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blizy · 07/06/2012 07:38
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RobinSparkles ·
10/06/2012 11:57
Aw, Hubbard :(. I'm struggling to think of anything to say except what an absolute arse of a DH! 
I'm so sorry. You will get through this though!
ILovePonyo ·
10/06/2012 12:38
Hubbard that is so sad for you and the children. BUT remember that you're doing all the right things at the moment, you're there for your kids and not letting them go see their dad with some random woman miles away, that would be really confusing for them. They need consistency and reassurance at the moment and it looks like you're going to be the one providing that. I really feel for you, you're doing a fantastic job though by the sounds of things.
American oh nooooo! That is so gross, poor you (and dh I suppose 
) ew. Carpet in kitchen though, wtf 
Blizy thanks for being do lovely, you are one of the strongest people I know so that means a lot. Hope you find a lovely pink book for Z 
We're on the way to the park to meet a friend and her little boy, had to leave early so A can have a nap, apparently she'll only nap in the car now 
reastie ·
10/06/2012 18:46
american when I first moved out I had a carpet in the kitchen - it was rank and yuck to DH and the smell. FWIW I read on an mn thread to put loads to bicarb of soda all over a carpet after you've done the initial clear up and leave it there over night before hoovering up and it helps get rid of the smell. Or dilute bleach maybe? I clean our carpets with dilute bleach here and it really makes the room pong of bleach which I quite like
hubs poor you. ponyo is right you are doing the right things. Are you OK in the short term with housing etc? I think being consistent for the DC is definitely the right thing - do you have any friends near by who can help you out?
robin I thought you were talking about wiggles' bum too 
ponyo I"m glad you contacted cruise - I can heartily recommend them as my DM works for them
ledkr and ems keep you updated re: trip to Cheltenham, but, like I say I don't know if it will be a few days or just literally for the funeral and straight home with no time for meet ups, depends what day funeral is on etc. Grandma still holding on in there but going downhill.
I'm sure I missed out on lots I was going to comment on [sigh] . Been feeling ill still so not doing too much.
deb can you let me know when you get a chance re: next Mon? - if you can't do next mon how are you placed for any other Mondays?
tadjennyp ·
10/06/2012 18:47
Hubbard ^what ledkr said^. Sorry your ex is being such a prat. Hopefully he will come to his senses shortly and realise he wants to be a part of his kids life. Don't worry about Freya not walking. Edward was nearly 17 months. He couldn't be bothered as Anna would fetch everything he needed!
Am having to brain scrub that rap out of my head Robin! Thank you!
Only taking the pill for a month to try and regulate it again, Borg, but cheers for the dodgy script offer! Too old to go on the pill full time now. Failing that, goodness knows. I try not to think about our health care expenses american. Have you found somewhere in Madison yet?
Glad you had a great birthday wiggles. And you enjoyed your campervanning ledkr.
I need to get at our office too emski. Not changed for 3 years now.
Ponyo, you are doing really well, so take the help from Cruse if you need it. I think I'd be a complete mess if my Dad died.
Blizy, wise and strong as ever.
Hope you are having nice Sunday evenings. Hello to everyone I've missed. Got to get on phoning people to arrange our trip home!
wigglesrock ·
10/06/2012 19:51
hubbard he's a fucking dick (he's such a dick that I'm not even going to pretend to be polite and use feckin') I know you don't have a whole heap of family support but hope you have friends that can pull you along when you need it and don't forget we are all here xxxx Sofia didn't walk until she was 16 months.
american ick, ick, icky - how's L?
reastie hope your grandmother is comfortable. Hope you start to feel a bit better yourself xx
My best friends grannys funeral is tomorrow. She's had to do all the organising etc, her Mum died when she was 15 and then her sister died when she was 20, her granny dying has brought it all back and she's in pieces. Was up for a bit with her today, trying to give her a hand but her granny is country folk 
and ended up helping her "host" the wake - heebie yeebie time. Never seen so many plates of sandwiches in my life . We have stashed the bottles of wine as well
ledkr ·
10/06/2012 20:06
reastiesorry about your Nan,its rough,I was still crying yesterday.
My friggin Mother was telling me what she had given my sis from Nans stuff-little trinkets not valuable. I couldnt hold back I said "can I have something too please,she was my Gran as well!" Mum suddenly said "oh of course" stuttered along. I get so fecked off with my bloody golden Sisters,Im nice too you know
If you need me to do anything as Im nearby just ask. It would be lovely to see you even if its just for a quick cuppa.
D was sick in the bongo on the way home "american* I just wash it out with bio washing powder prob no good for carpets though.
D woke up at 10am hahaha. She was up at 5 whilst camping so was making up for it I think. Her poor little gums are hurting her and she has been tres clingy today too.
I had planned a relaxing day but I keep forgetting that is a thing of the past.
I asked dh to bath d earlier because i was watching something,he ignored me and sat on his arse watching it too (series he hasnt watched which was on part 3 ) I switched it off and went to do it myself,In a loud manner,so he is now creeping and clearing up the kitchen and making Ellas tea whilst I relax.
I have a thread in relationships,as some of you guys know Ella quite well from my posts id appreciate comments.
ledkr ·
10/06/2012 20:29
damn you ems and wiggs. I read your posts and got a sudden attack of hayfever (runny eyes) It hard because they hurt me so much,soooo much and now my own daughter thinks the sun shines from their arses
Iact brave and im over it now,but I will never forget how it felt to have to have sti checks as i wept into a pillow and Ella sat in her pram nest to me,and people telling me theyd seem them all ove Chelt making me look a prat. I didnt sleep or eat for weeks and lost 3 stone {hoorah} but i carried on working and looking after the dc whilst they went off on holidays as if he was young and childless.
grrrrrrr im ranting now haha. Just wanted you to know thats why its so tough. If it were his new gf id be cool but its because its the ow and she's such a thick chav.
debka ·
10/06/2012 21:56
Hi everyone, I can't bloody keep up now, stupid RL getting in the way
ledkr you are a real role model to me of how a mother ought to be, I think you do a fantastic job. 
blizy ·
10/06/2012 22:08
Granny- it looks like I will be co
Ing to London town tomorrow. We will prob be staying outside the city centre somewhere like Boromwood? I can get train/tube into London? You will hve to guide me though, I have no idea where I am going!
Ledkr- I will have a look at your thread later.
Debka- I'm well 
of your Wimbledon tickets! You deserve them.
44me- glad all is well with you and the family.
Reastie- sorry to hear about your gran, you have had so much to deal with the past few months. 
. We are here for you anytime. X
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ILovePonyo ·
10/06/2012 22:17
Hi all,
Ledkr I can only agree with what others have said on your thread. Plus you are such a fab mum, agree with deb, you're an inspiration for a novice like me!
Oh and good for you asking for something to remember your nan.
Deb oh my GOD I am so jel of your Wimbledon tickets! I love tennis, it's prob the only sport I like watching especially when nadal is playing
Reastie ooh please tell me more about your dm working for cruse, I dont know what really but anything useful would be good.
Blizy enjoy London! That's a massive way to travel for you isn't it?!
Sorry am on my phone and can't remember anything else
We went to the park and there some family fun day event on, it's was brilliant, sand pits, lots of entertainment and ice cream of course A loved it and was v cute running around squeaking.
Oh my cousin had a baby today, 7lbs 7oz, that's a big one for our family!
reastie ·
11/06/2012 08:34
Morning,
deb if your aunt changes her mind re: Wimbledon I'd be happy to accompany you [cheeky] - it's one of those things on my 'must do before I die' list
ponyo re: cruse. I don't know if all areas are different but re: my Mum she goes to peoples houses to do an assessment - talks through issues of bereavement etc to gauge what sort of support you would need and so they know about your case. Then you'd be put on the local waiting list for a counsellor who (where Mum works anyway) comes to your house to do the counselling (although they may also offer rooms at a local place too I think where they rent them) and you'd have the same person every time from then on, but it might not be the person who did your assessment. I'm pretty sure Mum has done counselling in the evenings before so they probably offer out of work hours counselling too. I think the waiting list depends on where you are - you may not have a wait at all I'm not sure. I'm pretty certain it's all free but in this area at the last session my Mum hands a letter out saying how they are a charity and you are welcome to donate to them if you want to, but it's not like she would expect to take anything there and then, it's more a if you want to send a cheque here's an envelope but no obligation at all type of thing. The counsellors are all trained (my Mum does some of the training here ). I don't really know much else and DM isn't around at the min as staying with gps - if you want me to ask her something let me know, but i'm not sure how things vary regionally.
This weather is so miserable. Still feeling under the weather but was hoping to take Alice to feed the ducks just to get her out of the house but don't think I will looking outside . Maybe I'll take her to the pound shop and ploy her with cheap tat
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ILovePonyo ·
11/06/2012 20:33
Just wanted to pop on quickly -
Emski horrible news, very sad and shocking. All the best to your cousin, she must be so scared
Mizk your hol sounds grim really feel for you, I cried once at pil's because we were staying longer than I'd thought so you have much sympathy from me! Your pil sound like real twats, yuk
Reastie thanks for the info . I have had an email from cruse and will try and ring them tomo.
Right off to wash up, ah what fun back later x
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