Dec 08 Mums - still biffing on

[LadyThompson]

Yes, yes, it's a bit lame. I wanted to say: "Still fucking on!" but wary of causing offence....

I know 'biffing' is a bit PG Wodehouse, as well. You'll just have to humour me

Trace the house stuff sounds like a pain. Glad you seem to have found a solution though.

After dd was born the postman used to knock on my door almost every morning to hand me my keys . Here I just leave the doors unlocked half the time. Good job we live in a doors unlocked sort of village .

I need exercise! Supposed to be doing abdominal stuff (which also is good for pelvic area) daily but just not done it with builders and electricians here all the time. Mum brought my old bike up so need to have it serviced.

Last day of school for ds1 tomorrow. My baby is getting all big.

Ds2 growing again I think. Feeding all night anyway. Which would be fine as I can sleep and feed, I just roll over and latch onto the other side when he hits me but the big ones keep getting me up too and ds1 keeps getting up really early.

There was just a couple in a car on the main road outside my house making out!! Well a little more than that really. Lots of groping!! On a main road!!

I must be getting old!! I feel shocked.

Hello everyone, just marking my place on the new thread on returning from hols. I've been meaning to catch up all week, as DH has been away working, but the problem with that is getting both girls into bed on my own takes most of the evening and then I don't actually have time to catch up! Anyway, I have been lurking and have lots to say so will be back x

Kayz On my running club on Tuesday nights we run a 1km circuit x 10. So obviously going past the same point ten times. It's on a bit of Common and every week, bar totally rainy ones, there's this couple who sit on a bench and get extremely frisky right by the public track.. It's somewhat disconcerting when you are trying to get in your zone and there they are ..

Hello ZJ! Do share your top tips for lots of solo bedtimes - I"m going to be doing them every night for about a month once the Olympics start.

I figured out why I'm obsessed with dresses BTW. It's because I want to wear something that I don't look at and think "Oh I can't wear that, couldn't feed in it" . I'm going to the Prom tomorrow night and am going to wear a dress that would be utterly impossible to feed in just cos I can.

ps I have started a war of attrition on my opposite neighbours. A week or so ago I went to a PR thing where we made our own bar of chocolate. They finished it off in their kitchen etc and sent it to us at home. I just found out they put the wrong house number on it, sending it instead to house opposite. Still with my name on obviously. So, these people opposite have kept it. Now obviously they don't necessarily know my name but they haven't made any effort to find out as both their neighbours either side will know who I am by name IYSWIM. I've put notes through their door and knocked but nothing. They are chocolate thieves and I will not let them get away with it!!

I'm about to go get DS2. he's too little to finish play school!

Morning All. So, school's out.

DH snoring away upstairs and girls and me up since 6. Joy. I am currently furious with him, as usual.

DD2 been up every night since Tuesday and I've been trying to implement our new tough regime, which I have explained to DH. I know he finds my chat about the girls boring when he gets home from work, but I listen patiently to his blah about work, because it's what he does. At least he should have some personal interest in his kids, but clearly not.

Anyway, last night, I was trying to leave her and he got up to go to her almost immediately. She has worked out how to get out of her sleeping bag, so was under a duvet for the first time. He went in before she'd reached crux point, despite me trying to tell him not to. Then he picked her and cuddled her and gave her water. No big deal and rather nice of him, you'd think. BUT I've told him that we're trying to break this sleeping (or lack thereof) pattern and he just hasn't listened. He gets up once in a blue moon and seems to think that he's some kind of fricking wonder for doing it and deserves a medal, when I do it about 3 times a night, minimum. It has been two years and I am tired! I just want him to help me and act as a unit and be consistent, but he doesn't listen to a word and takes us back to square one. I'm done. I must have slept through the night for about a whole month since DD2 was born, which is better than some, I know, but I'm just so cross.

Anyway, sorry, blahing on. But he didn't even just do it quietly so I could keep on sleeping, like I do for him. He came back in and announced that he'd been deep asleep, how annoying. I gave him what for and we ended up having a shout at eachother at 2am. Joy. I lay awake fuming for about 2 hours! He's off to work today, so I have another bloody lovely day with the girls.

YAWN!

Oh Beans lovey, what a crapola start to the holidays. Does your DH know how much money he's pissing down the drain, by ignoring the sleep consultants advice! I'm with you on not relishing the prospect of so much time without groups or pre school to break the monotony. The girls and I have definitely spent too much time in each others company this week without a break. My DH has come back from his week away with the right intentions, so he deserves some credit compared to your DH, but he is making me fume anyway. He offered me a lie in, but the girls woke at 6 so he hid under the duvet to eke out his sleeping time while I fed DD2 and DD1 jumped on me. At 7.15 he finally took DD1 downstairs, and I had to follow him as he'd forgotten DD2. Then I got precisely 12 minutes peace before DD1 came back to see me for the first time (she managed 3 more visits for a chat in the next 40 minutes). And instead of coming downstairs and shutting the door to give me a tiny bit of quiet in between visits, they played races on the landing. Argh! I gave up at 815, some lie in. He's now offered to take DD1 out for the morning and take her for lunch, to give us a break from each other - which again is a nice thought, but that leaves me and DD2 alone in a tip of a house (from their playing), so actually I'm jealous of their trip. There's no pleasing me today!

Humph ZJ, I feel your pain. That is rubbish. I even made DH croissants and fruit salad for breakfast and kept girls downstairs til 8.15 when he made an appearance. Over 2 hrs extra sleep. I do feel sorry for him being in work when the weather is this nice. But I am so tired, I could do with him here, so I could put my feet up.

Anyway, have had an apology, a thank you and a promise of lie in tomorrow, which I'm taking!

Been to shops with girls this am and got them bedside lights from Laura Ashley these ones to match their ceiling lights. Reduced to £15 each. Brill! And a really tacky little bedside table for DD2, which was £14.99 froma shop called B&M Homestores. Has anyone heard of it? Amazingly cheap. Quite nasty, but the odd nice bit if you look hard enough!

Rearranged DD1's bedroom, which looks fab now. Am v pleased! Sad me. Then ice creams on way back, which went everywhere. What an error.

Am now ready for bed! And off to I laws for lunch tomorrow. AGAIN.

Lady, how is the clear out going?

That's a bit crap Beans. I'd be royally pissed off he won't stick to the plan. All for nothing otherwise. DH sticks to my plan usually as he has this amazing ability to block out anything (including me nagging) so doesn't really stir.
ZJ- dh also crap at giving me a lay in (learning though!) - he does but forgets and the next thing he's watching the Tour and the kids have worked their way back upstairs without him realizing, but I cut him slack - he's working again today then has the kids all day tomorrow as I work tonight. DD now sleeps usually after waking once at 11 for milk, but the last 2 nights hasn't and I've linked the pattern that she also didn't eat her dinner so clearly hungry and came out of her room in a rage like a little girl possessed at 330 this morning, but dunno what else to do when she flatly refused her tea.
Love the lamps Beans. I bought DD a bed off eBay that was from Belle Maison and got it at a steal, then saw a matching bedside table in their shop and even as a second is more expensive that the bed I bought!

I'm feeling much better. Don't know if it's the new AB's or would have got better on it's own but just glad to feel / look a little more normal the last couple of days!
Such a busy week coming up for dd's birthday and on the same day all dh's rellies arrive although not staying with us for much of their stay, I still need to get some cleaning done and present wrapping and everything associated!

Sorry to hear that your DH has been such a idiot but at least he's had the decency to apologize before he swanned off to work. I can't believe you made his breakfast!

Your girls' bedrooms must be very cute, lovely lamps.

DH and I have been enjoying our child-free staycation. Separate work outs this morning and we're looking forward to a mutual delousing later as DS has nits!! Oh the romance!

Nolda, am v impressed with your workouts this morning (unless that's a euphemism, ). Hope you had a romantic delousing this evening. Was there wine and delicious food involved?

BEans, I too would have been pissed off, esp as your DH isn't too hot at getting up in the night normally, as you say. I hope you can return to the plan tonight. Having been pleased at B sleeping through earlier on this week, he's back to his usual tricks of waking every hour then up for the day at 5.

So glad you're feeling a bit better, Rubes. Can't believe it's your DD's birthday already! Can we arrange for you guys to come over and see us soon?

I've finished my book now and DP is editing it for me. I'm going to put a request out on the Mental Health boards for people who might be up for reading the draft for me and giving feedback. (It's a practical, self-help book about postnatal depression and motherhood in the first year). It's only short, and if anyone here would be up for having a read-through and letting me know if there was anything they did/didn't like or felt had been overlooked, please PM me. Muchas Gracias.

Talking of which (Spanish), T is big time into Dora and Diego. It's great for his linguistic skills but I keep being lassoed

Aghhhh out lateish so naturally DD2 up at an early-even-by-her-standards 4.45 after having been up most of night between 1-4. This of course coincides with day 2 of the 25 in a row that DH is working and therefore I have to do early mornings and bedtimes and all the stuff in between.

Oh and naturally she's so tired she won't be put down aghhhh

Beans, I hope your DH was more helpful last night. It's hard doing it all alone and hopefully he'll start helping more. I hope you're having a lovely lie in.

I'm sorry there seems to be lots of non sleeping DCs about. DD wouldn't go back to sleep last night. In the end DH stayed awake holding her so I could get some sleep.

DS2 fell out of bed last night and stayed asleep. How do you fall out of bed with a huge thud and stay asleep?

Kayz I have no idea! I have found mine asleep in all manner of odd places before

Kiwi that is bloody early! Hope she doesn't make a habit of it!

Spot I'd love to have a read, had a hideous first year or so with dd.

Beans I hope you've managed to have a good chat with dh, sounds like he is being a bit of an idiot.

Can I add dh to the idiot list please? In his defense he is pretty good at getting up early. Anyway, this morning ds2 woke at 5. I cuddled and played and fed him til 6 then handed him to dh knowing that hbe would be leaving at 8 to go rowing so I had 2 hours to sleep. Bliss! 7am dh comes in saying ds2 was fussing and hungry. Erm no dh he is not hungry he is cold because you've taken his sleeping bag off and left him in his vest with nothing else on and he is tired because he has been up since 5am so even my sleep in was interrupted.

Ds2 has gone from starting to self settle a few weeks ago to pretty majopr 4 month sleep regression, he is all busy discovering things and learning new tricks his brain is too busy for sleep, the poor boy tries but just can't get there.

Argh, I wrote you all a lovely long message yesterday in a very jolly state after downing a bit of Kir vin blanc. But my phone battery ran out and lost the whole blurry post. Now I can't remember. I think I said something about Kayz & Rubes.

Anyhoo wasn't that interesting. Was feeling warm and happy, boys had found some kid to play with at the campsite who was staying in a cabin and who was an only child and the parents seemed to quite happy to have our two at theirs half the afternoon, I think it was the novelty of extra children.

We've had a lovely weekend, I love Rambouillet, and was a bonus being so close to the start of the first day. We just packed up this morning had a little swim then headed into the town centre got to see Mr Wiggins up close and my eye candy fav Tomas Voeckler had a last minute jersey change at the start line, oh those French boys know how to keep the ladies happy. Anyway after watching the start there, we then flew into Paris just in time to see them in Paris. Unfortunately we didn't get enough time to get ourselves into the tulleries before the roads closed off around it, as there is a little fair there which is good for the kids but it is so sunny and hot today so we still had a nice time.

Nolda I had a giggle at Spots interpretation of your 'separate workouts'. What did you use to delouse, did it have pleasant scent to put you in the mood.

Lady would the Wednesday be better for you as you will only be just back from Bruxelles? I can do Southbank, I'd forgotten about the 'lympic stuff disrupting, I was hoping to meet Urbane & Urbaneboy in greenwich park, but I imagine the upperclasses will be watching the horses. Should we all do a pilgrimage to Brighton?

Beans that is very annoying of your DH, I think there are so many ways to do things to change behavioural traits and issues with sleep but none of them will work unless both parents sign up. You shouldn't be making breakfast, you should beating him soundly about the head & body.

Right better chat to DH we are stuck in traffic outside Lille.

Ah nothing quite like an up the back poo to get your morning off to a good start

We had one of those in the car yesterday. You could tell that it was a bad one from the sound of it

No up the pack poo here but loads of unpacking to do and it is gloriously sunny and I just want to go to the beach.

Hurrah for the first day of the holidays and the sun is shining!

Action packed week planned with lots of paddling pool and beach action. Gawd bless you mother nature.

Oh yes, the joys of up the back poo! Another reason why I'm glad mine are older now. However, Eddie does love to spray the loo, his clothes and the floor when he does a wee!

The delousing was good in that neither of us appeared to have any. I think we caught DS v early so hopefully it's all sorted now.

DH and I had a lovely weekend. The workouts were actually genuine workouts: cycling for DH and Jillian DVD for me but I assure you that DH has not gone short . The weather was glorious and we went for a short cycle ride to watch a bit of the J Class regatta on Saturday afternoon and on Sunday morning I went sailing for the first time since I fell pregnant with DD, so nearly 7 years ago! Was very relieved that I could still fit in my wetsuit. Although I'm very grateful that I'm able to be a SAHM, it has been pretty full on recently with quite a lot of weekends solo as DH has been working and the hard times with DD ... Anyway, feeling very refreshed and ready for the first week of the holidays. Having said that, so far this morning I've had my door keys returned to me by neighbour, as I'd left them on the windowsill while I was watering the plants and I turned up for DS's tennis lesson to find that it's actually tomorrow.

Vag - Glad to hear you had a good time. Those cyclists are seriously skinny, I hope Wiggins gets to eat some cake this week!

Jam I think we need to make the most of the weather, I've heard it's back to poo next week.

Hello all, hope everyone enjoying some sunshine wherever they are. We went fruit picking with nursery friends yesterday so I am making mountains of rasberry frozen yoghurt and cheesecake.

Quick request, can everyone please play with this lovely interactive Olympics thing my very clever DH devised? Am very proud of him.

What's all this chat of back poos everywhere? You feral lot.

Glad you had plenty of action and feel refreshed, Nolda.

Vag, yay, come to Brighton! Pretty, pretty please. Noice weather and beaches n all.

Indith that would be just great. DP still doing a bit of tidying up (and removing my apparently over-frequent references to wine ) but I hope I can sling it over to you by the end of the week.

Kiwi I have just wasted 20 minutes playing on that game thing.

Hooray Kayz that's the spirit! I like the animals bit you can unlock on Facebook. Thanks! xx