October 2011, the three C's crawling cruising and chatting

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Thanks Mama for the title. A new thread hopefully everyone will find us again.

Hum, C had a massive lunch and is now sleeping through his normal bottle time, should I not give that bottle as it'll be a bit late when he wakes. He had 8oz this morning, then 4oz cows milk with cereal, will be having 8oz before bed.

(Am out so will reply to everyone when I get home!)

Ah well I went for it, and surprisingly he had 6oz, little fatty. He had a whole sandwich today, plus some of my pasta and salad.

Sorry about the poorly DCs cp is there no one that can mind them for you?

Nappy changing is easy, you just use one hand to hold legs, one to wipe/change nappy, and one to pin them down......

C likes to offer us his bottle now during/after feeds! He turns it round so the teat is pointing at me and babbles till I pretend to drink from it and then smiles loads, haha. Very thoughtful if him, as he also offers us his food.

pen long story, but basically I was on maternity allowance, not SMP as stopped working at 3m pg, and as you could choose when it started I started it early so I could use the money to prepare for baby.

That's cute sch
S offers me her sticky/grubby hands to eat

Why is this 'standing in cot' winding me up so much? I've had to walk out and shut the door cos I can feel myself getting angry again.
I don't like the person I'm becoming over this!

Mine currently rolling around the cot like a crazy loon fuzzzy I've left him to it cos theres nothing wrong and I can see him on the monitor

IME fuzzy it not about the irratating behaviour but a reflection on your mental self and how healthy you may be at the time. Not saying depression but just a sign of stress that you haven't articulated yet maybe.

I think it is stress, but I don't know what I'm stressed about. I ended up taking all the toys/stuffed animals out her cot and taking mobile off the side. She had her dummy and blanket and I left her to it. 40 mins later and she finally lay down and went to sleep.

well if she went off by herself and no/too much crying that's great!! wait until they pace the cot for a couple of hours, start jumping or learn to throw dummy and comforter's out onto the floor.

Really feeling for you fuzzzy I hate that feeling of boiling over anger. I think every mum gets it at some point, even if they don't admit to it. Our worst moments is making bottles/food, he pulls at my legs and screaming trying to het me to pick him up, which I can't because I really need to make the bottle to stop the crying!

That's when it annoys me when people do a face and go "oh you should never leave a baby to cry" - well he's not going to stop crying unless he gets a bottle, which I have to leave him crying to make!

sch is his routine stable enouh to prepare most of it before hand? Most things just have to heated now surely? or is it just those few mins it takes that he gets all worked up in?

fuzzzy take a deep breathe.......

...its also the frustration of not being able to do anything.

We're not at standing yet but last week he started sitting up in his cot and crying and this at 10pm. I'd settle him and try putting him down in his cot and he'd sit up again....it was Exasperating!! After an hour of struggling finally got him into our bed, put my arm over his tummy, legs over his legs, literally pinning him down to sleeping position and then sang him to sleep....I'm a very bad singer. DH is still traumatized.

Big day here - 30ml milk had from a beaker!!!

climbin you asked sche the question on routine but isn't there some rule that you can't use formula bottles after two hours? i have that crying/ howling problem with the morning bottle as well. fuzzzy you mentioned you make the bottle at night and keep it in the fridge - that got me wondering too.

the NHS info (i read it about a year ago now) used to say you could make them fresh and store in the fridge for 12 hours. I don't

I was interested in the comment upthread about babies not self-weaning. C kept the bed time and morning feeds until 17mo but self weaned during the day at 8mo. There was no way she was sitting around with a boon in her face when there was a world to be explored. Alex is going the same way at 9mo and has fed for 3 mins this pm and only 1min this morning with 11mins first thing and again at breakfast. He'll also have a couple of longer feeds over night.

I'm giving up on sleep training too. I just don't think he's ready yet. I've spent 2 weeks trying to put him down awake (with the ocasional night putting him down asleep) and he's still screaming for between 40 and 90 mins. Last night, after a feed at 01:30, he screamed from 02:50 to 03:30, slept for 20 mins and started again. That time I fed him but I didn't manage to get back to sleep properly so I'm exhausted and I'm getting tendonitis in my wrists from lying him back down every few minutes. Grrr.

sorry i hit the post key, but it wasn't really anything of note

lbm I wouldn't risk leaving a bottle of made up formula out for 2 hours. The one I make at night is dunked in cold water a few times to cool then into back of fridge to use in the morning. She drinks what she drinks then the rest gets put down the sink. Great news about the beaker!!

sch yes about the leg pulling! I put a baby gate on the kitchen door so I don't need to worry about tripping over her now. She sits on the other side all angry faced! I think she thinks she is the one locked in!!

cp I think it's the fact she isn't doing what I ask her to do, therefor I'm not in control. I know that's ridiculous as she is a baby and doesn't understand to an extent what im telling her but it winds me up when I'm telling her to lay down and then she laughs at me. Funny though as when I walked into room and she was standing, I said 'lie down now, it's sleeping time' she quickly fell to the mattress, into her tummy, arms tucked in and closes her eyes, like a 'naughty' toddler who had been caught up to no good! . Did make me angry but I'm seeing the funny side to it now.

Tomorrow is a new day

kellymom.com/bf/normal/babyselfwean/

aww fuzzy that is quite cute.

I am far from perfect myself but it sounds like you are starting to think about things and what the real issues may be and therefore ponder what your general parenting strategies may be. This is a great time for that reflection, their personalities are starting to come out but they are not full on toddlers yet. You are getting a inkling for what presses your buttons and what you want from your children's behaviour. I think I read some the books that really gelled with me a bit late for DD, especially as I knew I didn't want to parent how I was parented. For all those people that go on about following your instincts, to me that just means slipping into what you knew/exposed to growing up, which isn't a option for me.

Am going to use the term nappy wrestling myself today ... love it!

My new method of getting A dressed is to stand him up with his hands against a wall/the bath. He likes standing and am getting his clothes on that way. I just bought nappy pants which might make changing easier as well ... maybe ...

I guess I need to be ready to embrace all these new things she is starting to do. I just know I have to feel in control of a situation and like I've shown, I get angry/pissed off when I'm not

How are you doing with ds? Noticed your other post on the parenting board.

climbing I think you're right about how following your instincts is probably just what you know growing up. I have a step sister - so different parents as our parents didn't meet until we were in our 20s - and it's interesting comparing my natural sister's parenting style to mine as compared to my step sister. Of course me and my sister have loads of differences but they are more obvious is many ways as our overall philosophies are fairly similar, and like our Mum's - step sister on the other hand is so different she often makes us go

Fuzzy some friends were laughing the other day about how betrayed they felt the first time their LO was willful and naughty. I guess in a big way it's about re-defining the relationship - when they are babies, it feels (to me anyway) that we are really close and have a special relationship, but that changes as they get older I guess - you can still be close, but in a different way

I honestly never feel like this with her, it's only been past few days! Just had my period so it's not even like I can blame pmt...

we're, well me, doing a lot better. I did a mile run tonight, went climbing for the first time here on Wed night (and then slept great) and the DCs start nursery two afternoons a week in August after which it will drop to one. Going to use August as a recovery period. Feels like things are coming together a bit.

Overall, that has meant i have looked objectively at DS and now he is happy to lay with DH and he can get him off again so a relief of my shoulders. Havin that period where only I could feed him or get him to sleep felt like a lot on my shoulders.

Generally things are hard but OK, but it means that not a lot tips it over the edge. I have not had a uninteruppted night's sleep for close to three years, DS is a bottle refuser and we live at least 2 hours away from family in a town we moved to when I was 8 months pregnant so friends are hard to make (especially as once you have two you can't just sit at playgroup chatting to the other mums and the people I talk to most have just babies and are always meeting up in non toddler friendly places).

what triggered most of it was DH applying for a job with a potential move and realising that in addition to not having a job I don't know what I want to do and I would probably be a SAHM for at least another year. I still haven't quite made peace with that.