April 2012 - little people who actually DO stuff now!!

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Ta da

Hug- sorry to hear about your nan- bloody cancer :(
fliss- nice to hear about the career change, I would love to train as beauty teacher one day!
Mashmallow- sounds like the water you had has a lot of limescale in it, we have loads here in Somerset.
Hayley- we had a few problems with weaning at the start, she was shuting mouth with some food that she loved before.

Got a little bit naughty with food when on holiday lyra had prawn crackers, icecream, and cheeto crisps, oh and lime/lemon slices which she loved! Oh well now back on to the healthy eating plan! :-)
she did have lots of healthy stuff too!

Sleeping was rubbish over there wakes most night 2-3 sometimes 4 times, so back in a routine now. hopefully she will go back 11/12pm then 4/5 feeds. Bf has picking up again, so worrying for no reason back to normal times.:)
She was so good on the flight, thankgod for breast feeding landing and take off, feed her and stopped ears hurting and made her go to sleep.

She has picked up a new skills of walking while holding on to your hands, loves it so much. She is Standing longer too on own, while holding on to furniture. And getting on all 4 legs when on floor and swinging back and forward. Still moving backwards and round in a circle. I think crawling maybe soon? :-)

Pitta pizzas for lunch! Yum! :-)

Read on a random site that if a little one sticks their Tongue out whilst feeding it means they're not ready for solids. Sounds a bit like bollocks to me. Anyone know?

Pushing all food out with their tongue would suggest they arent ready, its the innate protection against choking. Poking tongue out suggests he/she has found their tongue

(Ds2 loves his tongue, and he loves to lick stuff. Anything.)

Yeah, that's kind of what I thought! He does love his tongue. It's very cute!

A always has his tongue out but is finally loving solids.

L pushes food out and doesn't open her mouth that wide, I think pushing tongue out is common for bf babies. X

DS doesn't stick his tongue out and is BF. I think the tongue thrust reflex is usually gone by 6m anyway though, so tongue poking and/or raspberry and bubble blowing efforts are more likely to be done on purpose.

DD has her tounge out nearly all day sometimes! It's hilarious to watch her. Pretty sure it's her teeth...

Hiya,
feeling a bit down tonight. Not really sure why so thought I'd come on here and have a cry. Noah's sleeping is not getting better. We had a few decent nights of 2 feeds but it's gone back to every 2 hours feeding and waking in between crying. I can't get him out my bed and tonight I havnt been able to put him down without him crying. The only time he's settled is if he's on me.

He's not normally a crying baby so don't no what's going on. Iv just given him some calpol encase his teeth are playing up to knock him out so hopefully that will work.
It's weird with DP gone most of the time, It can get quite lonely but at the same time I'm desperate for some time on my own - if that makes any sense.

Doesn't help that I can hear my whole town partying tonight. I'm SO bored. Feel like I'm living the same day over & over again.

Hayley, Didn't want your post going unanswered . For some reason I'm still up even though everyone else is asleep .I guess I'm desperate for some time to myself. I've been doing this staying up half the night most of the half term now... been feeling down in general for weeks now . I have a tendency for it anyway and having a little baby and no family to help ever ( DH is here though but not much help due to long hours). DD is doing really well but still feel exhausted and bored of the same housework , childcare etc normal stuff. My illness really doesn't help. Or the fact that my motherinlaw is in the middle of her cancer treatment and not doing very well. Am trying to cheer up by planning things for kids (well DS 7Y) for halloween and christmas etc. Hoping to go away if we get our court date soon for DD.
I can't really help with What might be going on with your ds but have had bad nights too and the next one's always been better. DD doesn't have any teeth yet but they must be on their way ...
Hope you'll feel better yourself soon and not so lonely :)!

Hi Hayley & Nordic, I'm here. Got some catching up to do.

Sorry you're feeling down. I can sympathise on the groundhog day feeling. Some days, when E is really grizzly, I get pretty down too. It's certainly not easy this motherhood lark.

Do you go to groups during the day? E is always happier with people to entertain her rather than boring old mummy. She even loves grocery shopping - last week we had three women and their trolleys blocking the ailse cooing at her! And a slightly strange woman who did an interpretative dance!!

Keep posting & talking, we're all here.

hayley you are not wrong motherhood can be a lonely affair even with people & babies about. The intensity of the 24 hr thing can be hard to bear & the constant trying to put down thing is frustrating & exhausting. My strategies are frankly not to bother trying to get ds out my bed yet. He's not ready & I need to get some rest. I'm less disturbed by feeding him laying down in my bed in the night so I'm sticking with it until he's bigger. In the evening if I can get him settled on the bed for an hour or two on his own I will but if I've tried to leave him a few times & he keeps waiting I just bring him downstairs with me & watch some telly, he sleeps on me. Also once a week if I can I go to a mum's singing group & just take ds with me. He enjoys a bit of attention/feeds/sleeps on me while we are there. For me it breaks the monotony & feels like I am doing something for me. Could you invite a friend over some evenings or go to theirs? For me key to not feeling trapped is to go with it rather than fight it. I try not to get caught up with & feel jealous of people with babies who sleep for hours alone. In lots of countries babies are not kept separate from adults/family 12 hrs+ a day. I am not saying there is anything wrong with babies having their own cot & room but some babies really fight against it until they are bigger. For me struggling to achieve that makes me depressed so I won't. Obviously they won't always be little & want to be with us ALL the time. It is tough at times though.

I pissed of as not only have we had threadworms to contend with this week now a sickness bug. So far just dd is affected but it seems inevitable that we'll all end up getting it pissed off that it has coincided with half term. We'd made lots of plans & were going to have dd& ds1's friends over on weds for Halloween play/tea. Grrrrrr. The washing is endless

Hiya,
Thanks for your messages.
Feeling much better today. DS is currently sleeping on me on the sofa. Iv always been a work a holic & get so bored being at home. I go to 4 baby classes a week lol Rhyme time, baby swimming, baby massage & sensory. I'm usually fine but have had a rough few days sleep wise & think last night my sleepiness came out in tears. Plus I ate 3 donuts today & then realised I'm due for a period lol.

Posted to early.....

I def find when I try not to do anything for myself & focus 100% on Noah I'm happier. It's the occasional time I try to have me time and can't it gets frustrating.
I love Noah to pieces & wouldn't change him for the world & want lots more babies. Last night was an emotional one - todays been better.

Glad today has been better Hayley. There's nothing wrong with wanting to take some time for yourself but it's hard when you're doing it on your own a lot of the time. It will get easier (repeating this mantra a lot when I can't put E down for a second most days lately!).

PS I couldn't work out last night how my post appeared before Nordic's even though I was replying to her and then I remembered the clocks changed. Our's don't change until next week I think so there's only 7 hours between us at the moment.

Hayley; so sorry to hear you're feeling blue, but totally see why you're feeling a bit low. TBH IME this is around the time I always get a bit claustrophobic with babies. You're really tired by now, and have had 6 months of no time to do ANYTHING for yourself. Plus, you've been on your own so much it's been extra hard for you. Having someone else around really helps, even if they're not actually doing anything much...It does get better. In no time another 6 months will have gone by & Noah will be eating more, sleeping better & you'll be less tired. Be good to yourself in the meantime & don't put pressure on yourself to do anything if you don't want to. Hope you're feeling a bit better by now!

Thanks both
Iv just had a momentous achievement tonight lol ..... for the first time have got Noah to sleep without the boob .
I kept him awake from 1.30 (he usually has an hour at 3pm) and he was shattered. He's in my arms in a really deep sleep at the mo so I'm going to attempt to pop him in the crib and see how it goes.
I need to start getting him used to not falling asleep BF so other people can put him to sleep.

Marking place, I lost you

Yay for Noah!

Well done Noah! sorry you've been down Hayley and Nordic :(
and sorry about your sickness Buns!

If it makes you feel any better DD is a shit sleeper at the mo too, I feel I'm the only one here, till i speak to you guys.
Most nights she is up every 3-4hrs so she goes to bed at 8pm then wake ups at 11/12pm then 3/4am then up at 7/730am. Most of my friends babies are sleeping through and my mum said we all did by this age. I know that's not as bad as every 2hrs but it still sucks, and i feel tired most days. She is a pretty good napper so i tend to sleep/rest sometimes then. The other night i tried to get her back to sleep without b feeding her and she went crazy over 1hr of crying!!!!
so i fed her as i couldn't take it anymore. She must still need these night feeds so gonna stick with it till she drops one!
She eat so well in the day, has three solids meals now and is still waking up. Hopefully when she is walking or crawling it may knacker her out, so just waiting for that really, fingers crossed it wont be long! :(

iv been very excited tonight, it's crazy how the smallest advances can make you so happy lol. Didnt get Noah in the crib, decided I'd work with one thing at a time and this weeks focus is to settle without boob and try and get him to settle himself.
I put him into my bed after my last post about 7.15 I think, he didnt make a sound till 9.55 - which is an achievement in it's self lol. His last feed was at 5.30pm and that was a bit of baby porridge and banana so I BF him then stopped as he started to mess about rather than eat, layed down with him and put him back to sleep so he didnt fall asleep on the boob

Between 10-11pm he woke 4 times crying. I usually run up the stairs immediately to settle him but following a friends advice left him crying for one whole minute (although the advice was to start at 6mins) then went up and settled him without boob. The 2nd time I did the same but left it 2 minutes which almost killed me. The 3rd time after 2 mins he stopped crying I waited & went up after the 3mins and he was just laying there silent but awake. The 4th time he stopped crying after 2mins & when I went up at 4mins he had settled himself & gone back to sleep .

He's never done this before I'm so excited. It probably sounds silly but it's a big milestone for us. I'm hoping we can continue to do this with less wake ups. Not having him on me from 6.30-now has already made a huge difference to how Iv been feeling the last week. Felt like iv had some me time & space & I actually missed him lol although not enough to bring him down to the living room

Vicky I felt the same - like I was the only one until I came on here. I got out the habit of posting for a while and was just catching up on FB, but it really helps letting it all out, and having a bunch of non judgemental people to rant rave cry & celebrate with who actually understand - even at 3am lol. Your right to try sleep or at least rest when you can in the day -sometimes easier said then done. I'm funny with power naps, unless I can get longer than an hour & a half I feel worse and more groggy when I wake up than I did before, & most of Ns day naps last 45 mins-an hour max.
Hope you have a good night tonight.
My first goal is to get Noah missing out his 1am feed and going from 11-3/4am. Then to 8.15 which is his start the day time, which isn't bad

Anyway off to bed now - who knows tonight could just be the night I don't wake up till 8am

Xx

Oh wow hayley sounds like you & Noah have had a good evening so far - hoping the rest of your night is as good :).

Well I guess it wasn't meant to be, last night wasn't the night I got my sleep, he woke up for feeds at 2.20, 4.30, and 6.30