Thanks sassy, and mama. My mum always says I should have been diagnosed or at least I would have been if the diagnosis were around at the time I was young as I have no filter, like order and control and many, many other markers but I have been just fine (well most of the time) and I've learnt over time how to say things more appropriately and act confidently with new people but I have really supportive parents. On the test you do I always have a strong yes! The problem you have with it is that the diagnosis is perceptual, it's based on the opinions and perceptions of parents and care providers, there is no current scientific test so what if our perceptions are wrong either way? It's a real struggle!
I'd love k to have pink sparkly shoes! That's ace!! Dh would have a hernia.
Mama he's in Salisbury, I carried him down and they put him under using a mask whilst I held him. It was horrendous he fought it and they had to use a stronger dose but he was snoring when I left and he's in there now. Fingers crossed it all goes well. He's been down 30 minutes so far.
Sassy you asked for it... A lot of those things sound very familiar, he too is fiercely independent, wants to be everyone's friend, slightly inappropriate personal space (he likes to lift up girls dresses to see their bellies 
). others less so, he doesn't care about change at all and has no routine of sorts we just go with the flow, he doesn't focus on one thing and he doesn't seem sensitive to sounds or materials. He has a strong sense of danger and won't climb / jump unless he knows he can do it, often looking for support from us to help him and while he doesn't often scream blue murder he makes it clear if he's hurt himself!
My view is that at the moment i'm on the fence, one day I'll think yes, the next no.
The three main areas are language and communication which he has significant problems with, social interaction/communication which he has slight concerns with and repetitive / specialised behaviour which he has no concerns with. You have to have markers in all three to be diagnosed. All the tests say he's 'at risk' of having it but never a 'yes' so I think he needs some time to develop a bit more (he's very far behind his peers because of his lack of communication but we've recently seen some big jumps forward). So if we can resolve the hearing and the communication parts (sounds and talking / behaviour) this in my view will either heighten our concerns to lead to a dx or diminish them enough to rule it out! Of course I'd love it to be ruled out but if it's not it won't change anything he'll just need a bit of extra support!