FEB 2010 Terrors sometimes, angels at others - yep, they're properly two now...

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SB

CP How are things?

IC Glad to hear you are okay (apart from the sleep). Hope all goes through smoothly with the house move and sooner rather than later.

BBB Good luck to your dh for looking after the girls on his own for a few days [evil grin]

rainbow nice to hear from you. I think dd2 would be more settled if I did work 5 days so she knows where she stands. At the moment she's quite confused who is home when...

I'm a bit concerned about dd2's nursery right now after getting a letter to tell me the current owner is leaving and two new owners are taking over. Call me cynical but I am very sure the first thing they will do is to put up the fees (currently 'only' £38 a day) and flexibility is probably also going out of the window (they will happily swap days around or take children for extra days if staff ratio allows). Maybe I am over-reacting but will speak to one of the more senior members of staff and if she is leaving then I will find alternative childcare. Just have a funny feeling about this change!

SB I feel your pain!! dd2 has just handed me a full nappy again... This time she produced rabbit poo and lost a few pellets on the landing. I told her off a bit and she countered with 'I love you Mama', stopping me in my tracks.
Argh.

So tonight, I've used tape around DS nappy let see what the result is tomorrow morning...

BG good luck

sb honestly I have heard of loads of people using tape

love the videos cp

Hehe, bg Dd tells DH and me to "be patient, Daddy/mummy" if we start sounding a bit impatient with each other or her. Normally with a pat on our arm. And tells me/DH to slow down if we're driving too fast.

On potty front, this morning Dd got out of bed, took of her pj bottoms and nappy, sat herself on the toilet, did a wee, then came round to tell me what she'd done! Am definitely now aiming for a conversational potty training approach, where I tell her what she will do when she's ready not to wear a nappy anymore.

Hope the tape approach works tonight sb....

The nappy exploits have given me a little late night giggle after yet another evening of work. Hope to be back with you more regularly soon. In the meantime, I leave you with the mental image of DS2 singing in his sleep this afternoon. Sleeptalking was one thing, but singing? Really? I was totally confused!
BBB and still thinking of you and Dh and hoping that he can step it up again.

We started off in the cot tonight but only because I was in there too DH rocking him to sleep doesn't work anymore but laying with me seems to work great so we are back there but it does mean (i) he is unswaddled and (ii) he doesn't take as long as before when I did it or when DH rocked him.

anyway enough of him (btw he is 9 months now )

rainbow DD is always shouting to go 'too fast' i.e. faster when we're driving She also shouts for the toilet once she is up, 'Dadddddyyyyyyy I neeeeeedddddd a weeeee'. For nap time, I put her down without anything on her bottom and a potty in her room. She will sit on when she wakes and also sometimes while she is going to sleep. Conversational approach sounds fab, we are talking about giving her dummy to a baby soon as she is getting big for hers and will strike when the time seems right. However want to get through a bit more sleep training with DS first.

Who's DC don't nap anymore?

survival bless him :) DD has been shouting 'no mummy no' which is great for a bit of guilt induction.

CP dd2 won't nap any more and hasn't for a few weeks

Still got the lunchtime nap here....

If you believe everything dd2 says her right foot hurts, and her left foot, and her bottom, and her back, and her tummy, and her head, and she can't walk, and she can't see. Then she runs off to play and forgets her troubles for a while. I cannot decide whether I have a baby hypochondriac or whether there is something wrong with her!

Dd2 is driving me potty today (couldn't resist the pun). She's already removed her nappy four times and said she wants to poo on the potty, but will only sit on it for three seconds before running off with naked bottom. She's now in pants and I'll see what happens next. I don't want to discourage her of course but would prefer her to wait two weeks until we are on holiday and it is hopefully a bit more summery so she can run around barely dressed.

So what happened next BG? How was the tape SB?

DS2 seems to have got the idea again with the potty/toilet after some major bribery! I think he has a touch of DH's lazy streak. When there are no consequences to having wet pants (except that someone kindly takes you off and changes you) why would you bother to stop your very important game in order to take a potty stop?!!

CP I get "Mummy Nooooo!" in sleep from both DS if that's any consolation. We're also about to give up the dummy in the coming weeks. He hasn't had it for the daytime nap since Easter (and continues to sleep for 1.5 hours before we wake him each day) but when DS1 suggested giving it to the dummy fairy, he said tonight, "No! I'm not a big boy! I'm a baby!" Didn't go through this with DS1 as he gave it up himself at 4 months so it will be interesting. I intend to do it in mid August between our mad Olympic week and our holiday at the end of the month. Let's hope my resolve lasts.

Off to the Gruffalo trail at the Forest of Dean tomorrow - will let you know if it's worth a visit.

One last thing - I'm intrigued to hear your opinions, if you don't mind. My friend is having a laporoscopy (sp?) in two weeks as she has a growth on her ovary and an adhesion that needs removing. She has children and has got her mum to look after them for the day but is sending her DH to work and going on her own (he will drop her off and pick her up). She is frightened of hospitals and has never had a general anaesthetic. I personally think she will want DH there, at least just beforehand when nervous, and when she wakes to pass drinks/help her to the loo etc.. She reckons that they haven't got enough holiday for him to take another day off and it would be a waste of his time. What do you think? (Am I right in thinking at least one of you chose to give birth without DH there?) I can't go that day as it's one of our Olympic days. I know that if I even suggested to DH that he should go to work if it was me, he'd tell me to stop being ridiculous and take the day off without any further discussion. Her Dh is also going away the following weekend for a lads' weekend away. She will have her 3 children to herself. I can't get my head around any of this so would appreciate any thoughts. I don't intend to bring it up again, just want to try and understand. TIA.

3 more days of work before 6 weeks off - yehaa!!

SB How did the taping go? Hope it worked. What about TTC, are you charting or using ovulation sticks or anything - or just going with the flow?

Survival If your friend is having a general anaesthetic as a day case I thought you needed someone with you to escort you home? I would want my DH or mum with me - I think her DH should insist on being there and if I were him I doubt I'd go and leave her for the weekend so soon afterwards. I hope the recovery is quick for her.

Hope the Gruffalo trail is fun.

Thanks for everyone's comments re potty training. I don't think there is any competetive parenting round here - it was my own insecurities I realise. Just going to take things at their own pace. It is frustrating when he will wee on the potty when prompted but is really really reuctant to tell us when he needs a poo and by the time we notice the look on his face it is too late. It helps to know I'm not the only one.

He has invented some creatures called Va Va Bears - apparently they look like pandas, eat oranges and live in Paris.

Argh, siblings! Dd2 was up half the night and dh ended up sleeping on the floor in her room. She said she was scared because there's a spider doing a poo in her room and it must be true because her sister told her!
Will respond to other posts,on phone right now and have to take a skeleton to the post office (model clearly, it freaks dd2 out so I've sold it on eBay).

survival dd2 stayed in pants until lunchtime yesterday and I had told her that she needs to go back into nappies if she wets herself. She sat on the potty a few times but without doing anything, then eventually wet herself. she was quite matter of fact about it and came to me naked, handing me her wet pants and a spare nappy... I think on holiday I may try bribery because she also doesn't see it as much of a problem to be wet and just asks to be changed.

As for your friend, I am just as surprises as you that she wants to go through it on her own. I had both girls without dh present (he is the most squeamish person on earth) but when I had a d&c after my first mc he was very much present before and after the surgery (and he would have been there before and after if I'd had cs with the girls - he just couldn't cope with seeing them being born).

BC I love the idea of Va Va Bears!

survival is your friend allowed to have anyone with her in the hospital? When I had my procedure earlier this year, you weren't allowed to take anyone in with you, you could only be dropped off and collected. If it is a day case, she will go into theatre very soon after being booked in and then will be sent home as soon as she is ready, so her dh wouldn't necessarily be able to do much.

Hope everyone is ok. I'm at my friend's and feel a bit of a fraud posting on here as I don't have either dd with me! Dh has really stepped up again the last couple of days, sorting out my car for me and getting me a little bag of things for my long drive last night. He even spent a couple of hours putting lots of music I like on to an mp3 player so I could listen to stuff I liked on the journey

The tape seemed to work as DS kept his nappy for the last 2 nights. Problem is that I didn't realised that I used the last one yesterday and as a result he'll be wearing pullups...

survival how was the trail? I willwant my DH to be present when I go in and come back but if not possible (as said by BBB) I would want him to do the drop-off/collection. Glad the bribery worked and that your DS2 is back on track with the pt.

bc love the Va Va bears

We went to the swimming pool this morning and it is amazing to see how much more DS is confident in the water. He even agreed to wear the armbands and lied down in the water imitating swimmers arms movement.

BBB have a good time and fx your DH carries on acting good

BBB Can we swop dhs please?

BG I forgot to say - I hope your DD2 settles better tonight and that you'll all manage to get some sleep.

i did a 0.35 mile 'run' tonight and despite needing a wee, no leakage. :) Was thinking of doing the couch to 5k to ease myself into it, but sure if the pace of progress will be too slow and frustrate me. Climbing on wednesday and want to look for some pilates to help my running stance.

DH made the last bit of labour, but I really wasn't bothered if he made it or not and kinda enjoyed being on my own. If that is what your friend has decided, then I would recommend just getting a treat for her. I had a few kidney scans (and also ultrasound scan when pg) on my own and of course was fine during (was a student) but would have been nice if someone had remembered and made some gesture. Of course her husband and mum will know anyway but a extra bit of hand holding, that someone is thinking of you, is always nie.

CP good news on the running

I'm all aching because of the swimming (my mum is over and came with us which permitted me to swim ). DH is away for the weekend in a pissup business trip.

Dd2 has been very miserable today, fell asleep on my lap this afternoon (not done since she was a few months old) and has already been up three times since going to bed. It seems just a heavy cold but it feels worse to see her suffering because she's so articulate about feeling rough. Just now she said her cough hurts her mouth . Dosed her up on calpol and hope she can get some decent sleep tonight.

BG I hope she gets better and that your night went okay.

Dd2 is a little brighter but still full of cold. I've now got it and feel rough. Wish I could howl non stop and ask dh to hold me all day...

BG take care xx

We had a busy day. This morning we went to see the Olympic Flame relay and this afternoon we went out for an afternoon tea in one of the local hotels. DS face was like a kid at Christmas when they discover the presents. We're now stuffed! We've also enjoyed looking for decorated cows (that's an art project raising funds for adukl litteracy which this year decorated cows).