June 2012 - Jubilant mums of Jubilee babies

[TeaandHobnobs]

It is Jubilee weekend - awaiting those babies!

26 degrees and humid as the tropics here, yuck. Em not enjoying it, and just wanted to feed all night. weirdly though, we've worked out she has a tired cry, and when she does that cry, and we put her down, she GOES TO SLEEP! how has it taken her 2 weeks to do this, but DS has yet to master it 33 months after his birth?! although typically because she had a bad night, he slept through he's at the childminders today and thrilled to bits because his best friend is there too, so the two of them will be creating mayhem as I write this!

just had a girly shopping trip with Em, and opened her bank account, during which she fed constantly, so was signing the paperwork with a boob out. managed to feed all round town actually, she is so thirsty poor thing. she is sleeping in a vest and nappy now, I put socks on her this morning but had to take them off so she could cool down. She was much admired in town though, lots of middle aged and elderly women cooing over the pushchair and asking for her vital statistics (age, weight at birth, name, and how many siblings - seriously, that is what they all want to know!!)

hope Thomas is ok with his jabs Tea - it's much worse for mum than baby, believe me! DS screamed the place down at his, then slept for 5 hours after it - longest sleep he did for 2 years :o it would have been great if we hadn't been so worried something was wrong! (sorry, you may be guessing I have a sleep fixation by now :o)

Hi All

Good luck tea with the jabs....poor wee Thomas.

Just a quick one as DS is starting to stir. Hthe has bad reflux so we are giving him infant gaviscon and doing everything to try to minimise wind but the poor wee mite is uncomfortable and bringing up quite a bit.

I am going into town this afternoon to register the birth. He's nearly 5 weeks so I really need to get a move on..just keep putting it off as parking is a nightmare and the weather has been so bad.

DH is away today and tomorrow watching the Irish Open as it's at a golf club in Northern Ireland this year. So me, DS and DD (darling dog!!) are going up to my parents for dinner and staying over. Mum has offered to do all the night feeds so I'm so excited a t the thought of a possible night's sleep...not sure it will happen though as no doubt I will hear the crying and not be able to resist getting up!!

Is anyone else irritable? I'm finding that DH is annoying me no matter what he does. I get annoyed if he's a at work and I'm having a difficult day yet if he is here I get irrited that he doesn't do things my way and end up doing it all myself anyway. I know i'm being unfair but I can't help it....I think it's because I'm just so tired and get annoyed easily..... :( I think we really need some time away as everything revolved around feeds and burping at the minute.

Gotta go, DS has woken!!!

Hi to everyone xx

Thanks kveta. Mentioned your response to DH and he started talking about thermophiles or something, and i suddenly remembered that the water was being turned off this morning and i had 5 mins to fill bath with water so that we can bucket flush the loo! so i switched off. i can see me resigning myself to the expensive ready made stuff overnight and when out and about!

I've tried to start a support in the breastfeeding and bottlefeeding section if anyone's interested, but can't cut and paste link.

guidance here shelduck! :)

Is it a 'routine' if a 14do literally feeds and sleeps at the same times each and every day/night? We're kind of waiting with baited breath here, Ada is awake for 15-30mins on the dot every 4 hours day and night... 730am, 1130am, 330pm, 730pm 1130pm and 330am, that's it!! Often she wakes at 130pm for cuddles and/or nappy change but apart from that we're just wondering if it's all going to suddenly become very irregular!?!?

For those of you with other DC, can a 2 week old have a routine or is it impossible?

Hope everyone is enjoying their newborn cuddles still (at what point are they no longer 'newborn'?) and getting plenty of rest inbetween feeds
Xx

Hi all.
Blondie be happy that LO has a routine, it makes life so much easier. Enjoy whilst the rest of us struggle. My DS1 got into a routine very quickly.
Warlin I'm also irritable with DH, I think its lack of sleep and quite normal. Bless them.
I'm another who is struggling with lack of sleep. DH goes back to work on Monday which means I will have to get DS1 to nursery and collect him. Not a big thing but means I've got to be dressed by 9am . Not something I've been managing of late.
Went for my first run today so no doubt my legs wíll ache tomorrow. I meed to work on pelvic floor muscle as I kept peeing on the way round
Hope everyone is well xx

Grrr I was writing a really long post earlier, but DH picked up my iPad and closed the thread tab

Thomas was very good with his jabs - his face went furious and he let out a few angry wails, but as I was nursing him at the time, I got him to latch back on, and all was well.

Me on the other hand... I didn't realise they would be taking blood from me, and it was the usual disaster - nurse tried 3 times in right arm, then I wouldn't let her try anymore; doctor tried left arm, then eventually used the back of my hand... But all this brought back memories of them trying to take blood straight after Thomas was born, and I had a bit of a freak out. The doctor was very kind though, and at least is taking me seriously re counselling and is trying to sort out the mess on that front (still no appt 6 weeks on because the surgery keeps cocking up).

Went to meet some (pregnant) friends in the park cafe, where Thomas did a massive runny poo which leaked and went all over my dress My friends sprang into action to help me clean up and get the stuff to change him - I was very glad I wasn't out by myself!

Thomas has seemed fine this evening, but my cold has got worse and I felt all feverish for a while. Thankfully DH offered to do the early part of the night again with a bottle of EBM, so I got about 4 hrs sleep before we just switched over. Thomas is looking all alert and active post-feed though - go to sleep child!!!

Blondie you are very lucky she is on her own 4 hr pattern. Thomas seems to be stuck on 2 or 3 hours now, but can be eerily regular - on Wednesday, you could time it to the minute pretty much!

Hope the rest of you are having good nights.

Tea - what did they have to take blood for? Poor you.

Blondie - great to have a bit of a routine, I do remember DD having a long regular daytime nap early on but it all changes as they wake up more but it did mean I went to the hairdresser and was fairly sure she would sleep through the appointment!

Much better sleep last night, had very awake baby yesterday and very asleep one over night and this morning, going to wake him for a feed in a minute!

CathFin I think it was because of the blood loss I experienced, they want to check how my blood count is doing. DH says they told me this at the hospital before I was discharged, but I absolutely can't remember. Or maybe it's routine, I don't know.

Fingers crossed I don't have to have my blood taken again for a very long time! Although I am now overdue for my smear, great Think I could probably cope better with that though!

blondie very jealous...we are in a routine too but DS gets bad wind and can be awake for hours at a time. Evenings are worst...he can be awake from 9pm to 2pm at times... . he is def a lot more alert than he was and sleeping less!

We got our apt through this morning for a hip scan. DS had clicky hip when born and they want to scan him at 6 weeks...really hoping nothing is wrong and we have been told that they normally correct themselves. I'm still worried about it though :(

We have our 6 week consultant apt next week...we go to the clinic and I get a check up with the obstetrician and DS sees a pediatrcian. The pediatrician came to see us in the hospital and said to call him at any time with problems but I haven't wanted to bother him with all my worries so looking forward to a thorough check up and have a list of questions next week. He also said when he saw DS he would advise on when to stop night feeds and how to improve sleeping patterns and routine so hoping I get a lot from it.

My friend and her 6 month old are coming down now and we're going for a walk on the beach...that's if the rain stays off!! The other day we were caught in an almighty shower....poor DS was yelling and I think he ws spooked by the noise of the rain on his pram hood and I had an umbrella over the top as I wasn't sure how waterproof prams are. I was soaked to the skin bu thankfully DS was toasty warm and dry when we got home.

hope everyone had a some rest.

oh, DS woken,,,have seconds before a feed is demanded!!

Warlin DD had a clicky hip and all was fine, fingers crossed its nothing to worry about.

My DS has pretty much been asleep all day, have woken him to feed and just rang the midwife but she seemed happy that as long as he is feeding and doing nappies there is nothing amiss. My boobs are v uncomfortable though as he did a fair amount of feeding yesterday, hope tonight isn't when he decides to resume action!

tea bad luck on the smear front, I managed to have one about the same time I conceived so get a break from that for a while!

I hope the check ups go well warlin, please share any pearls of wisdom you get re feeding and sleeping etc

Shame about the smear tea. I don't think I could stand one for a good few months. The state of things down there 3 weeks on worries me . DP was being very amorous last night and although it was lovely ofcourse I just kept thinking "don't even think about it!".

I'm doing really well feeding Violet in this new biological nurturing position. She's calmer, I'm calmer, the whole experience is so much better

Tea ouch to the blood taking. Hope you can now get the counselling you need.
I cannot fill C today. He has been on the boob all day. He cries within minutes of coming off. I'm not sure if I'm making enough milk or enough good stuff anyway. He's ravenous. Hope he's not like this all night.
Hope everyone is well xx

Evening all! Finally managed to get online on a proper computer. Been home four days now. DH already back at work, so struggling a bit, but somehow managing a bit of a routine. Have to read up on where you all are though and do a proper catch up soon. Have a great weekend everyone. FF xx

Mammato just wanted to say dot worry, sure you are making plenty milk, he's probably just having a growth spurt

Hey FF!

MammaIn please don't worry too much about the state of your bits - I spent 4 months or so worrying and wincing last time (2nd, borderline 3rd, degree tear and episiotomy, and tear got infected - was not fun), and finally got back in the saddle, as it were, and have obviously now had a second child, so you will get back to normal eventually, honestly. It may be worth investigating some sort of birth afterthoughts service at your hospital and seeing if you can talk to someone about your birth. I didn't do this, and ended up in tears at my consultant appt at 18 weeks this time round, as I had been so bloody terrified about the birth. Wish I had spoken to someone sooner. As it happened, this birth, whilst horrific in its own way, was so much better than my first, as I was in control for much more of it, and that made all the difference. Oh, and DH isn't getting near me until after my 6 week check anyway, and this time will have to be wearing about 50 condoms just in case, as I am damned if we are having a 3rd baby... although am a little sad about this as Em is so lovely and soft and smells fabulous and I am so going to get broody again in a year

Em remains wonderful, she has a few hours of screaming and fussing in the evening, but more than makes up for it by sleeping for 5 hours last night!! sodding DS was awful again, but I feel so rested after a decent sleep last night. she is asleep in her car seat just now in front of me after a trip into town this morning - ended up feeding her in the bra shop (after every woman there had had a cuddle of her whilst I got proper nursing bras fitted!!), then again in a cafe as she wouldn't settle, but she nodded off on the way home and is still asleep 2 hours later.

ooh, and I got my olympics tickets! so we are off to the mens modern pentathlon in 6 weeks or so! then DS and Em can say they were there in 20 years time :o Trying not to think about the logistics of travelling into London with a toddler and 2 month old just yet though :o

Ok, i admit it - and this is the chance for the second-or-more timers to let out a big evil laugh - i'm finding this all really really hard work! I mean, it's not like anyone led me to believe having a baby would be otherwise, but you really don't know what it's like until you actually do it!

I'm in awe of those of you who are able to see anything beyond feeding and nappies and your LOs at the moment. I'm just about able to find time to go to the loo, let alone do any kind of leisure activity. Is there a pattern here? Is it the second-or-more timers who are merrily carrying on as normal, because they're used to being organised? Or is it that the other people who, like me, are in a flap aren't able to find time to post? xxx

Shelduck I feel for you, I honesty think your first baby is the hardest as everything has to be learnt from scratch. It is a steep learning curve and you are totally normal to not be able to find time for anything else but it does get easier. I'd say the first 6 weeks are a bit of a blur but by the time you get to 12 weeks you will feel a bit more sorted. That's my experience anyway. Being a third timer I wouldn't say we're carrying on as normal exactly but we know (mostly) what to expect and it's not quite as much as a shock as ds1 was. It is really hard work but once your baby is a bit older you will feel such a sense of achievement for getting through it. Oh and you're right, no one can really understand what it's like till they've done it I still laugh inwardly when childless friends offer me parenting 'tips' and hope they'll look back and cringe if they have their own children one day

shelduck dd is my 3rd and i'm not finding much time for anything other than feeding and nappies either at the minute.

We are getting on ok though, she likes her own environment and isnt keen on getting out and about, we have been out a few times now and she has cried everytime whereas she is a lovely calm,placid baby at home.
I had forgotten how much they feed in the early days and tbh the cluster feeds in the evening are a bit heavy going but it means she sleeps at night so i wont complain too much.

Ah Shelduck I remember those feelings and thoughts when I had DS1. I was in awe of all other mums, wondering how they managed. Believe me even 2nd timers are like swans, all graceful on the outside but working like mad underneath to keep it altogether. It does get easier, I promise

Morning all. I've found half 3 in the morning again, and it feels all too familiar. Lovely to see you all again, will have a flick back through the thread in a bit.

So am feeling rather pleased with myself in my hospital bed! Elin Violet was born at 7:36 this morning and she is scrummy. Had a sweep in the afternoon yesterday and mild contractions started at 6pm. Sent dh to bed at 9 + dd was packed off to in laws. Cx were 3 mins apart by 4ish but not too horrendous but off we popped to hospital.

Mw examined me at 4:30 and said I was 2/3 cm but cx weren't frequent enough and I should go home. Well, wasn't happy with that and even after she discharged me at 5:30 I refused to leave! Cx ramped up, got examined by nicer mw at 6:30 and was 3/4 cm so got told to walk round to delivery room. On way started to push and when they checked I was 10cm!

Was really unprepared to push cos of the speed. Wanted a pool birth but due to manic day before there were no pool liners. So instead it was lying on my back with my poor spd hips apart and pushing! Total opposite of my plan but at least I got her.

Was a big tired emotional mess afterwards. Have 2 bad tears and was sobbing hysterically at this so they double dosed with pain relief 'down there' and at the moment I feel alright.

Elin is fabby. After feeding all morning then refusing to wake up to feed for 5 hours we've got there together with help of lovely bf councillor.

And now, I'm still buzzing!

Congratulations mammadothbump!

mamma woo hoo congratulations.. that sounds like the nicest birth experiemnce i have read about for ages! enjoy your bundle! x

congratulations mammaDTB, what a lovely name

shelduck I'm similarly surprised at the complete lack of time I have once me and DD are fed and bathroomed. We've managed a few short walks as she sleeps nicely in her sling but the idea of doing normal things like going for coffee or shopping is completely laughable right now.

Congratulations Mamma

Can I just be a bit cheeky and ask you to look here if you get a chance. Aillidh needs all the thoughts and prayers she can get right now. We're all praying for a miracle. Thanks.