Pred thread post-natal - our miracle babies are here!

[digitalgirl]

Wanted to continue our support group for those who had prednisolone treatment (or similar) for recurrent miscarriage and have thankfully made it onto the other side!

Hello Girls, have finally made my way to the computer since coming home. Feel like we have settled in back home and DH and I are just enjoying every minute with DD. Just can't stop staring at her. I know I should be catching up on sleep but hey ho :)

Iggi pleased to hear DS weight is going in the right direction. When I was in hospital midwife put me on pump when I was supplementing Amelia's feed with Breastmilk, Expressed + Formula. She put it on the highest setting and for about a week I just winced every time DD went anywhere near my boobs. They have finally recovered but am using nipple shields temporarily till they sort out her tongue tie. They are a godsend!

Thanks Digi for setting this thread up, I am plumping my pillow and looking forward to celebrating our little ones and their journey together. I can't believe we are here on the other side, still have to pinch myself.

Waves to Freelance, Coconut & Comedy. Hope everyone is having a good Fathers Day today. x

Hello Brownie, good to see you here! I do a lot of staring to, a fair bit of exasperating "why are you making that noise" glaring too, but it always ends up back with the adoring looks!
Have been looking up teas to help milk consumption, and I see that redbush tea (which I drank throughout pg) is meant to do this, as well as reducing anxiety - can't say that bit worked!
Someone was commenting to me (a nurse) on the "sensible gap" between my 2 children - I resisted saying anything about the reason for the gap (she was nice and I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable) but I did find it hard. Do any of you find you want to tell people about what you've been through to get the baby?

iggi yes I do. I normally bite my tongue now as most people who know me know I had my miscarriages at the time. Occasionally I allude to 'problems' I had and only divulge further if they ask 'did it take a long time to get pregnant?' then I say getting pregnant wasn't a problem it was staying pregnant. But mostly I enjoy pretending to be normal for a change.

brownie so

Argh, trigger happy iPhone!

Meant to say brownie so pleased you're over here! These early days are so precious you can catch up on sleep next year! I had issues with tongue tie. Although didn't try nipple shields but his latch did improve after the snip. It took a couple of weeks for bf to be completely pain free though. But now I don't even think about it.

We took F for his first swim yesterday! He didn't hate it so I consider that a success! As to whether he 'enjoyed' it, not sure, think we'll try a wet suit next time.

Swimming, very adventurous! I took ds1 swimming but the nice (and warm) pool we went to classes in has closed down. Not ready to put myself in a swimsuit that's for sure! Had to show dh my scar last night (as I couldn't reach to put plastery-thing on) very embarassed to reveal my still-giant stomach. Sunny day here today and had them both in the park most of the afternoon, was a much less stressful time just being out of the house

Ah igggi I have one of those tummy support panels on my swimsuit (although stretching over my larger than usual child bearing hips was no mean feat). Next week may even leave dh with the boys in the baby pool while I swim a couple of laps - that's assuming F is happier to stay in the float ring with the wetsuit on. I literally mean a couple of laps though - am not a strong swimmer even pre-pg.

Glad you managed to get out to the park - fresh air and sunshine makes the world of difference.

F slept 9:15 till 5am, then till 8:30! I didn't go to bed till 11 so not feeling the full benefit but am much more refreshed than after his 3am/7am wake ups.

Hi Brownie ? Nice to see you on this side!

Iggi ? Congratulations on the return to birthweight. Ds1 was very slow to gain weight at the beginning and turned into a real chubber so it might just take a little while.

Sorry I?ve been AWOL for a while. Am desperately trying to sort things out for moving house (a week on Friday). Am feeling slightly calmer now that the removal company is booked and we?ve had a massive declutter. All my decent maternity clothes are now listed on Ebay and the charity shop has done really well out of us recently.

Those of you with older dcs, can I ask how they have taken to the new babies? Ds1 has been brilliant with A, really caring and sweet but his general behaviour has been more difficult recently and he?s been wetting the bed much more than usual. I think our impending move is probably also a factor in all this but I just wondered whether you?d experienced the same?

Good luck with the move coconut I imagine that is quite a lot of upheaval for ds.

Yes ds1 here has been an absolute horror since F was born. The first two weeks he ignored his brother and just whined a lot. Then he started lashing out at dh. Part of it is being a 3yo, perhaps also getting an early testosterone surge (according to 'Raising Boys') it happens when they're 4. And of course there's having to share our attention with F - and to some extent change his behaviour and become more self sufficient. He's not dry at night yet but went through a phase of leaking through his pull ups and soaking the bed. That seems to have stopped now though. I've also been giving him treats for more independent behaviour like going to the loo by himself which seems to be working. He is getting better but I've had to be shouty mum more than I expected, so poor F has had to get used to hearing my voice raised.

Currently sat on sofa with F strapped to me. He has decided not to be put down for his naps this afternoon. Thankfully dinner is prepped so dh just has to cook it.

Just bumping this as it had fallen off my threads in on list.

Hope everyone's busy enjoying their little ones. Am taking it easy this morning after several nights of extra wakings. Hoping this growth spurt will be over soon!

Ugh, I think ds has been having a growth spurt too Digi. Exhausting.

I know what you mean about expecting ds to be more self sufficient, getting dressed, brushing teeth etc. The problem is, he really doesn't want to do those things as having us do them gets him more attention and makes him feel more secure. It must be so hard for them.

Although he's been lovely with ds2, he did say the other day that he didn't want a baby brother and he didn't want to move house. Oh dear! He also told me that I'm not fun any more which made me cry (. I am very overtired).

Packers are coming tomorrow and we're moving Friday. I've been so flippin' busy organising this bloody move, so I've told dp I'm taking the children, keeping out of the way and will meet them at the new house!

Good luck with moving day! And I am sure you are still fun They know how to hurt don't they.
Ds1 has been great with ds2 but he's been sick for the past week and I think has really been stringing it along to get the extra attention.
Am sitting on bed eating minstrels to help with the pain in my nipples, and dreading the awakening I know is going to come all too soon!

Am about to go to bed. F very unusually fell asleep just after 7. Normally he latches on about 7 and doesn't let go till 9pm.

DS1 improvIng. He hasn't been so naughty lately and has even woken up with a dry nappy a couple of days in a row. Still waking up crying a couple of times a night though till dh goes in and sleeps with him.

F hasn't been napping as long as he used to since outgrowing the Moses basket. And was going through a phase of not wanting to nap anywhere but on me. But today we managed one nap on the sofa and two in the buggy. Which is also an improvement. Just need to get him to like napping in the cot now so when ds1 is home we can put him somewhere quiet. Other than that he's such a contented little thing.

Good luck with the move coconut

iggi I've had to go back to basics with feeding. Using a cushion again to ensure correct positioning and being vigilant with F's latch. Hoping the pain eases for you too.

Digi glad the pain has eased up - it is amazing what can happen to our bodies! Have just listed all the things that have gone "wrong" for me since having the baby, most recently my bloody scar reopening so still in pain and not driving at almost 7 weeks, and also appear to have got a flu-like thing from ds1.
These things are so so small compared to the joy of having the baby, but I do sometimes feel resentful that nothing seems to be straightforward!
Coconut hope you are enjoying your new home

Ugh Igggi. Your scar opening sounds awful. And really frustrating that you still can't drive.
Well, new house is great but very chaotic. Moving day was pretty horrific culminating in dp having to spend the evening in a and e! The stairs are proving to be a great novelty and ds1 loves having his own room. The street seems really friendly - three lots of neighbours have called by to welcome us. amazing for London, I think.
Digi - I am v jealous of F's sleeping skills!

Oh no iggi! Have you been checked for infection - might be why you feel fluey? Sounds like you need to take it easy. Is there anyone nearby that can help with ds1? Can your dp take anymore time off?

coconut congrats on the house move! What happened re: a&e?? Hopefully once you're all settled ds2 will fall into a better pattern.

F is now 12 weeks and has been on the change again. Can't put it down to his jabs as theyre not till next week now. Not sleeping so well the last few nights - but am hoping it's short-lived as he's back to a lengthy bedtime feed tonight.
We had some awful awful tragic news on Sunday about my best friend's 5mo old nephew - so despite being up more in the night I've never been more grateful that I have a baby to feed.

hello ladies, hope all is well (especially igggi and her scar???)

I hope you don't mind but I am wading in to ask a question of igggi (and anyone else who might have one) - how have you found the "Snooz" breathing monitor (I don't know if I have remembered the name quite right)? I didn't have a breathing monitor with DS but I am about 1000x more nervous this time around...

Hi PQ. I have a snuza halo (had a tommee tipee sensor pad first time round).
We're getting on fine with it, a couple of false alarms but less than with the sensor pad. We had to send first one back because the battery died, which is meant to last a year! So now have spare battery just in case. I like that if he falls asleep in the pram in the evening I can just clip it on to him. Hopefully can sell on ebay when done with it.
He and I both has thrush so feeding a bit sore, but getting better. Scar still hasn't completely healed which is a pain. Had a birthday recently and for the first time wasn't worried about getting older, declining fertility etc!

Thanks igggi thats really helpful. I think I particularly like the idea of it being so portable as I'll be probably flying home for a long holiday in the first few months and in lots of odd sleeping arrangements. What a pain about the thrush and your scar - but yay for actually celebrating a birthday! I don't think I've really done that since I was 30...

It's certainly really portable compared to the monitor style pads. No idea how it would work if it was ever called into use for real.. But does help with my paranoia.
I bought condoms the other day, couldn't even remember what to look for as have been ttc for so long now

Condoms iggi!!! DH and I haven't quite got round to actual non-ttc sex yet . My lochia didnt stop till week 11, and he's knackered from working till 1am most nights. It'll happen when it happens...

F seems to have finally got over his cold. Swiftly growing out of his 3-6 month clothes so will have to fetch the 6-9 month clothes out of the loft this weekend. Turned 3 months last Monday and will be 14 weeks this Monday. Where has the time gone?

And belated happy birthday too!

Now Digi I just said I bought them, didn't say I'd opened the box! Have seriously forgotten how to do all that - sex without lying on a cushion afterwards? Will be vair strange!
I had an awful dream last night that I hadn't had the baby, I was ringing the hospital to ask them to take me in as was 43 weeks but then noticed my bump had gone.. Was just about to get dream-dh to reveal what had happened when I woke up (and had fallen asleep with ds lying on my knee). I don't think my mind has quite got over the trauma of the last few years just yet!

How is everyone else? Not long till Free joins us!

It is weird. Tell you what else is weird, I think I've got my first pp period. And there's no association with it being a failed ttc cycle or a countdown to when we can next ttc. Just sort of snuck up on me. Don't think its a proper one anyway as I'm sure my first af after ds1 was a monster.

F has nappy rash and DS1 has thrown some almighty tantrums this weekend. Still, here we are halfway through July, time going so quickly. I'd happily have F remain 3 months and DS1 stay 3yo forever.

Very excited about free joining us!!! Two days to go!!!

Bumping for free!

Easy to do here as list is still quite manageable

Babies are arriving
Stogan - V high NKC - DC#1, Baby girl Ellyson (DC1) born Sunday (EMCS) 11/03/12 7lb13.5.
Digitalgirl - High NKC - Baby boy Franco (DS2) born at 39+0 on Easter Monday, 9/04/12, 8lbs 12oz
Coconutfeet - V High NKC, Factor II gene mutation, underactive thyroid - BFP pre-pred, started at 6 weeks, Baby boy Arthur born at 40+6 13/05/12 3.66kg
Comedy - V High NKC - Baby girl Matilda born DC2 ? 39 weeks (CS) 14/5/12 7lbs.
Igggi - High NKC & Hypothyroidism - DC2- Baby boy Thomas born (CS) at 38+6 16/5/12
BrownieGecko - High NKC, Hypothyroidism, & Glucose Intolerant. DC1 40+0 - baby girl Amelia born 7/06/12 (CS) 7lbs
Freelancegirl - V High NKC Thyroid/hashimotos - DC1 baby boy Sebastian born at 39+0 (ELCS) 17/07/12, 8lbs 11oz

Can't wait to add Cheerful and is it batteryhen next?