one and pm before bed. She managed all and when to sleep in the evening without a feedon Thursday! Not going down bottle route, just gonna do 2cups of milk but the time she is 1yr. Or just before for feb/March I'm thinking?

Sorry only do one bf in morning and one at pm before bed! X

Vicky, that's what I want to do with bf: one early & once before bed. I worry about how much cows milk he's allowed or if I should add formula to the mix. Thoughts anyone?

Sorry, I havent caught up yet, but I just have to run through the thread going SQUEEEEEE!! My middle sister is 5 and a half weeks pregnant!! :)

Squuuuuueeeeeeee!!!

beyond how lush

Thanks Jelly , she couldn't cope with some of the side affects of one the drugs so had to be taken off part of the treatment and has just had pills now but they do make her very sick so I bet she can't wait to finish the two more cycles of two weeks on one week off she has left. I'm trying to be as supportive as I can without actually having gone though it myself . My chronic illness for the last 3 y with nauseau and pain etc does give me an idea though what it's like not wanting to get out of bed etc. Since her surgery was a success last summer and this was to just make sure it's all gone , she should be ok after though . She is spending all the time she can with our kids when she's having a week off and ATM DH is over there with both. I've stayed the whole day in bed and actually just slept for 8h since early aft since I'm sick with another cold with a sore throat etc this time so might be a different than the one we had pre Christmas ...when ever I get one with a cough though I get worried since two years ago I had one that turned into a bad bronchitis with not being able to breath so had to take asthma drugs etc and almost ended up in the hospital:(.
On a happier note it's our 9y wedding anniversary on Tue and I've bravely booked a table in a nice central London restaurant for lunch ( have no child care so have to take R with us). We took both kids to tea at the Savoy recently though and she was fine. R just needs her own food inc fingerfoods and some toys and she's happy. Got a portable cloth high chair for Finland so will take that . Wish me luck !
I've been waiting for who has the the first baby news here !
We might not have more now that we finally managed to have DD after years of nightmares and have two kids. It would be the sensible thing to do in our case . It does make me a bit emotional. I don't think DH gets it , I think he's just counting his lucky stars that the surrogacy worked and now we have R who's healthy . I agree ofcourse but the thought of not having one more little one in a few years when R starts school and I feel I could physically do it again makes me a bit sad. Mixed emotions is the case I guess:(...
We are still finishing the legal side of this one though . One more court date and we're finally done after 3 long years since starting the surrogacy journey and 5 1/2 y after trying for another child , it's been a loooooooong time...

Jet lag sucks. That is all.

Urgh. Is it Sunday night already? this weekend went far too quickly

What do things never go smoothly for me?
Dd was up from 12-1am 40mins of crying, so went in to calm down and cuddle back to sleep. Couldn't take leaving her for than long, plus so tired. And dh had work! She then woke up at 430am for a feed, so co slept in our bed. Knackered again today!
hoping things are not getting worst again?

Nordic happy anniversary for tomorrow, hope U have a nice meal?

I really want things to go our way for a change, dh is aplying for a new local job. It would sort our money worries out and free up me to have our car a little more. So I'm praying he gets it!!!! X

Congratulations auntie beyond!!

Happy aniversary Nordic!

newmummy - sorry to hear the sleep is a bit hit and miss :-(. It sound like you are doung everything right though, hopefully tonight will be a good one for you. If its any consolation N's body has decided to do poos at 4am and the nappy change inevitably wakes him fully. We've found that playing a gentle melody to him (e.g. Twinkle twinkle little star) really helps him to drift back off to sleep.

We finally have an allergy appointment for N in Feb!! Only 4 months after our GP sent off the referral(!).

N is doing really well at his nursery settling in sessions. He has had naps, meals and lots of play times there and seems to really enjoy it. I thought he'd miss me a little bit but apparently not!!