Fab Feb 2011: Walking, talking and still not sleeping.

[blizy]

I hope you don't mind me starting a new thread? Lets hope it's a lucky one for me.

Hello there,

blizy your sm's and dad's behaviour is just pitiful; I really don't understand how people can be so thoughtless. I know they must grieve as well but are they so self-centred as to not recognise what you're going through. I completely agree with ponyo that we take things out on those closest to us and I hope all is well with dh now.

ponyo I'm glad to hear you're doing okay, was thinking about you and a friend of mine that lost her father not long ago.

Robin and Wiggles, thank you for the heads up re: cheap tat maketh a happy child! There was a thread on here not long ago about a mum that'd made her 2 year old's bday presents then was told by another mum that she would teased as she was too old for homemade things and needed more expensive stuff Absolute rubbish imho!

MizK, Welcome to poor world! We are sooooo broke, as in counting the pennies at the end of each month but, you know what, I wouldn't change it. I love staying at home and as long as we have enough for rent and food etc then blow it. I agree with everything reastie mentioned should practise it myself and also I cannot speak highly enough of eBay for clothes. I think 99% of B's clothes come from there and I always get asked where I got his outfits from. We only have 1 car and that is barely used as I tend to get the bus everywhere or walk. I do have minimal savings in my account that I won't touch, just in case of emergencies which makes me feel better as I am a worrier so would recommend that if you can. Think of the long term, you'll end up earning more in the long run when you have more qualifications or at least have a job you love which is even more important. Good luck and don't be frightened!

Fingers crossed the teething shouting child is asleep now, he's been a nightmare today, shouting, whinging and throwing his food. I made him pick up all the bits of sandwich he threw on the floor which made him even grumpier but at least it made me feel better. Still no news from hospital, I'm furious with them and going to call for the umpteenth time tomorrow. We ran out of movicol at the weekend and the day after he did 5 poos I have no idea what's going on...

Needto - its hocking that you still haven't heard from the hospital!

Thanks again for your support. Do you know my parents have only been in my house once since Zoe died and that was only because the funeral cars left from our house! I can also count on one hand the number of phone calls I have had from them.

Mizk- what will you be studying at uni? I agree with the others re: the money situ.

Ponyo- I'm glad that you got through yesterday ok. I know about the sniping, I tend to do the same to Dh when im feeling down.

This is the last week Dh will be working away for a while!. I'm enjoying the peace while it lasts.

I have everything crossed that this is our lucky month, I have been using a clear blue fertility monitor and dtd at all the right times. If not then we will give it a good go whilst Dh is working at home.

Evening ladeeeez,

blizy fingers crossed! Bet your dh can't believe his luck Glad you got through yesterday too. I can't believe your family - they've only been to yours once?! You sound so patient with them, I don't know how you manage it.

MizK boo to being skint! Sucks doesn't it. Last month the bloody nursery fees were only just covered by my wages - I was skint a week after getting paid! Ridiculous. Good advice from Needto and reastie - in the long run you'll get a good job and it will all be worth it. Also, menu planning works - I didnt think it would but we buy less crap when we have a nice organised list :) Don't forget cheapo activities for you and C - surestart!

Needto can't believe that about the hospital - tell them you want to complain tomorrow? A has been teething too, she was at nursery today though (SEP )

reastie I found out dp's friends gf is pregnant today too! Exciting.

deb I agree that you look amazing on the fb pics, congrats!

Can't believe its 9pm already, A has been crying lots in her sleep so think it mght be an unsettled night, last night we went to bed at 9.45 expecting a full nights sleep and A was awake and crying on and off all night Gave her baby ibuprofen in the end. Then she slept a bit more, then cried, then slept til 7.30 which is the latest she's slept for weeks but we had to get up for work

MIZK I dont really do PPP...poor! But then i did my due whilst i was training and yes I now earn good money for a nice job i enjoy so its worth it in the end
Pil have suggested camping with us in 2 weekends,i told dh that was fine but i would be being myself.

*people just dont get it do they? If they are so upset then why dont they understand you more? Good luck btw Nudge nudge wink wink

deb well done you!Im so impressed,im not on the book of face so cant look at your new svelt shape.

needtoD ate her first ever meal tonight with out lobbing it about,chips fishcakes and spaghetti,she ate it methodically made me question dh if he had fed her today.

D woke at a spectacular 5.20am. Last week she was sleeping till gone 7 every day,we even had a10am.She is back on form now grrrr.

We have just watch the woman in black. Argh,ooh,screech,scream and jump,is all i will say.Very scary indeed,i even shouted at one point,very unlike this horror veteran

sorry Deb. mh nursing imo is the one to do. Interesting and varied and mostly non gory.
You are well respected (unlike general nurses)
I think you get more chance to be a practicioner than in general.
You learn all about different mh disorders,their cause,diagnosis and treatment and how that works.
The law regarding the mh act and all the different sections.
Restraints and breakaway techniques.
Theraputic interventions.
Drug and alcohol addiction and treatments.
It is amazing,can be dangerous and very fulfilling. I loved every day I worked.
Its not a job for the faint hearted thoughmyou need to be on the ball and not easily scared.I think you'd be god as you have a good balance of common sense and humour.

Massive hugs to both mrblizy and ponyo for your horrid days yesterday. So difficult. I did think of you both. Xx

So glad that Sofia had a good party wiggles well done you!

Bloody ridiculous about the hospital needto ring tomorrow and say to the secretary that if they don't contact you by xxxo'clock you'll be contacting the PALS team.

deb you are wonder woman!!! About the uni place, I would be very tempted to still apply with your points and put together a super duper application form with all of your relevant life experience Inc any caring role you played for your mum, or other family member, the experience you will gain from your new job and possibly do some voluntary work/work experience on a ward in the local hospital. And make it clear how desperately you want to get on the course. I worked with loads of physio students and wannabe physio students and very often the uni courses would rather have someone with the real determination to get on the course than those who have tons of points and aren't really that keen iykwim. Also getting to know the admissions sec by making a nuisance being in regular contact.

Busy weekend here, poor Imogen had a sickness bug from Friday night. Vomit central sorry em I didn't go to sleep till after 4.30am on sat morning. What a shocker, nearly time for Dilly to wake! Thomas and Joseph have had end of year concert today and again tomorrow. Thomas was so loud singing Oklaholma!! So proud of Joseph his Olympic flag design won the whole school competition a few weeks ago and we found out today that it has gone on to win the best in the local cluster schools (8 in total) and will be made into an actual flag. He is bursting as he is very average academically but very arty (like dh), it has done his confidence the world of good.

Am taking Archie to get weighed tomorrow and to ask the hv to refer him to the physio/orthotics service. He has had a weak and turned out ankle since he started pulling himself up and walking. I thought it may straighten up as he got a bit stronger but it hasn't. Will see what they say.... There is always something.

Anyway must get to bed. Zzzzzzzzz

blizy - at your family. WTAF is wrong with them? Are they completely incapable of any empathy? Fingers crossed for you this month!

MizK - money worries are horrible, I hate worrying about money. I agree with reastie, we spend what we have. We are in saving mode now with the move so straight after we get paid, I transfer money into the savings account then transfer it back if we need it, but usually if I see we only have a bit left in the account, we spend much less. We are generally very thrifty though and have Freesat instead of Sky (satellite dish was on the house when we moved in), eat out every couple of months (but weekly takeaway), buy second-hand when we can, etc. I find eBay good for clothes but I don't "do" fashion so no worries about last year's styles. Have a look at Money Saving Expert as they have loads of information about saving on utilities, phones, etc. Remember it's just temporary while you're studying and financially you'll be loads better off in the long run!

44me - well done Joseph! And poor Imogen.

deb - I agree with every one else - apply anyway.

needto - Deffo mention PALS, they shouldn't be keeping you waiting like this. Does the 5 poos mean it's getting better or still the same but with more poo?

All this talk of rubbish Chinese buffet desserts has got me craving American pudding, the custardy type from a packet [nods knowingly at tadjennyp].

Has anyone else given up on the highchair? L can climb into and out of his at will when the tray is off and stands on the tray when it's on. He's out of the straps in seconds too. He'll sit on a chair at the table and eat without getting too distracted.

Hello all, so much going on here as always! I also can't believe how rubbish and self-absorbed your family have been, blizy. Hope that this month is your month.

Well done Joseph, that is so amazing! Poor Imy.

Go debka! It's all changing for you. Go with what your heart says. I think you'll do amazingly well, whichever route you decide to take.

Hope the last couple of days have been better for you Ponyo and Mrblizy.

What are you going to be studying MizK? There are some great money saving tips on the money matters board and moneysavingexpert is fantastic. Do you use groupon for special offers too?

Hope you find out the diagnosis soon needto. Poor Ben.

Glad all the parties went well wiggles. Exciting times over the summer without having to work!

I thought the Woman in Black was pretty scary too, ledkr! Did you think DR carried it off, or looked a little too young?

Not long now American. Have you got a moving date yet? I've not actually had pudding, tbh. Soon you'll be able to shop in Target again!

Have managed the first week of the summer holiday already! Been camping and to the pool etc. Only 8 days till we fly back to the UK now. Thursday 5th July we are heading north past BB four4. Will you be around in the morning?

Hoping tea and bathtime have gone well. Long sleeps needed tonight babies!

tad yes am free on thurs 5th July, you are now on the calendar!! Yeah. I'll pm you later with my numbers etc and make some plans! Shame that Thomas and Joseph will be at school, but Imogen and Archie will be here.

Four4 At it being nearly Dillys wake up time
She woke up at 6 today which was not bad considering she was up from 11 till 2 crying. I thibk it may have been teeth but she was fairly angry and kept slappin me in the face so hard that dh actually shouted a bit and took her off me.He must have felt sorry for me
In the end i had to leave her to cry for abit cos she was so vile and angry.
She is such a red head

I arrived at work,after my refreshing 4 hr sleep expecting a quietish day to be told I had to go to Wales and pick up a child and then take him to Somerset I went with a colleague so it was ok but I got home at 7pm so am actually shattered.
Came home to dh's usual pig sty of a house,its as if he looks after d but makes no attempt to clear up after her,there were even last nights cooking pots still "soaking" grrrr. Anyway I didnt argue with him,I just booked a cleaner

Evening

Four4Me you're not planning to cheat on me with tadjennyp? are you? So pleased for Joseph - well done, hope Imogen is feeling much better. Hope Archie get sorted out re ankle. I have a weak ankle (when I was 4 I broke my leg twice, the second time was the day after I got the cast off from the first break - don't ask )

americanexpat the highchair is on the way out with us too, A barely keeps still as it is, she prefers to eat on the go , strangely Sofia was exactly the same around this age.

ledkr we had a 4.50am start here this morning , deffo teeth with us.

MizK We've piss all money here either - savings what would they be now?

Its Sofias actual birthday tomorrow - she's like the Queen - having a five day celebration. Just as well its beginning to bore even me Spent the morning getting teacher presents organised, the girls finish next week. And got Olivias school report - which has been passed on to her new primary teacher - be very afraid Miss O'P .

wiggs Dont forget to score some more weed for S's birthday

ledkr sssshhh, quiet one tomorrow - fruit shoots and McDs instead

Wow ledkr what a day, poor you and poor child. esp after a bad night, naughty red head!!!! Archie has just about got his last tooth through (except for the very back ones they get later) which I'm relieved about. He hasn't been to bad in the night, it has been the dribbling. I ended up buying loads of those cowboy styleee bibs and he went through one every tens mins at worst. Horrid!

Ar wiggles I can't promise not to leave you for tad !!!! But I promise you'll always be my fav Belfast girl!!!! One in every port!
Hope Sofia enjoys her birthday for a bit longer, yeah love being a birthday diva! Go on please just a few sneaky extracts from O's report

American Archie is still in his highchair, but he is a totally horizontal surfer dude. In a morning he sits in it sucking his thumb and when I put his beaker in from of him he sits there and just looks at me and carries on sucking the thumb. Doesn't even bother doing it for himself. By now Imogen was quite competent with as spoon as I'm sure all of the feb babies are getting. Well today I helped him dip the spoon in the yogurt pot and guided it to his mouth, he then laughed and gave me the spoon back!!!! Lazy oink!!
Hv gave me a piece of paper with all the physio drop in dates to take him to about his ankles.

Hope those who are interested in football enjoyed the match I couldn't give a flying

We were up at 5am. I think its teeth tbh cos she was still led down but crying and half asleep.Shes been ok though so far,quite sweet,keeps lying down she must be knackered.

The child we moved was playing on my mind,7 yrs old and very anxious.The foster carers were really lovely though and he seemed to settle quickly-which is not really normal is it? I was talking to dh about how ours would react if you moved them to a strange house and we both had tears in our eyes poor little boy,its just a lottery really being born isnt it?

four4 Archie sounds hilarious btw. D doesnt do much for herself and pins her arms firmly by her side to drink a bottle so she cant hold it She is ok at feeding herself though but you have to be quick once she is full or it gets lobbed. At this point I normally get out the dustpan and brush and/or a mop. Dh just leaves it to build up and dry on for the day,oh yes and get walked through the house wtaf??

ledkr I win today.

Imy woke the house up screaming after a bad dream at 3.30am. Bean has not gone back to sleep. It's going to be a long day :( She's been crying on and off since she woke up but won't go to sleep. She's going to be really ready for her nap this morning...

Sorry too bloody knackeredto do anything but moan (bit like my daughter)

Omg Debka! Roll on nap time.
Four4- I hope A's ankle is ok. He sounds like such a typical lazy boy

Ledkr- poor little boy, so sad. Hope Dilly feels better today.

deb - I hope you've had a nap this morning.

44me - L is rubbish with a spoon too, he doesn't understand that it has a scooping side so just sort of stabs at the food and sends the bowl flying. Maybe I'll try him with a fork, he prefers to eat off my fork though. LOL at one in every port.

ledkr - that poor boy. Is there a reason they moved him so far? Well done on booking the cleaner too, life's too short to argue about housework. [desperately jealous of your cleaner]

tad - no pudding?! No moving date yet but I've given my formal notice at work, my last day is 24th Aug and we have to leave the country by the 29th. I am looking forward to Target and Trader Joe's.

wiggles - L would eat on the go if I let him. As it is, the table and chair are covered with whatever he's eating - we had an unfortunate incident a few days ago that left my trousers covered in cheese spread, front and back. [boak] We don't need to do messy play because he makes his own.

L went to the safari park with the nursery yesterday and came home with a pink face. I'm a bit as they have suncream and a hat for him. Am I being PFB? It's never happened before.

Four4Me great that you got dates re physio. Archie sounds very like Olivia was at that age - be afraid - just saying Her report is pages long - loads of different headings : language development, the Arts, physical development, the world around us, early mathematics and computer experience etc. To be honest my favourite bit is "she is interested in everything , and has a thirst for knowledge" All her really good bits like jigsaws, singing, mouse work, rhyming, pattern work etc are all down to the stuff she does with my parents and my parents in law , so think may have to invest in a few cases bottles of wine and vodka to say thanks!

americanexpat you know me I'm the most laxest parent there is but I'd be a bit about the no suncream on the face, its not like the babies can ask for it.

ledkr A started taking her bottle herself last week, apart from her one before bed, that has to be Mum, not Dad [eyeroll], its amazing she copes when I'm at work! She's a bit of a chancer, she's great for Mr W when I'm at work but God forbid I'm around and choose not to cater for her every whim

debka how you doing?

Oh have put a few photos up! School reports and new photos - annoying showoff - moi?

American- not being pfb at all, I am always very careful with sun protection with mindees. I would ask them if they put cream on him and when. During my last Inspection I was told to record any sun cream applications, I presume the nursery will be the same? Btw, the safari park is only 20mins away from me.

Quickie ......American not pfb at all. I would NOT be happy either. Poor L.

Going to noisy at the wigglettes

Whew, I'm not being pfb. I'll have a good look at him when I collect him tonight and ask if he had suncream on. He was clearly pink last night, it didn't look like a flush from the heat because it was at the top of his forehead, cheeks and nose. They're usually really good about it

wiggles - O just has that mischievous look. All three are absolutely gorgeous.

wiggles love the one of O gazing up at S!! Gorgeous girls and I know for sure having met them. Lucky Mama! Xx

Hi all

I am at this talk of climbing out of cots and high chairs as Alice seems so far away from it at the min although she is a short bum - we measured her a couple of days ago and still on the 5th centile for height, so no wonder she can still fit into some 6-9 month stuff.

wiggs love the piccies. Is it me or do the girls all look so grown up now? Especially Sophia . Went to poundland this afternoon in search of stickers for Alice and thought of you, oh, and I'm still holding out hope on your euro football tip to see if I win money

american I would be really annoyed if they hadn't put sun block on too, definitely worth mentioning to check with them, esp given what blizy said re: her having to keep a log

four4 love the one in every port comment

Thanks for the pms ems and ledkr

deb are you still awake over there?

Anyone help me out on my funeral outfit for friday? I've got a thread with links to outfit here . It looks v nice on but I'm a bit concerned it's too jazzy but I have absolutely nothing else to wear (or rather everything else I have is even more jazzy and bright)

blizy any signs of AF yet? [hopeful] Loved the piccie of alfie on fb - he looks so big now already

ledkr how awful re: that boy at work yesterday. You really made me think how lucky I am and how many opportunities I've been given in life.